Dec 08 - 9 months in, 9 months out!

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Hope you don't mind the dodgy thread name but all our babies are 9 months old now or in the next few weeks

Veggie I think its because I can't post very regularly now, and I miss so much news I feel very rude coming on here and banging on about myself

I'm feeling quite stressed at the moment so am a bit sensitive...!

NJAN I feel like that too! Always so much news to catch up on and so hard to respond to everyone.

Veggie hope the triathlon goes well - what distance is it? I did a few tris back in the dim distant pre-DD past.

I thought she was teething yesterday - had dreadful night followed by very very grumpy day, but today she's fine. Maybe she was just off colour? I am beginning to wonder if the teeth will ever break through!

veggie good luck for today I hope it goes well. I am in complete awe of your athletic skills

NJAN there are times that I don't even try to catch up with this thread if I've been away for a few days. We are a very chatty bunch.

Bad night here DD unwell with cough,cold, fever and then DS up whining with I think teeth. Kiwi I'm with you I doubt they will ever appear!

I think our DC's must all be colluding we also a had an unsettled night def teeth here as we can see them almost poking through at the top. A little concerned they look massive and a bit worried DS2 will be a bit of a bucky beaver.

KP it was just a sprint my preferred distance is classic but I just don't get the time to train for them anymore, also I did a couple between DS1 & 2 and they hurt a lot more than they used to. I'm not sure of my time because my watch didn't start when I started the race (I pressed the wrong button) and so I only timed the bike and the run and even then I forgot to stop at the end. I'm pretty sure it wasn't a great time but it wasn't my worst time (that was a few years ago in Edinburgh when I was recovering from a shoulder injury and the race included cycling around and running up to Arthurs seat!). But it wasn't my best by a long way but with 11 extra kgs and several extra years not to mention 2 children and milky boobs I'm happy. I did enjoy competing. Everyone was very friendly on the course, the only annoyance was a guy on the swim who set off hell for leather at the start (it's a staggered start in the pool so he started 2 laps after me) then over took me the 10 laps later he completely died and I had to slow down and swim behind him until I had a chance to overtake which is difficult in a pool swim with 4 people in one lane.

NJAN I think it's lovely when posters do a little recap and include everyone in their post before posting about themselves but it's not compulsory and I certainly don't think any less of anyone if thty just launch into their own news esp if it's something stressful or upsetting, or exciting like Kayz DS2's steps for that matter. Gosh you should have read some of our antenatal posts many of mine where a string of letters incomprehensible words followed by 'I need coffee'

hey I've been on a thread for a girl called Disenchanted3 whose DH has left her and I think it might be our Disenchanted.

Veggie really well done today, gosh just reading about it is making me tired!

Hope those teeth appear soon Daisy and Kiwi. We had an unsettled night too, but not teeth - DD is a snotster and kept spluttering and sneezing, poor girl. Annoyingly, she didn't feed all night, so if she'd not been off colour I'd have had a full nights sleep

So sad about disenchanted, whoever she is. Has anyone seen the brak up? We watched it last night for some easy viewing, but it left us quite uneasy as the big row that leads to the break up is one DH and I have had a million times. We've been extra nice to each other today, but actually it was far better at putting the others point across than we are so it taught us a valuable lesson.

Hello girls,

Kayz - nice work on the theory test and go Dylan! Blimey!

Beans, it's lovely to hear from you again, glad things are ticketyboo with you.

Trace- very pleased to hear P is on the mend.

Well done today Veggie. I admire your energy. Oh gosh, I remember Disenchanted. Oh dear. Even if it isn't our one, what a rotten shame...

ZJ, oh crikey, I watched that film with DP last night. What a mistake. I never thought I'd end up siding with Jennifer Aniston in any film but I sat there on the sofa saying things like "you see?" to DP and he got a bit cross. And then we had a row in the middle of the night so things are a bit quiet today. Mind you. it was the last cricket fixture so we were with lots of other people so it's all just faded away. We have to make a special effort - not because we don't love each other but because we are so different and with different expectations and there are certain flashpoints that we have to watch. Er, I am not sure we are that good at it yet but I live in hope.

NJAN - you weren't self-obsessed at all. It's fine to talk about yourself, you know. Frankly, it's nice to get to know people a bit better. Heaven knows I talk about myself enough and I have no intention of cutting back on this - it certainly doesn't mean that I am not interested in others on here as I am, avidly. As to your local maternity care, yes, I don't just think you should complain, I think you must complain. It sounds a total disgrace and I am not surprised you are still upset, and it might help you feel better about it and process the upset in your mind if your complaint is registered. It is pressure that forces change. I was so terrified of maternity care in London I spent my savings on private care, but a lot of that was seeing how my sister had suffered with a difficult birth combined with deeply unsatisfactory care. And she is a nursing sister herself, in the NHS. This is not to say all NHS maternity provision is duff, obviously, as I do know many people who have had very positive experiences; but in some cases sheer staff shortage and, I want to say, even though it is taboo, a streak of seeming sadism in some midwives can make a challenging experience something worse.

I'm going to London for the day tomorrow - a spot of mooching round the Tate Modern and a nice lunch - but then I am coming back in the evening I think. Then I am off there again on Thurs to the book launch of a friend. DP is coming, he's never been to one before. I think they are one of those things that sound more glamorous than they actually are.

Still no word from work about improving my redundancy settlement, which is very ominous...I can't believe autumn is here. The Harvest Festival displays in the village church are beautiful and the hedgerows are groaning with elderberries and blackberries.

Oh, and WG, good luck with the Magic Sleep Lady this week. Right, must go to bed now...I am cold and tired!

Veggie It is our Disenchanted.

Hope you are all well! Off to Whitby today with Dad.

Hello all - another day at work today for me, so another chance to catch up before I get my train! Must try harder to get in some MN time in my day, but DS1 is running wild and DS2 is crawling very fast towards dangerous stuff as soon as I take my eyes off him

PD: hope you're feeling better about everything. Great news about your brother (I was reading backwards and when I heard about a funeral my heart was in my mouth) but so sad to hear about your friend. Thinking of you. I'm only working one day a week at the moment and have two child-free days at the beginning of Oct so let me know when you're free

WG: good luck on the sleep consultant and thanks for passing on good news of Spot.

Trace: glad P is better. How is work going?

LadyT: I'm in London today so in the unlikely event that you have some free time and are hanging around the Strand area let me know

Not much news here, DS2 actually had a pretty good night last night (well, slept from 10:30 til 3ish which is v good on recent form), plus we've persuaded our landlord to let us have a proper fire in the front room. Chimney has been swept, a grate installed and we get a lovely fire in the evenings. Quality of life has improved by a considerable amount. Only we are clearly freaks as no-one in the town will consider selling fireguards/fire irons/shovels before October

Better get the washing on the line and off to the train - can hopefully catch up a bit more later in the office.

Morning all poor little DS2 his teeth are on the brink and life is all very difficult at the moment he had a bad night and woke for the day at 6.45 which is quite early for him. He definitly wasn't happy about it as he rolled around for about 30 mins before that desperately trying to go back to sleep. He was now agitated for his nap so I bought up to bed and he just cried when I put him in his cot which he doesn't usually do, usually I sit with him we have a little chat then he lays down and goes to sleep but this time he just cried until I took him out and gave him a cuddle and now he has fallen asleep in my lap. I'm not sure whether to try to move him. I need to apply for some funding to train more BfN helpers in the area we are setting up the support group so we have more women to keep the group going but this entails having a chat to a BfN lady about numbers and I can't really do that here in the dark with poor little DS2 on my lap.

Lady have a lovely time at the Tate, oh how I love mooching around art galleries and finding funny little art inspired things in the gift shop I have many mugs with major works on them Gernica, a piece by Miro love 'em.

Kayz that's so sad it's her I can't imagine how horrible it must be, 3 kids and one only our DC's age!

Right gotta go and try to move this one I need my coffee.

Hello chaps

Has been a while - we did have a nice time away to start off with, but then I got ill, and my asthma kicked in and I ended up in hospital. V frightening. I get less and less able to deal with it since I've had children I think. Easier if you're just worried for yourself perhaps. Anyway. Am on the mend.

Have just about caught up with this thread...Trace I was frantically scrolling through for news about P's improvement. Must have been awful for you. Hope she's properly back to her perky self now.

LadyT I can't believe your work. They are clearly idiots and am sure will regret treating you like this. I really hope you get the money you need to give you lots of choices. Grr at them. Maybe write your book? We'd all buy it by the sackload am sure.

Oh and all you other rural abiders elderberries apparently are packed through with the good stuff that's in tamiflu. And makes rather nice jelly. Which I'm sure you've got time to make . If you can collar it at a harvest festival though...

Jolly I think your work are being really mean. Unnecessary . Hope they have a change of heart. On plus side if you do have to go away think of the sleep

Njan am sorry that happened to you with your DS. I think you should complain. It might sound stupid but 2.5 years after the fact I'm about to complain about how I was treated after DS was born. Things don't change if you don't make a fuss.

Veggie you are an inspiration. Am going to start running again. Hope DS2's teeth improve. They really do suffer with them don't they. Am also so impressed you're doing this BFN - so important. I often think that if I'd got better support when I had DS I wouldn't have had mastitis so badly.

PD am so pleased about your brother. Bloody hell though. What a couple of days you had. And hope your friends funeral was ok. Such a stupid thing to say - they never are ok are they, but I saw that you were thinking about music and I think it's a lovely thing to do. A girl at my school died and I think of her every time I hear a song she loved that they played at her funeral. Music really stays with you.

Effie your fire sounds lovely. DH and I had high ambitions of having a fire in this house until we realised that a smokeless zone means no fires (why isn't there a d'oh emoticon?)

Enjoy Whitby Kayz. And walking - wow

Good morning all,

veggie well done yesterday. I was hoping to get out for a veggie-inspired run this morning but alas I am full of cold and feel very unmotivated.

kayz forgot to say yesterday wowzers on the walking thats amazing. DS is now gradually getting the hang of pulling himself up to standing. Much to DD's horror as he usually does in right in front of the tv as she is watching Pepa Pig.

effie I love an open fire am very and will be more so as the cold nights draw in

DD still very poorly, so took her to the Dr's this morning he suspects she has a viral infection in the ear/throat area but has given AB's as she has a chest infection too. Still she's not that ill as she had a doughnut when we got back as "the Dr said i had to because the medicine be disgusted" She has a point

DS first tooth looks like its almost through, maybe this is why he has had such whingy/grumpy nights. I hope he doesn't suffer this much with every tooth

Oh and urbanewarrior I forgot to say 'hello'. How awful having to go to the hospital whilst away but good to hear you are getting better.

PD forgot to say thanks for the campsite recommendation btw. it looks great and have added it to favourites. Will definately be trying it out at some point.

daisy: hope your DD is better soon. Didn't your DS have a bad chest infection as well? Hopefully they are working through all the winter bugs early and you'll all be disgustingly healthy for the rest of the year

Urbane: I think you can have fires in a smoke free zone as long as you use smokeless fuel, but you'll have to check on that one. DH has ordered a toasting fork and is muttering about muffins. Oh, and he has made some robust looking elderberry wine, glad to hear it will ward off the germs (though that could be down to the alcohol content). We also have plum (painstripper atm, could mature OK) and blackberry (sweet and good taste but very strong). We will be glowing in the dark like the ready brek kid.

The other thing I have discovered is that our (good) local butcher does home deliveries. How great is that? I assume he has a van rather than a small boy on a bike but still.

ooh have got as far as Beans' pictures - she is gorgeous! Your profile claims you don't have any children though!

Evenin all, well have just waves DH goodbye and have one in the bath and one in cot almost asleep. DH is off to Cheltenham for a big exam tomorrow morning it's a recertification for a big security qualification which means he is cleared to do government and MOD work and basically anything that means looking at sensitive information and promising he won't sell it to ITV disclose. Then after that he is going down to London to stay with friends and then flies out early on Wednesday to Amsterdam to meet with the guy about the big job over there. He is arming himself with lots of info on pay for similar level jobs over there so he can ask for lots of money.

Oh gotta go gotta put the other one to bed back later.

Bloody hell, a record tonight both DC's tucked up by 6.45pm!!!! DS has only had one 1/2 hour nap all day so was exhausted and DD declared she needed a lie down before we had even read her bedtime story I blame the germs of the daisy household! Here's hoping for a better night for all!

Yes effie DS did have a bad chest infection, in fact he still hasn't stopped coughing. BTW I am now at your homemade wine as well as your fire...

hello
Might have to dash off any minute as my friend is coming round and we're off for a run
Big news chez Traceface is that Lucy's first tooth came out today! She has put it under her pillow with a ribbon, a penny and a feather, all of which she would like the tooth fairy to have . Really hope the tooth fairy remembers to pop in...! Not sure what the going rate is at the mo - maybe 50p? I think she used to leave 10p for me!
Phoebe is fine now, thank you all, although her night times are as bad as ever - in fact worse than they've been for ages - just waking pretty much every hour and not settling even with feeds, just crying and not wanting to cuddle even. Not sure what it's all about but I'm hoping she'll settle back down soon. On the plus side she's had another fab day at nursery . Work is good for me - lovely colleagues and all very interesting - so much to learn!!! I'm surprised how much time it takes up though . I feel like from 6.30am till 7pm it's absolutely non-stop, then even when they're in bed I still have packed lunches to do and any washing etc which I used to do in the day...

ooh my running pal is here...maybe back later for some personals if I'm alive!

lal - so sorry you've been so ill and I'm glad you're on the mend.

Still sitting at work, waiting for comments on something...hmm. Anyway, sneaky chance to mumsnet.

daisydora, trace and anyone I've missed, hope DCs are doing better. urbane, sorry to hear you have been unwell.

Kayz - hooray for passing the theory test! And double hurrah for DS - that's amazing!

veggie - as always I'm awed - hope the ride went well. Lots of luck to your DH as well - all sounds v exciting.

Beans - lovely to see you on here and the pic of your gorgeous DD

LadyT - hope its been a lovely day in London - I do envy you the chance to mooch round galleries - I have tried it with my two, but sadly it does involve a lot of running around after a toddler down enticing gallery hallways.

Much sympathy for those suffering with teething - we're in the same boat. DS is being uncharacteristically grumpy - its funny though I completely failed to twig that that's probably what's doing it until my mum pointed out the obvious....

Hooray for the run Trace, how did it go?

Urbane sorry you ended up in hospital on your hols did you manage to have fun for your non hospitalized part of the holiday.

Yay for sleeping by 6.45pm sleeping children hooray!

Trace DS2 keeps waking up often inconsolable lately after being a sleeping through baby I'm sure it's teeth, his 2 front ones are nearly through. Not sure the going rate for teeth these days but I think 50p is a good deal. Funny we are talking about new teeth when Lucy is losing hers.

Sorry xposted Invis, a bit evil that your still a work, hope the comment doesn't take too long. LOL at the chasing toddlers around galleries.

Hello everyone, I feel v and sheepish for my absence, thanks trace for missing me and to WG for passing on the news I am still around. THings have been somewhat chaotic around here, but in a good way. As WG mentioned, I am off to Brighton next month! V excited, we're actually doing it instead of talking about it and have a house and everything.

As for Mr T, he is indeed still snotty and quite chesty at the moment, but otherwise quite delightful. I am love love loving spending time with him at the moment, he just makes me laugh so much. I can see why some people say 9 months is such a great age. His sleeping is comically variable - will go one night waking up 7 times to the next one sleeping through, but am dealing with it much better, prob thanks to the ads. Not crawling, but bum shuffling, only half a tooth through. 10 kilos, so still quite a butterball. And that's us.

Sorry for lack of personals, am too overwhelmed with all I've missed out on to catch up properly but Promise to do Better. .

Oh god, just reread that and realised how smug it sounds. We've got our fair share of ishoos but I've caught myself in a good mood. .