March babies part II

[misdee]

Ava 8 weeks today

Why do you think babes stick their fingers, hand or fist in their mouths? I thought it was a new product of their hand and eye co-ordination, or possibly for comfort, surely not teething yet?!! but I doubt hunger... I'm so fed up with strangers telling me "Ooo look she's starving" She's not bloody starving, most times I have just fed her! Sometimes she even makes herself sick by shoving her hand too far in

Any Ideas?

xx

hi guys i am new to mn and had my baby in march aswell. just thought i'd join in if u'll have me. i was actually wondering the sane thing about shoving fist into mouth. my ds does it aswell and almost always makes himself sick.

I agree about the hand sucking thing - it's a developmental stage and not related to hunger/need for solids or anything like that. Think it's largely comfort, but the teeth can start shifting around now so don't rule out teething - they can give problems ages before they cut through.

Good luck 3mummy in getting Faith's bedtime earlier - I love my evenings and am quite happy to still feed at 2am/3am rather than get a full nights sleep but lose the evening. Does she have a bedtime routine you can use? With dd1 we used to get her down quite late but used the routine itself to gradually pull it earlier just by doing the bath earlier.

Rebecca is 10 weeks 4 days

my ds is 9 weeks yestarday and thanfully his sleep patters are not that bad. if he has had a feed around 10 then he sleeps through till 5:30 when he'll be wide awake ready to play.

Thanks zoec, I'm going to give it a go starting tonight. Do you all think bath, feed, bed is a good routine? I used to do this with DD1 until she developed excema and the doc told me babies don't need to be bathed daily ("they don't get that dirty") and the water was drying out her skin. I know we can get lots of oily type stuff to put in the bath these days, but I'm still not sure. I thought I'd be so much more confident and kind of know it all third time round, but to be honest it almost feels like the first time in a lot of respects - All three of my daughters are different from eachother - even hair colour, and although they all have blue eyes, they are all a very different shade of blue! - So their personalities differ too, and their temperaments as babies also.

I too have been fooled by the hand sucking thing. I've been fooled into feeding her because other people are convinced she's starving, like you Tamula, sometimes I've only just fed her "but then you never really know if she's finished if you are breastfeeding!" I'm sure I've made things worse by over feeding and making her windy .

I have days when I feel I instinctively know what Faith wants/needs, I seem to understand every little murmer and cry, I know when she's hungry and tired, and when she just wants to sit in her bouncy chair and watch her sisters . Then there are the days when I have other people around who like to put their twopenneth in with "oh she must be hungry", "oooh that's a tried cry!" and such like - at which point I lose all self confidence (she's my child ffs!) and go along with all suggestions.... Faith ends up crying more and I end up feeling like a bad mummy!

You see deep (deep) down I know I'm right when it comes to looking after Faith, I just lack confidence in front of other people - I know I shouldn't care what they think!

Misdee - how's serena after her chocolate? Hope she's ok and you've calmed down! You have my sympathy - I caught FIL trying to give DD1 lager when she was just a few months old!! Bleedin idiot! And MIL (one of them) trying to give DD1 honey when she was 5mths old! How the hell did my DH survive his upbringing??!!

My appologies for my ranting, but it is nice to get it all off my chest - and you are all such good listeners !!

By the way jambot, my FIL spends half the year out in South Africa, I'll have to check where - he stays whith some friends of his that own a hotel/b&b. He loves it out there.

Hi and welcome March29 !! Are you addicted yet?

Millie will be 13 weeks tomorrow and does the fist sucking thing, I think its for comfort.

She does have a sort of routine going, she feeds 3-3/12 hourly during the day and has 1 night feed usually between 4-5am and then up at about 8am.

She is going to sleep in the evening at 7.30 to 8pm and then has a late feed at 10.30ish, we are training her at the mo to go to sleep in her basket which she seems to be getting the hang of, mainly becuase we can gently rock it, problem is that she hardly fits in it now and we can't rock the cot!!! Took me 45 mins today but she eventually went off at 2pm and is just stirring now. The daytime naps are all over the place, I plan on doing a stricter routine during the summer hols when I am not restricted by school/playgroup runs.

I have to say that it is hard work with 3 but I am really enjoying Millie, it was definatley the right decision to go for no3, even dh agrees he loves coming home to chaos because he gets daddies special smiles (pass the bucket!!)

Hope everyone else is enjoying their babies, I love looking at the photo's on photobucket they are all so cute!

Have to agree with you 3mummy about the daily bathing thing, I bathe Ava every other evening and I have been known to 'forget' a day she gets a top n tail daily and very young babies dont actually get terribly dirty, if at all in my opinion.

Also the water in the UK is quite hard, esp in London! So I think their skin must dry out more so.

Hi Girly glad all is well with you and Millie - What a great name!

3mummuy, I just tell people - kindly - what the actual reason is for whatever behaviour Ava displays, I went to collect a mate from hospital recently and a nurse commented on her being hungry because she had her fist halfway down her throat! I soon set her straight, she also wanted to stroke and hold Ava but call me neurotic but I didnt let her!!! I was too worried about MRSA bugs and told her so I must have washed my hands with that no water cleanser thingy about a trillion times hahahaha! The nurse did understand but shuffled off rather quickly after that!!

hi 3mummy thanks. yes i am definitely addicted. i find myself on here last thinkg before going to bed and first thing in the morning!!!

Sorry March29,

I realise i didnt extend a warm welcome to you

Hello to you and babe

Tam n Ava Xx

Millie 13 weeks tomorrow (Girly)
ds is 9 weeks yestarday (March29)
Rebecca is 10 weeks 4 days (ZoeC)
Ava 8 weeks today (Tamula)
Faith 11wks tomorrow (3mummy)
Harry 12 weeks and 3 days (Popsycal)
Niklas 3 months 1 week and 2 days (Leogaela)

Hello and welcome March 29 - nice to have you here! Toby is 9 weeks 2 days today. Have had a lovely day with him...even though the nights are still a bit rough, he is definitely becoming more pleasant to be around generally and is chatting and smiling loads. And this morning he slept til 7.30am, which set me up well for the day!!

3mummy and others with fist suckers - Toby does this too and although I have thought 'hunger' in the past, I've now definitely decided it's just a comfort / "oh blimey, I've got hands!" thing. 3mummy, you sound just like me - days when I'm on my own with Toby are great and I feel full of confidence that I know what he wants; when other people give me their 'views' I tend to quiver in my boots and start thinking I must be doing things 'wrong'. Must learn to ignore them!

On the subject of bedtime routine, we've got quite a definite one with Toby now. Bath, dressed, bottle then bed. We aim to get him to bed at around 7pm and it can sometimes take up to an hour for him to actually sleep - but it does give us most of an evening together.

Well, waffle over..hope all are well and the good sleepers (grrrrr...lol) continue to be angelic

Millie 13 weeks tomorrow (Girly)
ds is 9 weeks yestarday (March29)
Rebecca is 10 weeks 4 days (ZoeC)
Ava 8 weeks today (Tamula)
Faith 11wks tomorrow (3mummy)
Harry 12 weeks and 3 days (Popsycal)
Niklas 3 months 1 week and 2 days (Leogaela)
Toby 9 weeks 2 days (KerryJ)

serena is errrrrrr, oh pants, no idea how many weeks. she was born on 21st feb if anyone can figure out for me, many thanks.

We bath both dd's every day as it's part of the bedtime routine and I daren't miss it!

Millie 13 weeks tomorrow (Girly)
ds is 9 weeks yestarday (March29)
Rebecca is 10 weeks 4 days (ZoeC)
Ava 8 weeks today (Tamula)
Faith 11wks tomorrow (3mummy)
Harry 12 weeks and 3 days (Popsycal)
Niklas 3 months 1 week and 2 days (Leogaela)
Toby 9 weeks 2 days (KerryJ)
Serena is 13 weeks and 5 days (misdee)

... I had to add the mum's names in as well as I sometimes forget..!

Welcome march29!

We bath Niklas about twice a week. I think its enough. If he does a huge messy poo then I bath his bum in the sink. Otherwise clean him up with a wet flannel.

Niklas is another hand and thumb sucker! I guess we have confirmed its totally normal and not a sign of hunger!

Mummy3 at your ILs! Honey is something that can be dangerous for a young child isn't it?

I like the evenings as well, but Niklas usually falls asleep when I feed him around 7/7.30, i put him into bed feeling all pleased, but he ALWAYS wakes up about an hour later with too much energy nad then takes ages to go back to sleep again!

Jambot - my sister was in cape town (Constantia) for 6 months the year before last, I went to visit over christmas and new year. Really loved it.

It seems to be busy in here today,

Welcome March29.

Help me out here - its now 9.45 and Niklas is in his bed, but still wide awake! How the hell do I get him ot go to sleep earlier??????

3mummy - I guess the feeling more confident when we are on our own with our babies is because it doesn't matter if we have to try more than one thing before we work out what is wrong with them, in front of ohter people it makes me feel as if I am not doing a good job with my baby if I get it wrong! Stick with your instincts!

Norash, I worked out that yesterday was a bit quiet because it was a bank holiday in the UK!

serena is lucky if she gets a bath once a week . longest has been 3 weeks lol. i do wash her each day tho, just she doesnt really need a full bath unless she pukes up. oooo can you tell she is the 3rd child. with dd1 i bathed her daily, with dd2 it was every other day, now dd3 hardly gets a splash lol.

Serena is currently sitting in her bumbo playing with her baby gym. i say playing but what she is actually doing is chewing her dress .

misdee same here with baths....

we're just dirty lol.

oh and i dont use soap or shampoo on her.