December 2006- Here's to pre-school newbies, business starters and twin survivers.

[Indith]

Oh go on then.

I'm rubbish at titles though but I bow down to Oli's cakes and supermum.

Indith, I remember those first days of sleep, utter bliss

WB, I'd be tempted to sneak in one glass of wine.

Dh found a refurbished computer for $100 for ds1 and we handed down my old laptop from ds1 to ds2 so both boys are now ensconced in their rooms with their respective programs not sure if we have created peace in the house or advanced them into the solitary teen years way too soon!

WB sounds good to me! Have a great time

Humph well dd did not sleep through last night but hey ho 2 nights was good! Shame ds is having terrors again He races around all day, won't nap unless he gets to total meltdown point and is so exhausted by bedtime it is hardly surprising he is having them but not much I can do really.

You all sprawling on the sofa suffering from sunstroke or something? Getting lonely here

Lovely sunny weekend. Dcs now sharing a room which is going well. Dd sleeping til 4/5am , feeding then going back to sleep and ds keeping his terrors to one mild one a night at a sensible hour

Dd fell asleep on the way home from toddlers so has not napped at all. I predict frazzled dcs and a shouty mummy this afternoon.

Dd is snoring on the living room floor

Am home but exhausted, will probably need all week to recover, I did indulge in a couple of weak cocktails spread over the weekend, but did retire every night a good 2-3 hrs before the rest of them!

Food was lovely and we stopped in the worlds largest Asda and I bought some new jewllry to hopefully go with my maternity dress for the wedding this weekend.

Can't say I am enjoying the weather as I have just inflated, my ankles are now very swollen and its making my toes hurt as they are trying to swell too really hope this isn't what I have to look forward too all summer!

indith, you're spot on about the sofa. I have crashed out 2 nights in a row at 8, woken at 11ish with all my chores to do and unable to sleep! The heat is killing me and I have no good excuse like being pg (although i suppose chasing after dd is a pretty good one, she's so fast!). V.glad the sleep coming on well, do you feel like new woman yet?
WB, hol sounds great, swollen feet not so. I hated my feet with a vengeance for months. I bought that gel stuff from boots which I put on about a hundred times a day which did help.

Bookmarking, still confused who you are Indith! Off to read.

My secretary had swollen ankles today (not pg, other health problem) and it reminded me of those days! Not envying you this part, wb.

Swollen ankles not good. Hope today has been better for you WB, been a lot cooler here anyway.

AQ I do indeed feel like a new woman! Dcs doing very well sharing a room and though dd is not quite sleeping through it is enough for me. I don't feel the need to do anything else right now anyway.

of the cocktails! I long for someone to go out and drink with. Next time I go out with the MN long I am saving up and getting a taxi.Going out for dinner soon but with a mother of a 3 month old and a hugely pg friend so doubt much drinking will happen!

Do I need to change back to Indith Lenni? I still confuse myself and I keep trying to start conversations with people I "know" but forget that I've not told them who I am!

I fear I am hopelessly broody.Someone remind me that I need a bit more sleep before putting myself through it all again!

I'll come and drink with you Indith! I can cope, just can't think of any short version of your new name so am sticking with Indith until some clever person thinks of one.

Nooooo, step away from the broodiness! I am actually feeling a bit broody myself, not helped by DH really wanting another baby. We've talked about it so many times though and just isn't practical for us at the moment. Maybe in a few years. I want to carry on slowly getting back to work, am hoping I will get more research work in September and hopefully more lecturing too. Childcare would be next to impossible for us with 3 DCs as PILs can only just about cope with the 2 of them and we just can't afford full time nursery for DS, 2 days a week is the limit for our finances and even then I am working for next to nothing by the time paid childcare and travel. I wouldn't want him to do anymore nursery than he does already anyway, even that is a wrench given DD never did any.

DS not sleeping through either, he's so hit and miss at the moment. Was up 6 times in the night on Sunday and then last night slept 10 hours straight. He is still having ongoing chest problems. Two long courses of ABs since Easter and each time it clears the catarrgh (how on earth do you spell that??) but it comes back again as soon as he catches the slightest sniffle. He gets really breathless and wheezy but inhalers do nothing so doesn't look like asthma so far. I'm kind of going through the motions with it now, instinct tells me he'll grow out of it but I can't help worrying there is something wrong. Our GP is great though and very thorough and so far she seems pretty relaxed about it. He is going back again next week for another follow up so I think I might start pushing for a referral as it doesn't seem right to have gone on nearly a year now.

AQ/Oli/Indith - are we going to try and sort another date out to meet up?

I do have to think every time I see you post, indith, you'll always be indith to me
nooooooo your babies aren't even 2 yet, give yourselves a break and wait. It is soooo hard with 3 little ones. [admonishes lenni & indith]
yes, catchup would be fab, would love to see you again lenni, it's been 6 months already! Tuesdays still best for me - text/FB?
Lenni, sorry breathing for ds so bad, didn't you have catarggghhhhhhh when you were pg, maybe it's a genetic thing? Does anything in his room help, you know those plug in things are quite strong with eucalyptus etc. Hope you get some more sleep tonight.
Thank god it's not hot anymore. I am such a summer killjoy but still have horrible heatrash from Sunday!

Yes I did! How did you remember that?! I had forgotten myself! I also had glue ear and gromits plus endless bouts of tonsillitis as a child so am thinking it may well be some kind of predisposition he's inherited from me.

Will fb you AQ and everyone else, Tuesdays are better for me in holidays as DD does preschool but probably no good for those of you with older DCs. I'm happy for her to miss one sometime though, as long as not in next couple of weeks as she has had 6 days off this half term with us getting stranded on holiday so feel a bit guilty still!

Don't worry AQ, am holding firm. I think we have decided two is enough for now. Maybe in 3 or 4 years when both of them have started school it might be different but tbh I am hoping DH will have changed his mind by then and not want to go back to the baby phase. As much as I would love another child I just can't face another pregnancy. If you could fast forward me from conception to labour that would be great.

Hi everyone.

So busy with RL at the koment, havent had much time to post. DD2 having a few spectacular tantrums then other times being angelic.

Saw a little baby at the weekend and I can confirm I have no broody feels whatsoever . I feel relieved to be over that stage.

Gosh who is everyone?!

Me too, MyNeighbourTotoro, extremely relieved to be over the baby/broody stage. Though as far as you go Indith, iirc, you are tres young and should be popping them out like peas, so my advice is go for it Seriously, don't go for big gaps, just get it all over and done with then put your feet up like the rest of us

I am having a horribly busy RL too. Some quite unpleasant aspects to it too but I see to be handling it without anxiety attacks which is an improvement

I'm EV, castles.

I would really like number 4 and the thought of not having number 4 makes me feel really sad, but I just don't think I can cope with another pregnancy after this, am struggling to get through this one and I just don't enjoy it, some bits are quite nice but on the whole I hate it, I am soooo not one of these people who bloom, I am tired, in pain, irritable, I don't feel like myself, feel so out of control, I feel so physically ill for so much of it despite the medication I am counting down the days & weeks till it is over.

Ankles still swollen but not as much as on Monday when they were dire!

Indith, I was reading a thread recently about having the third well spaced behind the first two and how nice it was. Maybe something to think about! I know I could not cope with a 3rd. In fact I shudder at the thought. Just got back from the doc this morning with an Rx for Xanax when the boys get me too wound up

so I either pop them out, go crazy then get the rest of my life to recover some sanity or have a bigger gap. Hum. Nothing happening any time soon, dh most certainly not on board!

Ds is currently prancing around in a hot pink nappy, arrived today for him to wear overnight and he is insisting on wearing it (was end of stock hence the hot pink)

WB sorry you are having such a tough pregnancy

Take care everyone. You all seem to be having very busy lives at the moment, remember to look after yourselves too.

Honestly, I disappear for a few weeks days and you all go and name change .

I think I have gathered that Indith's DD is finally sleeping - hooray!

Lenni, hopefully Ds's chest is just a childhood thing that isn't serious. I guess knowing it doesn't seem to be asthma is a positive sign.

AQ/Indith/Lenni, I'm still up for a meet but could we leave it til after June 19th? I am absolutely manic with cakes at the moment but it should calm down after then. Tuesdays also fine with me.

Oh dear, Ds2 moaning. Will regale you with my tales of having the builders in another time.

I couldn't cope with a 3rd either. That's why I had twins which I think is finally starting to pay off. Although I'm sure the terrible twos x 2 is just around the corner.
WB, what are the meds for? And how many weeks to go, the last trimester hell really. Have friend who is 38 weeks coming to see me tomorrow, can't wait to see her bump!
Welcome back, Oli, don't you name change too! After June 19th fine with me, get your cakes out!
I am going to Ascot and the Royal Enclosure no less. Friend from Oz is coming over, her dh is a bookie so she's got tix for us. 'Hat or substantial fascinator compulsory' -I read the dress code last night. Half petrified and half excited but don't have a thing to wear!

AQ, I'm so pleased you're finding life with the dts/ 4 dcs so much better now. I've felt for you a lot over the last couple of years, I can't even begin to imagine what your life has been like - I find my 3 more than enough most days.

WB, how long have you got to go? I've lost track.

Castles, glad you seem to managing life okay - are you off the meds now?

So in addition to making 10 cakes in 3 weeks (not even thinking about the fact we're in Disneyland for 5 days in the middle - aarrrgghhhh) the builders started on Monday so we now have a huge hole outside the kitchen for the footings and a large hole in the middle of the garden where the new soakaway is to go. I was entirely deluded about the amount of mess that builders create, even though they appear to be quite tidy - they brush up before they leave so we can get to the gate without wading through mud .

Ds2 thinks it's fantastic having diggers and cement mixers and big trenches in the garden. I caught him paddling in the wet concrete at the bottom of one of the footing trenches yesterday. The builders were a bit at small welly prints in it this morning .

it will be worth it, it will be worth it.

Sounds very posh AQ, you will simply have to go shopping for a fabulous new dress and hat. Tis a hard life I'm sure the dts will completely bypass the terrible twos and be utter darlings (maybe if we all wish it for you it will come true )

Oli I do not envy you your builders! Cake orders sounds fantastic

After June 19th is fine for me. Ds is in nursery on Tuesdays but I can always keep him off.

Ds has finally hit "why". For his first question "why is the dinosaur dead?" Wonderful.

Hi everyone,

DD1 has an inset day today.
DD2 has tonsilitis so my original plans scuppered.

At least it is sunny.

"At least it is sunny"

I'm with you there! I feel rather delicate after dodgy tummy last night and dh had to go to the office (normally works at home on a friday) so I couldn't have the car. Been to park but now they are parked in front of beebies.

Ds has stopped using the loo or potty He was completely there, 100% trained with just the odd dribble. Asking to go, taking himself, pulling trousers down, the works. Now he is back to only going when naked. Everything is going in pants again, I've actually run out of trousers. When we go out he just holds it in until he is completely desperate. he can manage a morning but if we out for the whole day of course he ends up letting it go but won't do the full wee, just enough to not be desperate so then I have to change him knowing that there is more to come. If I try to take him to the loo he throws a mega tantrum. Argh! One of his best friends is 6 months younger and has just trained no problem, he doesn't really ask to go but his mum can take him every couple of hours and he goes happily. Why can't ds do that? I just can't take him as he ends up throwing himself around the floor screaming. I'm lost. I swear dd is going to be trained before ds, she loves sitting on the potty and did a poo on it a few weeks ago!

Hi all

Not feeling quite so depressed about it all today as I have been to the Osteopath so my back is not constant agony, which always helps on the general outlook to the world!

I have a hiatus hernia that I developed when preg with DD1 so it gradually gets worse and worse as the pressure increases, on a bad day I can cough or belch (as we do so well when pg) and I bring up stomach acid into my mouth, or I can wake in the night having slid off my pillows with my mouth & throat burning from the acid. Some days I am fine and other days its constant indigestion.

On top of that my back and hips don't cope with the hormones and seperate too much which can cause lots of pain.

Thirdly I get bad fluid retention so puff up like a beach ball with fluid, especially in the heat.

Added to that I have gone into premature labour with both the other 2 so am having to take things very easy (which is frustrating)

Oh and I am 25 weeks now so am over half way and heading into the 3rd trimester.

I really do suck at being pregnant!