HMM a bit of sugar is ok for them
My mom used to always put in 1/3 of sugar a recipe called for in everything she baked. And I never noticed the difference. I do it now when I bake cookies or brownies or a cake to bring somewhere or for DH and no one ever notices.
Also, they are allowed honey from 12 months, so you could substitute sugar with just a bit of honey (not a lot). Honey (real honey) is much much healthier as a sweetner than actual sugar (a nutritionist told me that, but I'm still ).
My mom has also made chocolate chip cookies, brownies and cakes with honey as the sweet rather than sugar and it still tasted the same to me!
But sugar is ok in moderation. I've let Q have stuff with sugar in it now (on occasion).
HAPPY BIRTHDAY to myjob's DS I hope he has a fabulous day.
Enjoy your holiday 50ft.
Don't cancel the night out csws!! It's just one night and a few hours in the bigger picture, D will be ok with cuddles and food from your lovely DH
pepper - sorry about your hand - how awful!
pistachio I'm well impressed with your DH for doing so much housework and
I'm dreading DH being home on half term next week. I know I'll be coming home to a mess to clean (even though he's picked up and thinks it's clean) every single day. He's so messy in the kitchen. Leaves crumbs on the counter, doesn't put dishes away, doesn't wash them properly, leaves paper towels out..etc. yuck! sorry for the rant.
OK, so DH has been fine with me having lunch or coffee or a glass of wine with friends once a week. Last night I was exhausted when he got home. But really wanted to go out for coffee and a chat after Q's bedtime with friends for a bit. I asked him if it was ok. He said yes. I said I wouldn't be long. But the friend lives 20 min away. so 20 min drive there, 20 min back is already 40 min... anyway, I ended up staying a bit over 2 hours and was tired, but just got caught up in chatting and talked to another friend later as well... well, I text DH when I was on my way home and he text and left a voice message that was really nasty - saying that I should be "honest" with him instead of saying I'm going out quickly if I'd be gone for 3 hours to text him at least.
Well, I told him I know how that feels as he's done it to me, and I'm sorry, I should have text. But he didn't respond. Just told me I'm so disrespectful.
OK, he said I'm disrespectful... as I'm talking to him about this and apologizing and he's staring at his computer screen reading a story - won't even look at me! I brought it to his attention and he said "I heard you, star. There's nothing to say. You're just justifying yourself and you were disrespectful. youcan't change that"
I'm really upset now. I feel like I just shouldn't go out anymore. I said that and he said "dont paint me as a controlling person. I never said don't go out" and I said "well, before when you had a problem with it, you didn't believe where I said I was!" Then he said "well you weren't telling the truth!" Can you believe that?!? I was telling the truth. I always have!
Then he got mad at me for bringing up past issues
But how many times did he go out on a friday evening when Q was tiny and not even tell me and I was kept up worrying about him and he didn't call?? Talk about respect?? I know I should have called to say I'd be a bit longer. I didn't think 3 hours was a lot anywya, but that's not the "point" as he says, so I am sorry I didn't text, but I did say when I was on my way home...
he makes me feel like such a horrible person sometimes.
He actually told me to "F off" at one point in the conversation .
I dont know what to do
I'm crying now - he's gone back to bed as he does on a saturday and sunday. Q wakes up early, I get up with him and DH sleeps for a couple/few hours until around Q's nap time.
I know I made a mistake. I know I'm not a great person. Not a good wife. I try my best with Q. How can he make me feel like such a piece of sh*??
Sorry for the long rant. My counselor advised me recently not to talk to my best friend about stuff like this for a while (after I showed her my friend's texts...etc.) because she said it would just backfire on me. So MN is my only place to turn So, sorry for dumping on you. Just ignore me if it seems too much.