DEC 08 - Barely into toddlerhood and already at our tit's end

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Tit's end...had to be done.

Hope this works!

Swollowing snot will mess with poo a bit but the mucus should change a little. I agree with Rubs in that a visit to the GP might be a good idea. I know you've talk to them before about your concerns about his susceptiblity to coughs & colds but it might be worth mentioning again. Also a temporary dairy intolerance can develop after a bad gastro bug.

DS2 is much better but those who are thinking of putting off the MMR for a week or two I think it's a good idea. I think DS2 was prob a bit run down and then having to have the MMR so close to the last one and the hep b just made him susceptible to this latest infection.

I'm so over this winter! Im glad I'm still BFing him as he is not that into cows milk and each time he is sick he goes off his food yet so far his weight seems ok. However, I think I need to push the cows milk a bit harder as the one draw back is when he is sick I am almost permanently attached to him and it gets a bit much. He had been really whiny these past few days and has not let me out of his sight. I've felt completely trapped by him this weekend. DH feels helpless because he can't help. I was really sick of it last night and completely exploded at DH. In felt really bad this morning when I discovered that he and DS1 had bought me chocolates & bath things for valentines day and made me a lovely card.

Happy Valentines Day ladies - I hope you have all been spoilt! Today is actually DH'd birthday, so we never make a huge fuss over Valentines.

Spot, agree with the others I would go and get T checked out by the GP. Hope he is okay soon.
Beans, probably worth postponing MMR a week or so. Wish i had. DS has 2 back teeth coming through and he is Mr Grumpy McGrumpy, plus he is full of snot and a cough (no change there then)

Have actually had a lovely day today. DH bought me a gigantic bunch of flowers, totally beautiful. I also got an apology for his 'behaviour'. Although as Ladyt said I don't think he actually remembers much of what he was saying and doing. I can only describe him as a 'balloon' that was just about ready to explode and since the funeral he has gradually deflated if that makes any sense at all! As I said it is also DH's birthday today so I got a photo of his mum and had it framed. Its lovely and he is thrilled with it. DD bought him a heart shaped straw (her choice ) and a sponge Bob Square Pants cake. All of which made him smile. So all in all I feel we are beginning to heal

We have then had a wonderful day at our local park, where they have been having Chinese New Year celebrations. Its been fab!! DD made lanterns at school (as did lots of other schools) and they all had them with them today, it looked brilliant. So wine is chilling, pizza ordered and feet up in front of the TV.

oh, daisy - so pleased you had a lovely day and got some flowers and an apology. it does sound like you are beginning to heal. long may it continue.

spot - no idea - but it sounds like a visit to the doctor is in order. hope he gets better - sounds yukky.

we also have teething here - i was out all day doing an accent workshop (had such a fab time and can now teach you all general american accents, should you so desire), but madam missed me terribly. poor dh - she just wouldn't settle for him and kept running out of the sitting room to the front door, pointing and saying "dada" (her universal word for dh, me and anything else).

Thanks for the advice, Mr Rubena, he's started coughing loads more this afternoon so I guess it must be some sort of respiratory infection, but my goodness has it been slow and insidious! I'm really not keen for him to have too many antibiotics but if that's what it takes to clear it up, I guess that's what he needs. Veggie, it's funny you should mention that, we went to see the SLT on Thurs and they have referred him to a respirologist (sp??) as she was concerned that he coughs every time he drinks and seems to get a lot of chest infections.

Daisy, I am glad your DH seems to be pulling his finger out and it was really thoughtful of you to give him such a lovely present on his birthday, especially considering the way you have been feeling recently. Hoping this is the start of some good new things. .

WG I had an on/off affair with an accent coach about 15 years ago, I won't give his name in case you know him, but my New York accent was pretty good for the show I was in by the end of it .

veggie, no wonder you exploded, clinginess is so hard and it sounds like you've had a lot of it to deal with. Don't feel guilty about losing the plot a little. I'm sure your DH doesn't hold it against you, and understands that most people get irritable when they feel trapped.

Sorry to hear about the widespread teething problems. We seem to have a fair bit of drooling and whining and rosy cheeks here but never any action. Still only 4 teeth. Is T the most toothless crone on the thread?

Feeling a bit sorry for myself this evening, DP went to Vancouver (to cover the Games for work) on Friday and isn't back for a week. I am just at that stage of wanting to pass T to someone else but even if we see other people in the day he won't let me get up from the floor without a tantrum. I can understand if he's feeling ill, but it's still a bit tiring. Then after all the housework's half-done, some food cooked and some work reading done, that's my Valentine eve gone. Will get over myself tomorrow, could just do with a bit of a spoon, tis all.

there you go Spot does that help!?!

Thank you veggie, I think Mr T would like it a lot, he is always after my good cutlery. I would like this, though
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Aaaahhhhhh I see, yeah that makes more sense.

V. Jealous of the Vancouver gig for DP, can't you go with him?

I've just finally gotten DS2 to sleep without the boob. It took singing the 'Jordi don't cry' song 5 billion times but it is a small step forward. It means DH could settle him if needed, and I think it might be needed sometime soon.

I also upgraded my itouch and I can finally do cut & paste. Bit cheeky though they charged £2.99 for the upgrade. I think it means I can also get some of the apps that I haven't been able to download because it is an old itouch. I can't believe 1year old is old.

Oh and spot, if you don't mind me asking, why was Mr T seeing an SLT? I'm glad they referred you on, he has had to endure a lot of resp stuff and also his cheeky bunged up poos, it's a bit much for the lovely boy.

It was because when he was just on milk he used to take hours just having one bottle and they also diagnosed a bit of tongue tie. I'd said that he always chokes when he drinks and gets a lot of upper respiratory tract infections and they thought maybe when he swallows things are going down the wrong tube. I had no idea that SLTs worked with kids before they could even speak!

Morning All,

Spot - I hope MrT perks up soon so you can have a peaceful time while your DH is away (I am v jealous of his trip - I love the winter olympics). I just wanted to say that there is a difference between cow's milk protein allergy and lactose intolerence and I am not sure that a test for one would rule out the other. My memory is hazy as to the details but DD1 had cow's milk protein allergy which meant she had an extreme allergic reaction to cow's milk (hives, swollen face etc all within second of ingesting). The paed told me it was different to lactose intolerence which is more to do with an inability to digest rather than an allergy. Anyway, it may be worth checking with your GP.

Daisy - I was so happy to read about your lovely day. Thank goodness. Did his friends have a word with him?

WG - i love copying accents. Australian is my speciality. And liverpuddlian. I have never nailed American despite having lived there.

I have a feverish cold (again). It's been 8 weeks since my last significant virus which is an improvement on last year but nevertheless it's crap. We had lovely half term plans for the day and now they must be shelved. I am however feeling better anxiety wise. It's amazing what a nice haircut and two nights out with friends can do for one's mental health.

I'm glad your feeling better Aubi, well mentally anyway, shame about the current cold. We have half term break next week and have friends with their 2 kids coming over.

Spot I work very closely with SLT's as a paeds nurse. I used to run a feeding clinic with am SLT &
dietitian. It is a bit of a silly name as only a section of their work is speech.

Spot: sorry DS is unwell, hope you get somewhere with the GP. And a big squeeze to all the ill babes.

MMR: the nurse told me it was OK as long s they didn't have a temp. DS2 had a bit of a cough but she said if we waited till they were bug-free at this time of year it would never get done! If they've been ill for a hile tho it makes sense to have a break. DS2 now covered in a lovely rash but no other symptoms (apart from being exceedingly grumpy, but as I've cur right down on bf I don;t think it's entirely the jabs).

Veggie: can completely undertand the trapped feeling. As soon as DS2 catches sight of me he's wailing for milk. Sometimes I have to hand him to DH and hide before he will calm down. We've had a few nights of no feeding after his bedtime feed and DH said he was very cross this morning (I snuck out just after he'd woken up).

Daisy: hooray for your good day yesterday. And well done to your DH for thinking of you, esp on his birthday. Sounds like you did a great job of your reading.

I'm finding it a great help to read of all other other cross and clingy babies! It's a difficult patch at the moment. Combination of developmental stuff and a horrid time of the year.

Oh and thanks for the birtday wishes Veggie but you're about a month early!

Spring is on it's way! I saw some snowdrops at the weekend

Aub: sorry you're feeling coldy again. I think we could all do with an extended break somewhere sunny.

Hi everyone.

Well, had the most sleepless night I've had in ages! Non-stop screaming from 7 - 11, then from 2.30 - 4.30, then again at 7 this morning. I am knackered!!! Never mind. Have put off MMR til next Monday and we've got doctor's appointment for tomorrow morning for the rash to her face, hands, knees and bum and fanny. It's not very nice, but she's not ill with it, so didn't feel I needed an emergency appointment. Bepanthen on the arse - she's obviously a bit itchy!

I've also got the 21 week scan tomorrow afternoon. Phew! All go!

Daisy - so glad your weekend was better - I'm delighted for you. Hurray!

xx

Oh no Beans! Are you at work today?

Sorry, Effie, crossposted! No, luckily not at work today, thankfully. I'm quite comforted by grumpy babies too - sorry everyone! But good to know we're not the only ones!

Right, off to Asda. Joy.

Aaaaaahhhhhh DS2 was all over the place last night. I think he has bad wind or something 2ndary to this recent bug. Nothing settles him, he doesn't want BFing, he just screams then he suddenly stops. He is now really grumbly which is probably due to lack of sleep. He has gone down early for a nap. I'm not sure what I'll do when he wakes. I'm feeling a bit lazy but it's a bit sunny outside so I'm thinking it might be a good idea to go for a walk outside with him when he wakes.

Beans sorry your feeling a bit yuk. Those red bits sound not nice for Whizz. You can use the bepanthen for the other red bits until you get something from the GP. However, might be better to use a different tube if you've got a spare. Make sure the GP gives you an emolient, not aqueous cream, and something for her bath like aveeno or oilatum.

Hello everyone.

Sorry you had such a rough night, Beans, and poor little DD...

Daisy, I am sooo glad you had a good day yesterday. That really is smashing

Sorry you're on your tod, Spot, with a poorly lad. And Veggie and Effie - I have to add my DD to the general Grumpingtons sweeping the thread at the moment. She was totally over her MMR reaction by Saturday morn so she went off to my Mum's and was as good as gold with her apart from continuuing the hunger strike - eating little solid food other than about one finger of Marmite on toast and a small tub of fruit puree (is even turning up her nose at bananas now) and the odd biscuit or rusk. My Mum took her up to my sister's on Saturday evening and she cried there and then when myself and DP dropped in to see my sister yesterday, she cried again (now my sister thinks she doesn't like her or the house) and all the way home. She was just in a bad mood. Today, it's Jekyll and Hyde. Laughing and smiling one minute and the moment something miniscule doesn't go her way, she has the screaming abdabs. When DP tried to feed her last night, as soon as she saw the spoon she went into a huge rage.

Aubi, I am concerned that you have so many viruses. You must be very run down. I think you need to allow more time for you and also learn how to relax more (and if you manage this, please tell me how as I can't relax either and I really wish I could). How is your hair?

WG - impressed about your accents class. I doubt you could teach me, I'm rubbish at doing any accent.

Urbane - ooh, the Brits! That is fun. So if you aren't wearing trousers and a hat, what are you wearing? I am off to a drinks for the a paper I write for sometimes and I am not looking forward to it as I will have to seem busy (but not too busy to write more stuff for them), successful, in demand and still in the thick of things Not too easy to pull off at the mo, sadly.

Well, my surprise at the weekend was to be taken for a night at the hotel I grew up opposite but never stayed in! We had a massage and I had a facial then we went for a curry and to see a corny film on Saturday night. It was really nice. Yesterday was lunch with my Mum and her DP, then a quick trip over to DP's Mum (who is only 30 miles from my Mum's) which was a bit grotty and then back to see my sister and then a tiring drive home.

DP's Mum mentioned my not having a job three times during the course of a one and half hour visit. I felt she was implying I was lazy or sponging off DP (if I worked, I am sure she would hint I was neglecting DD). The truth is, I paid for our entire house and all the renovations and once I have had the new baby I will not have a penny left to my name. DP doesn't want anyone to know this and I do understand (and his mother in particular) but I really feel upset at her assumption than DP is breaking his back to keep me in the style to which I have become accustomed Besides which, my writing is my work now. Every time I see her and her DH I just come away feeling furious. It's hard because it can cause friction between myself and DP. Some of it is my fault though, as I am very intolerant of her and really need to work at it.

Right, must tidy up and do some work!

Thanks Veggie - will try to remember emolient over aqueous. Is there a reason for that?

Sorry, Lady - cross posted again. Let's hope all these furious babies cheer up soon. Finding this stage a bit trying at the moment!

Lady - I dreamt I was a bridesmaid at your wedding last night. Very very odd. That was in one of my quick snatches of sleep!

LadyT - I guess I am very run down but I don't understand why. On paper I know that fulltime work and two young kids might explain it but in reality I have a very supportive DH, get loads of sleep and eat well. I therefore fail to understand why I am so run down. It depresses me so that I can hardly bear the thought of another British winter. Friends in warmer climes don't seem to suffer all the viruses that Brits tolerate.

Sorry about all the grumpy babies. I wonder why so many are suffering. Effie is right, we all NEED some sun.

Morning.

Beans, sorry you had a bad night. I hope tonight is better. I have forgotten but are you finding out the sex tomorrow.

LadyT, your MIL is mad!! Just remember that and smile sweetly.

I have a week off work and I am so happy about it. Just feel like I need a rest from the joys of Co-Op.

D did some more walking at Mums. I am wondering if it is because they have a slate floor in the kitchen and a wooden floor in the front room. He hasn't ever walked anywhere else.

I agree with Effie too. I certainly need some sun. It's snowing here and I am just sick of all types of precipatation(sp)

Hi Kayz - no, am not finding out the sex, but I'm sorely tempted. I just loved the surprise last time!

Oh lucky you having a week off - heaven! I'm v jealous! I'd love a week somewhere hot! Would be heaven.

Aargghhh....DS refusing all food, raging temp and an awful cough that makes him cry when he coughs, which is all the time atm What is it with these babies??? Anyway, have managed to get the Dr's to squeeze him in. DD NEVER goes to the Dr, bloody DS is always there!

Effie, yes I need sun and a week not moving off a bloody sun lounger.

Ladyt, yay to the lovely Valentines surprise and boo to the bonkers MIL.

Aub, hope you feel better soon.

Beans, well, I hope I had a nice bridal gown in your dream What if the sex of the baby is obvious tomorrow? Mind you I think you need to be trained to tell. I couldn't have worked out DD's sex at 20 weeks - even when it was pointed out to me I couldn't really get it.

Aubi, I suppose you do all the things like making sure you have plenty of vitamin C, zinc, protein etc...

Have a nice week off, Kayz.