October 08 - More birthdays to go!

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10th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - loulou33 - Boy - Joe Louis David - 6lbs 12oz
16th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - Ksal - Girl - Emma Rae - 6lbs
21st Sept (Due 5th Oct) - myjobismum - Girl - Naomi Caitlin - 5lbs 10oz
2nd Oct (Due 12th Oct) - star6 - Boy - Quinlan - 5lbs 15oz
3rd Oct (Due 26th Sept) - purpleflower - Girl - Rebecca Jill Erzsebet - 8lbs 10.5oz
4th Oct (Due 30th Sept) - Aubergenie - Boy - Stanley - 7lbs 12oz
8th Oct (Due 6th Oct) - ronshar - Boy - William Dexter - 7lbs 11oz
9th Oct (Due 17th) - Marthasmama - Girl - Martha - 7lbs 10oz - Elective c-sec
10th Oct (Due 1st Oct) - CantSleepWontSleep - Boy - Duncan Elliot - 8lbs 4oz
12th Oct (Due 4th Oct) - pistachio - Boy - Thomas Fraser - 10lbs 2oz
16th Oct (Due 11th Oct) - heather1980 - Boy - Alexander James - 9lbs 5oz
17th Oct (Due 10th Oct) - pepperrabbit - Girl - Jessica Rose - 7lbs 15.5oz
24th Oct (Due 29th Oct) - Ekka - Boy - Matthew - 7lbs 15oz
26th Oct (Due 20th Oct) - jenwa - Girl - Phoebe Jasmine - 9lbs 2.5oz
28th Oct (Due 23rd Oct) - RachieW - Boy - Jack - 7lbs 4oz
31st Oct (Due 20th Oct) - KnickersOnMaHead - Boy - Samuel Paul - 9lbs 11oz
5th Nov (Due 29th Oct) - Honeymoonmummy - Girl - Poppy Grace - 6lbs 15oz
5th Nov (Due 30th Oct) - MamaG - Boy - Harry James - 10lbs 9oz

Oh, forgot to say - DH refuses to do marriage counseling of any sort. he said "I'm not going to sit there and listen to you complain about me to someone else". He has refused a thousand times and I have asked.

Yay for the fab day, myjob So glad B enjoyed his birthday.

If he wants to spend every single second that he can with Q then he should be doing so on weekend mornings, instead of going back to bed .

I know. It's all very hypocritical, isn't it? It just makes me to think it through! But, as I said, he can be the most lovely, nicest husband. And he's always excellent with Q. He's a good dad. But then there are these things that he does sometimes or moods he gets in and it just really tears me to pieces! I know it's a blip in the larger picture, but every time something happens like this, I just start thinking of all the past issues. I think I'm holding a grudge! But I do feel like it's never resolved. He refuses counseling.

DH does get home by about 4pm every day (he's a teacher, too) and we spend an hour in the mornings before leaving for work with him as well... so maybe he feels like his lie in is earned

mmmmmm carrot cake!

Star sorry to hear about your horrible night last night. I'm afraid I don't have anything new to suggest but please don't put up and shut up. Keeping making your point. Going out for 3 hours is not unreasonable, going out for a night is not unreasonable. You aren't the unreasonable one. I know as a Mum leaving your baby is not what you want to do but maybe you should have a night away at some friends. Leave your dh to do the early shift, the all day shift etc and give yourself a little break? I know you'd miss Q and may not want to do this but it might give you some head space and your dh a sense of all you do, how wonderful you are, how lucky he is and make him start to appreciate you in the way he should.

HMM- I too am going to attempt to make J's birthday cake I have this really lovely book. Most of the cakes are made by either using a square or round tin and then by cutting them into the shapes. The book has patterns too and to be honest it all looks quite simple, although I may be eating those words later this week. My printer allegedly photocopies so I could send you some recipies and patterns if you like. The best animal cakes in the book imo are the caterpillar, teddy bear, crocodile, turtle, ladybird, penguin, giraffe, lion, tiger, butterfly, whale, rabbit. Let me know if you like the sound of any of them and want me to send you the stuff? Also I've hired a cake tin from a local cake shop and they've given me some helpful hints and tips

Myjob I'm really glad ds had a great day today!

CSWS- Totally get what you meant about clocks now. After reading your post I realised that J will be awake at 5am tomorrow now too. Oh the joy. Sorry to hear that you cancelled your night out but the thought of going into London makes me want to jump under the duvet too. I've become so old since J came along, give me the sofa and Strictly over a night out any Saturday!

Well we have had a very productive day for once, I collected my cake tin, got the rest of the cups etc for J's party and booked to get my hair done next Friday. Then we all went to Bluewater...Christmas has come early to Kent, it was packed. So much for the credit crunch and recession. Anyway we got the rest of J's birthday bits and a big number one balloon so I'm all ready...well apart from the cake, wrapping the etc

Oh and just for info star, the police wouldn't give a rat's arse if you took Q away for a few days, as you have every right to do so.

Thanks CSWS. I don't think it would come to that, but I DO want DH to realize that I can and there's nothing he can do about it, iyswim.

That is a gorgeous book Rachie. I love those little animal cupcakes. What cake are you making?

Star - I totally agree with CSWS that your dh could spend plenty of quality time with Q on Saturday or Sunday mornings. It's a shame he wouldn't consider counselling. Rachie's right - don't let him get away with it. His behaviour was unacceptable and he will keep repeating it as long as he can get away with it.

Ah, good point Myjob. Ds went to bed just after 7. I didn't think that one through...

He he, I've just remembered that it's dp's turn to get up with S in the morning, as I've got him in the afternoon so dp can play computer games with his friend in the states.

We kept dd up til 8, but ds had only had a 30 min nap this afternoon as dd woke him up, so he absolutely had to go to bed at 7. His sleep is so up shit creek at the moment that I don't suppose that it will make much difference.

J has had no proper naps today and went to bed at 8pm but I've no doubt at all that he'll be wide awake at 6am which of course will be 5!

It's a lovely book isn't it Aubergenie, I just found it in a cooking shop and had to have it! I'm going to try to make one called Hey Diddle Diddle which is a half moon, iced bright yellow with the face made out of liquorice and a sparkly yellow sugar topping. If it turns out alright I'll try to post a pic. If it doesn't I'll be off to M&S and then on here moaning

I think Jenwa is the only bottle feeder on here, or am I wrong? I just wanted some advice about changing to cows milk and weaning off bottles and more onto cups. Any idea anyone?

Star, I agree with everything everyone else has said. I think you need to think about WHY he gets like this. It seems to me that this kind of behaviour usually comes from jealousy or envy. I suspect (from an offhand comment he made while we were at CSWS's) that he's jealous of your working at a private school and am I right in thinking that you have more qualifications than him?

I might be completely wrong here but in my experience putting someone else down is usually caused by insecurity, so you don't realise how much better than him you are etc. Big hugs to you, you definitely deserve a night out AND a morning in bed!!!!!

Rachie - thanks. I'll have a look for that one in the library and if I don't find anything else there I'll let you know, thanks!

Q gave us an extra hour, too. I was so worried that he'd be off with the time change.
I feel like i've been up forever, though. Very difficult morning.
DH didn't go back to bed this morning... .. I wonder if he was looking on MN! ugh.

Thanks everyone for Matthew's birthday wishes. He had a great day, lots of pressies and a small party which he loved. He was all partied out by 6.30 though so no chance of keeping him up late. Mind you, dh took both kids downstairs while I had a bit of a lie-in. I posted a few pics on fb of the party if you are interested.

Myjob, happy belated birthday to B as well. Sorry in all the bustle here I didn't get on mn last night to post then

Star, sorry to hear about you and dh. When we go out individually then we do have a time after which the one at home can text/call just to check that the other one is still out/on the way home and nothing has happened (mainly because I'm a worrier ) but there's no blame attached if we stay out late. Its hard for you though and its not as if you are out partying every night, he needs to give you a little time to be you rather than just Q's mummy or his wife. But how you get that through to him I'm not certain. A good shake?!?!

Ever so slightly irritated here as the trike we bought for Matthew (a 'Mookie' one from Toys R Us as it was the only one I could get in time for his b-day) doesn't seem to fit together properly. So I'm going to have to call them on Monday to see if we are doing something wrong or its faulty.... That'll teach me to leave present buying till the last minute!

Got to go as dh is taking us out to lunch and I've got to get the kids ready and meet him there (he was at work this morning).

Hi
Sorry - posted about hand a few days ago and then the computer died !
star - I know I'm a day behind, but your DH needs a good smack. I completely agree with ronshar's post yesterday about telling him to F Off!
We have just got out all the next stage baby toys for J, and the boys are in baby toy heaven! They're playing with peek-a-blocks and those tweety egg things and she's eating the laundry basket (and dancing to Radio 2 cos I am that sad!). Still she's going to get plenty of chance once they get bored .
Off to pet shop soon. to entertain them mainly!
Mine were up at 5.45am (new time) when they normally get up at 8-ish at the weekend - how is that fair?!

Check the discussion board on our fb group ladies .

Well back from lunch and the kids are destroying my once tidy house..... The highlight of lunch was matthew learning how to drink a smoothie through a straw - very amusing!!! The look on his face when he realised what the straw was actually for was priceless .