January 2009 - "This is halloween, this is halloween, babies wake in the dead of night..."

[VerySpookyLennipillar]

A homage to the Nightmare Before Christmas song. DH obsessed with that film, we all (DD included) have to watch it on Christmas Eve.

moonstone sounds appropriate

moose, hope the dses are both doing better this evening.

so here's a little me, me, me... turns out my crazy, homeless sister has decided to add heroin addict to her list of accomplishments . fuckity fuck. so that's my mum's heart finally absolutely broken, then. and i can't really think about it too much, because there's nothing i can do to fix it, so it 's just pointlessly hurting myself to dwell on it. (see how me me me that is? it's almost art, it's so solipsistic)

also, am gathering that my daughter is a persistent little bugger. hellbent on getting at the catfood, will not be deflected...

Oh Stripey

Thanks Moose.

Found a polished moonstone egg. Seems sensible!

Hope you are ok stripey - what a month!

tree- perfect

am okay, it's not a huge surprise or anything, just a confirmation. but easier to deal with abstractly, can't do that when she is sitting in front of you looking like death. and you know, she met c for the first time, and i can't really let a relationship develop there, which is quite a painful thought.

am having tea and chocolate and mnetting. tomorrow i will go and explain to her that she can't stay at my mum's house if she's doing smack, and will see if there's any possibility she will accept some help to sort herself out, but i really doubt it. and then no doubt she'll disappear back off to london and the next time i hear about her it'll be because she's been arrested.

it's just crap. more chocolate, i think.

Stripey you are not being me me me at all. I haven't had a sibling in that situation, but a couple of friends slid down that particular slope when I was in my early 20s and its just awful. I can't imagine how you must be feeling, it was bad enough with it being friends, let alone a sister. Please be kind to yourself, you are bound to be having all sorts of conflicting feelings about it. ((hugs))

Oh - and by the way its in the baby manual that all babies are magnetically drawn to both cat and dog food. Gotta love that determined streak though - dd has one a mile wide as well.

Tree, glad I could help.

Ds1 had a nasty incident with a full on netball in the face at school this afternoon, resulting in swollen eyes, bruised forehead, sore neck and bloodied and swollen top lip. I am livid with the school as he wasn't given any first aid at all - they just told him to go and wash his face!

I knew something was up because when he came out one of the teachers was talking to him in the doorway with all the other children pushing past to get out. Then he walked to me and just didn't look right. I thought he'd been told off for something, but it turned out they were asking him some hasty questions about headaches etc (arse covering ).

Apparently it happened just before hometime. I cleaned him up and checked him over as soon as we got home and nearly took him to A&E, as he said his neck hurt as it was snapped right back and he had a headache and felt a bit sick. He seemed better after some tlc though and we decided just to keep an eye on him. Need to think about how to complain to the school about their handling of it though. They are supposed to inform me directly of any sort of head injury and call me to come and fetch him if I want to (I have been called five minutes before hometime before, and was called almost daily for a fortnight when ds2 was in Reception - he's very accident prone, bless him), but this time they failed to even tell me he'd had an accident.

Anyway, rant over - I must go to bed. I had literally NO sleep at all last night and burst into tears as I was still awake when the alarm clock went off this morning.

Oh Moose. Been there, particulary before a long shift

Go. To. Bed.

[kick ass at school tomorrow]

Stipey - pour it out if you wish. This is fully crap. Your poor sister, I am sorry her life has taken this route and she hasn't been able to drag it back yet. There is always hope, one day.

wish i could feel hopeful about it, but she has some mental health issues which she adamantly refuses to address and i think the substance abuse side of things is a form of self medication (or it was, anyway). so she needs two kinds of help and is unlikely to accept either kind. sadly, we can't compel her to accept help, since slowly killing yourself with chemicals and putting yourself in outrageously vulnerable circumstances apperently don't constitute a danger to yourself or others. so it doesn't look good.

okay, i'm going to stop spreading the misery and instead, am going to bed. thanks for the ears (and chocolate), hope to feel more robust about it all tomorrow. hope you get some sleep, moose

morning

oh no, have i frightened you all away...?

so, the small girl was sitting up in her cot when i went in this morning. i think it's time to lower the mattress, if i can work out how. she's going to be a toddler in a minute, isn't she...?

hope sleep was had, and all is well with everyone

morning tink

hello all I want to have time to be on this thread! How on earth are you all managing it? I haven't even read a book (other than a baby sleep problem one) for 3 months. Hopefully will be back and that all is well!

Morning

Hope you are ok this morning Stripey.

Dd has also started sitting herself up in the corner of her cot when she wakes up. Have woken a couple of times to find her sitting there smiling at me (nice way to wake up in the morning), as its still attached to my side of the bed at the moment. The problem with that is that we can't put her upstairs on her own to sleep in case she escapes crawls onto the bed and falls off.

Not much sleep as all last night - again! All 3 dc's had us up at different times, cue much sniping and stropping between dh and me. Have the headache from hell this morning as a result and painkillers aren't touching it. I am not going to complain about it though, not with poor Dog suffering so badly. Dog if you able to read this, I hope you are getting better and the GP was able to help this time.

I don't have time to come on here really - you should see the state of my house!

Cot went down to serious cage satge 2 months ago. H wakes, climbs to standing, and pelvic thrusts. It is hilarious. Her leg is also starting to roam about looking for a foot up. She will certainly be the one to make a ladder from bears and climb out. Joy.

Have just made 2 bakewell tarts. One for school fair one for me us. Bought the pastry cases, can't be bothered with the whole shebang.

Sleep okish, but then she was guzzled up between me and dh, so she cuold hardly complain. Her head hasn't hit her cot mattress since Saturday

SHe slept in her pram today though, hence baking. It was lovel to be a little free. She is in the fireplace right now, 'sorting' out the pine cones.

Quick question.

If you are coughing up brown gunk do you need to see the GP for antibiotics?

mmmm, bakewell tart [slightly drooling emoticon]

took the small girl to be weighed this morning and she is 19lb2, so not so small, then . she was very well behaved, and the nurse was very impressed by her purple itti....

she has just poured the cat's drinking water everywhere. i think this whole cat's bowl fetish is going to get old very, very fast

and i'd say yes, moose, unless you are a heavy smoker

Me too moose. Heavy smokers can have yakky brown stuff, but even then still a GP visit.

Weigh in for us tomorrow. Quite looking forward to it. Then paeds in about 10 days. Mammoth journey to consultant, about 90 mile round trip. Hopefully won't end up staying overnight like the last nightmare!

Pat - do you have me on FB for when you want to message me? Or you can CAT. x

Thanks for the advice folks. Tis dh, didn't want to moan on at you all about yet more lurgies in the moose household, so neglected to mention that we both had some sort of horrible flu over the weekend. Chills and shivers, really painful joints and muscles, headaches, coughing, chest pain and tightness, even painful skin - the works really (although strangely our temps didn't get very high). We are a both a bit better now, but I have been left with a horrible cough that makes me retch and lose my voice. Dh hasn't got the cough, but did just one enormous cough this morning and brought up a lot of brown gunk. I told him to go to the GPs but he insists he wants to wait and see if it happens again - not a good idea as he has mild asthma. Haven't a clue what colour I am coughing - doesn't come up far enough to tell. (Excuse the tmi.)

Stripey, good to hear dd was good at the weigh in. She is 2 lbs heavier than dd! Bet H is still the littlest though.

Books, sorry to hear things have been getting on top of you. Things always seem to be so stressful at this time of year don't they. Hope things settle down for you soon. So we have another little walker on our thread do we? Dd is going to end up being the smallest and least mobile soon if she doesn't up her game. (Not that I want her to move any further or faster than she already does just yet.) She's showing little interest in pulling herself to standing, but does a good line in squatting.

Ooooo I get the sore skin. It's my common cold thing. Hardly ever get runny nose etc, but sore skin quite often. My sympathies!!

Right - post office, and school run. Have had a lovely day, first in about 6 weeks Harriet napped twice on her own, I got some baking and post office parcels done. House a tip but that requires an army to change, not 2 x 1 hour windows of child free peace!!

I long to know what child free peace is. The bigger one starts pre-school in Jan and at that point I am hoping to reacquaint myself with nap times. She stopped napping at 15mo so we are up to 21 months now of relentless days, fun fun fun.

Stipey - am sorry to hear about your sister and her mission. It must be so hard to watch. I have a family of addicts, won't bore you with their sagas, and like you say not even the (now) dry ones ever took offers of help. They seemed to need to seek it for their own purpose for it to be any use. Terrible to watch though, and ime actually quite bizarre once they had given up their drink/drugs as it was like knowing a complete new person.

Have to go, am working. Back soon. Hope you are ok Moose, so unfair for you all to have another bug.

Sorry not to have caught up properly or popped in to say hi recently. It was a hectic week followed by a hectic weekend ? didn?t get back to Wales until midnight on Friday night, and then on Sunday night we were delayed (by DH offering someone a lift back to London ? a good deed that went horribly wrong) and didn?t get back until 1am ? so started this week shattered and disorganised. Nye still not drinking any milk during the day, but I am still expressing. pat did Z take milk eventually? We are loving co-sleeping though, and I wish I had fully embraced it all along rather than always aiming to get him back in the cot. I have been reading 3 in a bed on the tube, which is probably adding to my zeal! It?s just such a nice way to be able to get lots of cuddles and special time with him, even though I am away for ten hours a day.
stripey I did pick up on the news about your sister ? that?s terrible. for you.
Will do my best to catch up tomorrow ? work is very busy though ? but good and enjoying it. A lot. Yey!