DEC 08 - Barely into toddlerhood and already at our tit's end

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Tit's end...had to be done.

Hope this works!

Sorry DD is ill LadyT . Is she a bit brighter now the calpol has kicked in?

Havea great half term Aub . You've reminded me that I NEED to book myself in for a haircut, I last had it cut in September . It is a right mess and needs sorting out. I'm too lazy to maintain a colour, but the grey threads are hiding nicely still so I'm not worrying about that!

Thanks Effie, she is much cheerier in herself now, which is immensely reassuring, but the temp is still quite high. How long do these reactions go on for? Also, stripping her down has made me realise how scrawny she looks I wish I could get her to eat more.

As for your hair, I only had mine done in December so it need some urgent attention.

Ooh, Aubi, what sort of colour are you having? Sorry you are suffering with anxiety. I know the feeling you mean. I think it can come from Too Much On The Plate. This break has come at the right time. Thanks for the kind words about the sonographer. She seemed very young. The whole clinic was delayed by nearly an hour and a half (at least it didn't matter than I was late) and we were told it was because of a 'difficult patient'. If she had my sonographer I am not surprised. She was really cold.

Just back from ds's MMR and the P one. She said to look out for symptoms from MMR in a bout 5 days is and then again up to 3 weeks I think. Asked about being pg and changing nappies and she said not to worry as that stems from the old Polio vacs in days gone by - bugger I was hoping to get out of a few nappy changes!

Lady - what a silly woman - I thought the whole Idea of a scan was that they adjust your dates? Or perhaps they just want to check with the 12 week one. I think you'd know better than her when you last had un protected sex and that your cycles are typically long etc. At least you can rest easy knowing what you know.

Aubi- Hair do will almost certainly perk you up! Enjoy your break

No idea re: reactions, DS2 had a bit of a temp but it has gone down, mind you it's only 9 days since his jab so it could well kick in at the weekend. You can give calpol and nurofen together (or stagger them) if needed. Could you up her milk for a bit if you;re worried about weight?

Just heard from DH - we have completed on the flat and will shortly be officially solvent again . Big relief. And I am getting a bit of cash to buy some clothes as I am looking like a bag lady (with messy hair). No idea what to get apart from a stripy top cos I really like the ones in the shops at the moment.

Yes, I need a new coat really which is an annoying thing to buy in mid-Feb.

DD started being a little iffy 6 days after her jab, which was Wednesday. Today is day 8. If she is like this tomorrow there is no way she can be looked after by my Mum from lunchtime tomorrow to late morning Sunday, it's not fair on either of them.

Hi All.

Daisy - I've just read your post from last night, which made me cry - I'm so sorry for you and how dare DH be so cruel to you. I'm really hoping you're doing ok and the funeral goes well. Everyone has given good advice. If DH won't take a break, then perhaps you could go away for a few days with DCs to your parents or something, and let him deal with things on his own, rather than trying to push you to your limits.

Thinking of you.

LadyT - try not to worry about the early scan - it is such early days and you know where you are with the pregnancy, so ignore her. Before you know it, it will be the 12 week scan and you'll find that you're only 10 weeks, or something like that. I'm so chuffed there was a heartbeat and it looks fine! Hurrah!

Sorry DD isn't very well. We've got the joys of MMR on Monday. Not that excited about it!!!

afternoon I have a poorly DS2 as well. I thought it was his jabs as he had the MMR and hep B on Monday but it's gone on a few days now do I think it's actually the nasty bug the rest of us had. He is responding to staggered calpol & neurofen and wasn't too bad overnight.

Lady that sonographer is quite bizarre, how odd to voice that in front of you and to not listen to you. I would let your Dr know how it scared you so he/she can let the sonography people know.

Daisy I'm thinking ofyou and pushing the white light out there.

Effie I had a haircut last summer! That is terrible isn't it. It's long now and really curly so not really too bothered. Not very fashionable though.

It's Chinese new year this Sunday, so we are going into Den Haag Chinatown for the celebrations, hopefully DS2 will be better.

Daisy I hope today has gone as well as can be expected for you.

Gosh I feel sick. Just feeling like I'm in a washing machine. DS1 has diagnosed Dylan Flu so I have to rest and watch Thomas.

Evening ladies.

Firstly a heartfelt thank you for all your love,prayes, white light and support. I sometimes think that I would not be getting through this without you.

Today was so tough, DH barely made it to his parents house to start the funeral procession. And when he did arrive he was just a rambling mess! His brother just looked at me like 'He has to do what he has to do'. But I just burst into tears and wept something silly! I think it was grief for MIL and what I have been going through this week. However, had a chat with his Aunt and his best friend. Who both could blatantly see that he was struggling (as could the bloody vicar!!! But he is a family friend). I'd like to say he has calmed slightly since the wake, but he is still a bit wired. LadyT, sharing how you dealt with your grief with me really helped me see that he will get through this...eventually. His best mate and his wife have told me to ring the second I think he is getting daft again and his best mate will be round to 'chat' to him. He had a little word with him today DH really does listen to him. On a plus note I have been told I have a lovely speaking voice and read beautifully in church. Just as well as I didn't look up or I would have lost it.

Anyway, moving on...LadyT please please do not watse a second worrying about that silly sonographer. You knew practically the second you concieved, and a strong heartbeat is fantastic news. I'm certain your dates are correct!

DS can join the ranks of the ill babies. Just random screaming and hit and miss with his food. I put it down tio his MMR but he had last that Friday so who knows. Oh and agree with Rubs, I got told the nappy thing was to do with polio being a 'live' vaccine.

Kayz hope you feel better soon, I now feel crap and totally drained. But I am having a large cheerfulness (apologies summer ladyt and beans) and I am then going to have another...in fact I think I deserve the whole bloody bottle after this week.

. Well done for getting through today, and so sorry you have an ill DS to contend with as well.
And that's good news about his best mate and the fact that they've twigged something weird is going on. Can his mate not go and 'chat' to him before he goes daft again, maybe head it off?
Take it one day at a time and try to look after yourself. Easy to say, I know - but maybe doing one thing consciously for yourself each day might help?
Gotta work (went shopping today when was supposed to be working ) but will do proper post tomorrow. Hope you get an ok night and feel a bit better in the morning, kayz.

Well done Daisy

Glad you got through it, Daisy, I have been wondering all day how it was going. I am glad anything I have said helps. Actually it pains me to think of how icy cold I was with my family and it must have been so hurtful for them, but grief is exceedingly complex not entirely rational I guess. Great that you have got some support from his friend - that could make all the difference, and well done you for speaking out clearly in church! Reading on those sorts of occasions takes real courage.

You will get through this in the end! And so will he.

Have lovely weekends all. We are off to drop DD at Mum's tomorrow after all, she has perked up again. On a silly note, my sister bought her youngest son two pet rats. My Mum hates rodents but rats in particular. So my sister has told her and her MIL that they are 'Argentinian Gerbils'

Sorry LadyT x-posted. Glad your DD is feeling better. And at Argentinian Gerbils

you can combine alcohol and exercise, Urbane, but I don't recommend it. I once fell off a treadmill after a rather cheerful Sunday lunch .

Get back to work!

Well done, Daisy - glad you got through it and great to have DH's best friend on side.

I've got my Dad arriving in a minute to see DD and for some lunch. Unfortunately, she is absolutely full of snot and cough and fell asleep on our little shopping spree and is now back in bed - totally out of routine! - but Dad won't get to spend that much time with her as she was clearly exhausted! Oh well, never mind. I'm going to stay with them for nearly a week in a month, so they'll see plenty of her then! Poor little bird isn't 100%, but she hasn't had her MMR yet and hasn't got a temperature either, but just obviously feeling grotty! I know that feeling!

See you soon.

xx

Just popped by to see how it went Daisy - just been lurking recently - and so glad it went ok. Having a friend who your DH listens to to call in sounds like a brilliant idea.

Glad it went OK Daisy. Was thinking of you. Hope you have a restful weekend.

Happy Saturdays, everyone.

Afternoon ladies

Effie is it your birthday today...happy birthday!

Daisy it's nice to know you have someone you can call on. Even though you know this is grief it must still hurt to have him get DD to be cheeky to you.

Urbane my DH is a loud eater it drives me crazy but I can't bring myself to tell him as it seems a bit petty. Also he is a little bit deaf so I don't think he knows it's that loud.

Poor DS2 is still really poorly. The Chinese new year stuff is on today in Den Haag so DS1 & DH have gone in to enjoy while DS2 & I camp out on the couch. I was watching a movie about american high school basketball which was really stupid and have just discovered that BBC 2 has 'the importance of being earnest' and I've missed the first 15 mins! Oh well all is to rights now. All that needs to be done now is carefully move DS2 a little so I can get to the choccie biscuit.

Oops Ernest.

Oops effie I got you mixed up with someone of a similar name on FB.

HiAll

Turns out to be terrible teething. Covered in a rash on her face, endless dribbling and lots of screams. Horrible molars. And she's got a really bad cough. Do you think they'll give her the MMR tomorrow when she's this run down?

x

Beans, I have put off T's MMR because he's so run down. I am very pro vaccination but as we have lurched from illness to illness all year so far I want him to get better first!

Oh, and just a query for anyone medically minded. T has had loads of mucus and a cough etc for weeks and now the mucus in appearing in his nappy and boy is it stinky. It just looks like the green snot coming from his nose (sorry if TMI). Does anyone know if it's just the outworkings of the virus? Having googled it a lot about dairy intolerance is coming up but he had a patch test for cow's milk protein allergy when he was little and it was negative so I can't see how that would be it.

Lol Spot @ falling off treadmill
Beans - a friends baby had his mmr postponed twice due to cough / cold but not sure on severity of it.
Spot mrrubena says could be a respiritory tract infection but is puzzled that it's been for weeks. Best see the GP I reckon. Hope he gets better soon.