NOV 07 Now they are two they are nearly new

[littleoldme]

Whoo hoo did it.

Morning all!

LOM - I had exactly the same conversation with a friend at work last week who was worried about her daughter and a friend who had behaved in the same way as your friend's DS. They too were ante-natal class friends. I would agree with Loopy in that it is the way that the parent deals with it which is crucial. If the parent is a bit flakey and makes excuses for the behaviour, and does not reprimand the child, or doesn't do it in a particularly meaningful way, then I would be inclined to distance myself from the child and parent. If however the parent is dealing with it properly then I would suggest vigilance whenever your children are together. Could you mention to your friend that her son's behaviour concerns you? Or could you talk to the little boy next time. Sometimes the sheer embarrassment of being spoken to by a different grown-up can stop that kind of behaviour. It's so tricky isn't it?

Loopy - poor you, headaches are horrible, hope you're feeling better soon and fingers crossed for tomorrow.

RG - I always look forward to visitors, despite our house being tiny, and then am mightily relieved when they've gone and I've got the house back!

Greedy - hope you get your angel back! DD goes from being a perfect princess to a screaming banshee at times, William is usually pretty good-natured though. I'd love to know what computer hair is!

My friends have said they would love me to make their cake which is great but also scary. It means I can now justify the purchase of a new kitchenaid mixer though, which I am saving for using the money from my private tuition I'm doing. Lots of practice sessions means I am likely gain several pounds I think

Definitely! Now my friend just has to decide exactly what she wants.

Mild drama here this morning- William announced that he lost a stone in his mouth! Much questioning has revealed he has probably swallowed it nhs direct said it should pass through in a few days and to keep an eye on him. It was only a matter of time before he did something like that!

Thanks for the advice everyone. His mum deals with behaviour and makes him apologise but it doesn't really seem to have much effect. She knows though and it drives her batty.
I think you are right though, the kids will naturally drift apart and me and his Mum will continue to have trips to Leeds to drink Mojitos ( oh the thought ...)
She is also quite worried about him I think as he often overdoes it but is not normally dangerous like this.
I'm sure T will reach the point when he does exactly the same thing.

Jet - Those practice cake making/eating sessions sound most strenuous. Do let me know if I can help .
Hope those stones don't cause probs.

Greedy - Love the idea of computer hair !
Loopy - Cheers m'dear, I'll make sure it is back in good time.

Oh Loopy - Consider yourself hugged X

Sending more hugs your way from Southampton, Loopy xxx

Hugs to you too Loopy x

Hi Loopy, fingers crossed, must be very stressful indeed, hugs and hope you are getting plenty of feet up time.

LOM - after your tricky situation I have one of my own - next door neighbour's daughter has always been a PITA but she adores all babies/children. I managed to successfully fend her off when Adam was younger but Adam adores her so I have been letting her play out the front under close supervision or in the house but EVERY time I turn my back for a nano-second something happens. Last night she hit him (she says he hit her first, she is 6 and IMO should know better) and then he came screaming into the kitchen to tell me that she had pushed him over "with her hand" and she categorically denied it and there is no way that he would make that up so I said maybe it was best if she went home so Adam could have his tea and she stormed out! So I am now very reluctant to let her play with him but this may become awkward as she only lives next door! I do feel a bit sorry for her as she doesn't seem to have many friends, her parents have separated and she looks a lot older than 6 so don't know if I am having unreasonable expectations of her? Reading this back I don't even know what I am worried about - she hit him, she's gone!

Rainy and windy here today and I am knackered after Adam's swimming lesson and praying for an early night.

Thanks Loopy, I am wary of being too judgemental cos I am an only child and never had the sibling rough and tumble but you are right - hitting a child who is not your sibling is stepping over a boundary of some kind! I honestly feel that she is just very immature but I will either be making excuses or keeping an extremely close eye on her in future (thought I was doing that yesterday but obviously failed spectacularly!)

You sound a bit more positive today, good news re no further bleeding .

Still here; still fat !

Blooming

Yes - blooming fat !
Will post properly soon. Busy and tired at the mo.

Greedy- That is a tricky one. I'd go with Loopy's analysis. As for what you do; not sure. i told T that if he is being hurt by another child he must shout at them not to do it and call a grown up. If it doesn't stop then he is allowed to 'hit them away'. I felt awful telling him that but he needs to stick up for himself.
A six year old should know better though.

Loopy - Glad to hear there has been no more bleeding.
T seems to coming round to the idea of a baby brother. he's cuddling my bump lots and telling it, " Don't worry, you'll be out soon."

I however am feeling very emotional and a tad unbalanced. It's like PMT writ large. I'm usually very calm and tolerant when it comes to T but I lost my rag with him yesterday and felt awful.

Also wondering how I'll cope with two, especially as T only has six hours p/w in preschool until Sept. i thought I could increase his hours but apparantly not. But as Dh said, we will ahve two kids but I won't have to cope with them whilst pg !

On a happier note. DH has flown back from Dublin this pm and bought me a replacement Touche Eclat from duty free ( not a good time to be without it ). He even asked an assistant which one I needed. This is remarkable as he NEVER asks about anything in a shop, restaurant, for directions anything - I do indeed feel very loved ! it's the little things [gr

That should have ended with a grin emoticon but it appears I am too incompetant !

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Loopy. I really wish you lived down the road.
The prob with pre school is he goes to one a bit out of our area and they've told me they have to give priority to local kids; I can understand that. There are a couple of private nurseries I might check out when his funding kicks in. It depends on how he reacts to the baby. I don't want him to get the message that the baby turns up and he gets shipped off. We'll have to see how things go.

You are right re the emotional bit too. I think it is also to do with change and uncertainty - I'm too much of a control freak!
God knows what state I'd be in if I didn't have the section booked.

LOM When William arrived the one thing that was dd's constant was going to nursery. Even though I was on mat leave I kept her place and it meant I had baby time, she got to play which was difficult in the early bf days when all Will did was feed! My gp told me cbeebies would be my friend and there was nothing wrong with spending time on the sof with both my children. I did make a habit of going for a daily walk with both of them just for fresh air, exercise and to wear out dd. I also made sure dd and I had daily girl time. William 'gave' dd a present when he was born and we let dd help as much as she wanted - I think if we had forced the issue she might have pushed him away a little. Like loopy says, 2 is hard work, and dh and I found it a greater impact on our relationship than just one. But equally, they are both wonderful. I recall vividly having a wobbly moment while in labour, sobbing that I missed dd and couldn't imagine having enough love for another child (bit late at that point!).

loopy you are so wise, you should have your own advice column