November 2008 - The Birthdays thread.

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As we will still be on this when the first birthdays roll round.

I'll try and find the list to remind us all.

right, off to watch telly; will catch up properly tomorrow.

Hi roca good to see you again.

This really is lovely hearing from so many people

Daisy we are the same, everytime we get something out for J that belonged to DS1 he says hey but thats mine!

Poor J

Well i've picked up the bug now, been up half the night, got DS1 at a bday party this afternoon - I soo can't be bothered!

Morning

Roca (can we still call you that??) - lovely to hear from you and Greta

Was just popping on to say Happy Birthday to Maxitaxi (I love that nickname )

Am tired today - DS1 has decided that 6am is a reasonable time to get up and no persuasion of a star for his reward chart or whatever will convince him otherwise at the moment!! I actually took a star off him this morning for not staying in bed (aren't I mean?) as I have had enough and with the clocks going back this weekend, I can just see a 5am start on Sunday so am trying to take drastic action before then! I wouldn't mind but he insists on waking Hamster up....grrrr.

Happy Birthday MaxiTaxi!!!!
Lovely to see so many old names, even though i only rejoined a few weeks back, its so nice to see all the old names and be thinking back to a year ago.

Ceebee, you have my sympathies, my DD has never slept yet so send your DS over to me at 5am, we'll be up anyway! We usually have DD leaping around our bed whilst I have my head in the pillow muttering put kids telly on for christ sake..

DD is very very very very clingy, I cant wee without her clinging to my legs wailing and then pulling on my knickers, drives me mental. But then I am my own worst enemy, I have no family here and in-laws dont bother with us now so i have never been able to leave Soph. well i did once for a funeral. So its made her worse! But tonight, I am off out for dinner with DD's Godmother. My first ever night out and DD is nearly a year. i could cry at how sad that is really!

Wishing everyone a lovely weekend in case i dont get back on here for a few days, and i hope the clocks dont cause too much trouble. If you all have kids awake at 5am, send them to me its no trouble

The clocks????
OhNooooooooooooooooooooo pah
Hi Roca glad to hear all is well!

Happy Birthday Maxitaxi!!!!!

We have a cling-on here as well and a happy night feeder. And he's started screeeeeeeeeeching again but right now he is bouncing around in his high chair going doodoodidoo so it all balances out

Have a good night out drswife I haven't been out yet either, really hoping for a bit of a Christmas drink nearer the time but am a bit bout that happening!

Right better go, going to have to move on to phase 2 before the screeching starts again! X

Morning. Thanks for all birthday wishes.
Hello Roca.
Maxitaxi has opened his cards and his one present. More interested in wrapping paper.
Off to bake cake for party tomorrow.

How much have I missed in just a few days! I knew I should have logged in at 3am when we were watching baby einstein on repeat after DS had thrown up in his bed, and then in ours
Babies (or are they toddlers now?) sleeping - and not, walking - and not, talking - and not!
Sorry to hear about allergies misdee but glad you DH is getting better
Happy birthday twins and anyone else - off to read list and see who I've missed

DD is bumshuffling and pulling up on furniture and will walk holding my hands but not far, loves standing at little table toys with buttons and flashing lights but now hates her activity stand in centre (like baby walker without wheels thing) which she used to love - think she feels trapped in it now, no hiding things from her!

Hello Happy Birthday MaxiTaxi! glad he liked his wrapping paper, Obs.

Hana I tried hip seat and it gave me a pain down the side of my leg if I used it for too long, so maybe try before you buy? I find a hip carry in the sling much more comfortable. HTH

Yorky sorry to hear of poorliness.

Went to TC soft play with a friend today and Mimi really enjoyed it now she is crawling. She got a new cut with a travel lid and she was made up. I think cups have to be one of her most favourite things.

Love to allx

And hello Roca

Happy Birthday Maxitaxi, glad he has had a good day.

Just popping on to say Happy Birthday to Mimi for tomorrow (won't get on until tomorrow evening). Have a great day x

Happy Birthday to Wiss and Judo for yeasterday (sorry its late)
Happy birthday to Maxi Taxi for today
gonna catch up later hi to everyone

I was so in a world of my own this time a year ago. I had no idea that there were so many of us November ladies who had October babies!

maxitaxi is a brill name. Happy Birthday to him

Hello to roca You are the name that always sticks with me, cos you were the only one up at silly hours in the morning when I was going through the mill.
Lovely to see you back.

I have been having a time of it, no correct that, poor J has been having a time of it.
He has Awful nappy rash, coupled with a fungal infection, throw in other swellings and you just don't want to imagine what his poor tackle looks like.
Then I go to a doc who barely looks at him, prescribes cream and smiles at me in the way set to put your teeth on edge
So I go to A&E and they send me back to my GP!
Luckily I got the other one and she was very understanding. More antibiotics for balinitis (his third bout now) Caneston for his skin and advice to get him out of his real nappies and into paper. LOgic being he need air around his bits and as dry an enviroment as pos.
She says it won't be forever but I can only see things repeating themselves as soon as he is back in his real nappies, but yet I Hate paper ones

Twink - that's really interesting what you say about J's bits. DS has also had some really sore and swollen tackle a few times, balnitis has been mentioned but he hasn't had ABx. He seems to vary between canesten and fucidin creams.
How will paper nappies help - they don't let air to his bits? Fortunately for us DS is 3 in jan so can spend most of his time at home with no nappy/trousers on but it is still taking ages to clear up.

My question is - if its thrush, why isn't DD catching it as I've seen various things about hot washing the nappies (with vinegar and no sanitiser? if I remember right) to kill the fungus in the nappies

And I heart my hippychick, DS loved it when he was little, DD not as much but so handy when she is getting hungry/clingy and I'm trying to cook. A friend uses a ring sling for a similar purpose but I can't take her on one shoulder for long

ooh! tell me about side slings? tell me exactly what i should buy?

I would love to have a moan tonight, feeling rubbish. I really need to name change. feel abit exposed having a name so close to my own.

pah.

twink sorry about J's bits, poor wee man

side slings? liek a ring sling?

get a decent one. thats my adice. i can carry coph easily in a ring sling. a good one will be more comfortable that a rubbish one.
depends on budget really.

Happy belated birthday to the twins and Maxitaxi (love that name!) Happy birthday also to Mimi for tomorrow.
Drswife I know what you mean about not going out for nearly a year. Some friends of ours were that DH and I finally managed to get out on our own for a meal the other week. We were only at the Indian round the corner for an hour and a half but E still managed to wake up. Fortunately she was quite happily playing with my sister who was babysitting when we came home. We've planned to go out at the end of November and have asked our neighbours across the road to babysit and I'm already panicking about what E is going to be like! Hope you have a great time tonight
Barbs Sorry you're feeling down Do a quick name change and come and tell us all about it. Hopefully we can help.
Roca lovely to see you Good luck with the puppy!
Twinkling Sorry about poor J
LB Sorry you caught the bug too and Yorky's DS as well
Well we've had a couple of better evenings with E after Wednesday's low point. She's settled much more easily and has been sleeping better during the night too. Not sure what it was. Thanks for the tip about staying with her for 20 mins Pinky I did try that last night but she woke up 5 minutes after I'd left the room. Fortunately I managed to re-settle her without too many problems. She did the same again tonight -woke up after half an hour of being asleep. But I can cope with that, at least she's not up and charging around like she was the other night! She's been a bit clingy today after nursery and she was a bit upset there too apparently but hopefully it's just temporary.
I'm interested in the ring sling/side sling discussion too. I have a ring sling, which E lived in for the first 6 months of her life but having had her in it a couple of weeks ago when she was ill I couldn't carry her for any length of time in it now. She weighs nearly 12kg, although the sling goes up to 15kg. Perhaps I need to read the instruction manual to see if there's a different position now she's bigger...
I have a question for fellow bf-ers. I never envisaged I would still be bf at this stage, although I'm delighted that I am I just wondered what happens after E turns one. She's still having a bf in the morning, mid-afternoon, in the evening and during the night (sometimes constantly during the night!) I'm very happy to keep bf her - will she just gradually cut down on her own? Or should I offer her a more substantial snack in the afternoons for example? I suppose I should be reading Kellymom but I'm interested to know what others are doing.

Yorky Do you mean why isn't my DD catching it or yours?
Sorry I am so rubbish, I can't remember if you have a DD or use reusables and am prob being really dim

My DD wont get it cos she is nappy free.

I had totally forgotten about doing the odd hot wash, so am now feeling awful cos it could be my fault

But at least this embargo from using the cloth means I have disposables that J can wear whilst I get on with killing all those nasty horrid willy eating bugs!

Ooh Hana the Didymos ring slings are just lovely. I'm still mainly loyal to wraps, really. I've got an ellarro that's much lighter weight than my Didymos and that is great for in the house. The other benefit to sling over hip seat is that you have your arm free. Mimi is fine pootling about except for when I'm cooking, and if she doesn't want to be in her chair the sling is a good place.

I put mine in sposie nappies at night as a rule- use bumhugger about twice a week to stick to household budget (since I still have 2 in nappies )

Hope the rash gets better,poor mite.

hope babies are sleeping!x

I don't know how to change ma name
is it like starting from scratch, creating a new profile?
There's been quite a lot going on here the last week or 2 and i want to tell about it but don't want to betray confidences.
Really i would like to know how much help i should expect from dh. there have said it. am doing 99% of looking after ds, have 2 hours off in evening but tis me that goes up if he wakes - the rest of the time he is with me (I co-sleep too) I love that boy, I know i will not ever regret this time but i am feeling worn out. dh finds it a challenge as much as he adores ds, lacking confidence. maybe i am over controlling. we are miserable, i am a horrible old cow, resentful. wish dh would take initiative, leap into action so i don't feel i have to ask for help. i ask, he hesitates, i feel guilty so say no it doesn't matter, he says ok then, i say (stroppy) yes it does matter and get all resentful.
pah pants.
Say pah pants to your toy today.
too much ceebeebies
other stuff am sad about but will name change to tell that.
am def going to look into getting a sling! W seems to spend half his life on my hip atm! not good if top rides up to reveal undone trouser button due to belly
cricri am just going to keep feeding on demand. atm it's loads during the night, morning nap and afternoon nap. he can't have any other milk due to allergy - hasn't liked any of the alternatves so am just going to keep going for as long as he wants - no reason not to! he has afternoon snack too!!
soz for long post - has taken me all evening to write this as w woke up twice!

just a quick check in from me to say Happy Birthday for Max today and Mimi for tomorrow and Becca for next Thursday.

I'm off to Scotland till next Friday (Ellie and Chocgal would love to meet up, your work shifts permitting; will FB my mobile number!)

twinkling, agree with yorky that paper nappies won't necessarily get more air to DS's bits than cloth and at your doc for suggesting that cloth is the cause of his problems! However I know you like to use fleece lined nappies; do you think it might be the fleece that's the problem? I know of a few babies who react to fleece. Also, have you tried wool covers? Better for completely mobile babies though. And another thought, have they swabbed for Strep or Staph infection? Also, one of the main causes of balanitits is eczema; can't remember of he is prone to it or not. Have you done a strip wash of his nappies to make sure it isn't detergent build up causing it. And another thought; have they checked his foreskin for any issues there that may be contributing? A friend's DS had recurrent bouts of balanitis and it turned out that his foreskin was too tight. sorry if sounding disjointed; have had too much wine too quickly

barbs, that you are feeling glum. Are you free to get to Leeds on Mon 2nd Nov? We decided yesterday that we are having a tea party for bumble from 3.30 to 5.30. Would love to see you (and bumble would love to see Will) there . Will FB.

hana, will be interested in hearing how the cones go. I have similar issues and have only recently noticed that carrying bumble around makes things worse.

Barbs To name change go into My Mumsnet at the top of the page, log in then go to registration details. Scroll down to nickname and change to your new name then apply the changes.
I know it's no consolation but my DH sounds exactly the same as yours. He's always lacked confidence around E and I think me bf hasn't helped because she's always been very dependent on me from the outset so I think he's felt a bit pushed out at times. He's actually got better in the past couple of weeks because he's been around more as a result of being off sick and also when E was ill a few weeks ago he was able to get her off to sleep a few times by walking her around when I was too knackered to carry her in the sling any more - it's only a small thing I know but it really helped him. I think you have to actually tell DH what you need him to do. I don't like doing this as I feel as though I'm nagging, but my DH won't step in otherwise so I'm having to otherwise I end up doing all the work. The hesitation is due to lack of confidence and the more they get involved the easier it will be. They seem to think that we find it all so easy and forget that at the beginning we were fumbling around ourselves. Hope you can work things out. It is very hard.
Daisy Have a lovely time in Scotland
Well, after me saying yesterday that E had gone to sleep relatively easily, she then woke up at 1.30am ready to party DH took her downstairs and read to her for a bit then walked her around a bit before she was ready to go back to sleep. She was still unsettled during the night though and is alseep now having woken up at 7am. Goodness knows what tonight will be like!
Hope everybody has a good Saturday

Hi all
Alot to catch up so just gonna do a mini one,
Hi roca nice to see you back.
ladybuzz hope you felt better for the party its awful not feeling well when you have to do something like that.
Happy Birthday mimi hope you have a lovely day
twinks sorry about Ds rash must be awful, you have had a lot of good advice and agree with yorky & daisy esp about trying wool meant to be good for babies with skin conditions, also on the other thread someone said about silver liners, I could see how they would work as we (when I used to do gressings) would put a silver dressin on as its has as anti bacterial properties (chocgal will be able to tell you more).
ceebee hope you dont have to get up at 5am tomorrow.
dw hehe I used to do that but DD1 is now old enough to put her own telly on in her own room its great when she gets up at 6 or something I tell her to put it on and she usually falls asleep again. DD2 is rarely up before 8 ellie ducks to aviod flying things.
yorky Hope DS is better now, poor you being up at 3, how is DD sleeping now?
barbs sorry you are feeling like this, does dh know how you are feeling, from you previous posts he sounds like he is very supportive of you and loves you both very much. I go through this at times too, I will struggle on and moan about things but its not usually till I really snap and cry and we have an arguement (not the way to do it) but If I talk to my DH about how tired I am of being expected to do it all he takes more notice, then things improve for a wee while. I dopnt think men mean to do it and I know that when I had DD1 it was a confidence thing for him, he said he felt that DD1 responded better to me and I knew what to do, he has been more confident with millie and if its a chioce between sitting with me or him she will go to her daddy.
Can I ask you something about your breast feeding and well done for doing it for so long? I have a friend whose DS has a dairy allergy and she breast fed him for 9 months but he was feeding constantly during the night. Anyway have you tried cutting out dairy from your diet? feel free to ignore me, but she said (my friend) that her ds fed constantly as he had dairy allergy and it was still coming through he milk but she said she noticed a big diff when she cut out dairy too, I thnk she has him on alpro soya now and he enjoys it. Sorry if I am talking rubbish and you probably are aware of it .
cricri glad your DH is better.
rutho how is your DH?
I had a drama on thurs night, I smelt smoke and realised it was coming from my dishwasher, so ran up and got the DD's phoned the fire brigade and ran out of the house, We were lucky and not much damage but could have been alot worse. I think back now and DH used to put the dishwasher on when we went to bed please if anyone does this dont anymore, i dread to think if we were in our beds. My smoke detector never went off either, it was near the roof but on the wall. So I had 2 lovely firemen round last night to fit new ones and did a home safety check, so feel a little better now.
Phew that was meant to be quick!