November 2008 - The Birthdays thread.

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As we will still be on this when the first birthdays roll round.

I'll try and find the list to remind us all.

right, off to watch telly; will catch up properly tomorrow.

Ah just remembered WooHoo to Hana's DS on the few steps!! Clever boy!

Thank you all for cycle information, very reassuring that everyone has shared such personal stuff with me to help me get a bit of understanding. I stopped bf 6 months ago and the cycle length is just getting longer and longer so i may go an get checked out just for peace of mind.

hana i dont think you are talking out of turn at all about me TTC. Im actually quite impressed to be fair, DH can only be accused of general knobbery really. Nothing that wouldnt make me want his babies ha ha. Its more that I am very isolated here as i've moved to a new town etc and he plays golf every weekend and so I have more and more time alone..hence why making a baby is a bit hit and miss anyway. We havent been actively TTC but I will def want to soon.

Sorry if I havent acknowledged any other messages, Im only logged on to get the train times as my friend is stuck in stoke and i thought i'd quickly scan what people said about cycle length. Sorry to post and run. xxx

Hi Hana hang in there lovey, I hope things improve for you. aND yay on F walking- clever boy!

Obs Phee and Yorky are PG. Hope you get the results re-work.

Glad you are getting some rest, Yorky.

Am also v.envy of PG/TTC ladies. Though in all honesty three sets of homework etc. is going to be enough for me, I think!

Feeling a bit low at the mo. Usual Cr*p which in theory I have made good progress on but it still gets me down some days.

I'm a bit now I have worked out how much I have bought mimi for her birthday. I collect christmas presents over the year as much as I can letters to Santa notwithstanding, so mainly thigns are bargains. SO she is getting

George Luck jigsaw (so they have gone bump)

poppy cat pop up book, but may get her poppy cat's happy day too (with 40 fabulous flaps you can't go wrong[wink})

box my town duplo + 1 big base plate

talking Nok Tok (bought mainly because I bought DD1 talking De Li and I know Mimi is going to be after it}

rocking moose from Ikea

That's quite a lot, isn't it? though really I bought the duplo with her birthday money from PIL.

There may well be other things in her box, too.eek!

I also get them new PJ's socks etc. though Mimi just pj's, from Gap they are such a treat.

Like Fudge says it's partly because otherwise the other two would be cross with Father Christmas, but also because her Birthday will be so far away. DS is May which is fab because he gets a good gap between Christmas and birthday.

I just want to say another BIG thank You Ceebee for what you said yesterday, I feel so much better about the whole thing now- I know you are right!

YORKY congratulations, i didn't realise you were pregnant. How far are you? Am totally as i just don't think it is going to happen again for me

DD got for her birthday a Smart Trike (the green one with a padded seat). She loves it! For Christmas she is getting a rocking butterfly from Mamas and Papas.

Yorky Massive congratulations I hope you're keeping well

DrsWife I'm glad you're managing to meet new people. You've inspired me to take A to one of the local playgroups. Sorry I have no advice on cycles as mine have always been all over the place

Hana I hope things get better for you soon and well done F

Sorry to hear of all the poorly babies (and mums), hope everyone starts to feel better soon

Obs Good luck with the complaint. I really hope someone takes it seriously as I can't imagine what it must have been like for you

Facebook group I finally got around to updating who I am and adding a couple of pictures of A.

Things are still not good here but are slowly getting better. At the end of last month I ended up making a last minute trip with A to stay with family in Cambridge as I was at the end of my rope, particularly with DH. It seems the break did us the world of good as things have been much better since. Still no job though.

Took A to get weighed yesterday for frst time since August and she's 17lb 9oz. Has dropped off the line again but she literally never stops moving so I'm not too worried.

Still got no teeth here (anyone else?). She's also, in the past couple of weeks, started sleeping through most nights. We haven't done anything different so I cann only assume she was just ready.

Sorry for the massive post, and being away for so long. Hi to everyone I have missed

Pinky thank you for your message - I am glad I made you feel better I seem to have bought Hamster a similar amount for Christmas - definitely the disadvantage to buying things over the year - you completely forget what you have bought already

Phee Hamster also does not have any teeth I think it is fairly safe to assume that Hamster is going to be the last one to do everything .

Obs hope you get a result with your complaint - it really was shocking and they deserve whatever comes their way tbh

Hamster not so good now (are these babies infecting themselves via the internet??) he was quite whingy when I picked him up from nursery, completely perked up in the bath and him and DS1 were having a whale of a time flooding the bathroom splashing but as soon as I got him out, he went VERY pale and shivery. He is asleep now but I guess I will have to keep an eye out for him...and of course, the one night where he probably won't sleep very well is the one night the batteries on his cot music toy which he has on to lull him to sleep have died and we have no spare ones in the house and I can't get out to buy any. He looked most perturbed tonight when he realised I had taken it away!

Hi everyone
Am falling behind! Big hugs to all the poorly babies and mums.
Think our lurgy has gone in time for DS birthday on Monday and our trip to centerparcs.

Catch up more tomorrow

I never should have said anything! AF arrived this avo
I do dislike her greatly!!

On the plus. DHs boss has handed in his notice. He does not want to be boss, doesn't not like the stress. So he will step down from the position and back to where he was.
DH is next up for the job.
Was told, at his interview, that he only missed out by 2 points.
Has now been told that, yes he is next in line, they are going to train him up.
So heaven knows when he might actually get the job and what training he may need that he didn't a few months ago when he only missed it by 2 points.
And if they will also train others in order that DH has competition for the job.
Did I tell you that his boss was training the new boy behind DHs back? Whilst telling DH that he couldn't possibly do the training with him cos he was far too busy?

But, of course, I have been perusing property websites. upping our price a wee bit and generally dreaming

But will stop now and wait to see what happens.

Morning all, yay on walking babies and for poorly ones.

twink hope dh does get a promotion and they aint blowing smoke up his arse which it sounds like they are prone to doing

All this talk of xmas presents, in my spare room i have all DD's birthday presents wrapped and stacked up, all the xmas presents as I've finished shopping and they are all wrapped labelled and stacked up, DH's anniversary present (27th dec) wrapped and then all the balloons, helium etc for DD's party. Every time she goes in there her eyes come out on stalks as it does indeed look like a grotto. But my poor mum needs to sleep in there next week and I cant find the bed!

So, who's up for an in-law rant?? My in-laws live two streets away and could walk here in minutes but never do. my MIL looks after other grandaughter every week for about 2-3 days with overnight stays and as SIL is preg, its getting more often again. Anyway, I've never done xmas with his side, one year was my wedding, then DD was newborn and this year ive said im staying at home.

SIL normally goes to MIL. I've invited all my side over for xmas as they are so far away and told his side they are welcome to call in etc at any time. But this year the grandad died and MIL is still upset over her dads death. SIL is refusing to go for dinner as she doesnt want her DD's xmas ruined by tears and maudling over grandad. Which I can understand. So she's staying at home but going to a restaurant for dinner, her, her DD and DH and not invited her mum.

So, now MIL, step-FIL and the Nan will all be alone and are dropping huge hints about coming to me. I dont want them here, i know i'm a bitch but they never even made me a cuppa when i discharged myself after 18 hrs after a c section so i aint making them a bloody dinner! I was completely laid up and they did NOTHING, in three years they have invited us to dinner once, after DH's nan said it was disgusting that SIL went for dinner every week and we have never been invited, they never ever visit despite being invited o watch DD swimming, to the zoo etc and so i dont see why i should have them here at xmas.

Anyway, rant over...go on who else has in-law politics to contend with? xx

Hana - well done F - that is fantastic news!!!!

I am around but I get distracted with fb games!!!

J went to nursery for his second practise seesion - I had to leave him for 2 hrs (went into Portsmouth and bought Christmas cards). He was crying when I left and crying when I returned.. Apparently he had been ok while I wasn't there and the crying when I returned was due to them taking some mud out of his mouth

I am dreading going to work next week, my heart is breaking at the thought. Feel like we're a little tag team, he's my best friend who I get to spend all day playing with... I am convincing myself it'll be good for both of us......

Just popping on to say Happy Birthday to Yorkys DD - hope you are all having a lovely day

Haey!

Happy Birthday Yorky's DD!!

hope you are feeling better today Pinky.. I took a leaf out of your book today and did playdoh-ing with the boys, DS1 loved it (as usual) and DS2 mainly tried to eat it but haey we had fun!

Hope your DH gets the promo Twinks gah workplace politics - don't miss all that..

DocWife lordy your pil sound as bad as your sil poor you . Really feel for you there honey, in your position I would let them hint away..! Cheek! Also can't believe the sil won't invite them or go to them when they clearly do so much for her?? It is up to you tho, if you did invite them would it maybe prompt them to be more involved with your DD? But then would you actually want that...?

MummyNic I felt the exact same before I went back to work after DS1. It broke my heart to leave him and I hated thinking about it. However it isn't that bad, you will both get used to it so if you can just try to put it to the back of your mind just now.. Enjoy the time you have left on maternity and remember your DS will still be there when you are not working and those days can be just as good as maternity! Hugs..

Gotta go and play with DS1 now DS2 having a wee snooze.. Tiny was a wee trouper this am and barely flinched at his jags! DS1 got a glowing report from his nursery teacher too at parents thingy so gold stars all round here!

Waves to all..

Had huuuuge falling out with my mum today.
Her last words were 'You will need me before I need you!'
and 'Go rely on your (insert RLF name here) then!'

Sorry to just jump and run but DH keeps whinging for the computer back for 5 mins.
Back in a mo.

that was some 5 mins!

To cut a long story short, mum asked DH to negotiate in the sale or her (now wrecked, thanks to bro, who ran it into the ground) car.
She and Dad told me whatthey wanted him to negotiate to, which was not much more than they had been offered. They said they didn't care.
As soon as he did it and got £50 more than they had initially been offered, she kicked off that ist was too little. I managed to talk her round and she was ok when I left her last night.
This am I called dad about something else. Next thing he is kicking of that DH got too little. I tried to talk to him and it ended in him telling me to 'get lost' and hanging up.
10mins later, mum is on the phone telling me to forget it DH has 'let them down in the past' so whatever.
Um, excuse me, ha has what? When?
'oh I don't want to get into specifics, he just has'
I got upset and said she couldn't say that. She said that I said it first, everytime I turn to her when DH and I argue, so why shouldn't she?
We basically hung up on one another.

half an hour later and Dad appears at my house, full of remorse for our argument.
We made up, but mum refused to enter my house.

I went to her at the car to ask her to forget any nastiness that had been said on both parts.
She flew off the handle, telling me I had no right to criticise her and that she had every right to say what she did.

God this is not a short story.
Suffice to say, I tried twice to smooth things over but she was having none of it.
I said the ball is in your court if you want to hold onto your anger.
She told me I needn't come to her anymore with my probs with DH, I said she was burning her bridges, thats when she said what I said in my previous post.

I am just so fed up with her nastiness recently.
It has been going on since DS birthday.
She has just been so nasty to me
But no-one is ever to tell her that she is wrong, nor will she apologise.
But I will be expected to.

Poor dad though, was broken hearted by the whole thing.

Happy Birthday hamster also to yorkys DD for yesterday.

Hope none of you lovely ladies are being affected by these terrible floods.

Happy Birthday Hamster and yorkys DD for yesterday.
Like 8mummynic* I too am a little obsessed by facebook games

The weather here is awful it just hasn't stopped raining. Thankfully we now live outside the main flood zone - we missed it by about 10cm in 2005 in our old house. Carlisle seems ok so far but the surrounding area is really bad!

twinks how awful for you hugs for you.

hana well done F

drswife you sound very organised

obs hope you get sorted with work

Hi to everyone else

obs not work yopu know what I mean I'm getting myself ALL confused you deserve answers your treatment was appalling!

Buzz was thinking about you and the floods yesterday. Glad you live outside the 'danger' area. My colleague came up there for the day yesterday and I hope she got home ok.

Twinks your mum sounds like she is harbouring deep issues. Maybe it might be better to have a bit of space from her for a while though?

Thanks for the birthday wishes. Unfortunately Hamster is not well at all why today of all days?? He has got a really bad cold and was sick last night after his bottle and then again this morning but the sick is really pleghmy (nice!) Have had to take him to nursery as I need to go to work....but feel awful On his birthday, he is full of a cold and I can't be with him. Hope he is ok for the party tomorrow....

Popping in ..I have also had both dds down with the lurgy DD1 off antibiotics today and minirosa on ....Total lack of sleep and well you all know the rest...
Off to bed in the hope that both of them let me sleep tonight !!!

Hello
DH has brought me a laptop from work as my studio computer has died and the battery has given up on the laptop..aargh!

Happy birthday to the hamster, hope he is feeling better, and happy birthday to Yorky's DD.

Sorry to hear about sickness, Hana. My DS was off school again today after being horribly sick yesterday, there seem to be so many bugs going around.
Sorry to hear things are not gong well between you and your DH. Hope the visit from your sis goes well.

Twinks sorry to hear about your row with your parents.

LB glad you are not flooded!

Rosa hope your little ones get better soon.

Happy birthdays for tomorrow, just in case this computer goes bump too!

Sparkle hope the playdohing went well.

I think I may be preparing myself to call it a day with my 'old' family. Things are becoming intollerable.

But I am alos really looking forwrd to Christmas day like I never have before, because it will be just us, my beautiful family.

Thanks Hana. In terms of how I am doing, personally, I think I am doing quite well. Probably not the right thread for this, but I am getting a lot of abusive messages, threats from my family. Nothing I say to them seems to have any effect. I know that they, especially my mother, were in the process of destroying me (she actually told me that it would be better for me if I had no other friend than her at on point last year) and I have had to drastically limit the contact she has with my children. The thing is she won't let it happen without getting everyone to pile in against me. There seems to be nothing there other than either the desire to control me or to bypass me to get to my DCs. I cannot believe I invested so much of my life, my feelings and concern in them for so long. They are a bottomless pit and nothing I do will ever be enough.

You are very kind thinking of me, when you have so much on your plate yourself.x

just quickly posting to say Happy Brithday Hamster for yesterday

and hugs to you both, Pinky and Hana, things sound pretty emotionally draining at the minute. Pinky, if you fancy popping over to Leeds or meeting halfway, I'm free on Wednesdays and Thursdays generally

struggling to keep up with things here; been clearing out for a table sale we are doing tomorrow, and bumble's sleeping is still haywore; although he made it until 5.15 am this morning. He only had a nap in the morning as well, so fingers crossed exhaustion will keep him asleep all night; need to be on our toes tomorrow.

LB, glad you aren't affected by the floods, but the weather your way looks to have been hideous. We have missed it all here; it's been a bit windy, but nothing like gale force.

will try and catch up properly over the weekend.