Sept 08: The End of an Amazing year

[Pacita]

Here we are: the thread that will see our LO's first birhtday...

Hello ladies...

meglet how scary for you!...my eldest nephew had fits for his first couple of years and they were truly awful to watch (I was holding him once when he had a grand mal siezure) His were febrile convulsions - due to high temp - and he hasnt had one in years. I also had them when teething, apparently. They are very common but that doesnt make it any less scary. Well done for staying so calm!

DG Are you very disappointed? Are you properly TCC? Sorry, ben away from the thread for a while and not quite up to speed!

Been out today with Toby to a local castle to meet with the baby massage mums....and he will now walk quite happily holding one of my hands, but if I let go, he will toddle 2 or 3 steps and fall dramatically onto his (admittedly very large) bottom!

He is a real character but he is starting to get a bit tantrumish...squeals and all sorts!
Very at the LO who says thank you!!! I think toby said "bird" a couple of days ago, but it could be wishful thinking....

Hope you (and LO)are all well

Oo cakes!! I want to make a novelty cake too! Might see if I can find a cake recipe online for something fairly easy like a big number 1. Or failing that perhaps I could just go a bit crazy with the decor and -buy- make some ITNG characters to stick on top of a garden type scene.

I will probably end up buying some ready made cake from sainsbo's. But it's nice to have worthy ambitions.

Dh called the pn about the night wakings, they said to keep on doing the same thing and hopefully after a week he'll right himself. We'll see.

bec Nice to see you back. We are casually ttc, ie am not charting or obsessively counting cycle days or peeing on opks. Am also fine if it takes several months for it to happen as I haven't got a permanent job at the mo, so not severely disappointed if it doesn't happen this month.

Still a bit confused about where exactly I am in my cycle. Mainly because I've not really been paying much attention, but I think I'll give it a couple of weeks before wandering towards the hpt again. Sorry for boring you all with talk of Am I aren't I, the ttc threads are full of rampant shaggers comparing how often their jumping on their dps. I don't want to go there.

I was wondering about cakes too. Hopefully if you really want to make all of those send one up to me once you're done

After the submarine I made for ds1's 3rd birthday in April I've hada few comments about what I'm going to make this time. But as we're not having a party and ds2 won't care itdoesn't seem worth going ove the top. I've got a book full of kids cakes that are all meant to be easy but most look hard or at least very time consuming.
DS1s cake took 3 evenings and cost a fortune. Just the tin was something like £16! So ds2s cake has to be an oval cake!

Had another estate agent round earlier, valued it the same as the 1st guy so have cancelled tomorrows 1 and think we've decided who to go with. Its so hard though knowing wat the best thing to do is.
meglet we're looking for an extra bedroom and extra living space too. Have seen a few online that have a very small 3rd bedroom but then have a conservatory and some with 3 decent sized bedrooms but not much more downstairs space. Not going to see any yet though.

I am excited by the talk of birthday cakes. I might make the most of not being at work and see if I can make my first ever birthday cake. I can do pudding-y things, but nothing grown up like cake.

I am pleased to say that all is quiet in meglet towers this evening, we need a few days / weeks of boring .

becaroo Toby sounds so grown up now he can walk holding on with one hand!

I am lucky to live in a v posh area (in the tiniest terrace house in the world) with two cake shops, both of which rent out cake tins in various sizes. Terribly middle class.

Hello ladies,

Thought I would do a quick check in to see if you are all ok.

Meglet Sorry to hear about your Dad

Well I am in my second week back at work and it's so hard. I have to go full time (for now anyway) as my large organisation is really not very family friendly at all. I'm keeping an eye out for something part time and hoping something comes up soon. A job did come up locally working 2 days a week and I duly applied for it, and then they withdrew the job

And I still have not got a date to exchange contracts for our new house or sold my flat .

And we have a walker too! She has come on leaps and bounds over the last two weeks and loves to be on two feet.

Take care all and will check in again soon x

Morning all! Just dropped C off at nursery and now back home ensconced (sp?) in my office. Drop offs getting better every day, thank goodness.

Long post - sorry!
For those following the wedding of stepDD & related saga, it took place last Friday and was great success for stepDD. DP texted me all day saying how much he missed us both and he skipped the evening do to come home and put C to bed (his choice, I said I was fine if he wanted to stay and see her first dance with new hubby).

He arrived home with 2 wedding cupcakes and a favour box that his DD had given him for me, and I got lovely text from the bride & groom saying how sorry they were that we'd had to miss it.
I had been very upset with MIL as she did not seem at all bothered that C wasn't going to her own sister's wedding, but it turns out that it was just crap communication decision by MIL.
Basically, DP's ex had said I couldn't go but agreed C could and this is what we were told. But in the week before the day MIL refused to look after C while DP did his father of the bride bit - my hope was that C would sit with her nana and then join DP for most of ceremony & photos.
I was so hurt that MIL didn't seem to care and whilst I didn't feel able to tackle her as she looks after C once a week, I had decided to write C a letter for when she's older explaining things. it really broke my heart that no one in the family seemed to give 2 hoots that we weren't going.

Well, DP finally found out what had happened. MIL had bumped into DP's ex on bus a couple of weeks before wedding. They had words (friendly ones) and ex said out of the blue that she had changed her mind and she couldn't cope seeing C at the wedding, so she was withdrawing the invite. Comments about mad, selfish & cruel ex's - feel free. i just thank god C is not older as to invite a child then uninvite her - what if she had understood?! Ex didn't know if we'd gone to alot of trouble organinsing C's attendance etc but just changed her mind. She also said she'd told her DD that she now wouldn't come if me and C went, rather than just me.

Long story, but DD and her fiance then went away for a couple of weeks (they volunteer at a kids camp in Wales), so didn't see us. The rest of the family, in their wisdom, decided that they wouldn't tell DP and I (no idea why, yet to find out) and MIL should just refuse to take C - I suspect they thought it would be kinder??!!

So upshot is, I am happier as it wasn't really MIL being horrible but FFS, just talk to us! In 6 years I have never ever stormed round to see DP's ex, despite abusive phone calls, texts and inconveniences. I would not have done this time either - it just helps to know it's down to ex and not MIL. DP's close relatives did make a few barbed comments in her earshot at the wedding too - along the lines of 'oh, yes, you have two daughters don't you!', bless em.

Sorry for long post, as ususal. DP lucky to be away from ex - evil woman.

ooh, and I gave C a hairbrush yesterday and asked her to 'brush your hair' and she put the hairbrush on top of her head!!!

Question - C has so much hair, we have to use the hairdryer after the bath. Is there anything wrong with this? We use the coolest setting and it doesn't bother her.
Also, do you only introduce a pillow when you move into a full bed?

Does anyone remember johnworf who had katherine at 24 weeks in May 08? Just look at this wondeful photo! www.mumsnet.com/Profile?nick=johnworf
Isn't life amazing and wonderful and thank god for good hospitals.

aaaaaw, IMO jw was in the paper the other week. Katherine is a beauty . Bloody brilliant what modern medical care does these days.

We went to baby clinic with dd this morning, probably the last time we'll bother going. She's just over 20lb and was trying to crawl off the change table.

If you go onto JW's photos you can see baby Katherine's whole life. It is amazing. The photos of her in October made me realise just how tiny she was as in those she looks like a new born but is 6 months old!!

IOM we only gave ds1 a pillow when he went into a bed and even then it was only when he had a cold to start with to prop him up a bit. I don't think they ever need to have 1.

I'm feeling very pleased with myself. 1st estate agent yest offered us commission of 1.75% (having already reduced it from 2% without me saying anything), the 2nd one said 1.5% when I told him what the 1st had offered then when the 1st then went down to 1.5 I got the 2nd guy down to 1.25% and told him he had a deal. Have never haggled over anything important before and that should save us about £1000

3pm estate agent comes to do the paperwork

3.45pm estate agent phones to ask if he can show someone round tomorrow!!! (house not even officially on market as HIP not done yet)

oh dear meglet, so sorry!...I missed the news! Hoping your dad OK x

I am so tired, I could cry. This whole having 2 periods a month which last on average 2 weeks each is battering me dowwn now Going for a scan when we get back next week (lots of gynae problems in my family) The GP is pressuring me to have a coil fitted, but really dont want one, cant have pill due to hemi-plegic (sp?) migraines and the other option is surgery (ablation) which means no more babies ...sigh. When is life going to get easier? I know what you mean when you say you need a bit of boring meglet!

Sorry havent been on for a while, but either been away, or just too plain tired to log on the PC

Cakes: I made ds1's 1st and 2nd b day cakes and feel very guilty that Toby is getting a shop bought one, but I havent got the energy to stand and bake the damn thing at the moment!! His tea party is having a jungle animal theme (ds1's idea of course!) and I need to find an animal (preferably jungle animal) cake...any of you know where I can get one?

Can you BELEIVE the pics of Katherine???? So, so lovely. Sniff.

Love to all x

A had his first school trip yesterday! The baby room at nursery went to the station - about 100 yards from the nursery. And then to the bus garage!!

He's loving nursery but is a bit tired and grouchy in the evenings. And after the first full day when he zonked out for over 12 hours at night, hasn't slept that well.

My work is going well - my manager has a 5-week old and is in a daze. I'm fine with lots of coffee, just paranoid I'll get my days mixed up and forget to pick A up from nursery or on a Tues go to pick him up and they won't have him!

The carpenter came round to start the bannisters. Yes, this was meant to be done in April...

Just love those pics of Katherine, can't believe how small she was and how well she has grown.

I too am starting to think about a cake. Made DD1 and DS their first b'day cake and quite a few after that. Haven't baked for a while which is probably why DD1 keeps showing me shop bought ones.
Was thinking just a figure 1. We have a cake shop which rents cake tins so will have a look and see how much.

Only 3 weeks left before the kids go back to school and we can try and get Robyn in a routine again. She is struggling at the mo as we don't do a lot with DS's autism so some days we don't get out at all. Also he is really noisy and she can't always get off to sleep during the day. She finally went to sleep tonight at 10.30. Due to a mixture of biting, too hot and having her tea at 7pm after a late nap.

Nap wasn't her fault, we had to pop out to the hardware shop and on the way back our street was cordoned off as alledgedly (well according to a local 10 year old) one of our neighbours had robbed a post office with a gun
We had seen the cop cars and helicopters about but didn't know why until we tried to get home and the cops turned us back. He said the guy might have a gun but they weren't sure so we had to keep back whilst they searched his house.
We were waiting for about 40 mins before they let us take the long way round and I could finally give robyn a nap
It was a bit scary but will probably be nothing when we read the paper tomorrow.

Take it everyone's out enjoying the sunshine today then? No posts today.

We went to a Lido this morning, was like being on holiday, it's very hot here. Shame the pool water was freezing though.
Have spent the afternoon cleaning for a viewing this eve and the photos being taken tomorrow.

I've just had the fully expected but much dreaded phonecall to say that my friend lost her fight against cancer and died this afternoon. She was a Christian and I am fully confident that she is in heaven now and free from her pain. I'm sure our church will do a lot to support her husband and kids but it is not going to be easy for them, I can't begin to imagine the pain he is now feeling, although mixed with relief that she is no longer suffering. Amazingly her parents have been staying at a local hotel three or four nights a week since last Christmas, and the hotel recently told them they could have their room full time for free until the end of September.

ponymum I don't know when the funeral will be but if its wednesday then I'm afraid our playdate will have to be postponed again.

carrie. I saw your facebook status and guessed that's what it was about but couldn't think of anything to say. It's good her husband and kids have the church there, that will help them get through it although I can't imagine how awful it must be for them.

oh carrie . The poor family. How heartbreaking.

My heart goes out to them, Carrie. I guess it puts all the petty woes that we have daily into perspective. Wishing them all the support that no doubt good friends like you will be giving. xxxx

Oh carrie I am so sorry.

Oh carrie, I'm so so sorry to hear that.

Carrie so sorry to hear.

carrie So sorry to hear this. xx