December 2007 - Not Quite Two, Already Terrible ;)

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CONGRATULATIONS SKID!!! Lovely name too and Yay! Great to hear such nice news , enjoy him!

Thanks to you all for your crossed fingers, prayers and positive thoughts - they are all very welcome!

Insy, I like gory details too, I haven't seen that programme but I've seen the trailers and I love that kind of thing! I am being very well looked after thanks, DH is being fab despite being shell shocked (and bought me a lovely Chamilia charm/bead bracelet as a replacement late Christmas present as I ungratefully returned the original present he had bought me/early Mother's Day pressie ). Family and friends (including you lot) are being great and I have the number of the Secretary of the Doctor I saw yesterday and permission to call with any questions (and when I rang today the secretary knew who I was without me having to explain anything). If Addenbrooks (where I'm referred to) are anywhere near as good as my local hospital then I'm in good hands

Cazzy, you are not selfish at all! I always tend to think the worst but even with my rational head on I am fairly sure that it is the 'c' word but I am going to fight it if I need to. I'm sure all the good vibes and prayers people have been sending my way (people are fab) will help no end. Are you due early or late August? You may well go far enough over to have a September baby! DS is a June baby (not quite as bad as August) and he's a fab reader, G&T in maths and a great little scientist too! He is perhaps not as emotionally mature as some of his classmates but academically he doesn't suffer. Plus he gets to have fab outdoor birthday parties if he wants - its not all bad for summer babies!

BT, house hunting/selling sounds a nightmare! We always get fed up with the hunting bit and give up before the selling bit but I guess you don't have that luxury. Hopefully one of the ones at the weekend will be perfect and someone will snap your house up double quick!

Right. Off to FB to check out Skids yummy new arrival!

Cazzy - I've used the suggest friends thingy on Facebook... you are CH aren't you?

BT - thanks...now I have seen the baby I am al happy again

soooo handsome

Beckle - I live about 5-10 minutes from Addenbrookes depending upon where on the site you are going. You are welcome to park at my house as it is expensive..I suspect I'll be at work otherwise I'd invite you in for a cuppa and a celebration of good news

BT I was going to suggest on fb but I couldn't find how to do it-where is the button for future reference?

Beckle must be terrifying for you. glad the odds are good anyway.

Fifi congrats on the pregnancy I didn't realise you had had 2 mc you poor thing, fingers crossed this one sticks.

Insy I LOVE that programme all the way through I'm thinking "no, I don't want to do that, never again" but as soon as the babies appear I change my tune Has me in tears everytime!

Hope you find a lovely house soon BT.

DS is dressed as a princess today dd had to dress up for book day and ds demanded a princess dress as well so he is wearing dd's bridesmaid dress. Some of the mums were a bit when they saw us at preschool but most said he looks cute. He won't change so will likely be going to toddlers like it as well!

thanks for the congrats everyone

honeymoon period is over, milk is coming in and boobs are killing me! he is still lovely though

insy - i love that programme too - much easier to watch when NOT pg though!

clairey - glad i'm not the only one with a cross dresser (and chocs are YUM )

beckle - glad you are being looked after and are so positive - you will beat it, i know you will

Wow Skid that was quick for milk, he must be very efficient

Thanks Cazzy thats really sweet of you! I might take you up on that once we have our bearings of the place!

I've got an appointment with the consultant on Wednesday next week where I am assuming they'll do any pre-op tests, squash my neck a bit and tell me when the op will be. I had a friend come over today who has had the same 'c' they think I may have and she talked me through the thyroidectomy so I am now feeling prepared. I am determined to beat it, I am more scared of the general anasthetic than anything else TBH!

Clairey how was toddlers with DS in his dress?! At his age they don't have a clue about gender, why shouldn't he wear a dress if he wants?! He'll soon grow out of it and you'll have some great photos to embarrass him with when he is in his teens!

Wow Skid that was quick for milk, he must be very efficient

Wierd double posting from me there The page has shown as loading on my computer due to mn being down when I tried to post.

Beckle most people thought it was cute but he did get called a girl by people that don't know us and one bitchy mum kept looking at me with cats bum mouth. This morning when we went out he said "I'm not a princess today but I am very very beautiful wearing my princess dress" Bless him!

Freakasoid - you have to go on to your friends page and there is a "suggest friends for X" on the left right near the bottom, it is a bit tricky to spot!

You DS sounds so cute!

Good to hear you are getting on okay Skid

Thanks BT

We found a house!

It's not a nice as our house, but it is 4 bedrooms, has an ensuite, a nice big back garden, and the owners are moving to rented (eventually they are planning to move down South).

But it could be as nice as ours with a little bit of work - needs double glazing, a new kitchen, new carpets/kitchen flooring. But the neighbourhood is lovely, it is down a little private access road so very quiet and peaceful and walking distance of Crystal Peaks shopping centre, big retail park and the Supertram! There are some nice schools and what sounds like a great Church all with in walking distance.

I'm convinced the mum is a Mumsnetter - she has 4 girls, all HE up to Senior school, and the mum fosters too - they were all absolutely lovely - wish they could move next door as I would love them as neighbours! The other next door have 3 boys (so great for ds and dss) and are nice too, apparently.

Ohhh that sounds nice BT!!! Similar to our house which will be nice when we have some money to do it up ...mind you must stop having babies!!!

Was supposed to go to a talk today by some bloke organised by all the churches in cambridge but dh was asleep so missed it ...am about to go and order his book anyway...feeling very guilty.

CONGRATS Skid!! Sorry have had a busy weekend - can't believe I missed it!!

Great work on the house front BT.

Clairey - maybe not quite the same but I've always found people very judgmental about DD1 too for being quite the tomboy. In fact it got to the point last year where she felt pressured into growing her hair to stop the teasing. In fact I think she looks gorgeous with longer curls but that's not the point!

How are you feeling now beckle? Great that you were able to talk it through with someone who's been there done that.

Hi fifi!

I'm feeling much more on top of the whole puppy thing after spending 3 hours with a really experienced puppy trainer yesterday. It was worth the 3 hour round trip and DD2 throwing up in the car (well maybe not...) to get his advice. The best thing is that he's alayed most of my guilt about leaving him alone for a few hours and gave us great advice about setting up the house to make it easier for toilet training etc.

Oh and ex-H continues to be a complete f*ckwit. His latest gem is that maintaining some level of goodwill in the communications between him and me (my suggestion that this might be nice) re DD1 is "nonsense". Oh how I just want to tell him to F off out of all our lives - but I know DD loves him to bits

Buzzy How awful, you are trying to do the best by your girls and your idiot ex is just making things more difficult
What an arsehole

Yay great news BT

at your ex H buzzy. Somehow I hadn't realised that not being with H didn't automatically mean not having to deal with his fuckwittery. It's definitely better now but he still manages to astound me with his attitude every time I see or speak to him and lke you I'd love to never have to deal with him again but because of the dc it's not possible (common sense but I hadn't thought it through!)

Cazzy is no4 the last then??

Buzzy - sorry your ex is being such an arsehole, I can imagine the temptation just to tell him to F off but I guess you have to try and be the grown-up here for your dd's sake. I've forgotten - when does he leave? Do you need to get any sort of mediator in or hasn't it got to that point?

BT -good news on finding a house. It sounds lovely and, as you are buying it rather than renting, it must be nice to make plans for it. I am really missing our house back home (which we own) and fed up of living in someone else's house, it just doesn't feel like home. And I am not liking house hunting at all as it's hard to find anywhere that will suit us.

Skid - hope you're getting on ok, I don't envy you the nights and the breastfeeding (ouch). I guess I've definitely made the right decision not to have anymore because when I see a newborn I don't go gooey. I just think poor parents, no sleep for a few months and sore nipples for the mum!

dd2 is so grown up now. Yesterday in the bath she suddenly declared that she had a "agina" and that her friend David had a "pen-is". Apparently they have two anatomically correct dolls at toddlers and have been doing body parts!

Freak - yes I am afraid it is . I don't think I would have anymore for a while but I can see in 8 years I might long for another - I be 40...

dd1 isn't entirely happy about it as it is.

Dh has said definitely no more and wants to go for the snip which just seems to so permanent to me, least not if we ever split up and he meets someone else..so hopefully I can put him off that

clara, I'd love to get a mediator involved but he's flat out refused. He's leaving sometime in April I think but hasn't actually told me.

Clairey, sadly it is an ongoing problem you're forced to deal with. I wish I could tell you it gets easier...

Clairey, sod the bitchy Mum at toddlers, DS looks gorgeous in the dress and he's only 2, even if you tried to explain he'd have no idea why he 'shouldn't' wear it!

Cazzy, IKWYM about the snip being so final, I don't know for sure if I want any more DCs but I certainly don't like the thought of the option not being there anymore. I also quite like the thought of another baby in quite a few years time, perhaps when I'm nearer 40...

BT, that house sounds great and like it has heaps of potential! Its funny how you meet people though and think they must be Mumsnetters, I'm sure the lady who bought my Eglu was but couldn't think of any clever ways to sneak MN into the conversation...

Buzzy, I'm feeling okay thanks, starting to worry a bit about the op but not really about the rest (much), I'm very determined to beat it, whatever it turns out to be. I have a consultant appointment tomorrow so hopefully will get a date for the op. Speaking to my work friend was great as she's given me lots of practical tips and a rough idea how I will be likely to feel physically afterwards before the medication kicks in. Sorry to hear that ex-H is still being an arse, it sounds like he's trying to soothe his own guilt by making out that you and he can't be civil therefore giving himself an excuse to continue being an arse. You are a saint in my books for not slapping him (verbally or otherwise), it must be so hard to bite your tongue! Glad you got some puppy training advice too, is he settling in well? Do the girls adore him?!

Clara, very slight 'Eek' at the anatomically correct dolls for 2 year olds! I saw your FB earlier, YAY for the rain! Did you get much?

Beckle - no. only abut 5 minutes, although everyone ran outside just as clairey described! I will admit, a tear came to my eye. It's such a problem here. everything is so brown.

Hope the consultant meeting goes well. Apart from the lump, are you feeling anything else, eg additional tiredness or anything? Or does it not affect you? I have a friend here, she has only just arrived with her two dc's, and she found a lump in her breast which turned out to be cancerous (is that the right word?), so she has had to go home to have it treated, poor thing. She had to take the dc's with her as her dh can't take time off work. She was saying she had no energy but I hope it was just the heat rather than the cancer making her feel like that.

On the snip, I think I agree, were I younger I would not have wanted my dh to get it done. It was more because of my age than anything.

Hello,

How exciting you got some rain clara (albeit 5 mins worth!) - I remember dancing when the rains came in Tanzania. How awful for your poor friend - does she have family back in the UK who can look after her DC while she is getting treatment? Andhow apalling her DH can;t take time off for something so serious

buzzy - agree that you are a saint for being so patient with your ex - feel proud that at least YOU are able to be the adult in all this and consider your DD's best interests even if he is incapable

beckle - glad you are feeling so positive and what a stroke of luck to know someone who went through exactly the same procedure. Not knowing is often the scariest bit I find

BT - yaaay that you found a house

clairey - sorry your h is still being difficult. Have you been able to come up with any formal/regular agreement for contact? Is there someone else who can help oyu sort it out? Him just turning up when he feels like it is surely not on

All well with DS2 - he is so lovely, I think i have fallen in love with him even more quickly than with the other two. Feeding is still painful but I think I am positioning him correctly now so fingers crossed it will get better soon. Having ILs to stay for nearly 2 weeks (!) isn;t really helping with my atate of mind though!

Re the snip - I made DH promise to get it done when I was about 6cm dilated!!! However now I do wonder if it is a bit soon to make such a final decision. Will maybe wait a few years just to be sure...

Clara, shame there wasn't more rain but hopefully a sign that there will be soon (fingers crossed). Your poor friend , how awful, I hope she has lots of support at home. How for all of them to be apart at such a time. It could well be the heat giving her no energy, I don't really know much about how cancer affects people, each type is different. No energy can be a sign of thyroid cancer but then I don't get anywhere near the amount of sleep I need so its more likely that

Skid, at your final comment! Holding my own lovely gorgeous newborn each time made me want to do it again! I'm glad your falling in love with him so easily, I think it gets easier to bond each time

Well my appointment was very reassuring this afternoon, I had another ultrasound (their equipment is far better than my local hospital at Addenbrooks) and the radiographers said they didn't think the lump looked suspicious although there was a good deal of fluid behind it, more than last time. The consultant was lovely, he looked me straight in the eyes and told me that whatever I had, he would cure it Due to the biopsy results he is still treating me as urgent but is hoping to only remove half the thyroid and all the lymph nodes on that side. He'll then send it away for testing. If it comes back as benign then they will monitor my half-a-thyroid and see if it can cope, if not they'll top it up with Thyroxine. If it comes back malignant then he'll remove the other half and take it from there. I feel much more positive though and should get my appointment through soon.

beckle thats a fantastic positive appointment, its sounds very reassuring, hope you get the appointment through soon.

skid very envious of you snuggling up with your ds, I'd have another one tomorrow, dh still not convinced, got my first period this week in 5.5 years! bloody typical! glad to hear its going well x

clara anymore rain? I should visit and sing for you because today ds1 told me I should stop singing because I'd make it rain

not been on a while cazzy fab news about scan too!

anyone heard from arcadie isn't no3 due anytime now??

and I need tips on making ds's share, ds1 is rubbish and hords everything and ds2 just gives everything to him if he asks nicely which doesn't help. Its causing problems at preschool with ds1 just snatching things off other children... every day ds1 tells me he has no one to play with, I think it might be because he doesn't play well, he's very bossy and always taking things off ds2 to show him how to do it properly, any advice?

Beckle - that does sound very positive, you must be relieved. What happens if they do take out your thyroid, will it effect you in any way? I don't really know what the function of a thyroid is....

Insy - first period in 5.5 years! That must be quite a shock! We did get a small amount more rain this morning but still not enough. You wouldn't believe how cloudy it is, but for some reason the rain just won't fall! I don't really have any great advice on sharing except to get fesity. When dd1 won't share (or "take turns" as I think we're meant to call it) I take it away from her anbd ignore the tantrums. We have a lot of problems with sharing too - I think it is totally normal and part of life between siblings. We have given in a few times and bought two of things.....

Skid - I'm glad things are going well with ds2, how are the nights? How are you coping looking after all three, or are you getting lots of help from the IL's?