Nov 2008 - because there was no thread space to think of a clever title!

[Yorky]

Had to be done soon, hope it works!

Yorky - midlands meet up sounds like an excellent idea!

coolkat - sorry about DH. I think you are right though. Maybe when he gets home after work, he'll have had some time to think about it and realise that you're being sensible and doing the right thing. I hope it's sorted out soon (I'd be cross too if I'd cooked a roast dinner and it wasn't touched)!

pinkyminky - Cornwall's ace, isn't it? Whereabouts are you going? If you're on the south coast and encounter a sudden solar eclipse, don't worry - it'll just be me arriving at the beach.

twinklingfairy - we had problems with a teen troublemaker and his mates at our old house. It might be worth contacting your local council and asking to be put through to the anti social behaviour team. They should be able to give you advice on what you should do, like keeping a record and how to make a formal complaint. They should also be able to put you in touch with your local community police officers who really ought to be dealing with this. Don't just put up with it because of fear of retaliation - that's what they're relying on. You have my absolute sympathy; there's nothing worse than having this kind of thing on your doorstep every night. i hope it gets sorted soon for you.

Thank you for that Twinkling, it is so nice to hear that someone has got DC sharing - AND sleeping, I was worried they would just keep each other awake. Will get up the bottle soon - a large part of it is apathy cos if she's waking so much why do I want her further away?

Glad the doctor was nice Vbab, hope you feel better for having got stuff off your chest, and that the tablets help.

I hate credit cards too, they aren't more money - and it took DH and I a long time to learn that when we were students, every so often we think how rich we'd be noe if we hadn't happily followed the build up as much debt as you can in 3 yrs line that everyone encourages you to do

Midlands meet up would be fun, anyone else want to play, and any suggestions where?

Vbab I am so very very glad that the doctors was a success. It may very well take as much as 3 weeks for them to kick in, so you might not feel much better until just before that next review, but bear with it. My AD's never did 'kick in', but then my new Gp said she didn't expect them to. Let us know when you start to feel better.
Laughing at Ellie. Dh's birthday is next week, and I have nothing, except some Lindt/Lindor red balls, that he loves. We want for nothing. If we want something we buy it. Thus makes for very difficult birthday buying.
Stop feeling guilty Ceebee and eat some more of that pizza salad in the middle. You have lost so much weight you deserve a treat.

Hi Everyone,

vbab glad you got somewhere with the docs. Hope you start to feel better soon.
Like Obs said they don't kick in for a while so hang in there, I am on week 2 and didn't cry at Holby City last night so they must be starting .

Pinky hope DS is OK poor thing and your DD Twinkling

Hi Autumnlady sorry to hear you have been having problems.

Coolkat hope you have sorted things out with DH.

Creena I will send you a friend request on FB!

We went to see a house last night and fell in love with it - Not good being as 1 - it is just too much for us and 2 we have not sold ours - Damn!

Off to see another tonight and have a viewing on ours on Saturday so I have been cleaning again, I hope it sells soon I hate having to keep things this bloody tidy!

J is now eating eaxctly what we do (well mostly all by hand and very messily but he just refuses point blank to take anything off a spoon!

Sorry if I have missed anything important.

Ooh Vbab love the new outfits - the dress is stunning!

hi everyone
Not been getting on to catch up as much as normal, with DH being off work things are a bit tense around here
Hes been working with his dad but the sooner he gets another job the better although i think it might be a while to get anything decent that pays close to what he was earning.

Anyway, glad the drs was a positive experience vbab coolkat how are things with you and your DH today?
pinky and twinkling hope your DC are on the mend
Have sent you a FB request creena ladyb i remember when we were selling our house and always having to keep it tidy, that was enough hassle without DC! Goodluck, hope it sells soon

Off to have an afternoon nap as on nightshift tonight

Afternoon ladies

Been for a long walk around the country park down thr road, it was wet and muddy but needed some fresh air!

Things are a little tense, he has his roast dinner for tea lol! Not mentioned the holiday, he text me saying we have plenty of money, I ignored! Things will be fine but the older we get the more stubborn we both get! We also got his car tax letter and I have been working out childcare costs etc so think he realises deep down!

Sorry things are tense there Choc. X

Midlands meet up sounds good, I am rubbish with geography though!

Hope DS better Pinky. X

Vbab glad doc's went well. Now get shopping for your accesories

Will be back Becca wrecking the dvd's .... again....

Jut a quickie (will catch up later) but how many poos a day are your LO's having?

Hamster just seems to poo constantly - I have just changed my 6th dirty nappy of the day, which is slightly more than usual, but it is generally at least 4. (DS1 was a once or twice, regular as clockwork, kind of baby which I thought was the norm but maybe not )

Ceebee- we have days of constant pooing then other days of just once!

Hi all,

Vbab, so glad you felt like you were listened to at the docs and that you are getting the help you need, that is great news. Sounds like your doc is really lovely.

ceebee, think P probably does 2-3 most days but they tend to be whoppers!

chocolategal, good luck on 1st nightshift.

P hasn't bitten again since the other day, thank goodness and he is getting a bit better at taking formula - he managed 4 oz yesterday afternoon, that's a lot for him. Then he slept from 8pm til 5am, unheard of for him, as he is usually up about 3 or 4 times between 7 and 7. I don't know if it's because of the formula, maybe it's filling him up more, but I like it!! Here's hoping it's not just a one off!!

Ceebee Becca seems to Poo after every feed! be it milk or food. I get sick of changing nappies!!

Just a quickie ...Hi all .
Pooing some days after every meal some days concentrated in 2 blasts .
Minirosa has discovered rolling pulling her self up in her cot and then gets stuck - nightmare but at night she gets in a strop because fo her grobag...Might try her in if for day naps but today was too warm - HURRAYYYY. Creena where are you going on the South Coast ? And Pinky where will you be ?
Ladybuzz good luck with the house sell.
Vbab wonderful re the doc and so glad you have found somebody sympathetic.
Gotta go I think Mrosa has turned in her grobag !!!

sorry on a flying visit ... thank you for all your kind words regarding docs. Been to work today for my meeting to cut hours to just 11.25 from 30. I know it isnt much but things are complicated with DS going to school 5 days just mornings (9-11.30am) and nursery not until 1pm, me wanting to be there for DS and because i didnt get Alyssa's name down for nursery i cant have tuesdays . Oh i also didnt want to go back .

Well... they REALLY, REALLY WANT me back but NEED me at least 3 full days with at least 2 in a row. Eek! So now completely back to drawing board and not sure what will happen. But thing is i now dont feel as bad as i did about the prospect of going back BUT wanted to be the one to drop and pick DS up from school.

Evening - thanks for all the reassurance about pooing habits Hamster had 7 dirty nappies at the last count today....the whole idea of getting DS1 out of nappies was that we would save money and not need as many - clearly Hamster has different ideas on that

Rosa glad the sun has come out for you - I bet cornwall is just lovely when the sun is shining

Vbab sorry about work but I think you knew they weren't going to agree to want you wanted didn't you? Tough decision to make I guess but you will have to weigh up what is more important - the job/money vs picking DS up from school every day. If you did go back 3 days a week, then you could still pick him up 2 days a week which is more than a lot of mums manage to do I can see how important it is to you and it is a big thing when they start school....but you need to consider how you will feel a few months/years down the line when DS has settled in and picking him up/collecting him is a bit more mundane iyswim.

juanitad glad P hasn't bitten again!! Maybe your 'no' is firm enough (probably your teacher training coming in useful eh )

Right better think about going to bed - DS1 has got an awful cough and spent most of last night coughing and I feel he will be the same tonight - which means I will hardly get any sleep as I just lay there listening to him Need to decide whether to take him to nursery tomorrow - will see how he is in the morning.

hi all

Vbab that all soudns veyr complicated,hope you get thigns sorted.

Rosa/creena we don't go very far south, just sort of near Padstow, inland a bit. It a fab campsite with a pool, super play area etc, not yucky commercial, just friendly and relaxed, so we have been going back each year since DS was born- which is strange for us as we were always the touringg/backpacking go where we feel like types before we had the DC. Think we may go back to our old ways when they are a bit bigger and able to help put up the mahoosive tent we now have!

Thanks all for your concerns re DS. He is much better today. I think it was one of those 48 hour bugs. Bless him he was very hot and very poorly. Esp. not eating his tea- normally he has about five square meals a day, with snacks.

pooing- Mimi does plenty of quite grown up poos a day, these days. Is it teeth, ceebee? Mine have always pooped loads when teeth were on the way- have no idea why- maybe the extra dribble makes their digestive system work overtime???

choc hope the nightshift is going well.x

Coolkat beeca is one of the 'explorer' type babies- you have my sympathies, as my other two were like that, and I anicipate my third being no different. I used to marvel at how intact other people's houses were with babies the same age, mine were into everything. It has to be a Good Thing, surley? Otherwise it's just exhausting and that does not seem worthwile to me

Helloooo ladies, the nightshift hysteria is kicking in! Only 2 more hours though!

Hope you can decide on something you are happy with re work vbab, very wise words from ceebee!

Morning all!

How did the nightshift go, choc? Did you get in to the swing of it?

Pinky/Rose - we're down Veryan way this year. Tends to be the area we go to. We're the same as you, Pinky - since we've had the DC, we tend to go to the same place because we know that it's a lovely place and the DC love it there. Hopefully the weather will be fine and we can get to the beach for a while although I'll have to watch that people don't try to harpoon me/push me back into the sea).

Vbab - I agree with Ceebee. The school run etc is a bit daunting and worrying at first but it will soon become the most mundane thing ever and you will be there for 2 days a week and that's better than nothing!

Ladybuzz - house selling is a nightmare, isn't it! I used to hate having to keep the house spotless, especially with two babies to look after as well. It was so knackering! We used to get phone calls from the estate agents saying "someone wants to view your house in a hour's time" and when I'd point out that I needed a bit more time to get the place fit for viewing, they'd say "they can only come in an hour's time or they won't view at all". So I'd have to say "they can't be that keen then, so let's not bother!". It was really annoying although nowhere near as annoying as viewers who don't turn up and don't get a message to you to say they're not coming and you've spent hours cleaning the house. GAH!!!

How is everyone else today? We've got a bit of sunshine here today finally, thank God. I'm going to brave the park shortly....

Hi ladies. Thing is regarding going back to work I have had a change of heart and would like to go back even at 3 days. The MAIN prob is work want FULL days. But DS finishes school at 11.30am and the nursery is not available until 1pm. So I have a 1&half hour gap 2&half hrs if i was doing back and forth to work. My mum and dad said between them (they both work shifts) would get DS from school, look after him a little then march him to nursery. The OTHER PROB is that after childcare costs, tax and so on I would have a wage of about £100 a month for working 3 days a week .

So in conclusion I would be working 3 days a week, running around like a more crazy person, not having time with kids, putting mum&dad out (mum walking in winter for about an hour) for £100 month. Also mum and dad cant cover ALL the days and i wouldnt have enough hols to cover them. YES THIS IS ALL CONFUSING but surprising sad as I had come around to the idea if working. Not looking forward to trying to lie of DH average wage either. NOT GOOD.

rely on NOT lie of .

Vbab that does sound very confusing and a nightmare to make plans every week as to who is picking DS up etc. In hindsight (and this is just my opinion) I would have thought it would have been better to leave DS at nursery 3 full days a week (rather than go to a pre-school 5 days a week) and just use the free government vouchers to pay some of his nursery fees (that is what I am doing with DS1) - so much easier than trying to sort out stuff 5 days a week, plus school holidays. The way I am doing it, DS1 will be in childcare 4 days a week, 52 weeks a year and I don't have to worry about school hols for another year

Coolkat yes DS1 was also an 'explorer' type baby too whereas Hamster seems a little more laidback (although he does have a fondness for the TV/DVD wires ) - although I am sure I will be here in a few months eating my words as Hamster is getting into all sorts of mischief

Just been swimming - it was lovely and Hamster really enjoys it

Hello ladies
vbab hope you get the work thing sorted out, it sounds like a nightmare.
pinky glad you DS is a bit better
choc I remember the "hysteria" lol for me it was always between 4 & 6 lol are you enjoying being back?
ladybuzz I cant imagine having to keep my house tidy just now, hope you get it sold quick.
ceebee glad you and hamster had a good swim
I had my first day back at work today and really enjoyed it (I never thought I would say that lol). DH going in for his op tomorrow on his elbow, I have been saying the snip will be next

Vbab, agree with ceebee. Ds never went to pre-school. He was at nursery for the 2.5 days I worked. No worrying about holidays and that nonsense. God life was so easy then. Now trying to sort childcare for ds at school, for the 13 weeks they have off. Now that IS a nightmare. How I wished I appreciated more my 'easy nursery days'
ellie, glad work went well.
Lots of people are back at work now, aren't they - I think monkeym is doing good work wise.
I really must write my letter to work. Should put it at top of the '25 things I have to do' list !! There really are that many !

Hello all - gosh I can't keep up these days but just wanted to say hello.

M is doing great - he's become a noise monster and keeps squealing at everyone he see's. How is it they just keep getting louder??

No crawling, no teeth and no mama's or dada's here. He is getting round on his tummy by going backwards and turning 360 degrees.

I cannot believe he is 9 months next week, where has the time gone???

ceebee & obs - i know what you mean about leaving DS in nursery rather than preschool but the infants has a waiting list for places and much better chance of place if attended the preschool. Also just seems to be the "done" thing. I sorted preschool out not even considering work, schedules and stuff (not like me).

Looking like I may not be going back now and feel about it. Which is the opposite to what i thought i would feel. Up until the meeting yesterday i secretly (not on here ) didnt want to go back. But after it I just so wanted to go back. But on reflection cant organise DS with school and earning £100 after childcare and stuff isnt worth it. Need to be 100% and call not my boss or his boss but the MD to discuss ... ahem tell him i resign. Not worried about speaking to him just cant bring myself to cut the cord. 9yr good relationship/career since uni gone for good.

I AM KNACKERED

for the last 2 nights o has had me up every 2 hours, and a couple times it was hourly.

i have given bottles and cuddled up he just wont settle.

I feel better after a rant.

on my own again today so might go back to bed

Vbab, have you not got his name down for the school then ? Did you not do that the the time when you put his name down for pre-school ?
I had ds1's name down at his school soon after his birth. And very soon, I will put M's name down too !!
When you say it is the done thing what do you mean ? Its the done thing if it is convienient. Pre-school is for SAHM's. Private nursery is for working mums. I know that is simplistic, but it is true. The logistics of pre-school is a nightmare. Totally impossible for a working mum.
Talk to the school first. Ask them what his chances are of geting in. In an ideal world they would say , yes mrs ... his chances are good, don't worry about the pre-school. and then you might be able to re-consider possibilities of going back to work. If thta is what you want. I can't wait to get back to work. My mum , dh and my bfriend think it will be the making of me.It might be very good for you too ? maybe ?.
Or actually I get from your post that you don't want to. What is the REAL problem here Vbab ?