Nov 2008 - because there was no thread space to think of a clever title!

[Yorky]

Had to be done soon, hope it works!

Evening all

ellie sorry you felt so crap - am I right in thinking it is the 'snip' op?? If so, I guess it is normal to feel upset as the decision to not have anymore children is so final isn't it (correct me if it wasn't that op at all )

Fudge glad you had a lovely week - I think we will definitely try and get to Cadburys World at some point. Hamster has had foul nappies for about 4 days now - it is slightly easing off but I changed a nappy this afternoon that literally just had raisins in it - his poo was just liquid which had all soaked into the nappy and just left the raisins behind I know when DS1 has had the trots, it has lasted for at least a week, if not longer!! Hope M improves soon

Tegan no advice for you You get to this age and you think that sleep has to have improved so it must be pretty depressing to realise that it hasn't.

Well Hamster has decided that 5am is a great time to have a huge poo and then wake up and fidget and chat until I change it - he has been doing it for at least a fortnight and I am not happy Any ideas how you can 'train' their toilet habits

Just popping in to say evening all! Hope you're all having good weekends. Some nice weather finally!!

Hey Yorky - Amerton farm is about 20 mins drive from me!! So you were totally in my beck of the woods today. You just take the A50 towards Uttoxeter to get to where I live. I keep meaning to take the boys to Amerton farm as I've heard that it's really good. What did you think of it? I might persuade DH to drive us up there tomorrow if the weather is still ok.

Gotta go now but hope everyone's having a nice evening.

Morning all up again at 5.30 after being up twice in the night. Tonight i am not going to give a bottle in the night and i might even let him scream the house down i am that knackered.

Morning
Thanks for all your lovely words I am feeling better today I think I have stopped crying it was just evertime I thought about it I cried?? ceebee it was an op to get his tennis elbow to release (but the snip is next on the list), fudge I think it was you and tegan who said maybe it was tension, well I think it was I was so busy on friday sorting the kids out and up and down to the hosp a few times I didnt have time to think about it but did yesterday so thanks again.
tegan Have you tried letting o self settle after his last bottle? I think we were talking about that not so long ago or trying to feed him in his room and just put him down and even stay with him till he is sleeping to get him in the way of self settling, and if you think he is getting enough milk during the day just offer him water in the night if he wakes. With regards to self settling I dnt know how you feel about that, some people have some quite strong views on it but it has worked for me and both my girls.
ceebee has hamster been telling Millie to poo during the night too? Every morning there is a lovely little poo in her nappy! Dont think she cares though cos she never wakes up its just there lol.
creenaWe were in Uttoxeter in April when we went to alton towers

Sorry fell off again as we were at the beach 2 days in a row ( shock !)
Pinky Creena we are not actually that close as I am on the North coast pity it would have been nice to say hello !
Right off to read what I have missed .....

Anyone know when Daisy is back ? I go on holiday a week today, and need a double buggy. Hers, I think, if the price is right

Obs she is away for 2 weeks so I don't think she is back until next Saturday - I have her mobile number if you want it?? (Can e-mail it to you via FB if you want?) But you still aren't going to get the pushchair in time are you?

So excited the football season is starting again Come on Chelsea!!

yes ceebs, we are being forced to watch chelsea/man u at the mo !!
I have her no, thank you anyway.

Hi Everyone, My blooming laptop is broken [grr] the charging lead blew up on Thursday so I am catching up quickly at MILs.
Have skimmed throught the posts so sorry If I have missed anything.
Interesting to read the different nursery provisions in different parts of the country! DS1 is staying in private nursery as we will hopefully be moving before he starts in reception so if he did go to the local nursery I would still have to move him and he loves the nursery he goes to at the moment so not alot of sense in changing it. I also don't want the hassle of holiday cover until I really have to think about it. Hopefully by BF and I will sort some sort of rota out between us for Childcare as our DSs will go to school together - hopefully in the same place!

Well I spent the day in hospital yesterday with DS1, he got up yesterday morning and couldn't walk at all bless him. They think he has a viral infection in his hip which has caused it to swell and that is where the pain is coming from. Can't do anything for him though poor thing. He is limping about like a wounded duck today

Hi to everyone, Hopefully my laptop will be fixed this week!

Hi everyone, just catching up.
Hope everyone is having a good weekend

ELLIE i have tried with dd2 and had 2 attempts with O but i just can't do it i really wish i could but i can't hear a child cry even if they aren't mine it kills me.

WE HAVE A TOOTH well o has just broke the skin on his top left tooth, typical man doing everything arse about face. but no sign of the bottoms one coming yet.

This evening i got him out the bath and gave him his bottle in my room at 7.20pm and he has just woke for his get me to sleep cuddle, this will go on all evening now

Tegan, self settling is completely different to controlled crying. I don't DO crying. I can't cope with hearing a baby cry.
We too have cut a tooth. 2 teeth actually. Not through but cut. The bottom, not the middle two, but the ones on either side of the middle 2, if you see what I mean. Like tegan, trust M to have wierd teeth come through as his first.

Tegan, sorry things are still bad at nights. I dont really have any advice, our routine changes on a daily basis. I do try to stick to bath,bottle, bed. All upstairs in DS bedroom. The time of this varies though depending on how the naps have gone in the day. Normally we start the bedtime routine 2 1/2 hours after he has woken from his last nap.

DS has 6 teeth and in this last week he has started to not like the toothbrush! Any advice on getting a baby to let you clean their teeth??

chocgal lol, 9 month old baby's teeth are a doddle to clean - try doing a 3-year old's

nooooo Ceebee, you mean it gets worse!?

Hi ladies. Just popping in will try and catch up tomorrow. Firstly BIG THANKS to all you ladies for your advice regarding my return to work.

Just an update with a DECISION going to propose 3 FULL days (as work wanted), Mon, Wed and alternate Thurs/Fri. DS and A would both go to private nursery that DS is already (the places are available have checked) and 1 day with my mum&dad (they cant wait). After you ladies made me realise DS can stop where he is rather than preschool, DUH, it solved all my probs. I have contacted the council whom we apply to for DS infant school place and they said where he attends preschool/nursery has no bearing on his place and we stand a good chance as we live in the catchment area. I have done my sums and although I'm not earning massive amounts as the majority goes on childcare me and DH have decided I need my "me" time, a little money is better than none, it will be good for A to go to nursery like DS has and for me to keep my job.

I also have alot of hols which have accrued during mat leave. So rather than going back 31st Aug (full 12m leave) I propose to go back beginning of Oct. I would still have hols left over to take before Jan.

Just got to see if work agree. Typing up the proposal now to email. If they dont accept this then I will have to call time on the job. Fingers crossed for me ladies. Feels so good to finally make a decision . Also need to hope that the shop I bought all DS preschool uniform from will give me a refund if need be.

Oh no LB! that sounds really painful and upsetting, not to mention frustrating that there's nothing you can do for him, hope he feels better soon.

Vbab you sound like you've found a happy compromise, hope work accepts it. After all, they're getting you for 3 days like they wanted.

Creena, we weren't there for long but it was nice - a few animals, a tractor for DS to climb on, a sandpit and all for free! The merry go round was popular for £1 a go, and I want a better luck in the craft shop - WITHOUT DS!

We've had a lovely w/e - a BBQ with NCT group from when DS was born on Saturday, and then an ice cream at PYO farm with my friend and her 6wk old DD my Goddaughter this afternoon. DH is looking forward to blueberry muffins now!

vbab good luck with the job it sounds ideal if your work agree.

sleep can you fill me in on the self settling thing as o woke at 1.30 then at 4am and wanted to get up then, finally by 5.30 i had settled him in my bed wth me which i never ever do and don't want to start.

after a hot sunny weekend it is cold and raint this moring, typical

Morning ladies

Vbab you sound better. x

Ladybuzz I hope DS1 feels better soon. x

We had a right old night, started before we went to bed, 10, 11.30, 1.30, 2.30 6.40. She just keeps waking and really really crying. Felt sorry for DH as he got a fire call inbetween it all and had to leave for work at 6!

Oh it looked a beautiful day and it has just really started to rain

Me and Becca are going to see the childminder this morning for an hour, really looking forward to it. Then nipping to an out of town shopping place later, need to take my nan as we are at my uncle's wedding renewal on saturday and it is a posh old do! I have my christening outfit but need some nice flatter sandals to wear as heels hurt my back! Nan needs a top!

LOL at Choc oh just you wait

morning all

Thanks for the nice comments and for allowing me back in

J has 2 teeth at the bottom and is crawling like a demon! We also have lots of 'mumumumum' noises when he needs something which i love

Ladybuzz - where you moving to? same area? Good luck, my flat is still for sale in london and I think it's going slowly as he leaves it messy which just makes me as I can't move from my parents until that place is sold.

Realised that my state will not resolve for many years........!

Will catch up more in a bit.

xx

Afternoon ladies

Chocgal oh yes....it gets much worse

Vbab that sounds fantastic - will have everything crossed for you that work agree but it sounds like you have come up with an agreement that will suit everyone. Don't forget, DS is still entitled to 12.5 hours free childcare from September - have you factored that into your costs? If he is only going to nursery 2 days a week, you will probably only have to pay for maybe half a day (depending on how your nursery work it).

Autumn well done to J for the crawling - so glad he is saying 'mumumumum' and not 'dadadadada' Crap about your flat but hopefully someone will see through the mess and want it.

Have a break today thankfully - DS1 is being a royal pain in the a*se today but has finally gone to sleep after his swimming lesson as has Hamster so all is quiet

Mwahhhh just back from shopping and got a lovely fullcircle dress in blue and orange and my silver flatish shoes to go with it I am very pleased!

Anyone else get Mother & Baby magazine? In this month's edition (the one with the free Teletubbies plate)....they are reviewing double buggies and guess who one of the reviewers is.......Daisy complete with a photo of her and her lovely DD and Bumble

ceebee cool about daisy's review and pic. Glad all quiet now .
coolkat glad you had a nice shop.

Drum roll please ... spoke to work. Very happy with my proposal and me taking leave first . So I am going back to work . I proposed a start date of 5th of Oct using accrued hols and sounded ok with it. So I will have had 13 months off and still have 10+ hols to take before Jan . I did a silly dance when work said they were happy with my proposal. hee hee silly me. Not changing the childcare arrangements though until got written confirmation.

hello ladies
great news vbab you sound thrilled so that's brilliant
brushing teeth we went through a phase of W not opening his mouth so dh 'cleaned' his at the same time making funny faces and noises. W would try to use dh's toothbrush and while W's mouth was open i would gently brush his teeth. now he doesn't mind too much (for the time being....!) he has 8 btw!
W's sleeping has improved muchly since the shush patting incident. we are still co-sleeping but i feed him to sleep (although more often than not he will pull off and roll onto his tummy and fall asleep)When he does wake up i am now able to pat him off to sleep again- breakthrough. wanted to teach dh but W wasn't buying it and neighbours banged on wall. gah! awful.
have appt with docs as am not well with the pnd. don't know what a breakdown feels like but somedays feel like i could be having one. i do have good days but the bad days are beginning to out number. i think because i have finally admitted to myself that it is happening - i described it to dh as feeling as though i was clinging on to a window ledge by my finger tips and now i am admitting it it's like i have let go and no longer have any control over where it takes me. so i am rude, unreasonable, anxious, jittery, unable to make a decision, paranoid, emotional/ tearful, feel guilty, ugly and generally worthless and unworthy. so there you go. dreading docs - don't want patronising or kind faces. just want to say gimme the drugs and let me get on with it. dh told me today that my mum asked him he thought i had pnd and also a friend. so obvious to others but has taken me a while to reach the same conclusion.
we went to whitby for the first time since returning from london. dh took some pics and i look like i have sharks eyes - just kind of empty. it's my best place in the world and i couldn't feel any happiness. i just want to feel like me again. where did i go?
sorry for the me post but just wanted to let you know where am at