April 2008 - The one with the arrival of little sisters!

[Scorps]

Here's to PM's new little girl to come very soon, oh yes and my dd2

Just to make it clear - the car is parked in the playground, which is part of the campus so I wasn't abandoning DS1 in the middle of nowhere .... just in case anyone's wondering Am not that bad a mother ... honest

PMSL Soph. I didn't think you sent him off accross a motorway!!

Scorps, you are not a whiner. I know opinions are devided on the SN thread, but I'm entitled to mine and IMHO ASD can be absolutely shitty. Mainly I think cos there is no one to blame and no matter how much literature they give you there is no handbook either!

You are entitled to shout, scream, whinge, moan and swear at the shittiness of it all. In fact I insist that you do!!!

Oh and a big which I know is not allowed either but don't give a monkey's arse.

BOTPB
PS. Sorry, I'm in a very bolshy (sp) mood today.

Go Bunny & her boobs Even though I don't have a child with ASD your comment about not getting a handbook is so true & everyone has their differing opinions, but (just like you) I believe that we are all entitled to shout, scream & howl at the moon whenever we feel we need to regardless of whether your child has special needs or not.

Oh, and while we're in a bolshy frame of mind can I just say that it makes me fume when people inform me of how lucky I am, which (funnily enough) is only ever said by people who don't have children with special needs. I'm not however directing that comment on anyone here so please don't get upset with me.

Aaahhh, that's better

I'm sure I haven't phrased that properly but hopefully you'll understand what I mean.

Oh my own fave is when people tell me I got the boys coz I am special.... er no, I got them coz mine and DH's genes are a bit suspect

saintliness has nowt to do with it

I hate ASD, it doesn't detract from how much I love the boys in the way some seem to think- I can separate the two. I am glad that some people can celebrate their ASD but for us, atm, its a bastard.

DoNot. I have a fantastic auntie who wrote in the congrats on the birth of your baby card that only special children are given to special people - bleurrgghh! I never thought she was that sort of person either & I still love her to bits but really ... it has nothing to do with how "special" we are it's because Sam has an extra chromosome - science.

And given the choice if I could turn back the clock & make sure he didn't have that extra "bit" I would. I don't love Sam any more or less because he has DS & I wouldn't love him any more or less if he didn't - for his sake I just wish he didn't.

I love you all!

Donot- I am still trying to seperate the two, I guess that takes time?

Soph - pah to card! Sam is lush cos he's Sam, not for anything else he may or may not have!

Ah ladies, all that you say is so true. I think half the time people just don't know what to say though.

Although, I think I am special . In fact most people I know think I am special let's just hope that the men in white coats don't find out!!!

Oh yes and all my boys are known for their eating prowess: Sunday lunch, I have a sensible dinner and 1 yorkshire pudding, DH hoovers up (of course) the only 4 yorkies left as DS1 ate full dinner with 3 yorkies and DS2 ate 4!! Bloody hell! How am I going to afford my food bill in the years to come???

BR

You lot make me laugh.

Bunny, I now fancy yorkshire pudding... It's not right to have it in the week, is it?? Is it? Hmm. Have already finished a pizza. On my own. Trying to think really hard as to where I might have hid some chocs in my I-really-need-to-fit-into-my-clothes-again phase from a couple of weeks ago. Hmm.

Ellie, she's doing well under circumstances, thank you for asking. Mom's such an inspiration really - she's just going on with day-to-day stuff as usual. She's still working in her shop etc, and she laughs at everyone being shocked at it. Knowing her, it's not even denial - I think she just recons sitting in a little heap feeling sorry for herself isn't exactly going to change any outcomes, so business as usual. I get really irritated sometimes at people being drama queens (well, except me, I am of course allowed) about nothing, when there are people out there with actual problems who realise that they are lucky in so many other aspects. (E.g. my mom has me - how much luckier can one person get? )

Talking of the odd things people say when they don't know what to: When my brother suddenly died a couple of years ago (age 23, as far as we knew perfectly healthy (aneurysm in his brain) ), someone actually told my mom that she thinks it's better that your child dies than have an addiction (this woman's child was a drug addict). Whilst I don't presume to know the daily agony of an addict child, at least you could hope and pray that they get better - not exactly the same deal with death now, is it?! Silly people. Sometimes not saying anything would have been preferable!

Sal, very sad to hear about your brother OMG the things people say!

People (excluding us of course, who are perfectly normal) are weirdos.

They are aren't they? That kind of comment makes me so . How can you possible rate someone's grief against yours? Or presume to know how someone else feels?Ridicluous

Glad your Mum is doing OK though, it sounds like she is a very lovely sort of person.

BR you think you've got problems- I've been eyeing a catering freezer, a lottery win and the ability to buy the hosue, then build extension to house said fridge in LOL!

Am going to look at a house after work - was wondering why was so cheap - did a bit of digging on internet and turns out is the property of a big drug dealer from Liverpool currently on trial over here. So I guess he's selling off his stuff nice and quick then! Will make sure I take a good look down the back of the sofa's to see if has left anything dodgy behind, you never know, I might be able to make something

Sal - I'm glad oyur Mum is being optimistic. When my Nan was poorly she gave up and i think it makes a huge difference, iyswim. I am crap at knowing what to say, but i care and am sad for you

DoNot - I am wondering too how much my weekely food shop will be in 5 years but you have 4 boys i suppose (i really wonder if boys eat more than girls, i eat like a pig ). We are on waiting list to move, waiting, waiting.

Ellie - ooh you have such an exciting life You should check under floorboards too!

Saw SENCO and she said she would welcome tohe opportunity to tell ExP how hard it all is. My parents are now taking Reilly until Friday which is fantastic. My Mum runs their guesthouse, my Dad is working too, one of my sisters is living there as well, so they have alot to do. My Dad is pretty much dealing with Reilly when he will be there. I am so happy that i get that break, thats a lovely thing they have done.

MW tomorrow, 28 week appointment, blood test too for iron levels. Feeling good pregnancy wise, have a nice little bump (shop assistant said the other day 'thats a nice neat little bump there' )and someone today at Toddlers thought bump was baby 1 LOL. Anyway am slightly concerned about the effect of last 8 weeks on the baby, but I'm sure MW will reassure, check growth etc.

Had a cheese and marmite pasty for lunch, yum.

Afternoon all.

Sal - sorry to hear about your brother. Aren't people weird? Obviously I don't include us in that statement

Ellie - just go careful ... I wouldn't go shoving your hands down the back of the sofa if I were you but here's hoping you find something However, if it's a wad of cash & he's then released ..... maybe witness protection

Woke up this morning and Sam looks like he's been attacked by Freddie Kruger!!! I cut his nails the other night but obviously must have left a really sharp bit somewhere because he's managed to slash the side of this face during the night. The owner of the nursery gasped when I dropped him off this morning so hastily had to explain how it happened. What on earth's DH going to think I've been doing with the poor squidgy when he gets back!

Now I like cheese and marmite, but cheese and marmite pasty ... sounds .... interesting! Good for you that you're having that break, can't believe it's 28 weeks into your pregnancy already

I don't even want to think about food bills when mine are older. I do think boys eat more than girls but I'm with you Scorps on the eating front

My nn at home used to be 'Scoffer' and i got told to eat my plate if i was still hungry

LOL... my boys are always hungry. DS1 is so skinny the Paediatrician asked 'how is his eating now?' I said ' he eats like a horse' he said 'but he has always been so low on the charts'. I said 'hollow legs!!'.

Honestly, no wonder people get hacked off when proffesionals make snap judgements without even asking.

MIL warned me we would have to buy potatoes by the sack if my DH and his Brother were anything to go by and she was sooo right!

BR

Sal how could anyone say something so awful about a bereavement- both terrible situations, ridicluous to compare.

bit of excitement in our household, anyone want a dog?

hullo hullo! Two more sleeps before we're off to New Zealand..I'm in a whirl of open bags, mostly packed, some stuff hanging out of them. Every time I walk around the house I see more things to pick up and take to a bag.
Tomorrow I have at home and B is going to his childminder so I can finish off the final prep and clean the house.

I hope things go well for you and your mum when you're in SA, Sal.

PM, hope things are going ok and you're not dying of sleep deprivation (ok, so you probably are, but hope you're getting help and enjoying your little girl).

Love to all - wish me luck for the wedding (it's the 10th, and you're all invited for virtual champagne and cake)

Thanks everyone. Bloody hell, I'm a bunch of cheerfulness this week, aren't I?! Sorry.

Oh DoNot, poor little puppy! I'm just so glad for him that your paths crossed. He'll be fine tonight, especially taking into account he's probably been sleeping rough for quite a while. And from tomorrow, he will be cleaned, and will hopefully find a new family soon. We're not allowed dogs either, but would have loved a puppy for R.

Oh, and WHOO HOOO Ladybee! I can't believe it's that time already. Hope you have a good flight, and, more importantly - have a wonderful wedding! xxx

Ellie - are you rich yet??? I'd quite like to be friends with a fugitive.

Hello, strangers!

Sorry I've been AWOL for a while, have been v v busy. All our stuff is in the new house alongside DH, and me and George are safely settled at my mum & dad's for a while.

I've been lurking a bit, but haven't had many minutes to post. And then I didn't really know what to say, felt a bit 'me me me' and some of you were having horrid times so didn't feel right to just pop in, be self indulgent then clear off again!

George has suddenly started saying a few words, not ever so clear but we can tell that he's saying them. We have cheese (chz), pea, baby, and my favourite of all was his new one this evening, completely random but fab all the same, shark. Thought he was saying socks but then he brought his little book with fish in over, open to the shark page. Bless his funny little socks!

(Nobody tell Scorps, but I might have had a slight pink wool accident in John Lewis the other day... Shhh!!) Need to finish a blanket the same as Mol's first for a friend's baby due at the beginning of November, but then will get going. Can't wait!

Hey Knitter! Sorry for missing you on FB the other day - I always have a couple of tabs open on my laptop, so don't always notice a FB message. George sounds adorable - cannot believe he said "shark" already! Don't think R knows what he's saying, more random babbling on this side, I think.

You must be excited about your new place! When are you going back? Ge

And oh no no no, you can't go all manner-y on us now, you have to post on here as often as you can! (says she who has no manners and now feels slightly embarrassed because of said lack...)

Hey Sal!

I'll be more excited when we actually get back and I can finally unpack boxes and get things put away, but it is nice to have a bit of calm between the moving out and then the moving in. We're probably going to be here for about a month. I thought my parents would be driving me slightly potty by now, but they're being brilliant.

G does a LOT of random babbling too, he sounds like he's speaking a foreign language fluently, and gesticulates when he's speaking and everything. So funny!

He 'spoke' to DH om the webcam earlier and they were playing peepo, it was lovely!

Not many days left at work huh Sal? Do you have any plans for full time mummyness?