I, too admired that comment, pepper.
I love it when people don't care what others think when they know they are doing the right thing!
Ronshar, I have no idea why and how he can switch on and off like this, though. Sometimes he's the best husband in the world to me - does and says the loveliest things, then he snaps and does this sh. I just don't know what's going on or how to make it stop.
Agreed I would never leave him like that - I just want him to realize that I could do that and there's nothing he can do about it, iyswim. I want him to see that he's not controlling me, or keeping me in there because of that. I'm trying to work things out because I care about our marriage and the other 9 years we've spent together - 8 of which were blissful... I want him to know though, that if it came to it and I wanted to, I could legally take Q and leave for a while. I know it will never come to that, and I would never actually do that, though - unless I was really physically hurt - but DH would never ever do that. Not ever.
he seemed jealous of my job? I know he's very unhappy in his current situation, but does love teaching. He'll get a better job, just needs some experience first, which he knows, but finds it hard to swallow since he was successful in his other jobs before getting his teaching qualification. And he's discovering the joys of behaviour management. I've been teaching for 9.5 years, so of course my situation is different.
He's also recently said that he wishes he qualified in a different key stage. He thought he was more suited to older kids, but after teaching year 7-10/gcse... no idea exact terms about uk year levels... anyway, he discovered that he loves teaching year 7s the best and would be better suited to what we call middle school age (that's british school age year6-year8). He will be able to move to this age when he applies for a job at my school for next year or year after. Just needs experience first!
knockers, that's so awful for you Are you moving closer to friends/family?