Sept 08: The End of an Amazing year

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Here we are: the thread that will see our LO's first birhtday...

ponymum you should totally keep that bookstart pack - you know if you give it back you'll never get another one when she's actually 18m!

poxtola - if you have taught languages had you considered tutoring on an Open University entry level course - they do languages for beginners and the work is mainly in your own time at home with occasional evening/weekend tutorials? I've applied to them and have an interview in October (for the entry level Maths course)

getting this on my threads..

off to hospital tomorrow so I can't concentrate on anything, except mn .

Good luck meglet!!

Hey meglet! All the best for tomorrow.

Go meglet go!!

It'll all be fine.

thank you . Its going to hurt and I'm sure I'll feel like crap for a few days, but I'm looking on the bright side, lots of sleep, no nappies and as I won't really be eating for a while I might lose the last bit of mummy tummy.

DD can cruise beautifully now, she crawls at full speed across the room, then pulls herself up and shuffles along the furniture.

Meglet we are thinking of you
Newlark Great idea. Thanks. Hope you get it in October
Debi University material yes, but not a physicist

Good luck for today Meglet. Fingers crossed for you.

Hurrah on the job offer Hopefully!

Sorry your dh didn't get the job Debi. It's their loss and there WILL be a better one around the corner.

An unsettled night here. I think more teeth might be on the way. Can't wait

Best wishes Meglet and to MrDebi.
Congrats Hopefully.

The stick says I'm not pregnant.
MrNC should stop working all hours tomorrow (1 day off in last 3 weeks, home at 10pm yesterday) so might be able to do something about that...

A is trying to stand and move, but can't figure out what to do with the limbs he picks up. It's clearly terribly hard work!

NC

maybe next month nc and have fun trying

this job and holiday stuff is getting stressful. Phoned BA just now and discovered that if dh doesn't fly out with us his return flight is automatically cancelled! Good job I phoned. So we've had to book another return flight. Original flights cost £140 each, his new flight has cost nearly £300 and we only got £30 back from the original flight!
And all to go to a job interview that he might not even get.

And I've got to drive from the airport to the villa on my own, scary!

Ah crap, going back to work has not resulted in lots more MN time, despite me working from home. So not caught up with this thread, let alone finished the old one. I will do it though!!

To cover everything, hooray to those feeling good/have good news. Commiserations to those feeling down/with not so good news.

Good & bad news here - working from home for the next few weeks while I catch up, plus have every Friday off on annual leave. C has settled v well with MIL, but not so much at nursery. She still wails when I leave her and as I have fairly crap memories from childhood, I think 'she's sitting there crying for her mummy and feels all alone' (which is what actually happened to me).
So much support from people on here and in RL but I still end up crying everytime I drop her off.

I popped to Asda at lunchtime and found myself following the trolleys with babies in them just to see how cute they were. It's hard just having a few hours a day with C, especially like last night when she didn;t want her tea and threw it everywhere - it's hard not to get frustrated.

But, working mum soldiers on. Put new photo on my profile - it's now my screensaver in work.

Bookmarking but nothing to tell.

Oh and DP's older DD is getting married in a few weeks. Her mum, his ex, has said if I go, she won't, so I'm not going. We're all a bit sad about it (incl DP's DD, who has brought the wedding forward by a year so she can escape from her mum... don't ask - she can be a foolish 19 yr old!) but the ex did say that C could go.
I'm not sure whether the ex is devious enough to realise I'm unlikely to want C there all day without me, especially as DP has father of the bride responsibilities so likely C will be minded by other relatives all day.
I feel guilty as I don't want to stop C going to her half-sister's wedding but I'd be gutted to miss out on a day with her, plus I'd worry about her not coping without me in a very unusual environment, ie it's not nursery or MIL's house with a cot etc etc
Any thoughts oh wise women?

How old is C? Are there other people there who she knows and would look out for her?

Sunshine she's 10m, just last week. I trust SIL and MIL but SIL has 2 of her own and it's the first wedding of the family, so I'm whilst I'm sure MIL would be happy to look after her, it would mean she can't relax at her first grandaughter's wedding. MIL has also never looked after C anywhere but home and has only ventured out in pushchair for an hour or so, so has no experience of looking after her in a big hotel with few baby facilities.
To top it all, C still has crippling separation anxiety, so there's every chance she'll just bawl through it all.

I may be looking for excuses not to let her go though - my head says 'don't be silly, step-DD's mum has every right to put herself first', my heart says ' dear lord, what a sad woman. There is no way I'd ever make DD go through this and there is no way DD is going anywhere like a wedding without me. I shall now stamp my feet and feel sorry for myself that I'll miss out on the wedding of the year, whilst all the other relatives wonder where I am!!!!', IYSWIM - bit extreme but making the point

Oh, no other relatives know we won;t be there yet, not even MIL!

iom do you know if dp's dd wants her there? If she's not fussed then maybe she's better off with you if dp will be busy all day. Is the wedding nearby? Could C go to the ceremony and stay for photos if that's what the bride wants and then you pick her up?

And we can't see your recent photo, your profile doesn't seem to be public.

Debi, updated profile - you can see it now!! Oops.

And DP's DD would sort of like her there but as she's only known her 10months I don't think she's too fussed. Problem is, I'm not allowed within 100ft of the wedding so can't pick her up as DP's ex really really hates me. We've never met but she's convinced herself DP started seeing me before they separated and nothing will change her mind on this.

DP's DD brought up the subject of me coming over 6 months ago and at first, ex wouldn;t even entertain the idea of C being there. It's taken them 6 months to get her to agree to C being there but not me (which is why I wonder if she agreed to it cos she knows a 10m old normally needs its mum)
Ex threatened that if I am there, she will leave. Wot do ya do, life hey.

DS was putting up a struggle upstairs. Poor thing . He's not been himself today. For some reason he's not been putting weight on his right foot. There's no swelling, bruising or any redness that I can see anywhere on his foot or leg. The only thing I think it can be is his big toenail. It came off last week so I cut it back so he wouldn't snag it on anything. The nail growing underneath is a bit distorted looking, but no redness or anything.

I'm going to see how it is tomorrow before going to the out of hours doc (no appointments at my GPs till Friday). Can't face sitting in a virus-filled room next to flu victims if it's not a real emergency.

But poor little thing hasn't walked as much as he normally does today, hence not going to sleep so easily.

iom I really think it would be strange to send a 10 mth old baby to a wedding without her mum. If you can't go, it seems perfectly reasonable that C can't go either. Why don't you arrange with your DP's DD to have some photos with C at a separate time? Your DP's ex sounds awful but she is the mother of the bride, so kind of does have prior claim. I hope you plan something nice to do for the day instead, but I think the dignified thing to do is to stay away and have a lovely day with C.

IOM - I would agree with Ponymum.

This crawling malarky is making me v frazzled. It makes ds very tired and hungry, however he doesn't want to stop for either - cue lots of wailing even though he's knackered and starving.

He's also crying or grumbling every few minutes as he's either getting his fingers caught in something or bumping his head on something - usually the floor.

This to will pass.

v cute iom and so grown up looking.
If you can't go near the wedding I agree with ponymum too.

After making final decision on ds2 birthdy present yest aft I thought I might as well order it in case it took ages to find and come (birthday only couple of weeks after get back from hol). Well it arrived today at lunchtime! Fast service. Was from kiddicare website.

iom fwiw I would only send C to the wedding for a few hours and have someone bring her home, otherwise I wouldn't let her go at all. I hope your DP's ex mellows with time...it's really not fair on your DD or her DD to cause such a fuss.

nc sorry it's not happened yet. Gotta keep on trying!

Becaroo Scarborough has loads to do but it is really hilly.
There is a hill train down to the beach which helps as the road are really steep. There is a sealife on the north beach.
Open top bus rides along the seafront.
Scarborugh Castle (again a bit steep to get to)
Kinderland, a huge playground for kids
A water fun slide pool place near the sealife centre
A train which runs from the sealife centre to a babylon garden type place which is really peaceful and pretty. There is a lake and boats and a band playing.