November 2008 - The Birthdays thread.

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As we will still be on this when the first birthdays roll round.

I'll try and find the list to remind us all.

right, off to watch telly; will catch up properly tomorrow.

Hana how awful for you, I really hope you work things out.

J still poorly, he coughs all night long and wakes himself, then he cries so he must be sore too!

Obs your 007 party sounds great. Hope you enjoy yourselves.

fudge your birthday ritual sounds so sweet.

It is so cold today but so gorgeous, I think I might wrap the boys up and brave the town!

Sending get well hugs to all the poorly babies x

bookmarking things a bit hectic here will be back soon.

Got my SS parcel today. Trying to hold on til Christmas to open it.

Also meant to say the postman was a bit about the nickname. He obviously knows nothing of the joys of Mumsnet.

Ooh thanks Secret Santa, have to go and get it out of the hiding place where I stashed it with the other Christmas pressies!

Don't worry about the nickname. I live in a little village where everyone thinks they know each other's business so I think the postman was expecting an explanation

Hana sorry about it all and I hope that you and DH managed to get through this . Its good to see that others have been through this and survived so well. POsitive thought for you.
Nothing back from Mr Yorky so have a ss prezzie going I am not bring it to the Uk as I have no space in the case so anybody that wants and extra prezzie let me know. If then I find out that somebody who should have got one diddn't I can easily sort that out !

Hi Ladies Dh goes away in the wee small hours, he is off to bed now but we had a nice early xmas dinner we had smoked salmon and I made melba toast, then turkey and trimmings and a scrummy rasberry brulee cheesecake with cream and a bottle of plonk, we then gave dd's an Xmas present each and I gave dh his present. Millie now is saying "ta" and he was with her when she started saying it so that was nice.
rosa I have not heard from Mr Yorky either so dont know if I am emailing the right place.
hana sorry you are still going through this with DH I do understand what you mean when you wanted "time off" this afternoon but I think its a bit of a man thing as mine does the same, if I want "time off" and am still around the house I never get it and I could count on one hand how many times he has taken the girls out to give me a break, I do get pissed off at times but it gets easier as they get older (the DC I mean not the DH). Hope you got your shoes and enjoyed your short time on your own Also hope things get better for you soon.
cricri I hope E gets better soon, its horrible listening to them suffer, I know what you mean about wanting E to walk, Millie has NO interest whatsoever (is that a word?) she wont even stand for any length of time, she was standing up in her cot and on couch etc but then she fell and think its out her off, does anyone think it could be something to do with height? She is really tall and tends to lose balance, then it outs her off. Am sure she will do it in her own time, but am getting annoyed with MIL saying to me that she should be walking by now.
ladybuzz how is J today?

Ellie so sad for you that dh is leaving. Must be really heartbreaking especially at this time of year. Sounds like a lovely Christmas that you've had today. Hope you've got something lovely planned for the 25th too. Will be thinking about you tomorrow xx
Hana Sorry for your 'afternoon off'
Daisy would be lovely to meet for a drink! What time are you about? Would need to be home for about 7.30 to do bedtime - would 6ish do?
Things have been a bit tense here but getting better. I actually said dh might as well leave yesterday but I didn't mean it - just so frustrating sometimes. Just expectations and when they don't work out it's very disapointing isn't it?
My mum's poorly too and I think it's because she lifted Will a week ago tuesday. She's doen her back in, in a lot of pain. Got painkillers which have made her consipated but then took some laxitives and had an accident in bed last night (I was round there today but she only just told me) She is in too much pain to change the bed and has put a towel down. I can't go round tonight and sort as dh is out doing a gig. Tomoorow sil and family are coming for lunch but am thinking I should just go and do jobs for mum tomorrow and leave Willbob with dh as he is into everything. She is 75 and I worry about her so.
Feel like crap wife and daughter and mother (but that's quite normal)
Oh sorry for the me post. Hope youre all having good weekends xxx

Barbs Sorry about to hear about your mum It's natural to worry, I hope you manage to get to see her today. You're not a crap wife/mother/daughter, please don't think that. It's tough trying to juggle lots of things at the same time and you end up feeling that you're not doing anything right. Especially if DH is not pulling his weight. It must be a man thing because mine is exactly the same, I need to physically leave the house for him to step in and look after E. So frustrating at times but you learn to deal with it.
Hana Hope you managed to find the shoes you wanted. Keep meaning to say that I love the ones you have on your FB profile!
Ellielou Glad you had a lovely Christmas dinner with DH before he left but that he won't be around for Christmas. Are you going to family for Christmas day? Lovely that Millie said "ta" before he left.
E is starting to say things, but they're not quite recognisable yet. She says "bye" and "finished" (in French) and that's about it at the moment. But she seems to learn new signs every day (the animal ones are her favourites ) and yesterday evening she took her first steps unaided! Only three but no doubt she'll be making rapid progress from now on. We also managed to get her to bed at 7.30pm last night and more importantly she stayed there so hopefully we've turned a corner with that. Either that or she was so tired from the night before last when we were up for an hour and a half from 1am with her coughing. It was horrible, she had loads of catarrh she just couldn't shift and was crying in pain Last night was quieter thank goodness.
Ladybuzz Hope J is improving, it's heart-rending to hear them coughing so hard isn't it?
Hope everyone has a good Sunday

Wow cricri at the signing.
J signs a little but mainly just points to his mouth which can mean either food of dummy. He knows his milk sign, but that can also mean boob, milk or water.
I am awfullt prod of him but a wee bit that I am not getting him into signing nimals. I never got to that level with DD either.
How are you doing it?
J has also taken a few steps but only at the end of the dingle dangle scarecrow song, which he Loves! He stands and does a wee bouncy knee jig with the hugest grin, then stotters forward to me. Brilliant!
ellie that you DH is away for christmas. and at your MIL. Childrn all develop at their own pace whos is to say when they should be walking. She may not walk until 16-18 months and so what? By the time she is 6 she will be just the same as every other child.
grr mothers!
They should just let us enjoy our babies instead of questioning their development, our mothering styles etc.
Me and mine are muddling along. She thinks all is well and that I am back under control but it does my head in at times. Sis was surprised to find I wasn't 'chilled' about it yet
I think I am very 'chilled' thank you very much. Just not best impressed with my mums controlling ways and having to play the games, where she never stands up and says 'sorry' or admits to fault in any way!
aaaaanyway
hana at your DH
If I want time off in the house, I do have to spend it in the bath or I would be expected to do something. The guilt would get to me anyway and I would end up doing something.
Dash this mothering guilt that was handed to us along with our precious bundles.

Oh barbs your poor mum.
That is not nice for anyone.
You are amazing to manage to do so much for everyone, because I am sure you will manage to get round there today and deal with your guests. Even if DH is left with will, you're are trying to do you best by all.
Anyone would understand that.
Hats off to you.

barbs your poor mum, it must be awful for her. You are not a bad anything, don't feel bad. You are doing a fab job.

Well done on these walking babies even if it is just a couple of steps.

ellie grr to MIL, I second what twinkling said! she will walk when she is good and ready.Your xmas meal with DH sounds lovely

Cricri how is E today? it is awful to hear them hacking away.
J is a bit better today, his eyes are clearing up nicely and although he still has a cough it doesn't seem to be bothering him as much and he slept alot better last night.
Unfortunately though DS1 and I both have it now but no where near as bad as poor J.

Hope everyuone else is having lovely weekends.

Crickey Ellie I must be reall hormonal, tearful at your post. Thinking of you. This time of year mum be hard ith yur DH being away. X

Barbs, sorry to hear about your mum hurting her back,I understand your worry, my nan is always poorly right now and I feel I should be there more but it is not possible, 2 kids, work etc. I am sure your mum knows and appreciates what you do.

Ladybuzz glad to hear J is better, sorry you and DS are now suffering, is the Christmas tree in the play pen yet?

Hana, sounds like you are having a rough time. I hope Relate starts to work soon. He seems to be making your life very sad right now. X

Twink you sound well, good on the few steps. X

Crici, fantastic signing and words. Glad you had a better night.

I have been really uptight all weekend and don't know why. Feel so pissed off its unreal. I am sure I am due on but can't remember if I said I took the MAP last week so am mighty paniced at the min.
We went to see Santa today, had to repeat everything so many times I am sure he was deaf We then got our tree and have put that up and had a roast dinner Becca has screamed most of the afternoon if me and DH have not been able to hold her.

Becca still not walking without holding our finger tips,she has done one step twice then stops Tonight I was walking her to the bathroom and she weed all over the landing carpet a right little Britain moment!!

Sorry to those I have missed.

Waves to Pinky and Daisy. X

hana tis my own mum that is driving me batty.
MIL used to drive me batty, boy can she talk!! But now I understand her better I just love her, and FIL, to bits.
They love DH and I and respect us enough to let us get on without questioning or judging.
More than I can say for my mum and sis who sit in judgment of the world.
Sis gave a run down of both my bros and where she feels they stand, then stopped short at me to say only that I am happy most of the time so she had no negative comment to make on me.
Gee thanks
She and her BF, soon to be BIL, are judgey judgey people who know best.
I am so steering clear when they have children of their own.
They think they know it all now?
All I can say is, don't come running to me when the bleepedy bleep hits the fan, cos I am just not going to get involved.
Take advice from me after they joined in with Mum to disect where I was going wrong with DS.........prob not.

oooops

Sometimes I look at my wee man and want to say sorry, for not being the calm mum I wanted to be.
He was such a tough cookie to please and with pressure to stop doing it my way and to do it hers, I just wish I could go back and fling on that sling and hold him close through it all.
Mum thinks I held him too much, I think not enough

again ooooooooooops

Coolkat you said I sounded well and here I am gurnin away.
And it all just doesn't really matter anymore anyway.
What was done was done. Mum, sis and BIL are a law unto themselves, I have just never been on the recieving end of it before.
Sis used to look up to me, I guess no longer

Well done to the signing babies MR does lift up her hands and does a version of 'gone' as well but always when I have a yoghurt pot or stwed fruit in he pink bowl .... We do have a definite 'mamma' and 'nanna' here. 'Nanna' means sleep in Italian baby / child language so it is said lots she says it for food, when she is cross, and sleep.'Mamma' for all the rest. She has taken off with her walking today and seems to do more than crawling .
Barbs sorry about your mum I dread the day when I am needed and I am so far away.My sister is about an hr away but I just hope.
Ladybuzz glad J is improving and hope that you and ds1 get over the bug intime fro Christmas.
coolcat hope Becca settled ok after dinner and did she enjoy Santa ? Or did she scream at him?
twinkling at the comments but it sounds as you have them all in perspective.
I have just done a sainsbos order for when we get to the UK Blimey nearly fell off my chair when I saw the total and I thought it would be cheaper on line as I can't aisle wander ( I am VERY dangerous when I do that as I see all the things I can't get over here!) BUt had to use my CCard as teh site will not accept Overseas addresses ( Bummer!)
Have a good sick free week ......

Thanks for all your lovely thoughts, coolkat we will be fine got lots of family around, going to my mums on Xmas day then staying there, then going to my sil's on boxing day with the outlaws who are lovely usually but think MIL speaks without thinking soemtimes but dont think she means it. DH is in India now in his hotle watching telly, he is relaxed for once as usually only has a few hours before he gets picked up but has to get some paper work tomorrow so has a day to do that, I did tell him that he was great in the sack last night tho (sorry tmi) lol.
Am also very impressed with all these signing babies, Millie was blowing kisses from her cot tonight when I took DD1 up to bed soooo cute.
Glad E & J are feeling a bit better and sleeping a bit better.
barbs hope your mum gets better soon, if the painkillers are not suiting her she could ask her GP for others if it would help and I think you are a great mum, daughter, wife keep your chin up
twinks I know what you mean about the guilt we get handed as mothers
I hope your mum lets up on you soon and stops playing games. I have a friend a but like that but have learned just to let her get on with it and say nothing, must be difficult to do that with someone so close though.
rosa have you heard from Mr yorky yet? Just asking as I havent heard anything. When are you back in the UK? I take it you must have a house here too.
Is anyone else watching X factor? I am enjoying it but gosh its going on a bit!

Thanks for lovely messages about my mum. Went over this morning, dh took willbob shopping and turned matttress changed her bed. She uses sheets and blankets and is very particular about things (as you would be when you've done things a certain way for such a long while) She was trying not to cry . Have told her she must go back to drs on Monday to get better pills or something. They have given her co-codamol which seems to be for regular pain - not really touching my mums. I told her she will not be getting any medals for dealing with so much pain! She is on her own as my dad died 18 years ago. She has coped so well all these years but I guess now she needs support. My bro went over today with a Christmas tree and I left them putting it up - my mum giving the orders naturally! When I left she told me 'you're a good girl' which means the world really.
ho hum.
Had a good time with sil and family - everything got done but we didn't eat til 3 - oops!
Cor twinkling - you must stop the guilt thing too! You are completely right that the guilt comes along with the little bundle. We do what we think is the best possible thing at the time. How can we feel bad about that? x
Well done to the signing babies. I wanted to get W to sign a have taught Makaton, worked a lot with SN children and seen how amazing it is but Bob just aint bovvered! So. Although he does point, grab boobs (a LOT!) - I usually have a fair idea of what is required!
Glad you dh got to his destination safe and sound Ellie and you have nice plans for Christmas. x
What is this x-factor that you speak of
Well. Am going to try new sleeping arrangement tonight. W sleeps on (double)mattress on the floor - I feed him to sleep for a bit of time off then join him later. He's doing well at being unlatched and getting comfy and dropping off by himself now so I am going to go up and sleep on a camp bed in his room. Still there but just not quite so close. I've got to do something!!! Isn't ever going to be dc 2 at this rate!
Sorry for the long post (again) Sorry for all I've missed x

Just bookmarking.

Barbs how awful for your mum but glad she seems a little brighter at the mo.

Ellie for you - bad timing for your DH at this time of the year but glad you had a lovely early Christmas

Will catch up with everything else later - seem to be meeting myself coming backwards!

Just wanted to share that, at long last (and bringing up the rear on this I think), Hamster has a tooth !!! It is one of his top front teeth (and the other one is very close behind) - just like DS1 did, he is getting them all in the 'wrong' orer

Well done hamster bless him!

coolkat No the christmas tree is still free

Buzz I would ask your friend what tactics she uses if her DS misbehaves and how she wants you to deal with it if it happens (obviously don't tell her that it happens a lot already ) and then see what she says. Unfortunately I am the one with the 'naughty' child although I wouldnt describe him as wild - just gets very giddy and starts misbehaving (just you wait until Monday and you can see for yourself ) - and all my attempts to get him to behave generally involve bribery

I am totally amazed at my Christmas tree - neither DS1 or Hamster have pulled a bauble of it yet and it has been up since Saturday I kind of knew DS1 wouldn't as I think he is old enough to understand (this is the first year he hasn't pulled baubles off though!) but I thought Hamster would be over straight away but he is totally ignoring it - tis great

Hello lovely ladies

ellielou Glad you had a good xmas dinner with DH before he had to go.
barbs sorry to hear about your mum and goodluck for the change of sleeping pattern for tonight.
Well done to hamster on the tooth!
ladyb that sounds an awkward one, ceebee's suggestion sounded good! Very jealous of your 2 weeks off, although I shouldnt complain as my off duty is pretty good.

My secret santa arrived today can i resist until Christmas day.........

Had my work night out on Saturday, had a really good night but still catching up on sleep. Didnt wear the playsuit in the end, i needed something with a bit more structure for my less than toned tummy and legs!

Ellielou - no message from Mr Yorky shall we wait and see if we get anything then if we don't we can swap gifts ? I will be in the Uk from Saturday. ( can't wait)
Buzz I believe in your house your rules....but good advice about asking your friend in a round about way .
Rosa waves to everybody else but she has to go off shopping before she start the packing as very busy end of week....