DEC 08 - Barely into toddlerhood and already at our tit's end

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Tit's end...had to be done.

Hope this works!

mom am at work and just logged on to have a sneaky catch up and saw this and laughed outloud. Brilliant. Thanks. Will cheer me up all thread.

Syb I am at your MIL. Awful.

Right. Will be back later. DD has vomiting bug and threw up every hour last night. She's ok today, but I look (and feel) about 104.

Oh no, urbane - that's no good. Poor little bird. Is she just sleeping a lot now?

Mom - love it!!!!

Ach, Urbane, vomiting baby no fun for all concerned as I know from bef Christmas. Hope she's on the mend soon, poor little mite.

No dishwasher man. Grr. This throws put my plans as docs tomorrow for DD's jabs then London Friday.

Think 26th ok, Rubes, I will put it in the diary

Beans, sorry about your DD not enjoying being with the other little girl. I think my DD would be the same - I do worry that as she has always been home with me and has never been to nursery, she thinks she is the Only Baby in The World. Certainly, when we do see other nippers she seems to treat them as imposters beneath her notice.

Aubi, I tried to book that hotel too but it is booked up! They have offered us an apartment next door but it is quite a bit dearer and I need to run it past DP.

Oh, and on the pregnancy front - further to what Syb says, my breasts do feel hurty and strange, not quite like PMT ones. If my last cycle was 46 days and shortening a few days every time, and regardless of cycle length one ovulates 14 days before a period and we had sex on Day 26, if my cycle is 40 days this time I could easily have ovulated when I thought I did. DP is not in my good books over all this. He says there was a misunderstanding but I do think it was more that he got carried away. Hmmm.

LadyT - what would you do if you are pregnant?

Sounds good Lady. I'm obviously going regardless, so doesn't matter if you can or can't make it last minute!

How does dp feel about it if you do turn out to be pregnant? I'm guessing your safe though

Another idea is, I could always come out to see you if it makes it easier, as I could go to work with dh then take the car and pick him up on the way home - just a thought that might be an option.

Marking my place for later.

me, too

Beans - I will, as they say, suck it up. I mean, I do happen to think that a baby is a blessing. I don't want to sound like The Waltons but I realise that now, I would like another child. BUT JUST NOT NOW!! Cos:

1. I know I have bored you all rigid about it and in the light of problems in general it is mighty trivial but not losing this weight has been a shock to me. I have never been fat before in my life. I knew I'd stacked it on a bit during pregnancy but I wasn't worried as I just thought I'd get it off easily. Partly as a result of the legendary Insulin resistance and partly because I like a spot of you know what, it hasn't been that easy. It's felt insurmountable and I feel like a freak. I know that's stupid and also it is vain. However, it makes me feel desperate and depressed and the thought of not being able to diet, and to get even bigger, makes me feel lower.
2. Not being in work at the mo, I won't get maternity leave and am already having to use a chunk of my redundancy money for renovations on the house. I know everyone thinks barristers are dead rich but DP does legal aid work, the criminal bar is crumbling for reasons I won't bore you with and he is seriously brassic.
3. Less important is that I wanted this year to sort out the new house and get some more writing done. If I am pregnant that will be harder.

Rubes - I think DP would feel guilty because he knew I didn't want to be pregnant this soon and it was sort of his fault. But apart from that he would be delighted.

I am worried about coping with two, anyway, in general. I can just about gad off to London and retain a vestige of a social life with one. I think doing what I do with two would be HARD, especially two littlies, and I am frightened about getting resentful and down.

I know this is all very negative but I am just being totally honest!

I hope Daisy is ok, she hasn't been on for a few days.

Punctuation in first para is faulty. There should be a full stop after 'I realise that now', not a comma.

For fans of mordant wit, I am reading a very funny book called Seasonal Suicide Notes by a bitter and hilarious fellow called Roger Lewis. I know it doesn't sound very cheery but I have been laughing out loud.

I really need someone to explain this "marking place!" and "book marking" thing to me.... Am I being really dumb? I can't work out how that helps catching up? Is it the way your screen is set out? Or settings are for this thread? I've asked before as Veggie does it all the time but it's never been explained! Sorry if I'm being simple

Lady, do you definitely want another baby at some point, or are you on the fence? I really hope you test negative as it definitely sounds like something you very much don't want now, but food for thought - you can always lose weight but won't always be able to have children.... Just a positive thought for you in case it goes the way you don't want it, and i'm a massive believer that everything happens for a reason... I wish I'd seen your post earlier about the preg scare, as if you take 4 birth control pills at once (assuming you use them) it is the same as the MAP (apparently)
I have my fingers crossed for the both of you x

I think it's where people have got to and it saves fiddling. But not sure really!

No, I do want another baby at some point. I am just being wimpy about it. But you are totally right about how I could always lose weight (well sort of) and not always being able to have kids. That's why I didn't rush off and take the MA pill.

I love the Thread title!!!!

Rub The bookmarking is just to get the thread on 'Threads I'm On' so it is easy to find later.

I do hope Daisy is ok.

We are being very naughty I am having a takeaway tonight. I am off to my Dads tomorrow for 2 days as I am off to Most Haunted tomorrow night. I am quite excited about it but also a bit worried just incase I do see something spooky.

So I probably wont be back until Saturday so I hope you all have a good couple of days.

Kayz, I am jealous of your takeaway. I only have them about three times a year but it beats what I have had - green veg and a third of a tub of low fat cottage cheese

Have a super time at Most Haunted.

oh riiiiiiight Kayz, I kind of get it now.... does it take you back to the last part you've read or something if you click "threads I'm on" I always just use "watch this thread" .... hmmm better go and experiment...
Lady, I re-read my post and I'm worried it came out all wrong. I don't know what i'm trying to say but I think it didn't come out right. I hope I didn't offend in any way.

You didn't offend at all! Not one bit. What you say is true, anyway.

I can only shake my head ruefully and think how, when I was pregnant, I thought the weight would slide off and I'd soon be cavorting in a bikini.

Of course, if I am pregnant, I will have to be grateful because of course so many people would love to be in that position and any child I have will be hugely loved.

But but but....

oh good
hmm still don't get this threads I'm on thing, it seems to do the same as watch this thread? lol

Fantastic thread title Mom, I love it!

Rubes your brother sounds very sensible, probably because he?s had to deal with this for longer. And Christmas sounds like it will be excellent, can I come instead of your parents?

Sybil could you offer to plant a tree or something in the babies memory? Would they like a memorial to him/her? One of the children?s centres near me has a memorial garden for miscarried or stillborn babies (I know your friend has chosen to terminate, but under the circumstances she must be still be grieving like those who miscarry), and parents can plant trees there if they want, or just spend time there. I think it is a lovely place. And your MIL what an awful thing to say to a child, I hope your DD2 is young enough for it to wash over her and not haunt her for a while. What a very strange attitude she has

LadyT I have a horrifically morbid sense of humour, so will be hunting down that book

I hope the CPN was helpful today Trace?

I have spent the evening mopping tonight. MIL has DD on Wednesdays (not sure who enjoys it most ? DD getting spoilt all day, or MIL doing the spoiling) but DD must have been very wriggly this afternoon as this her nappy was very loose. I discovered this when she wee?d and it dribbled straight down her leg onto the carpet, and I then took the nappy off and it was still perfectly dry! So I got that cleaned up and then it was time for DD?s bath and bed, except she didn?t want her milk so flung the whole cup across the bedroom ... more mopping. And then she really didn?t want to go to bed but was very tired, didn?t want a cuddle but didn?t want to be left. In the end I left and had my tea, as I couldn?t do anything for her, and (bad Mummy alert) turned the monitor off for a bit of peace. I?m sure there?s nothing wrong with her, I hope its not a reaction to me working more (I?ve had to increase to 4 days since Christmas, but didn?t do very much last week), she is the only person who has made me feel guilty about being a working mum and she does it well!

May I join you? I'm new around here - English expat living in Australia, none of the Aussie forums that I've discovered have your humour! My daughter's birthday is 1/12/08, so does that mean I'm in the right place?

Yes Tortoise you are in the right place!! Welcome!!!

Could anyone answer why I wake up do blooming early!!! 3 days in a row I've been up at 5am.

Welcome Tortoise! My son was born on the same day as your daughter. I also have 2 other terrors to keep me in check. Is your DD your first? Whereabouts in Aus are you? We have 2 lovely Aussies on our thread, tho one lives in the Netherlands now and 2 lovely Kiwis, both of whom are over here.

Kayz, I find that taking M out for a long walk does for him. Cold fresh air seems to completely exhaust him.

Hello Tortoise! I'm the opposite! An A living in E! (but hopefully with the humour!) I think our thread is particularly friendly since we've all been here for nearly 2 years! What part are you living and why if I can be nosey? I'm from Qld, and we have another on here too but she has been mia for a few days! Veggie where are you?
Lol Zoe - yeah my brother has seen it all before. I have muted the monitor before too - don't feel bad. You can still hear if it's blood curdling screams, right? and there's flashing lights on mine...

Syb - who are the kiwi's?

Thanks for the new thread

Am at home today with hot and cross DS1 - decided to keep him at home and of course he's now recovering fast!

Just wanted to say thining of you Aub and your DH - when is he travelling?

and AceTrace hope CPN is helpful. Or at least more helpful than your hv. How rubbish.