Sept 08: The End of an Amazing year

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Here we are: the thread that will see our LO's first birhtday...

It made my period coming back slightly more bearable

lots of toddling and falling onto bums here - very sweet. Also lots of new noises - different raspberries, a soft scream , click ... all charming. And more teeth

Envying your garden ponymum!

Had a break at MrNC's family house, which was sort of relaxing unlike last time - A ignored the dogs totally and they ignored him. He loved the long hall to scamper in and the garden. SIL babysat so MrNC and I had dinner out together! Lovely meal if a bit pricey.

A has first full day of nursery tomorrow. He's been a bit grouchy today, I think the heat and got nap disrupted at lunchtime. Hope he's OK tomorrow.

Hello everyone...back from hols. Lovely weather but sadly Toby decided to give up sleep whilst we were there - 3 nights he was still up at 10pm Am VERY tired now!

starlight sounds lovely (the weekend not the week ahead)!

We've also had a lovely weekend of garden centre shopping, pub lunch, birthday party and finally a bit of gardening. DS has granted us two lie-ins this weekend which has been bliss (although I realise it is only because he is unwell that he is sleeping more).

Isn't it SunshineMummy who is getting hitched in NYC?

Mooncup...hmm, not sure about that. What does one do when out n about? Empty it into the loo and pop it back in then wet wipes for your hands?

DS is now on ABs for his persistant temperature, which has now dropped a bit. So just hoping his appetite kicks in this week as I won't be around during the day to breastfeed him.

Popped the blister, it just kept getting bigger so I had to. Much better now.

I'm on hold to the mortgage people because (drum roll please) we've just had an offer accepted on a house!!!! Wow, we're actually moving! Well, hopefully anyway.

Hooray Carriebo!! Hope it all goes well and there are no hitches.

Starlight hope the fainting is just due to your manic week, not any added dramas.

The day started so promisingly, I even went out in shorts, and now it's looking like rain. Boooooo.

i dare not go out, because either i've lost or they've nicked my rain cover

oh and hurray carriebo, how very exciting!

We had exciting weekend here. First, C went to a 1st birthday party and went on a bouncy castle for the first time (well, she sat on the edge with me holding onto her) and then we had tea outside both evenings and on Sunday we went to a christening. Hoping for a slower weekend next though.

On Sunday she slept for about an hour in the morning, woke at 11.30am and then did not have a nap until she nodded off at 4.30 in the car on the way home. We got back about 15mins later and it seemed that's all she needed to keep her going till bedtime at 7.30. She then slept till 7.10am! I'd even got showered and dressed before she woke, which is rare.

And hopefully, DG your comments re your labour - I did have an emerg CS and it's only really now I can start talking about it without thinking "you utter bastards" about the staff. Twas too painful last year to think.
When i said in earlier post that I thought C was early, i didn't mean labour started early, I meant that labour was not meant to be at that time. My body wasn't ready, C wasn't ready, in fact it was only the hospital who thought we were ready.
Due to slight higher bp (no other signs of pre-e) they wanted to induce me. I refused but stupidly agreed to a sweep at 39w, which broke my waters early. As I had strep b, i had to be induced immediately. As I believe C wasn't ready to come out, induction completely failed and I ended up on strong drip for 9 hours, with the mw trying to avoid pain relief as "you're only 2cm dear", but no chance to move about as strapped to bed on monitor. C's heart wasn't coping with the drip being turned up (no one explained why turning it up was important), so they said C-section now.
I expect they all wanted to go to bed.
I was made to feel as though I wasn't interested in C's welfare by questioning procedures and after the c section a mw told me I simply had to express colostrum for C NOW. I was half out of it, C was asleep so mw expressed my boob herself and syringed it into C's mouth - C's first meal was by syringe and I'm convinced that's why she never latched on.
Oh, I could bore you all for hours about this, sorry! I just believe that medical intervention meant C came out too early and it ruined the first few weeks and I still feel guilty about it all. Up till recently i was broody simply because I wanted another go at labour and bf!!!

Sorry - long post. Monday afternoon blues.

Finally - I have a job to go to on Thursday! No idea when I'll meet my manager though, as he has a newborn who was in special care for a bit and he's been advised not to commute for another month in case of swine flu...

A had a whole day of nursery today and seemed to enjoy himself loads - they showed me photos and he has paint in his hair.
And the lovely staff member he liked isn't leaving, that was someone who looked vaguely similar who just happened to be in the room when I collected A last. So I'm most relieved.

Not looking forward to getting up at 7.15 on 3 days a week though, I tell you!

imo - big hugs, and bah to hectoring medic people.

imoscarsmum I know how you feel about wanting another go at labour and bf, that's exactly how I felt and got pg when my first dc was only 8 months. But instead of my wonderful birth and bf experience with ds 'healing' me, it made me realise more things that had been wrong with dd's birth, and made me feel worse about that experience, not better. So my tip would be to get total closure on the first one before you go through the second (not that you can't get pg of course, I'd just get it sorted before your second birth!)

We are so busy at the moment its ridiculous, every weekend is jam packed, I actually don't want the house move to progress too quickly as we can't move til mid October I don't think!

The HV phoned today to say ds needs his 8-12m check. Dd didn't have one of those! Anyway she's coming tomorrow first thing. Makes me wonder if someone's reported me or something and they're coming to check up...?! He's still not moving, but as a result has great fine motor skills from playing with baskets of toys on the floor all the time, and is starting to chat and can do a few signs. I know I don't play with him as much as I should, partly coz of dd, partly coz he's just so placid and happy playing on his own that its easy to get on with other things in the same room without actively engaging him. Well we'll see what they say tomorrow.

Starlight your thoughts on the birthing experience affecting autism are quite interesting. However I had a really easy labour with ds and probably could of done it on my own. It was short, the pain was easily held off with a tens machine and we had no intervention. At the end he seemed to deliver himself and slid out with little effort from me. Got lots of skin to skin as well.
(Debs ducks as EVERYONE throws whatever is to hand at her head)
Things went downhill after that, we think he had a trapped nerve as he was very unsettled and hard to feed, gave up bf at only a few weeks. There was always something different about him but it wasn't until after he had chickenpox that we startedd to see some real autistic traits.
I do believe he was predisposed to autism and i strongly believe that there are many different causes. a lot that affect kids differently.

Carrie great news about the house

Meglet hope you get some good news about you dad

Ponymum really love the garden. We get ours cleared tomorrow, at the moment it is about 4 feet high and full of weeds.

Took Robyn to the beach on Saturday. She loved it and we had a great time and didn't get too burnt. will put the pic up later when I work out how to do it on this laptop

Oh and happy birthiday Starlight for yesterday.

DG Ow for the nipple blister. DD1 gave ne a horrid blister which then scabbed over and then she sucked it off and swallowed it. YUCK

Ooo... carriebo How exciting! Did you go for the location one or the garden one? (You know you have to send me a link.. !!) Weird about the 8-12 mth check. My HV insisted that they only do a check at 12 mth now and wouldn't see DD when I phoned! Oh well no harm I suppose. Do they really come to your house?

imo your story makes me !! That is not how it is supposed to be and you are right to feel very angry about it. Feel free to talk about it to us if it helps. carriebo's advice looks quite good. This all makes me feel so grateful for my experience (can't beleive I am saying this!). I mean, I had the pregnancy from the 7th circle of hell, and had to have a c-section, but thanks to the SPD support group I was SOO prepared for the hospital situation and TOLD them well ahead of time what they had to do for me. It seems it worked.

nc Hope the job goes well! I like the sound of A's painting at nursery. One day DD's nursery said to me, come and have a look at the photos of all the babies painting last week. All the other babies looked really cute with a blue or green splodge on their face. But my DD had gone insane with the bright red paint and looked like a mass murderer with blood covered hands!

The more I think about it the more I'm worried about getting a home visit from a HV at short notice! Although to be fair they're great at home visits, I got one only 48 hours after saying I thought ds might have excema. They are a fab HV team.
I'll email you a link ponymum

Thanks for all the garden congrats. It is actually really small, but the turf makes such a difference. I am really getting into it and have lots of great new plants. I'm not a natural at this though. The other night I put the sprinkler on as required for new turf... but forgot to turn it off when I went to bed. I woke at 4:30 am wondering why I had a feeling that something was wrong. Picture me in my barely-there nightie (no don't!) tiptoeing across the yard to turn off the tap!

And more embarassment today. I have somehow got roped into training a friend's horse ! Today I took DD with me to a local equestrian centre for a training session. My fiend's mum looked after DD while we trained in the arena (she loved it!!). At one point I leaned over and my shameful bra padding FELL OUT on to the ground in front of everyone!! In my defence, my breasts have shrunk so much since BF that even wearing a tiny lacy thing from years ago I need padding to fill the thing. (Or perhaps I just really need some new bras. )

carriebo tee hee! Looking forward to it!

Imo I too was determined to have another baby so I could do labour 'right'. It's crazy isn't it? (I have to say the second one was wonderful - still bloody hurt though )

Gah, ds has worked out how to climb up the stairs.

When he gets things, he really gets them. He hasn't climbed up stairs before, then I found him half way up He was like that with crawling. One day he wasn't crawling, the next he was shooting across the room.

Another stairgate has been ordered for the stairs

Good news about ds Starlight, another hurdle jumped

back from hol. just checking in so I can find thread quickly tomorrow. Will catch up tomorrow.

at baby starlight conquering the stairs.

DD is a little poo machine today, she's done 3 so her bottom is a little sore. I'm guessing it means another tooth is about to peek out.