June 07 - Over here!!!!!

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oops, didn't notice the thread was getting too big!

PMSL at the Burn's night smilies; I thought they were wearing earphones.

not sure I agree with them; as a proud Scot, I hate all that fucking tacky tartan crap that we get labelled with, tartan tammies and fake ginger hair more than most

thank you , I am pretty chuffed, for a first essay, and a subject I'm not convinced about, I quite pleased

I am taking on board the advice about DH BTW, you are all talking sense. It's going OK ATM, though the work thing is still a bit of an issue (but frustratingly that is not in his hands, unless he has a Ramsey-esque hissy fit). We had a naughty day out yesterday, DH arranged "authorised absence" for DS1 and 2 from school and we went to Harrogate, Brimham Rocks and Knaresborough to celebrate our wedding anniversary. It was a lovely day, just not enough time or money to do everything we should have. Hopefully will go back for DHs birthday. He has seen how nice it is for the house to be tidy, and is keen to keep it that way, and I think he understands that involves a bit of effort on his part too. It's work in progress, but I think we'll get there. (And I think maybe knowing I can cope on my own is good to have in the back of my mind)

have a good week everyone

Sounds like a lovely day out, Ria

After weeks of being unsettled in her new room at nursery, Jamlet finally looked happy when she said she was going there this morning, and instead she had to go for a trial visit at the preschool she will go to in Sept. So lots of howls again this morning I stayed for five or ten mins until a volunteer mum that knows Jamlet said she would take her. I hadn;t liked to just leave her on her own, but when I knew someone was actively watching her as an individual I then made a speedy retreat. I waited outside for another 5 mins and then someone came out and told me she was fine Trouble is she has another morning there next Weds and then nothing until Sept 3rd - by which time it'll all be strange again, so is it really worth it at this stage? But I know if I don't do it and she has problems settling in September I'll get called for not having done the intro visits .

jammy. Baggins hasn't gone to playgroup today. He yelled for 40 minutes last week after I left him, and I can't face that today. He does have a cold too. I think I have decided he is not going to the nursery at DS2s school in September as planned expected, and will wait until after christmas. I can't seem to get past that DS2 was 6 months older than baggins when he started the nursery (and he used to yell and fight every morning and sometimes the night before) I'm pretty sure DS1 started after easter when he was 4, so just 3 seems too soon for me. I feel lucky not to be working so he doesn't have to go.

Poor Baggins But I'm sure it'll be fine if he doesn't start nursery in the autumn - it's nice that these things are there for those who need/want them, but also lovely that he has you available

Jamlet had a fab morning in the end I'm not quite sure what she did, she seemed to answer questions about it quite randomly but she said it was fun and she wants to go again next week

jammy, that's good. Not that it helps with the tears while they are happening, but if they are forgotten by the time she's been and done whatever they do (if it helps, DS1 rarely knows what he did at school now!) then that's good.

shattered tonight. damned football, I might as well have been playing. Am slowly catching up on the study I've missed, and dare I say I'm starting to enjoy it. Have had to get my specs out to watch TV though.

at Jamlet enjoying pre-school. DS has been going for a couple of terms now and loves it - admittedly it probably helps that his big sister goes with him, in fact it's her that I often have clinging to my leg in tears begging me not to go, while DS just waves 'bye Mummy' at me - and she's nearly 5

We've got an inset day tomorrow so pre-school is closed. We're off to Thomas Land as a late birthday treat for DS and one of his friends - staying in a hotel tonight, 4 kids in one room and 2 mummy's in an interconnecting one - I suspect we may need wine!

Have good weekends everyone

sounds nice fairy, have a great time.

giving baggins a break from toddler church today, and we'll start afresh next week with that and playgroup. He doesn't look right IYKWIM.

Ria, please don't be alarmed, and I promise I am not a hairy trucker stalker, but I had a dream about you last night! You and I were young girls at school somewhere, probably in the 1940s or 50s? I can't remember the details, but there was some sewing involved, and some getting into trouble with an aunt, and you were my friend and you were much nicer and more honest and hard working than I was!

Had a lovely weekend Friends came over and we spent most of the weekend in the garden. Lots of playing in the paddling pool and sand pit for Jamlet. Lots of good food (for our evening dinner I cooked feta and watermelon, followed by game pie, dauphinoise potatos and carrots, then rhubarb pudding (made with home grown rhubarb ) and/or plum clafoutis for pudding, then home made chocs) and plenty of drink (Pimms, champagne, white wine, red dessert wine, ginger wine) for the grown ups, then we sat out very late. I think it was our first proper grown up dinner with friends and booze at home since having Jamlet and it felt BLOODY GOOD!

aww thanks Jammy, sounds fairly jolly hockey sticks, and I like that (alawys aspired to be an Enid Blyton character - not Noddy or Big Ears though)

your weekend sounds lovely and very yummy food. Glad you enjoyed.

I was too gutted to post on Sunday, I know it's only football, and maybe they weren't playing great, but I only follow international games, so I only get that surge of "just maybe" every 2 years.... Took the boys off to the woods near town for a 3.5 mile walk to get some local show prize-winning eggs in the morning before the game, and couldn't even get drunk as I had to collect DH from work. Yesterday DH and baggins and I went to the moors and did the walk we did last March where we had hail, rain, and gale force winds. Yesterday was glorious sunshine with a bit of breeze, and we saw a steam train and a bi-plane. Bloody pedometer stopped working though and only clocked 3 miles when we actually did 6.5, baggins sat in his buggy the whole way too - if we had been in town near busy roads he would have wanted to walk, then we had the school fete yesterday evening. So I was asleep by the time DH got in from work

today has been a bit flat, though DH has been busy potty training baggins. am dreading playgroup in the morning.

really need chocolate

hellloooo, fuck me it is very quiet round here.

Struggling with life and DS1 at the minuite so not posting (or even reading

just a quicke hello though, I have to put bumble back to bed...again he is truly a little bugger.

Will catch up tomorrow I promise.

Hi daisy. hope you are OK.

DS2 has taken to having almighty tantrums, DS1 was in a fight at school on MOnday (not his fault, the other kid started on him, got him in a headlock etc, and didn't get into trouble) He has massive scratches round his neck and a chipped tooth.

Wine would be my coping method of choice if I I had any.

general things are working out OK here, but there are stresses looming

was in a strop yesterday after a couple of conversations with people who seem to think I am wrong in my instinct for baggins not to start nursery in Sept, but to stay in playgroup. Had steam coming out of my ears for a while

bloody DS1

Only a couple of days late

Sorry to hear about the school troubles and the tantrums Ria. And sod what everyone thinks about keeping baggins in playgroup. You know him best and if he isn't ready for it he isn't ready. My neighbours DD didn't send her daughter to any form of playgroup or preschool so she is starting reception next week not having mixed with children other than her mum's mindees! Each to their own I say.

Having a shitty shitty time of things here . Change of ADs not working too well and I'm not coping at all with any of my children at the minute. bumble still not sleeping, DD having hideous tantrums, and DS1 is just a little shite. Feel pohysically sick when he starts his nonsense so am letting him get away with it rather than causing a scene. not helpful in the long term, but I can't face trying to make him do the things I want as he just screams No and either runs away or refuses to move. He has no toys left in his room, no TV, playstation, DS etc so there is nothing left for him to lose. Offering them as rewards for good behaviour just isn't working.

Just want to pack a bag for me and bumble and disappear . Having Reiki though which is helping. Also doing meditation. time will tell.

Sorry, not around for ages and then just moaning

daisy. I started a holistic therapy course and the tutor did reiki. she made us all meditate using colours one night and I felt so spaced out I had trouble driving home. I had to give it up when I had my sciatica though as I couldn't drive to get there. Sorry about your DC too. IKWYM about wanting to pack up and disappear with the cutest cuddly one. There is a lot to be said about the holisitc approach, so I hope it works out for you.

been walking in the forestry with my parents today

wish I'd never started playing bejewlled...

daisy, just a thought (and you've probably considered it already), but is there any kind of supplement/homeopathic remedy that you could try with DS1? We did the fish oil thing with DS1 when he was roughly the same age, and it maybe helped a bit, and I remember my mum giving me all sorts of different things out of little grey pots from a health food shop! DH swears by martial arts for learning discipline, but DS1 didn't have the self confidence to let himself learn properly, so was a wasted effort here. Hope you find something that "clicks" though, it's no fun I know.

Good advice Ria; we'll try the fish oil. We used it before and it did seem to have an effect.

My reiki lady wants to see DS1 as well; she thinks she can help him.

My friend thinks that the poxiness I now have may be related to the reiki. Am going again on Friday so will see what she says.

btw...hot foot it over to your FB messages; bit of an epic message waiting for you to catch up.

blimey, don't know if I can keep up with FB

especially not getting everyone as the right person!

I would give the reiki a try with DS1. It could just work. Your virus could be related to all the stress coming out etc. Massage is interesting in that resect. Wish I'd finished that course...
Am beginning to wonder if my DS1 has some kind of mild ADHD or something (was chatting to a mum the other day and there are similarities with her DS who is receiving treatment (though is about to try homeopathy), but it could also be down to the way our primary school deal with children that don't fit in with the pack)

DHs appt on the 16th has changed. We might have to be brave and make it a summer holidays meet-up

Hi Butterfly, how are you? We have pretty much de-camped to a long thread of messages on FB because it got so quiet on here, I think you are on the list? Hope you'll join us on there. (though I have no idea how long those things last before you need a new one)_

not like the old days is it?

how is your studying going? I am doing the daftest course ever IMO, haveone TMA left and it's finished, thank goodness, and then will be changing to a 60 point level 1 in a different subject (it has a residential school option! tempting but scared about what to expect). am waiting for an essay result as I type, and am maybe going to my first tutorial next week...

sorry, I'm still all "me, me, me"

I think you come up on my friends list, will check.
I just got my result and I got 81. Am really chuffed as I thought I hadn't understood it at all! Have only just found the cover letters from the tutor that come back with the markingon the online system

thanks

have mentioned you being here on the message list, so hopefully we'll all be back in touch soon. Am missing the chat and smileys on here though!