December 2009: for the sake of Auld Lang Sine

[LaDiDaDi]

Just thought that I would get this started before the ante-natal thread gets filled up, not that I've had much time to post since I had DS but others might be able to multi-task better than I can!

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1pet - glad you had a better night.

ds2 went to bed at 2115 last night which is early for him. Gave him a dreamfeed at 2300 & he woke up at 0820. We're definitely moving in the right direction.

Boxed up all ds2s 0-3 month stuff ready for giving to my sister. She's just found out she's having a boy which I might have already mentioned, can't remember. Makes it much easier to clear stuff out when I've got someone to hand it on to.

Off to hide Easter eggs in the garden for ds1 while he gets dressed.

Happy Easter !

Had a good night last night, ds only woke up once and this am dd told dp "it's mummy's turn for a lie in, it's been ages since she had a lie in" so I didn't get up properly until 9.30, though I'd been awake to feed ds from 8.

Going to my mum's for a family lunch today. Hope everyone enjoys the weekend.

Happy Easter everyone!

Just wanted to say thanks LaDiDaDi - husband has been a lot better after my mini meltdown - helping and changing nappy etc without having to be asked and picking her up if she is grumpy etc. I asked him last night if he felt like he had helped more and he said yes and understood why it helped me so much so am v happy now!

Was rather disappointed with boat race result though - rubbish - my husband and all his friends went to Oxford and I am a die hard Oxford supporter as a result - plus they are all rowers too. Sorry whoever is from cambridge on here! Well done - the president of the cambridge boat race is the brother of a girl on my year at school so good for him too (esp as he was in the losing boat last year!)

Anyway enough of my rambling - glad everyone seems to be having a good weekend with the babies! P's new thing is realy fighting sleep in the day if we're out ad about and not walking - too nosey

Happy Easter all!

We're using washable nappies during the day - fuzzi bunz and thirsties (whichever are top of the pile) and huggies at night. We're on size 3 baby dry and I think Tess is about 13lb now, maybe just under. I love my washables and am always trying to convince hubby that we need more, but I don't change her bum in the night (unless I can smell poop)and I don't want her to have a wet nappy on for that long so we've stuck with the huggies.

Tess is going through a strange phase at the moment of not really napping during the day and I think it might be because we get up late - what do you think? This is how today went as an example:
9.00 Fed, got up, washed, dressed etc
11.00 She looked exhausted, I tried to get her to sleep (45 mins), she cried then slept (10 mins ), I fetched her and brought her downstairs where she happily played on her playmat then started crying around 12.30 Assumed she was tired so had another go at a nap. She wouldn't sleep so I tried feeding her as had been 3.5 hrs by now and she fed fine (ALWAYS feeds fine actually ...)
2.30 Went out for a walk to get her to sleep, she went off at 3.00 (when I took the opportunity to cut her nails even though we were in the park - needs must!) She woke up just after we got home at 3.30 and fed.
4.00 Nappy off time downstairs. Cue the usual giggles and HUGE smiles - her fave part of the day
Can't remember the times of the rest of the day, but I fed her a couple more times quite close together and around 5ish she had a nap while feeding for around 30 mins. At 7 we did the usual bath and bed routine and she went off without a problem - is still asleep now.

So what do you think? She does sleep a lot at night time. She's in bed between 7.30/8pm and 9.00am and has a couple of feeds during the night (but just eats and goes straight back to sleep - so only awake for about 30mins a time) so that's quite a lot of sleep, but surely 2 x 30 mins naps and the 10 mins in the morning isn't enough?! She is grumpy a lot at the moment and I don't think there is any other reason for it. I don't want to get up early in the morning and I don't want to wake her either, although I'll have to when I go back to work, so maybe I should just start now and get into the swing of it. Oh, I don't know - any advice? (She's 17 weeks if that makes any difference)

Partial......
my LO is same age weight and night sleeps as yours (ish)
We are also 100% washable nappies daytime and pampers stay dry at night due to heavy wetter and yet to find a washable for night that will go the midnight to 8 am stretch after her dream feed.
Unfamiliar with your brand of nappy ( ours bambinex teddies) but if they're microfibre like ours then they generally are a wetter feeling nappy to wear than disp.
Your LO may be a little too aware of this to be able to settle in them and get woken up by her wees. As happened to us.
We find using fleece liners gives a comfy dry barrier tween nappy n babe and more general happiness all round!
We pre empt a code brown situation with a paper liner over the fleece to make the clean up easier as her poo times are clockwork (ish) (however this makes for a wetter feel again).
The brand we use is from nappylady.co and is junior jot I think.

junior joy......typo

Legscrossed - Hadn't crossed my mind about the nappies, I was so caught up with thinking I had to start getting up early Will have a look at some fleece liners, although her poos are becoming more eratic, so not sure whether we can make it work.

Actually she slept so much today, completely different from yesterday. We both woke up at 10.40 this morning which is completely unheard of - must be the new black out curtains. I assumed she therefore wouldn't nap at all today. No, how wrong could I be... 30 mins at lunchtime and 2 hours in the late afternoon.

I think she's maybe just growing. I put new batteries in the scales (batteries ran out when I was about 16 weeks pregnant and haven't weighed myself since). I stood on them to weigh myself then got hubby to pass me Tess and it went up by 14lbs !! Admittedly she had clothes and nappy on, though nothing heavy, but 2lbs in 2 weeks must seriously mess you up.

This baby lark is hard to fathom

Lee - we have this. I bought a pair of jeans when Tess was first born and DH scoffed at them saying they looked 'chavvy' and weren't really suitable for a baby. But that's all changed now. I pretty much always dress her in a babygro or cotton top and leggings now, and the only time those jeans go near her is when he's dressed her in the morning
(so not that often...)

Hi everyone

More rows here - husband is clearly very stressed with work which he then takes out on me and I don't have the patience at the moment to suck it up so I snap and we end up sniping a lot. we are off skiing on Sat so I really hope he doesn't have to work much (two calls scheduled already in the evenings) and that we can relax and be nice to each other again. I know it's a common thing with a first baby. Getting me down a bit though. Hmph.

Anyway P is rather keen on her baby rice and fruit puree! She even had some at lunchtime today as she seemed still hungry... it's lovely to see her happy and covered in food. Means they are growing up though - next thing wil lbe for me to get her to drop the 10:30pm feed and sleep through!

Partial - She is 18 weeks now and her daytime sleeping as been all out of sorts the past few days - she will only sleep for 30-40mins at the most and she won't settle easily at all - cries and is just too excited by the world - perhaps I will just let her be awake and she will eventually be so tired she sleeps (although this will no doubt backfire as she fights sleep and gets overtired and then screams sometimes)...

Hope everyone has had lovely weekends!

I think it depends a bit on the nappy (washable) that you use.
Microfibre is a very saturated feeling nappy even when its not yet 'full' but bamboo or terry are poss not so wet feeling.
Our LO is highly intolerant of wet nappy but micro fibre suits our (lack of) drying facilities

Daytime naps are usually the one thing we don't struggle with. Put ds2 in his cot & off he goes. Unfortunately with ds1 being home for school hols & dh being on leave this week our routine is all over the place. On the plus side it means dh is getting up some mornings & I don't have to be up & out ready to get ds1 to school.

Had a poorly baby yesterday. Had a bit of everything wrong with him. Was quite bizarre. Seems a lot more himself today though. Definitely having trouble with his teeth. Bought him some dummy type things but with a different shaped bit that goes in his mouth for him to chew on so they're in the fridge. Hopefully they'll help him.

nasty...........have a gin luv

Ouch !

So sorry for your ds1 Lee. Hope that you get over the shock and he starts to feel better soon.

That's awful Lee. Hope you both feel better soon

Oh Lee. Hope he feels better soon.

We had a funny night last night. I was saying to DH as we went to bed that Catherine's night feeds have been getting shorter and shorter and I wasn't sure she was actually hungry anymore, just waking out of habit. I said that maybe over the weekend, he could try getting up and just resettling her and we could see if we could get her to sleep through.

She had an extra late feed last night at 11. It was wind that woke her up as she'd done a really loud fart and we could hear her wriggling. When she woke up for her normal 3am feed, I went and got her and laid her in our bed but she wasn't rooting so I just laid next to her - next thing I know, it's 6.30am and DS is getting up!!

I'm wondering if this is the beginning of the end for night feeds. That would be great!

Fingers crossed for you GS.

Starting to think ds2 will never go through the night. He's still awake most nights from about 1700 until about 2230. He does sleep through until about 0800 then but he's never slept early evening not even when he was newborn. On the plus side he doesn't cry for all those hours he's awake like he used to. Had a bad night last night. Having thought he was feeling better he went in his cot dead early (2100ish) didn't want his 2300 dream feed then woke at 0100. He had a few ozs & I thought he was just making up for missing his dreamfeed. Then he woke up at 0230 but went back to sleep, 0330 screaming blue murder & ended up feeding him before he finally went back to sleep but I didn't get back to bed until nearly 0500 as I had to wash & sterilise bottles as we hadn't got any left due to his 2 extra bottles in the night. He then woke up at 0715 swiftly followed by ds1 complaining that ds2 had woken him up. Got dh in bed having trapped a nerve yesterday (we think) as he can hardly move.

Lee-Ouch! Poor DS, hope the pains not too bad now. Hope you have got over the shock now too!

All well here, poor DS2 has 6 teeth coming through, they are all cutting through at the same time, hes gnawing and drooling like a good un, but being a brave little soldier!
He rolled over onto his front , for the first time yesterday, but now hes learnt to do it, he does it all the time, but his arm keeps getting stuck under him, so he flaps about like a stranded goldfish!

Re sleeping through the night- It has happened only twice in 19 weeks, the last time was Sunday night. He goes down to sleep like a dream though, at 7pm, i dreamfeed him at 10.30ish and he wakes once between 3-4 then i dont hear a peep till 7-7.30, so not TOO bad.

Oh Lee, that must have been terrible, hope he's getting on ok with the cast, bless him!

We are having really terrible nights here. We put Noah to bed at around 7, feed when I go to bed between 9 and 10, he'll sleep til maybe 1 but then he wakes every hour until morning He's not necessarily hungry when he wakes, and not normally crying, just whingeing and fussing. I am so desperate for him to just stay asleep, but I just don't know how to tackle it
One thing we discovered at the weekend was that if he is put outside in his pram all wrapped up in the morning, he has a super long nap... I put him out there at just gone 10 this morning, and he is still asleep now (apart from one brief awakening when one of the cats ran into the side of his pram )!!
I have tried quite a few things. I am currently in his room in a double bed next to the cot. Have tried him in the cot all night, still wakes up. I've tried co-sleeping, still wakes up. I've tried going back into my room after 1am feed, still wakes up. I've also tried feeding him more during the day to see if that makes a difference, as he is more hungry at night when he has gone a few hours between feeds the day before.
I'm a bit concerned about the weekend as we're going away and DH will have to share a room with us both nights... he can normally share with us for one night, but is extraordinarily grumpy if he doesn't get enough sleep and is an incredibly light sleeper, so that should make the weekend fun
So, anyone got any ideas? DS already takes a dummy, btw.

ds still waking twice in the night (between 11pm and 7am is my night iyswim) most nights, occasionally wakes only once but usually that's because he has a late night feed later and first one in the morning is earlier. Co-sleeping from his first waking so it's not too bad but sometimes it all catches up on me and I get really tired and headachey.

Kate, if he's just whingeing and not in need of anything or in distress then I'd try leaving him.

You might find he resettles himself and goes back to sleep.

Resettling is a great skill to have and it's what gets them sleeping through the night.

Obviously, if he's upset this isn't a good idea but if he's just grumbling then it won't do him any harm.

GS - I don't actively try and settle him, but I can't sleep through it, so it doesn't help me much on the sleep front! If I leave him in his room and go back to mine, he cries Also that method has the added stress of waking DH who gets annoyed at me

I'm wondering if I should actually get up and actively settle him since not settling doesn't work! It is frustrating that the times he has slept best in the early hours of the morning are when he has got really upset and then been calmed down again