Dec 08 it's time for sippy, tippy and doidy cups (& wee sticks!?!)

[Veggiemummy]

sorry could think of much and these where discuss on last page.

Morning,

LadyT Lovely to have you back!! I am so pleased for you about the IR and your house!

Veggie I might be up for it. If you pick a date then I will have a look!

Went to Drs yesterday. Ankle is fine and it is just a sprain. He did tell me he might have been a bit overenuthiastic(sp) about the achillies!!

DS2 is driving me up the bloody wall. We decided that we really should get him into some type of routine. So I took him to bed at 9pm and he woke at half 3, didn't go back to sleep until 5 and then slept until half 7. I asked for advice on MN and all the advice I got was put him to bed earlier. So I tried that and he wakes at half 3

Hope everyone is well.

LadyT: glad the taxmen have sorted themselves out, what a relief. And good luck on the house!

Veggie: I get tired just reading your posts . Are you training for a specific event?

WG: hope things are improving

Traceis your interview today or tomorrow? Keep losing track of time...

DH is away on jury service for a couple of weeks, hope he gets an interesting case but I suspect he'll be hanging around reading a novel and refusing to interact with his fellow jurors . Am thinking of a trip to the zoo (despite beginning of school hols) so wish us luck. DS1 is doing pretty well on the TT now, he's had two days dry (!) so only the dirty pants to sort now.

We seem to be getting along better, have been doing the How To Talk stuff with DS1 and it does seem to be helping a lot. Would really recommend getting a copy in preparation for the toddler years!

Just a quickie (from work) to say "YAY" to LadyT about the tax decision and the house. Is this the house you were really, really disappointed not to get? If so, I am very pleased for you .

I don't think I would be able to do a Paris meet-up with the kids. I am too chicken to do a long journey without DH! However, if there is another London meet-up this summer then I will def be there.

Great news about the tax, the house, and patching things up with your mum Lady hope the survey comes back good for you! Is it one in that same little village again?

Kim- terrible all that rigmorole - I had a mini panic yesterday about Swine Flu and ds etc and the fact that dh will be exposed a lot. At first I thought it was a bit of a storm in a tea cup but now with all the news about it, i'm starting to worry.... I bet everyone will be calling that number to send a friend for the Tamiflu to keep on hand and i'm worried there won't be any for the genuine cases.

I have been looking at houses. Found a lovely one to rent yesterday, but I have a couple of concerns so tell me all what you think. The owner of the house who still lives there until he finds a tenant showed me around. I asked why he was moving (assuming his job relocated or something) and he said it's a bit sad - my wife and I have separated. The terms are standard ie:for a 12 month lease with a break clause etc, so I told him that my only concern would be if they were to work things out and then want the house back etc. He said they would of course still "honour the contract if that were the case" - so that tells me that it's not been ruled out that they could get back together and I know if there's a break clause they can get us out after 6 months. We really don't want to move again in 6 months. His wife was the one originally emailing me about the viewing etc, and I didn't meet her at all yesterday so I'm wondering if I should email her and mention this concern, as I got the feeling (purely speculation) that it was her who was driving the rental rather than him. Not sure whether to keep looking or just go with it and accept what could happen but hope it doesn't - however it's tricky as I'd also want them to work things out!! they had renovated the house themselves and will be letting the house with some of their stuff still in it and I am not sure if I am worrying about nothing or not - thoughts?
Aside from that the house and location is pretty much perfect for us, and they accept our dog. Only one other thing is the bedroom will be quite tight for our big bed but doable pushed against the wall I guess - don't know if that will bother me either.... Oh I don't know - I tend to over analyse things and worry about things that may not ever happen I know.... should I email the wife? or would that be seen as too personal asking about that possibility etc? Sorry I'm waffling and repeating myself....

Aaasrrrrgggghhbbbbbbbiiiiiueerrhhhhhh!!!!!! DS2 teething big time, I got excited yesterday because I can see a thin White line under his gum so it's soon and gives a reason for the bad nights lately but I guess as the tooth gets closer to breaking through he is getting worse. He is pretty much awake from 4am and like me he wants to be asleep so he gets frustrated squeezing his eyes shut but can't sleep so cries and rolls around. I think his dummy and my boob hurt to suck on because he tries it then spits them our crying. He won't keep neurofen or calpol in and at at half past a sparrows fart in the morning I have no ability to use any of my techniques to get him to. I just give him some homeopathic remedies which settle him for a bit but then he wakes up again and gets frustrated all over again. I really feel sorry for him but I'm getting so frustrated with him and I say dome nasty things to him over night. The boy is seriously reducing his chances of making it to 1! He's sleeping now. I think tonight I'll give him some drugs when I go to bed and see if that helps.

I'm so tired now, I came home from dropping DS1 off at school to find I had left the front door wide open!!! Nothing gone, luckily we live here now and not the old Island!!!

Apart from Paris trip I'm coming down to London in sept if anyone is planning a meet up. Not sure of date yet.

Effie I'm doing a little triathlon in September and maybe one in early october.

ps I bought ds a door bouncer thing yesterday, and it's the best thing ever!!! he absolutely loves it!
He has been so arm and leg flappy lately and all he wants to do is have me hold him while he stands so it is perfect!

That's a tricky one PMK I have to say I think I would keep looking, I know it sounds perfect but I imagine if they don't make up they will probably want to sell, so either way it's not a long term option. I imagine you are wanting something indefinitely, I think you need to make that clear to them and if you want it ask for a 12 month straight contract, but I think this can even be broken if they sell.

Aren't they brilliant, DS2 looks like a little puppet in his.

ladyt welcome back! Fab news on the IR and the house, crossing everything you get it

trace when's the interview, if its today good luck!

wg How are things today?

Well DS sleep is back to its usual shambolic self. I really wish he tadn't slet through (twice!) it has just made me realise what I am missing out on! Although he can now crawl properly, so maybe its just all a development thing. Well I say he can crawl he reminds me of a tortoise - each movement is very slow and deliberate. Although he did make it over to DD's toys and ruin her game!

DH and I had big row in the night (and this morning). DS has had a persistant cough now for about 8 weeks. Its mainly at night. He has been to the GP twice and they have said he is fine. DH however, thinks he has some terrible illness. I said he should take him if it is worrying him that much as I would feel like a fool going again when I know there is nothing wrong and I do not want a perfectly healthy boy in a room full of people who might have swine flu!! I suspect its just his teeth, he's not wheezy or particularly chesty. DH accused me of not caring. Now I know it was the middle of the night and he was tired but he just p*sses me off DH's family are complete hypochondriacs(sp!), so the slightest sniff and they have all got chest infections/swine flu/pneumonia/the plague!

A Paris meet? Sounds wonderful but I doubt I will be able to afford it. Although the thought of leaving DH on his own right now is tres tres appealing

Veggie, we don't want anything really really long term - just don't want to be thrown out after 6 months! Guess we could ask for no break clause, however that means we can't have one either which isn't always great in case our own tenant exercises her right to use hers
he said he was not going to sell the house but who knows....
We had to pull our flat off the market while there is a tenant in there - not sure if it's the rule or just with our lease / agent etc....

Daisy get him to talk to Spot she went back loads with Mr T and they did nothing. Your right a GP's surgery is not where you want to be right now with a baby. At this age it is often teeth DS2 had a pathetic little cough at the moment. Unless it is making him vomit loads or effecting his feeding it's should be ok at this age. My DH comes from a family of Hypochondriacs, his sister has talked about paying for regular MRI's to check for cancer. DH often doesn't believe I've been 'really' sick because I don't refuse to get out of bed and spend the day moaning.

I'm not sure actually I think in Australia if it gets sold they usually put the tennant on monthly rolling contracts. I would maybe write to the wife like you said. Have you looked at any other places.

Oh veggie, my DH is like that "But your up I thought you were ill?"

DS smiles from the moment he wakes to the moment he goes to bed and has 4 meals a day now if you count supper and puddings too sometimes, drinks plenty and NEVER vomits anything back up. How can I explain to a Dr his symptoms easier to explain the lack of... DH just doesn't get it at all!!!

My SIL has just found out she is pg (about 11 wks). She stopped her son going to school for his last week as one of the children, in another class to her son, had SF. I asked her how she intented to carry on throughout her pregnancy as it would still be around come September. I actually think she would take her DS out of school, she's a nutter. I mean I'm all for taking precations if your pg but that was just ridiculous IMO. My MIL however, thinks I am being harsh and totally unreasonable.

Veggie - yeah i've looked at loads..... Missed out on a fantastic house due to not putting deposit down fast enough and since then this is the only house that compares....
Oh no - now my current landlord is returning our call.....! Don't know what to tell her! might wait until tonight and email the wife as you say..... Thing is - it's not as easy looking for a house with the dog in tow - lovely as she is so when the perfect place comes along....
tricky one....
Nutter sil daisy...

Daisy funny you should post that last message. DH just got a text message(!) from his sister telling him they won't be coming to DS1's birthday party (the same party we had to sort a date out for that they could do and had to be a reasonable distance from our house as they wouldn't have a car to get around) because of the swine Flu thing. She said she was sure DH would understand as it is such a worry with them because their baby! They live in London FFS and their older child goes to fulltime nursery Inc through the summer break!!!!!! How's that for exposure risk. We've had one suspected case here as far as I know. There have probably been a few more but you know what I mean. FFS it's an excuse and DH knows it and unfortunately yet again it has really upset him. We are expected to think her children are amazing and drop everything for them but our kids may as well not exist.

Oh fuuu

aahhhh, future nice house landlord needs a deposit to cancel further viewings..... and rightly so....
I think we may have to just take a chance that they won't want the house back.... I'm so tired of looking for houses!! Lovely cheerful venue in walking distance too that welcomes dogs and kids

not that i'll be getting too cheerful in the coming months if i'm looking to get a positive pee stick [cheer]

Sorry about that had to rescue the cats food from DS2's cake hole.

Anyway I won't whine about SIL anymore she can't dissapoint me I already think she is a nightmare but it's sad that DH got quite excited about them coming and DS1 was so pleased to have his cousins at his party but we'll be home soon and he'll have other cousins to play with soon.

But daisy I think you are quite balanced about it, sure it's a concern if your pregnant but no more than other viruses in that if your sick it your babys host and food supply is compromised nothing more. You gotta live your life. I have a friend who is about to pop and she was told it was riskier for women at her stage because being unwell immeditaely post birth was bad but she said she has to just get on with it as she thinks being cooped up is worse.

veggie I'd heard it was rislier in the later stages of pg too.

Bloke on GMTV this morning said mother's who give birth while they have SF should def bf as they can pass their antibodies onto the baby - I was pleased to see such common sense on GMTV for once

Hello lovelies

PMK, the trouble is if you email the wife, she may not know either. They could be utterly certain they might not get together now, and that could change; or a little bit unsure - I really think that whatever they think now, that might change in six months' time; so, short of having a crystal ball, no one can know, even them. So it's purely a case of whether you want to gamble. I understand about not wanting to move again though. Moving is the pits. If you need somewhere sorted quickly and this is in other ways perfect, I would say risk it, but then again I tend to push my luck in life and try not to avoid doing things for fear of a bad result, as you can usually work most things through But seriously, go with your hunch.

Yes, Arti, it's the house we wanted, that we originally got outbid on at the beginning of July. But it needs a HECK of a lot of work and with money being tight, I could be making an el biggo mistake. But as I said above - I am a gambler by nature! 'Fortune favours the brave' etc! [I do have my doubts about this sometimes but I am far too old to change now].

Veggie, you seem to have suddenly locked into an Olympic-style training programme overnight. I am very impressed. Mind you, I am stepping up the rowing and DP and I are on the wagon It has to be done.

Effie - jury service - that's interesting. I've never done it myself. It would be a logistical nightmare if I was called as I pay council tax to Westminster so it would be in London somewhere. Some of DP's colleagues are involved in a drugs trial that started in January and will probably go on until October. And they keep the same jury. Imagine that! The jury are very chummy with each other now and play Twister in the breaks, which we all think is a bit off...

Kayz - hmmm, have you tried putting him to bed later? Glad your ankle's on the mend.

Jam hasn't been on here for yonks, though I saw her with a big rock on her finger on Facebook

Well, we went to the docs this morning and DP has had blood tests and wee tests and is waiting for a scan...so we shall see.

LadyT, he was going to bed with us between 10 and 11. He would then sleep until about 5, I asked for advice to get him to sleep until 6.30/7. I was told he needs to go to bed about 8pm. But when we do that he wakes in the middle of the night.

LadyT, have you had anymore driving lessons since before you had DD? I went out last night and Mum got me reversing which is the only thing I have been really worried about.

I ahve fog in place of my brain. Dd still coughing and not sleeping due to cough/snot and ds didn't nap yesterday and had 4 night terrors last night. I am a zombie.

Enjoying the madness of others in the SF thing, people are so paranoid. We all kept inside, nobody has had a fever for a couple of days so yesterday, the day after the dcs finished tamiflu, we went out and dh went to the office (worked from home last week like a good boy). He still has a bit of a cough too and the pg woman who sits near him e-mailed the person who sits next to him to ask for his e-mail the sent a thing with the company protocal for going back to work (ie when you are better and advise says you can) and went home at lunch!

Yay for house news, LadyT sounds exciting, pmk hope the rental turns out ok, have a good read of the contract but I think it should be ok, even if they do get back together it doesn't negate the legal obligations to you as a tennent. With rental there is always the risk of moving often even if there is no obvious reason why you might have to (our last landlord decided randomly that he was going to put the rent up by £150 a month...erm bye!)

We are hoping to exchange really, really soon and kiss goodbye to rental with the red carpet, green carpet, office blinds, woodchip wallpaper, hideous 70s black furniture......

Kim I hope you are ok. I am glad I don't have a posh themomether as at times the dcs were so hot and the cheapy forehead one just wooshed right up to the "bloody hot" section. I went for keeping them cool as much as poss during the day and a double whammy dose of calpol and ibuprofen at bedtime. It does pass.

Effie you've been having TT fun and games I think? What do you think has cracked it for you? Ds is totally accident free when naked (never have to ask him he takes himself when he needs to) but if I put pants on him, even at home he just treats them like a nappy and stops using the potty full stop then after a morning of accidents he starts begging to have a nappy on. It is driving me mad! I really want to start being able to go out without a nappy on and put clothes on him at home!

Rightho dd asleep in her own bed for a change so off to have a little kip on the sofa.

Kayz, if 10 or 11 works better stick with it! Does he have set feed times throughout the day? Could you try feeding him at 6, putting him to bed then feeding him again (waking if necessary) beofre you go to bed?

Driving, yes....we were talking about that today. I am so naughty to have had all those lessons then left it so long. I have got to get back into it but I feel so unenthusiastic. Are you learning in a manual or automatic? Have you started learning your theory?

The solicitor acting for me in the house purchase is Angel and the Estate Agent is Honey! (She works with a Mr Flowers as well)

No he doesn't have set feed times. I was thinking about doing that. At the minute we just feed him when he is hungry.

I'm learning in a manual car. An old Volkswagen golf with mum and a ford focus with my instructor. Having about 3 hours a week so should be passed by next July. I have started learning for my theory but I always fail the practice ones. More worried about that than learning to drive.

Hmm -
I didn't mean I would email the wife and interrogate her over the state of their relationship - really just thought I'd throw it out there that my only concern was they may want the house back early if their circumstances changed and see what she said compared to him - who just said we would honour the agreement - I just wondered if he said it like he was hoping they would sort it out but i'm really over thinking this. I think I might see if they would just do a straight 12 month with no break clause.... hmm...
Lady you must get your license so you can visit me! however this house is very close to Maidenhead station and also the fat Duck