January 2008 Shiny New Year Toddlers - Happy 2nd birthday to us!!

[LilySwalLoosHerTurkeyBaster]

Where did 2 years go ????

Morning all....

Gingeme - that sounds horrible, no experience with spray on plasters but worth a go I reckon.

Simpson - still thinking of you and hoping you get some reassurance soon. The problem with things like mental illness and alcoholism is that the other person often doesnt honestly realise and even if they are told it just doesnt register and so it will be hard for him to change. I think GIngeme suggestion of trying supervised vists sounds good although that is sort of what happened this time and it was very hard. I constantly tell m y brother things and give him ways out and things to do etc and make his life better and he nods and says yes and agrees but rarely acts, although he has been "ill" for 6 years and has come a long way so there is light it just is a hard journey. I really hope you find a solution.

G - haven't tried the spray on plasters yet so no help, have heard they are expensive though. hope it clears up soon.

Simps - i don't know much about any of it really but think a temporary halt to contact is def a good plan. Do you know of a contact centre near you? i only know where ours is as it's next to the place i go for the bf group. they organise supervised contact for tricky situations, that may be a plan for the future? (though obv you have the added prob of him coming over from Ireland too). Think maybe no phone calls just for now, or if you decide he's drunk, then say no speaking to the kids, and don't tell the kids that he might phone at any specific time so they aren't let down

Off to a funeral today, lady who lives round the corner. Had a brain hemorrhage and had to have the machines turned off x lots.
just been to have my haircut though so that's cheered me up a bit.

H still doing well

Gingeme if there is a scab over it will vaseline (petroleum Jelly) on top not help? Creates a barrier against the dribbling. Nathan's had it on his cheeks at night for weeks now as they were red raw from sleeping in his theething drool. Better now he has a big bed - doesn't lie still anywhere long enough.

JKS didn't realise the funeral was this soon - will see how you are later.

Hi everyone

Hi everyone.
Thought of that wst but it would surely keep the wound wet!? It seems a bit better today. Yes the spray on plasters are expensive thats why I thought Id ask first.
Sorry Simpson forgot all about H being in Ireland how did you get on with the solicitor today?
hope it wasnt too bad today JKS. So glad to hear H still doing well.
Its been wet snowing here today hate it tis so bloody cold. My Dads babysitting tonight so DH and I are going out for a drink up our local

Gingeme wounds actually heal best and with less scarring if kept a bit moist funnily enough! I'm sure vaseline is not ideal but better than a constant trickle of water on it. Glad that it seems a bit better. It is an awkward spot.

Just a quick at everyone to mark my place and say I haven't forgotten you...but its been a looong day at work (stopping now) and an even longer weekend (Tamara has had a full blown tummy bug since Thurs, don't think it was the SF jab but really grim: 3 days of constant throwing up, total banshee child, no sleeping, now awful green yukky diarrhoea. At least she's finally started eating a bit again today, after 4 days of nothing ). Not fun.

Simpson, I wish I could help but just want you to know I'm thinking of you, rooting for you and think you're doing the most incredible job of holding it all together and raising your dcs and trying to do everything right and I'd be happy to lead the "Go Simpson" cheerleading squad to support any decisions you make. As I say, probably not much use, but if you want to raise a smile think of filly twirling her pom poms, attempting some star jumps and shouting "give us an S, give us an I, give us an M etc etc"

OK, must go in search of food or will keel over at desk. Love to all and sorry for the utterly pants catchup...

Simps sorry to hear you have to come to that decision about h. Nothing more useful to add that hasn't already been said.

JKS sorry to hear about your neighbour , brings it home when you hear something like that.
My neighbours (good friend to) mum is currently fighting hard against bc , but loosing the battle , brings it close to home for me
Happy belated birthday and good to see H still doing well

LaT on that note how is your dad doing ? Hoping no news is good news!
Agree with your sentiments on toddlers. M had terrible day on Sat when attemping to do supermarket shop etc Was more difficult that usual and dp was there to help. Took her to park yesterday and she was lovely. Am of your coffee and mag though can't ever see M doing that!!

Ginge have you tried them silver plasters , have heard they are good. How is diet going ?

Hollyoaks hows your friend ??

Iwill how are things with you ? M settling better now to her bed. Has stayed in after story for last two nights so fingers crossed she stays there , the up and down was a nightmare! Luckily she stays put when she goes to sleep. Lol at N

Mixedm hows he diet going ? Didn't loose last week so feeling bit disheartened this week.

Hope everyone else ok
Have got swine flu jabs for girls tom. Still not sure whether to go

Filly x post go get some food !!!!

Filly that's what I keep telling Simpson - I see her and dcs regularly and she is doing a fab job

That bug sounds totally awful I do so hope you see the end of it soon.

Lily if it helps Nathan was possibly a bit grotty the day after his sf jab but that may have been teething too. No side effects so I'm glad we had it done. He had it in his leg and I think that helps as he's so small and skinny and his arms are just sticks.

Not good here - upcoming visit to police has stolen my sleep and my sanity. Oh well, over soon. Or will that be just the beginning? Who knows.

Waves to everyone else.

Sorry - having a very wobbly day here and need hand holding!

I've got so wound up about my scan on Thursday. I couldn't tell you why, but it's all getting on top of me. I keep having nightmares about it and am very tearful today. Hormones I know, but not nice all the same. And another woman from my ante-natal thread has just posted that she had to terminate and now I'm jelly.

Maybe it's just having one more thing to worry about on top of everything else (for e.g had environmental health on the phone at 8.30 this morning, mainly to tell me I should do something and that they couldn't do anything). Dad doing ok, Lily, although fainting for unknown reason. And he's very depressed.

Sorry. A lot of people are feeling down on the thread at the moment. Sending you all a group hug - mainly because I need one!

And Simpson, I often think of how hard it must be for you and how little you complain. I think you're admirable and I'm sure you'll make the right decisions for your LOs.

LaT if you lived a bit closer I would be round - not too good myself but I am so experienced in getting myself wound up beyond rational thought, conversation and sleep that I'm sure I could help xx

Virtual hug will have to do - a special big one. Try as well as you can to keep reminding yourself that you have no reason to think anything is wrong and that serious problems are very rare.

You have my number and you know how to find me on facebook - will be out for a bit this afternoon but will be around later.

Hello everyone...

PMSL at Filly and cheerleading (not that she wouldnt of course look wonderful and gracious .

Hugs, kisses and lots of comfort food for everyone who is feeling down (well not for Lily and Ginge and only enough to perk you up).

IWST - am hoping for some closure for you and somewhere to move on from.

Simps - amazing, not much else to say.

LaT - as JKS said, esp after hearing something like that on antenatal it will knock you a little. Thurs will be here soon enough and then hopefully you can relax.

JKS - glad you are feeling better. Broody me too loads - period due next week but praying it doesnt arrive.

Everything as usual busy busy here not enough hours in the day.

Am making a decision to try to make the time with DC more productive as I seem to just be running around all the time and even when I m with them I amcooking dinner and leaving them to it.

I did make a new years res. to read a proper bed time story every day and we have stuck to that, so now going to introduce another "thing" that I can do with them.

Also, my other resolution was to make more effort with the ILS.. in terms of inviting them places and trying to get them to get to know me and my culture etc better, so have invited SIL and her LO round on Monday for a playdate and have invited all the ILS to a Trkish restuarant to ceebrate DS1 birthday in a few weeks, lets see how it goes.

I amworking on the premise that whn DH and I were having trouble I made a conscious decision to try harder at certain things, like keeping on top of the washing and stuff (silly things really) and my effort seemed to mean that he automatically made more effort back, hence the very happy plac we areat now so am hoping the same willbe true of ILS.

Hello to anyone I have missed.

Oh and Lily - never mind about last week, it is all about this week

I put on 2 lbs last week but I did have a few slip ups so have been good so far this week so hoping for a decent result on sat when I weigh myself (i do sat so i can have takeaway sat night and start again monday - cheating )

Thanks for the lovely messages guys, cheered me up bno end

LaT - a big virtual ((hug)) for you....

Well, have some fantastic news!!!

M has been discharged from physio and is now officially within the "normal" (whatever that is ) range for a 2yr old walking

The only thing she is slightly behind on is stairs. By the age of 2 they should be able to go up and down independebtly even if its crawling up and bum shuffling down iyswim which she can't but do but is getting there

Also the other bit of good news is that I have found cake for M!!

M's playgroup has a birthday and the mum is bringing in cake which M cannot have obv. so have been trying to find something the can have and went to tescos today and found that tescos Angel layer cake is dairy/soya free!!

Simps about M , you should be doubly proud as you are doing it by yourself
Great news about the cake too.

Mm well just had pancakes after tea so not good day here , amy even have glass of wine as dp woke me up at 5.30 am going to work so need a treat!!
Lots of good resolutions there! I am trying tto involve dc's with meal times as they all getting a bit fussy recently. Made pitta pizzas tonight.
Lol after they had eaten all the toppings they were meant to put on they hardly ate any of the pizza when it was ready
All they will all eat and not grumble about is meat , pots and veg or fish pie.
I refuse to cook seperate meals for us all , so trying to cross that bridge at the minute!

Iwill not sure how things will turn out but one day at a time i guess!
Did take the girls for the jab , both complaining of sore legs tonight though.

LaT ((hugs)) i found i was more nervous with each one of mine. I found that carefree feeling i had with no1 faded. No reason to though. It will be fine!

JKS glad you feeling litle brighter this week

Hopefully girls will be ok with their jabs tom so me and M can go to toddler group tom!

Thanks for sympathy. Hust a very hormonal, rubbish day. The afternoon was rounded off by me being told off by a bus driver twice in a two minute journey even though I had a well-behaved child, pushchair folded and the right change. And then found out that there have been allegations of sexual assault at a local playgroup where several friends' children go. I've spoken to one of them and she doesn't believe it at all, but it's still a horrible thing to have in the air. It is the one Sabela was going to go to in September! It makes you feel vulnerable.

Breathe and hope for a better day tomorrow.

Yay for cake, Simpson. And more for M's walking.

JKS - new bed up? How was bedtime?

Well done of resolutions Mixedmama

I'm here (waves) and thinking about you all but crap at personals as usual. DH has been an idiot lately for reasons can't go into here but things have calmed down, just wanted to say thanks for listening WST even though you have your own cross to bear right now.

I must deduce we are living in the same town hollyoaks, I though I know a lot of people with DC the same age as DS as a big gang of us used to go to a breastfeeding group at Sure Start when they were babies? I hear the funeral was yesterday .

tranquila LaT toda sera bien xx

again too long reading posting time zero. sleep rubbish . weekend good.
need help on central london meet point on northern line. was looking at the national army museum as they have free kids zone but thats chelsea.

Morning ladies
All is well in the Gingeme household. Just got back from SW I have lost 1 1\2 lb. Only 1/2 lb till my half a stone. Going to McDs for lunch to celebrate.
George stayed in his own bed last night Cried a bit at pre school when we dropped him off but have had no phone call so far so he must be ok.
Well thats about it for now.
Hope you are all well xx

Hello everyone,

Took the morning off uni today o take E for his 2 year check. What a complete waste of time. She asked me questions do he talk etc and ticked a piece of paper. I thought they were supposed to ask him to do things to demonstrate his development.

Anyway was a little too late to get in for my first lesson so accompanied S on his nursery outing to the library so feel like a good mummy today instead of rushing around.

Ginge - well done on the weight loss. I cant wait for sat as I have been realy good. My friend is starting lighter life this week and i am trying hard not to scream N - she has to survive and function on 535 cals a day, apparently they have all the nutrients in them but still.

Are you going spill the thought process behind the MW idea.

I have read everything but have nothing usefl to say so HUGS to everyone who needs it (ange DH regularly a bit of ass so hope it sorts it), and waves and bum skaing danicng for all.

Hi everyone,

A much less wobbly day here. DH took Sabela to nursery, so I had an almost unprecedented 2 1/2 hours to myself! Lovely. Strangely, I chose to do ironing, which is mysterious but there you go. Also listened to Gok Wan on Desert Island discs. That man chooses 20 outfits to wear per week. I'm very sure I don't have 20 outfits. Right now I have two pairs of maternity trousers and a dress. I actually feel like these are my nicest clothes at the moment, so that's ok!

Well done on watchin your weight. I don't seem to have put much on this pregnancy - yet. Maybe 3 kilos, which is great. I have just put all my size 8-10 clothes in the loft though and am wondering if they will ever see the light of day! Although, a 10-12 is just fine with me. DH freaks if he can see my ribs. He hasn't for quite some time!

Hope you have a gorgeous sunny day where you are. It's freezing cold, but hte light makes such a difference.

Scan tomorrow. ALl fingers on strict crossing duty 9am sharp!

Thanks again for your support.

LaT glad things going ok with you and yours today. 10-12 I only wish. Dont think Ive ever been smaller than a size 14 since I can remember. Thats what I am aiming for with SW
Mixedmamma it sounds like you have had a good day too Its a big deal taking lo's to the library isn't it ?
I have always wanted to be a midwife or doula but I watched One Born Every Minute , through a blur of tears , and thought I could do that. Its a hell of alot of training though ! I asked the lady who runs pre school how to get into child care so if I got grade 2 child care under my belt I could work from there.She did all her exams etc on line as such so Im going to look into it soon.
Anyway its just a thought at the mo. Got to be better than filling shelves in Tesco and according to DH Im good with children

Hi all

LaT - will think of you tom let us know how it goes

Must have been mad today but did buggy fit (organised by our instructor that does our keep fit class on a friday and totally free ) in the snow!!

However M now has high temp and is in bed already

Gingeme - I see solicitor next Monday so will have a chat with her then but tbh don't think contact centre would work as firstly H has to come from Ireland and also J is such a sensitive little soul I think he would find it traumatic

Am going to see if H rings on Friday and what state he is in and make a decision from there I think...

Morning all....

at work today... euggh really cannot be asked with work anymore. Constantly having the convo with DH about just not working anymore but falling on deaf ears at the moment. Getting a little about it as when he decided to quit work after DS1 when I was just temping and stressed with his lot and earn no money he would nt listen when i said no, so part of me feels like i should just resign, but I am much more considerate.

Anyway rant over as once we get pregnant I will be looking forward to maternity leave and potentially never being a secretary ever again. Have to fess up that about 20% of my motivation for baby no 3 is about not working but focussing on being a mum, wife and study. The other 80% is of course where it needs to be - maternal urge and the completion of our little family.

I was always a size 8-10, and managed to get back to a size 10 when I hit my goal, but am now 12 pushing 14, but hopefully we are getting back to 12 and back to 10 as I have had a good week.

Waiting for LaT to get back from scan. irrationally excited. Was she finding out flavour I cant remember.

Hello everyone.