November 2008 - The Birthdays thread.

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As we will still be on this when the first birthdays roll round.

I'll try and find the list to remind us all.

right, off to watch telly; will catch up properly tomorrow.

Hello all

Been away for the weekend, had a fab time.

LB no advice really but I think ceebee is spot on.

AAAARGH what is it with babies and cat food?????

Mimi is straight in it. Right nowshe is trying to manouvre the dolly buggy around the kitchen and getting mightliy frustrated by it!

Choc glad you hada good night.

Barbs sorry to hear about your mum.x

Rosa hope the packing/shopping goes ok!

Shouldn't laugh really but I've just found Mimi wailing becuase she has got herself wedged head first in the cat basket

bumble can sign for when he's had enough to eat...usually by catapulting the plate halfway across the kitchen

barbs, sorry things aren't great with your mum ; it is hard when you have to split yourself in different directions and consequently feel you are doing half a job at each of those things. I've seen you as a mum and you were great, so am sure you are as good a wife and daughter as that

Looks like it'll be Friday before I make it over to Harrogate, but it'll be after the DC are in bed. I could always pop round to yours around 8ish if it isn't too late?

twinks, sorry for the family shite going on; I can't believe that 1) they have an opinion on how you raise your DC and that 2) they actually express it to your face .

Hana, I hope that you got some shoes (spending muscle therapy always works for me ) and that things get better with DH (perhaps this is the "getting worse before it gets better" phase?)

Ellie, Christmas meal sounds lovely and quite special . Are you seeing either your or DH's family on Christmas Day? It must be hard to not have him there on the actual day, but it's just another day isn't it?

Yay Hamster for teeth, and E for walking and the signing (sorry for being flippant up there ^^ )

LB, no advice on the friend's DS sorry; I have the knack of making all my friends' DC cry with a word or a look!!

Pinky, DD loved to eat cat food (thankfully only dry food!) or drink the water and boy did her nappies stink afterwards!!! bumble is content to just put the food into the water bowl or else tip the water all over the floor...or latest trick is feeding the nibbles into the washing machine. Two loads have been tainted with eau de poisson...nice

apols if I've missed anyone...struggling to keep up as this thing called life keeps on taking over

did the tree and stuff today, decorated outside for the first time, and had to wait in the dark for 20 mins with the DC for DH to come home so we could surprise him. Indoor and outdoor trees look fab, and we have put little LED lights on our huge dragon tree in the hall...

got my first group nappy demo tomorrow and feeling absolutely terrified

so who all is coming to mine next Monday???

Daisy I'm coming next Monday What time are we aiming for? And are we going to co-ordinate what food we are bringing or just bring a mix of stuff.

Hamster's favourite game is to pull every book off the bookshelf in the lounge.....every day I spend every evening putting them back again!! Strange how he leaves the Christmas tree alone though

hello

I am coming with all my little darlings brace yourselves!!

What do you want us to bring?

I need to check train times but what time to you want to to get to the station for?

Ooh and my secret santa came today. It is in very shiny wrapping paper

If we said 11am at mine, then LB isn't leaving at the crack of dawn (although on the shortest day, she may well be!!)

Pinky, have FB'd you!

ah fuck. Started this earlier, and was ignoring the DC....nexrt thing there was an almighty crash and bumble screaming. He climbed onto the windowsill and had fallen backwards off it . He has a huge graze and egg behind his ear where he has caught the very sharp edge of the chest that the tree in on on the way down . I am sooo at myself. He seems OK; crying good and all that, and it was a sideways glance rather than a direct hit by the looks of it (I didn't even see it happen), but will be keeping a close eye on him tongiht. thenakfully the sills are quite low.

Silly little beggar had to pulled down from the sill a further five times afterwards though

Am absolutely knackered. Still haven't written any Christmas Cards and I have presents I need to get in the post to my family in Scotland, some of which aren't even bought, never mind wrapped and readyu to post.

FB message will be coming shortly Pinky.

Daisy poor Bumble - hope he is ok. Don't feel - you can't watch them all the time!! Can you FB me your address so I can work out how to get there?

x

Daisy hope Bumble is ok. As ceebee says you can't watch them every second, don't be hard on yourself.xxx

My J is so funny with sticking his head in things too.
The washing machine is most often where I find him. Through his own choice though. Forget all the toys in the living room, J is as happy as larry filling and emptying the machine with whatever he finds lying around.
I couldn't find my shoe the other day, had to hop to the garage. Found it later in the washing machine!!
When it is on, he makes a beeline for it when it goes onto it's spin sycle and presses his head against with the biggest grin!!

I messed up my resolve not to let my mum get to me, already!
Today, I don't know how it came about but, she asked 'Are you still feeding him?' in shocked tones.
Instead of proudly saying, yup!
I said, 'yes, but only really to sleep. And he is getting to the point where he is losing interest anyway, DD gave it up about now, so I am sure J will too, soon.'
Euch! grovel grovel, excuses excuses.
So she was shocked/surprised, so what. I didn't have to go making all my excuses and reasons why.
I want J to feed for as long as he wants. I am jolly well proud that he still is. I dread the day he stops.
The WHO recommend BF for the first 2 years. Just cos he can take cows milk doesn't mean I should cut out BF.
Why did I have to go on like that!?
grr at myself and that I was so apologetic.

Evening all,
My secret santa present arrived today too, can't wait to open it but I will try to resist until Christmas day
Daisy Don't be hard on yourself, as the others have said, you can't watch them every second. No lasting harm done fortunately, hope Bumble is OK.
Twinkling Lol at J with the washing machine! Why is it that with all the toys they have they still prefer to pull stuff out of cupboards or try to eat the cat food I put our tree up tonight but E has barely glanced at it - long may it continue!
Sorry to hear about your problems with your family. Mothers have such a big influence on us that it's hard to stand up to them sometimes. I was at my mum the other day when she called E a big baby for still wanting to bf in the afternoon. I didn't say anything either and wished I had. Must remember the WHO stats to quote at her next time.
Barbs How did your new sleeping arrangements go? I'm following with interest because I still feed E to sleep too. She's starting to latch off of her own accord and turn over onto her side increasingly frequently now so there is progress although she'd wake instantly if I tried to move her into her cot. DH is on nights this week so I'm sleeping on his side of the bed but she invariably wakes during the night and wants a feed so I still end up right next to her.
Daisy Good luck for the nappy demo tomorrow, you'll be great don't worry. Let us know how you get on.
Hello to everyone else

Oh I forgot to say that my secret santa arrived today Too!
my DD, B, helped me to open the parcel, but wanted to open the packages contained, I had to tell her 'no, this one has to wait until chritmas day.'
DH thinks it is great that we are all so close tht we are doing this for one another. I thought that was a lovely thought

Maybe mums just say these things is a jokey way, but it gets you right there, everytime. Fighting with your own instincts as to what it right for you and yours and what she feels is right for you, being hers. IYSWIM
I do think she sees my LOs simply as an extention of me and I am hers so they are hers too, right?
Well, not reeeeally

Oh I do like emoticons, my mobile is pants, all I have is the dots and dashes, it is just no use!

daisy 11 should be fine for me - I can almost make it out of the house by 8 now, although I have been late for work everyday for 2 weeks
You do realise that we will have 10 DCs between us don't you - You must be mad!!!

Good luck for the demo tomorrow. Hope Bumble is OK, J is also a clumsy one!

twinks what a lovely thing for DH to say about the SS.

I am so excited to see you all on Monday.

Sorry I'm rambling!

Will FB everyone tomorrow....too knackered to do it tonight.

Thanks for the kind words . My back/hips/pelvis is killing me today after landing oddly coming off the windowsill (hmmmm, theme for the day chez daisy ) this morning after sorting the curtain rail which was pulled apart by DD and bumble last night playing with the curtains, and I think I'm just feeling a bit overwrought with things.

It's two years ago as well that my mum was ill in the hospice and I'm finding it quite difficult emotionally to deal with Christmas. It didn't hit me last year, probably because bumble was new and we were too wrapped up in new baby fug.

Ach, off to bed for a cuddle from my lovely DH...after waking bumble to make sure he is OK.

Twinkling I have a friend who says things that rile me like that. I think because she has 2 dcs older than W and thought I would be relying on her to tell me how to do it. All my choices have been so different to her - she doesn't understand why am still bf -ing ('you know they get no nutrician from it after 1 year') I said the thing about WHO. Also said 'he's using you as a dummy' And (to W) 'you've got your mummy wrapped round your little finger' GRRRR! My mum said to me the other day (when I offered W boob) Are you going to be asking him that when he's 21. I didn't respond then but it later occured to me that she probably wouldn't have said anything at all if I had given him a bottle. What really riles me is I have never (I don't think) made any comment to any friend about their parenting - I really wonder why people feel the need to with me? I do know the answer to that actually. W still bf, sleeps with me, dh sleeps on couch. I do doubt my choices on a daily basis when things feel out of control but on the whole I am proud of me/ us and I think (as have said before) I am doing things the way W needs. Anyway only time will tell I guess! I had a look at a site that is called something like 101 reasons to be an extended bf-er and have a few facts tucked up me bra sleeve for any smart arse who thinks they know better
oof. A rant!
Cricri Sorry - chickened out! I had no energy the other night to follow through with my plan. And haven't since. W is like E - he rolls away and settles himself now, I stay with him and sneak off. Sometimes I can settle him again without boob but usually he wants it. Selfishly I would like to get bladdered tipsy over the festive period and obv can't do that when co-sleeping. Anyhoo am sure the right time will come along and we will go with it. [sigh]
Daisy I would LOVE to see you but I think 8 is going to be a bit late for us - smack bang in the middle of the witching hour(s)! Perhaps get together in Jan? Am sad to be missing out on meeting Pinky, LB and Ceebs too and dcs Thanks for the lovely comment Sorry to hear about bumbles tumble hope he's ok x
Am going to have to buzz off cos dh wants to find his christmas card relly list (lastminute) (I can't talk)

Daisy hope you're feeling a bit better by the time you read this.
I would love to be there next week, but it's just too far. Maybe me and tegan will have to have our own little Cotswold gathering one day!

I have (foolishly?) agreed to meet my RL best friend in London next Tuesday. She lives in Brighton with her kids, and so it's really hard getting together. I am going to go on the train, but I'm not relishing a day trip to London with 3 DS's!!!

M has finally got rid of the "slack bowel" he has had for the past two weeks. I've lost count of the number of vests I had to throw away!! He is crawling away, chewing any plug he can get hold of, obsessed with being helped up onto the sofa, and loving our Santa mobile we've hung up. Thankfully he hasn't gone for the tree - yet

love to all, am off to find chocolate x

Daisy I x-posted with you - have just come back and read your post.
Sorry this is such a difficult time of year for you - no words of wisdom - just thinking of you and hope you get loads of cuddles from your lovely family xx

FOF sorry to hear M has been poorly but glad he is feeling better Hope you have a good trip to London!

Daisy sorry you are feeling a bit low at the moment - hope the cuddle with DH helped and you are feeling a bit brighter this morning.

Buzz I am always late for work aswell - pretty much given up on even trying to get out of the house by 7.45 (my cut-off time!) as I just can't seem to manage it! However, I have had a breakthrough this week although I am a little about it - I figured that if Hamster could sit on the floor and drink his bottle rather than on my knee with me feeding it to him then that would save me at least 5-10 minutes in the morning and I could have my breakfast at the same time. It has worked and I have been on time so far this week but I do miss having that cuddle with Hamster in the mornings

Those of you struggling with your mums and bf comments - I just think it is typical of their generation tbh. I am sure they don't mean it in a really negative way - it is just that it was probably unheard of to still be bfing at this point.

Has everyone else received their Secret Santa present - I haven't received mine yet - hope it hasn't got lost somewhere!

Right, got a boring meeting all day today but at least lunch is provided so I don't have to make any butties

Hi Ladies

Wow Hana that is a lot of cards to write.

Daisy sory your feelingover run. Hope today has been better. x

I am off work, feel dreadful,woke at 2am feeling really sick and upset tummy. Now my whole body aches. Don't know whats going on. still no period but dark horrible gunk Shitting myself that could be preg again and the MAP did not work. I know its silly thinking that way but even so...

Sorry for me post. Talk some sense into me. X

Hi all
Dasiy Christmas can be so difficult, I'm sorry you are feeling down. I hope you can find comfort in the lovely little people who love you and no doubt will make Christmas special for you in new ways. I know I am looking to do this, clearly for different reasons.

Lol at the washing machine enthusiasts. Ours is in the cellar. I feel I may have deprived my children!

OOh check out my FB if you get a minute, my little DS gigglepot has been recorded for the radio .

Oh bugger.
When we were visiting PIL last week we went to lok for a new sofa for me to spend my money on (from my silver). I found one I fell in love with, paid my deposit and am now thinking again.
It is sort of goldeny yellow. An oversized seat realy with a big footstool to match.
DH wanted a leather couch from DFS but I fell in love and, as it was my money he deferred.
Now I am realising that I prob acted to hastily.
Have tried to cancel it but the manager said. No.
Have to put it in writing but as they aren't in breach of contract he doubts it will make any odds.
He woudl not give me a name for someone in head office, or an email.
I called through a number I found on the website got through to head office and got a name.
Have now written my begging letter.
But am feeling very low.
DH is being nice but is saying I told you so. I said, no you told me you wanted the leather couch not, not to get this one. Anyway it was my treat to me.
I did get a full warranty which will cover all accidents but really it is only a helpline to tell me what to do IYSWIM

Feeling

Sorr, so selfish of me.
daisy you poor love.
You seem so strong, it is not nice to hear that you are feeling a wee bit blue, though understandable.
I just can't imagine. I may be feeling a rift between me and mine but it is easier than.........stop talking. How the heck was I gonna finish that sentence?
Run away, for having typing diahorea, again

Twinkling are you sure there is not a 'cooling off' period in the contract - I am fairly sure that all purchasing contracts have that in (7 days rings a bell) - I am sure someone will come along and correct me on that

Pinky just listened to your DS - very cute and funny

coolkat can the MAP have the side-effects you are having? Hope you start to feel better soon.

I am getting worried that my Secret Santa has got lost in the post since most people seem to have received theirs - could my SS post under a different name and let me know that they posted it and when??

Poor Bumble hope he is ok and also that you are ok Daisy. Coolcat hope things are feeling a bit better in all senses.
twinking surely you have the right to return something within 28 days of purchase for a full refund even if it is not damaged etc unless it was a sale good and it was specified that you could not bring it back. Check the consumer rights and if needed contact the CAB.
ceebee Nether Ellielou or I have heard about who to post ours to . I am going to be in the Uk on Sat ( one hopes they are forecasting snow at this end !!!) and will know if I have had one - Thing is I have had so many parcels sent to parents that it is impossible to ask them.
Right dh finshed putting dd bike together why is it they always leave one screw out? thank heavens he found a spare so have to take it back to neighbours to hide it ! We need to do some explaining as to why it will be found back here and not under the tree in the UK !!!!

We bought it on the 6th Dec, well paid £50 deposit.
The contract says they don't have to cancel the order unless they are in breach of contract, which they are not.
I haggled the price, does that count as a sale price?
The were going to reduce the suite, I grabbed the big seat and footstool for £100 less.

Yes, there should be a cooling off period shouldn't there? maybe 10 days is too many though?

you guys rock; thanks for all the lovely words

feeling muhc better today (maybe had something to do with the fact that DS1 was at a mates for tea????

I think my secret santa pressie is at the post office waiting collection as I got a card through the door on Monday saying leave 72 hours before collecting.

Ouch for the sofa rash purchase twinks. I know there is a cooling off period if you buy online or with a credit agreement, but if paying cash it's a little greyer. I would see if you could speak to the Citizen's Advice or else trading standards and find out exactly where you stand. I'm thinking that as you had paid a deposit it might be construed as "credit" and you would be safe. Also, if you paid the deposit using a credit card, worth checking with your credit card company and see what they say. Debit cards count as cash though unfortunately.

Sorry you are feeling rough coolkat. We all have the sniffles again here and I have been soooo tored today to the point that I nodded off on the sofa this morning and woke up panicking as bumble was missing....then he popped his head up from the side of the sofa! I ended up putting them both to bed straight after lunch and having an hour on the sofa; not like me at all.

Struggling to keep up with Christmas things as well; haven't even written any cards yet...I even managed to get things off last year with a demanding newborn to contend with!

bumble's kitchen appliance of choice is the dishwasher; he loves climbing onto the door if it's left open! Strange child.

He is fine today; his head is a bit sire looking but the fall certainly hasn't knocked any sense into him; I caught him trying to scale the shelves in the living room earlier today.

Pinky, I'll check out the broadcast tomorrow