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hackneyzoo · 09/02/2010 19:12

I told you it was a lame title.....

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moosemama · 22/02/2010 20:57

Hi Stripey, good to hear from you. Don't be down on your own, come on here and moan - its good for the soul y'know.

Pat, dh does sound very stressed, he'll probably feel a lot better after he's talked to you about it though. My dh is the same, bottles it all up but always feels (and behaves acts) so much better after I've wheedled it all out of him. Hope you find time to talk tonight.

120, Urgh flu. Quick take lots of vitamin c and echinacea. I am feeling really rough today. No proper symptoms to speak of, just sore joints and I've been getting ice cold chills right through me for two days now. I currently have the heating turned up, but am sat here fully dressed under a blanket and two giant cushions and am still shivering. I also have a gorgeous stye and seem to have developed a permanent twitch in the same eye. Ahhhh, I'm soooo glam me.

Well dss' first day back at school. Ds1 told me he had a good day when I picked him up. His teacher said he was lovely and back to 'his lovely old self' but then he told dh at bedtime that he had a nasty incident in the dinner hall when some year 5 boys tried to shove all their rubbish in his lunch box and when he tried to stop them they shoved it in his face instead and made him cry. He told a dinner lady and she did speak to them, but I am so what a spiteful, humiliating thing to do to someone, anyone, let alone someone who is years younger than you and the smallest boy in the Juniors to boot. What is wrong with these kids? It breaks my heart. Apparently he told dh he doesn't want to go back to school and he knew something like that would happen.

We have noted it in our home diary (we are keeping a record of all incidents these days), and if the same boys bother him again we will be straight up to the school again. I do think I might mention it to his teacher tomorrow though, as I'm sure she won't know about it and she needs to know really if she is going to be able to judge his mood/behaviour appropriately.

120 · 22/02/2010 21:12

ok. sort of caught up. nearly wrote cort up. definitely not at my best tonight. ruddy kiddy bugs.

I just read the little stranger too and was scared to go to bed after reading the middle bit. found it quite compelling with a crap ending. worth reading tho!

Skiiiing..... oooh. HZ, I will be texting you! Definitely worth postponing a child for.. I haven't been since 2005 and I'm sure my skis must have rust on them by now!

I managed to make DP cry by being so horrible this week (AF, but still). not completely necessary at all. I'm still feeling pretty bad about it. I've just got to the stage where I'm dis-engaging from the kids as I've truly had enough and just want to do my thing for a bit. These 13 monthers are sooo intense, and coupled with a non-stop talking toddler, it is madness. So DP gave ME the telling off talk.

120 · 22/02/2010 21:23

moose, that sounds terrible!

HZ, you need galya to come and do it for you!

must go to sleep. will take my vitamins and hope my swollen glands/head/neck are happier in the morning.

night all.

moosemama · 22/02/2010 21:31

Night 120, hope you feel better soon.

missjackson · 22/02/2010 21:44

120 'intense' - that's the perfect word for it. Just how I feel. So we've got lenni, books and you on board for the mumsnet ski trip next year. If I'm not up the duff by then of course

pat hope your glass of wine and 'chat' goes well.... he sounds like a decent sort. Mine gets the same sometimes - he is so great at doing all the practical stuff, but sometimes I wish he would just sit down and play with N for 10 mins rather than have done all the washing up. But god, even just saying that makes me feel ridiculous. Actually, I think it's because he manages to engage with N and do the housework and go to work 7 days a week.... while I do.... ? Anyway, I did help muck out about 18 horses worth of shit today so am now aching all over.

Hope you feel better 120 and MM and anyone else that feels poorly.

hkz laundry is the bane of my life. I can think of nothing more boring and endless... I used to use a laundry service, what heaven that was.

Waves to stripey, nice to hear from you... C is looking gorgeous in all pics as usual. Her name really suits her.

book share also have hundreds of books but will need to sit down and make a list.

Well I feel I have simply wittered in this post, and about nothing meaningful whatsoever, so for that I apologise.

missjackson · 22/02/2010 21:46

ps forgot to say hkz please post the link to your sis's chalet again as it doesn't seem to work - sounds ace!

Gumps · 22/02/2010 21:47
hackneyzoo · 22/02/2010 21:49

Oh 120! We need to go out for a pint..when you are better of course. Hope you are tucked up safely in bed with a hot cup of lemsip. I would love Galya...she could move in, that would be ideal.

Moose, sorry DS1 had a horrible incident at lunch time, I would definitely mention it to the teacher. Does he feel happy talking to his teacher? I was just thinking that a 'daily debriefing' might help him (and you) with issues that arise in the school day. I do it with a few of my students who have a tendancy to hold onto things that happen and get wound up out of proportion to the actual event. But basically lookng at the good and bad things that happended inthe day (very briefly) and picking one thing and talking about the feelings they had when it happened (it can be a good or bad thing) I have a PDF version of a debriefign diary I can email you if you 'd like.

Right, back to my knitting and relocation relocation

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missjackson · 22/02/2010 21:49

'sounds like a decent sort' - that reads very patronisingly, I am so sorry. I didn't mean that... I meant to say I am sure he will understand and respond when you tell him how you feel.

moosemama · 22/02/2010 22:05

HKZ that sounds like an interesting idea. Would love the pdf, but only if you have time. You have enough on your plate at the moment. (Did Lenni pass on my email address?) We are collecting ideas for our meeting with his teacher and the SENCO, which hopefully will be early next week, but has been held up by all the IEP reviews and parent's evening.

Sent a letter in this morning saying we want to stick to academic stuff only at parent's evening as we don't really want to discuss everything else that's been going on with another nosey parent sat elbow to elbow with us in the school hall.

So sad that this happened today - on his first day back, especially because he has tried really hard, been really good and walked away from a couple of quite provoking incidents with the class troublemaker.

Still, home was most definitely a haven for him this afternoon - I was determined it would be. I have altered the after school routine slightly to help him destress and also take the stress out the routine itself. Boys were delighted that I said they could watch one cartoon whilst they ate their snack, before doing their homework and even more delighted that I'd baked a fresh pineapple upside down cake for their snack. Worked like a charm, all homework done earlier than usual with no complaints or whingeing - long may it last. At least if we can keep his stress levels low at home it might balance things out a little.

Right, Have to go. I now have stinging skin all over, a bright red face and a pounding headache. Weird thing is, this is exactly what I had when I was first feeding dd. I thought it was hormonal. Perhaps its because she's down to 3 feeds a day now, so I'm going through the same hormonal thing in the other direction iyswim. Also expecting AF any day if my cycles have returned to normal, so that could have something to do with it I suppose.

hackneyzoo · 22/02/2010 22:08

Moose, I will email it to you tomorrow

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missjackson · 23/02/2010 00:12

I have actually lost my engagement ring. Feel sick to the core. I knew it was loose but was reluctant to resize because I thought weight loss would stop soon. Realised when I was brushing my teeth tonight. Have turned house upside down. OH being amazing. Probably came off while mucking out so either it's in the most massive pile of shit you can imagine or maybe we can find it in the stables tomorrow morning. Can't sleep. Not insured either, was such a crazy ring to even have but we had such a small wedding and I loved it so much.

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120 · 23/02/2010 08:53

morning. feeling a bit better today and no dc's (nursery again, yay!).

Miss J, that's awful about your ring. can you borrow a metal detector to go through the heap?

Dog, pleased arlo doing so well!

If we all go skiing, I'm happy to be part time chalet chef! Cooking for 5000 doesn't phase me. as long as I have a sous chef!

Why don't we do a jan 09 book club? And send books around too. I've loads to get rid of. The only ones I hang on to are Fiona Walker and Jilly Coopers as I re-read those when I need a break. By the way I can really recommend that truth about melody browne one that is out at the moment. have already given it away so can't remember the full title.

hz would love to do a pint again soon.

120 · 23/02/2010 08:53

oh, and H was trying to say 'dinosaur' this morning. so cute! bit peppa pig though.

tinksbabyis1 · 23/02/2010 09:08

morning

mum stayed over off to sing and sign with dd1 soon
her walking is coming on so far can do 9 steps on her own now so actove

oh mm - what a shame on his 1st day back

miss j - hope u find it and dont get 2 messy in the process!!

hi to everyone else

whixh one ladies for dd1 (4.5 year old)

www.boden.co.uk/en-GB/Girls-Coats-Jackets/35051/Girls-Fun-Coat.html
or

www.boden.co.uk/en-GB/Girls-Coats-Jackets/35050/Girls-Jersey-Lined-Anorak.html

120 · 23/02/2010 09:14

I like the green, but the red would look good if she is dark haired. lovely coats. all my boden stuff comes off ebay!

tinksbabyis1 · 23/02/2010 09:32

coat is for spring/summer

think red will be more practical getting bracken blue triped one

Lenni · 23/02/2010 10:16

Oh no MissJ, that is awful - 120's metal detector idea is genius though.

Ebay - no saying that word!! My 'to ebay' pile is getting ever bigger, really need to dedicate a weekend to it, but so boring.

Not going to look at coats Tink to save myself a shopping accident!

Skiing - I would really love to go, not sure DH would be up for it though. Did I ever tell you that he won't poo in my mother's house? Or indeed any house but his own. When we stay with people he has to go out to the public toilets, has 'issues'. Comes from growing up an only child in a big house where he had his own bathroom and never had to share. He is a bit OCD over hygiene. I can see him crumpling up when he has to pick up our nephew who has permasnot.

Dog - Great news about Arlo, such a relief for you. How is that bump of yours?

Stripey - lovely to hear from you.

Would love to do book club but I rarely get chance to read anything that isn't related to education, can I be a part time member?

MM - Hope parent's evening goes ok and home time too. Sounds like you are really working hard to help him. Let's hope school finally get themselves up to speed.

120 · 23/02/2010 10:28

how about a book forum, rather than club. Just a different thread from this to discuss books really... and if someone really wants to read a book that is being discussed, they can be warned and stay off it til they've read the blighter! took me 5 days to read little stranger, 2 days to read melanie browne. like that sort of book, rather than stodgier stuff more suited to dinkies and singletons.

moosemama · 23/02/2010 10:53

Morning,

Couldn't get out of bed this morning I was in so much pain. Every single joint felt like it had seized up. Fortunately the stinging/burning skin is a lot better, although still there to some degree. Also have a really nasty headache. I'm afraid I sobbed when dh said it was time to get up as I knew I had to go to the school this morning to speak to ds1's teacher about yesterday's incident, but I really didn't feel like I could get out of bed, let alone traipse up the road and wait in a freezing playground.

Took some paracetamol and just managed to creak my way to school. Fortunately his teacher was great. She said she is pleased I told her what happened yesterday and she felt it was serious enough to warrant further investigation, so she would speak to the dinner lady that got involved and find out who the bigger boys were. Ds told me there were enough of them to fill a whole dining bench and he was on his own. Makes me feel sick to think about how alone and scared he must have felt. Poor mite, can't even feel safe in a dining hall full of teachers, dinner ladies and other children, its no wonder he's frightened to go in the toilets or out in the playground.

He sobbed this morning saying he didn't want to go to school because he always gets hurt and picked on. He said he is expecting to get hurt anyway today as they have football and the others kick the ball so hard and fast that he can't stop it and it always hits him really hard. He's just not sporty and far too dyspraxic to be able to stop a ball coming towards him at full speed. I think it also upsets him that he's always last to be picked for a team because the other children know he's hopeless at football.

We are really going to push for him to have a safe place to go at breaktimes, but that doesn't help if he can bullied in a busy dining hall and no-one even notices. I really want to just take him away from that place, but my gut feeling is that it wouldn't be right for him in the long run.

Anyway, enough about me and mine.

Dog, lovely to hear about Arlo doing so well.

MissJ, sorry to hear about your ring. The same thing happened to a really special ring dh bought me years and years ago. I knew it was loose, didn't get it sorted and it just disappeared. I turned the whole house upside down, searched for weeks and couldn't find it. Had finally given it up for lost when I went to put the dog bed in the washing machine and there it was. Thing was, I'd washed that bed several times since I lost the ring. Still don't know what happened, it was just sitting there on the side of his cushion, there was absolutely no way it could have been there the whole time. Very strange indeed.

Metal detector is a really good idea. Definitely worth I go I reckon.

Tink, sounds like Bracken is really getting a move on. Dd has only done five unaided steps in one go so far, you can see her thinking about it and then deciding to drop to her knees and crawl instead because its quicker. Looks like she is on the verge of cutting her upper incisors as well, poor old gums look really bulgy and sore and you can see and feel the teeth now. Wish they'd get a move on, I neeeed some undisturbed sleep!

Lenni, I saw a programme about people with those sort of 'toilet issues' once. Apparently its incredibly common.

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missjackson · 23/02/2010 12:54

FOUND IT! Hardly slept, got up early and went to the stables. We forked through the straw, sifting each forkful twice before dumping it, and finally after a couple of hours, BINGO, OH found it.
Oh, the sweet relief! Cried.
What a total star he was - he was so damn cool about the whole thing, and just lovely.
Back for proper catch up later - right now I need to sleep.

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moosemama · 23/02/2010 13:06

So pleased you found it MissJ.

My tv, phone and internet all went off and stayed off for half an hour. I was thinking how typical it would be to be stuck lying on the sofa poorly with nothing to watch or surf all day. Surprising at how panicked I was by this prospect.