October 08 - More birthdays to go!

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10th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - loulou33 - Boy - Joe Louis David - 6lbs 12oz
16th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - Ksal - Girl - Emma Rae - 6lbs
21st Sept (Due 5th Oct) - myjobismum - Girl - Naomi Caitlin - 5lbs 10oz
2nd Oct (Due 12th Oct) - star6 - Boy - Quinlan - 5lbs 15oz
3rd Oct (Due 26th Sept) - purpleflower - Girl - Rebecca Jill Erzsebet - 8lbs 10.5oz
4th Oct (Due 30th Sept) - Aubergenie - Boy - Stanley - 7lbs 12oz
8th Oct (Due 6th Oct) - ronshar - Boy - William Dexter - 7lbs 11oz
9th Oct (Due 17th) - Marthasmama - Girl - Martha - 7lbs 10oz - Elective c-sec
10th Oct (Due 1st Oct) - CantSleepWontSleep - Boy - Duncan Elliot - 8lbs 4oz
12th Oct (Due 4th Oct) - pistachio - Boy - Thomas Fraser - 10lbs 2oz
16th Oct (Due 11th Oct) - heather1980 - Boy - Alexander James - 9lbs 5oz
17th Oct (Due 10th Oct) - pepperrabbit - Girl - Jessica Rose - 7lbs 15.5oz
24th Oct (Due 29th Oct) - Ekka - Boy - Matthew - 7lbs 15oz
26th Oct (Due 20th Oct) - jenwa - Girl - Phoebe Jasmine - 9lbs 2.5oz
28th Oct (Due 23rd Oct) - RachieW - Boy - Jack - 7lbs 4oz
31st Oct (Due 20th Oct) - KnickersOnMaHead - Boy - Samuel Paul - 9lbs 11oz
5th Nov (Due 29th Oct) - Honeymoonmummy - Girl - Poppy Grace - 6lbs 15oz
5th Nov (Due 30th Oct) - MamaG - Boy - Harry James - 10lbs 9oz

Oh yes Ekka - ds has learned to drink through a straw too. Today he guzzled loads of my mango ice drink thing (like a slush puppy) in Sainsburys, and was utterly gleeful about it!

@ fb!
Rachie - I bottle feed, and I'll probably start to substitute one formula for cows milk to start with - prob first bottle of the morning in case of upset tummy or anything. Then I'll switch that morning feed to a sippy cup/beaker that she drinks her water from anyway already (we have Avent ones) and it'll become her drink with breakfast.
I tend to keep the evening bottle for a long time - till at least 18 months with the boys, but move to cows milk quite soon if no adverse reaction. And I take no nonsense from anyone who looks disapproving about my one bottle feed an evening!

Ekka - Glad M had a good birthday. Grr about the toy though. We had the same thing with S's push along trolley and I was surprised how upset I felt as I'd been really looking forward to him playing with it on his birthday. Of course, he couldn't give a monkey's.

I don't know. Toys these days...

CSWS - Message read and responded to.

Gah! Ds is so grumpy and screamy today. I gave him a lovely dinner of salmon, mash and peas (I deliberately made soft food as thought his gums were hurting) and after a couple of mouthfuls he screamed as if he was in agony. Take some yoghurt out of the fridge though and, miraculously, he's fine. And fruit. That boy would happily live on fruit if he could but I worry about the sugar in it. Is it possible to overfeed them with fruit?

God you lot chat loads!!!!

to fb!
aubergenie - Q does that sometimes, too. Seems all he will eat is yogurt and fruit... oh and bread/toast. Sometimes he gladly accepts our cooked food and sometimes he totally rejects it!

I hope you get the trike running soon, Ekka!
DH is home with Q this week - anticipating quite a mess every afternoon.

I actually feel depressed today I've been pretty comatose all day long.
DH said this morning that he "knows" I've lied to him before. I couldn't believe my ears. So I said, "about what?" he wanted to keep it to himself. Finally he told me. Well, when we got married, some people gave us cheques (not huge amounts of money by any means) but from US bank accounts. It was such a ridiculous faff to try to deposit them here so I mailed them to my US bank account. Problem was, I couldn't find one of the cheques (there were only 2!) and DH had been really disappointed in me for losing stuff (he always has been becuase I lose things all the time!)... he gives me such a hard time about it that when he asked me if I mailed the cheques, I said that I had But that is the only time I have ever been dishonest. I just didn't want him to be disappointed in me again! I looked back in my journal to see why I did it and this is why. But seriously it's the only time! He has lied to me about something much much more serious before, though. But all he sees is that I "lied" to him. So, he's been hanging onto this for 2 years!!
Then he said he "knows" I lied about changing my ring, too (I combined my engagement ring with my mom's "mother's ring" - soemthing I had planned to do for a long time). Anyway, I had to buy a cheap ring just to get the design to mold the band to and the setting so they put that stone in the ring DH gave me and took the DH's ring stone out and put it in the ring combined with my mom's. So DH said, "I went in your purse the other day to look for the nail clippers and I saw the ring with no changes to it so I know you lied about that".
I told him that was out of line as I spent a lot of time sorting that out and it is very special to me and that he jumped to conclusions.
So, he's been thinking for quite a while now, that I've lied about that and didn't bother to say anything to me. Just assumed and held onto it.
Open communication is very important to me. I always tell him if he's done something to upset me and what it is... it's only fair to let someone know instead of holding the grudge in your head! right?

Now I'm just so because he thinks I'm disrespectful and a liar. If I'm such a horrible person, why is he with me?

OH and he did another thing - but I might be unreasonable to be upset about it. I'm not sure yet.

star your Dh is really not being very fair to you at the moment I often think people who accuse you of lying are usually like it themself as they feel everyone else is, I am not saying your DH is a liar and cheat etc but that as he has told you lies in the past he proberly thinks you are keeping things from him too. Your relationship has changed since having a baby as they often do and this is often hard for men as they feel pushed aside and he obviously feels he needs to blame you for something. He also is no doubt worried about what you are discussing with your friends so thinks you spend your whole nights out talking about him as why else would he be worried about how long you have spent out and then lay into you about it when you come home. He does seem to be finding something to blame you with and seems to be controlling of you with his actions. I think he is bloody lucky to be with you and should actually respect what you have gone through and what you do for him and Q. Maybe a break away would do you good and make him realise what you do actaully do! I did it when dd1 was little and it bloody well gives them a small insight to what we do 24/7!

Well I made the cake, it was a pain in the arse but the kids loved it. We had a tea party for P yesterday with family but her b'day tomorrow. The cake pic on FB but I know afew of you seen. It was a kit I got so I stuck the turretts on and the princess's on. Glad its done though.

Got P her trike from ELC and afew other bits and she has some lovely pressies already.

DH was lovely and I had a lie in til 9 this am but would have been 10 (if clocks had not gone back )

Glad Matthew and Bradley had nice b'days, I am still shocked how quickly this last year has gone! madness!!!

Oh I am so angry with your dh star . He is not being a nice man to you at all. Does he have a lot of friends?

Am grr about the clock change, as it affected the end time of my ebay auctions (which I'd paid to schedule so that they would end around 8pm, when most parents have done bedtime), and I thus didn't get very much for some gorgeous boden items .

Oh and I worry about too much fruit too aubergenie. Just don't want him to develop too much of a sweet tooth, and to think that he can refuse a meal and have fruit instead, although to be fair he only really refuses a meal if he's not hungry or not well.

Star - about your dh. Is this unpleasantness a recent thing or has he always behaved like this?

I've done that before too CSWS. So annoying, isn't it. I wonder as well whether people are less likely to buy things now that the postal strike is on. I looked at some stuff yesterday and decided against bidding because I didn't know how long it would take.

This stuff is recent, aubergenie. He's sitting in the living room right now and isn't even talking to me unless I say something. But stares at computer screen. Sometimes I just feel like I mean nothing to him.

aubergenie - he might have liked the yoghurt because it was cold if his gums were hurting??
star - am too with your DH to respond politely! As CSWS says - does he have many friends - he does really sound rather insular? My other thought was if he had a really controlling mother.....

I wondered that too about the yoghurt Pepper. I'm worrying too much about what he's eating at the moment, I think. Mostly it's because it's half term and we've got to crack the not feeding at night thing while I'm off work and can devote the time and energy to it. I really need to know that he's eaten enough and is just cross rather than genuinely hungry if I'm going to follow it through.

CSWS - I'm glad I'm not alone worrying about the fruit. Am very strict about teeth cleaning now as well.

Star - I'm so sorry this is happening. You really don't deserve to be treated like this. You don't think he's read this thread do you?

I'm not sure aubergenie. I've never actually said what the site is called or what the group is called... not sure at all!
pepper and csws - he doesn't have many friends, but those he does have think he's so wonderful and great.
He is rather insular, though.

Have fun with the foot family, myjob

We've tried a straw twice but Q didn't get it.

He's so unwell. can barely breathe through his snotty nose and barking like cough. Poor baby. It will be a long night for me with his multiple wakings, I'm sure. Good thing I've got work tomorrow

Oh dear, Pistachio - I really wanted to make some headway with the sleep while I was off work, but I fear you're right. Well, I'm on the sofa tonight while dp does the night shift as if ds wakes up and sees me he goes mad, but if I'm not there he gets a bit angry but seems to settle again reasonably quickly. Then if he won't settle, dp can come and get me. We'll just have to see how it goes.

I've just ordered this from the Book People. Only £9.99 for 10 books.

Read the fb thread CSWS

Star so sorry to hear things are still no better with Dh

Pepper- thanks for the bottle advice, that sounds like a really good way to do it. I'm glad you said about the night time bottle too. J always has one before he gets into bed and it's lovely and snuggly and I'm reluctant to loose it yet. Is there any rush to get him onto cows milk do you know?

Ekka I'm so sorry I forgot to wish M a happy birthday yesterday. I'm glad he had a great day and bad news about the trike. I love the pics on fb. The cake looks great and did you make the party bag toys too?

Oh forgot to say, as predicted J was awake at 5am this morning! Dh and I are off to bed soon to catch up on sleep.

More a cost thing Rachie! but the boys both had the occasional formula milk for ages - I used to take some powder with me if we went to stay anywhere, means they can have some milk at the crack of dawn without waking up your hosts (ILs usually...) or very rarely in a hotel it's easier than fresh.
The boys actually call it "hotel milk"!

Good point Pepper about the cost! I think I'll do exactly what you did and start slowly but still use formula for night time and going away. I always panic when I have to change something for him, don't like to rock the boat but he can't still be on formula when he's a teenager so I'd better give cows milk a try Will wait until after weds though when he will actually be 1.

Rachie - yes I did make the toys. It all started when dd was 1 and I was looking for some little teddies to put in party bags and couldn't find anything I liked at the right price, so I did it myself. Plus I like doing craft things and its a great excuse to have - dh understands it more than me just making stuff for the sake of it. Men....

Aubergenie, the yogurt thing sounds very familiar and I'm just sorry we don't have that option with M as sometimes it was the only thing dd wanted to eat. Provided it doesn't become a regular habit I wouldn't worry too much about it.

We had a lovely lunch today, and in the afternoon Matthew just decided to stand up and walk across the sitting room on his own . Sadly dh had had to go back to work and by the time he got home Matthew had exhausted himself by spending all afternoon walking so he would only crawl around. Luckily I had some of his walking recorded, as dh wouldn't have believed me otherwise. It was a bit of a shock as dd was slightly more gradual on the walking front (but then she did start walking at 10 months). I think ds is nearly on a par with her walking skills at age 1 and has only been walking for one day not 2 months.

Oh lol Ekka - fantastic! See dd was quite quick to develop her walking, even though she started early, but ds is slow to develop his even though he's started later. Well done Matthew.

Off to bed now I think, as am tired.

I have just been on FB group

Congrats for the walking Ekka!

I didn't know how to bring in the cows milk either, so that's helpful.

Colleague at work went back from mat leave 1 month ago and she's just told me today that she's been put on a job miles from home so she doesn't see her LO in the morning and gets home after he's asleep so has to rouse him for evening BF. I'm really worried now that that might happen to me. Gonna arrange to have a chat in the office with someone about going back to work generally. Not sure whether to officially mention the PND yet. Probably won't (I have told a few colleagues but noone "important")

I still haven't given Q cow's milk. I gave it to him once, but I'm just not convinced about it. So I'll keep giving oatmilk and ricemilk as long as I can.

Congrats to M on the walking! How funny that he just did it all of a sudden clever boy!

HMM I'd only mention the PND if you have to - like if they give you a job miles from home .

Q's cough is horrible. I know this sounds silly but it's almost dog like sounding. It started out quite raspy and now it's just horrible. He was coughing all night. I saw every hour on the clock more than twice. I'm trying to decide whether to have DH take him to the GP today or not.