June09: the one where we learn to type with one finger

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Hi all and welcome to our first post-natal thread! Nappy's, colic and burping OH MY!

Come join the conversation as our baby's grow and grow.

naat, crossed posts, all that one handed typing Great to hear Mila was so chilled for her jabs Lovely photos, you can see how much she has grown!

Bigcar - Hey! Yes Molly is doing half days until the 7th Sept then full-time. I know she'll be fine as she has been at nursery at least 2.5 days since she was 18 months and is very confident. One thing I know will upset me is all the little fights little girls (I think more than boys?) have. She came out today saying that one girl told her she wouldn't be friends with her because Molly was bossing her friend around... or something along those lines! Anyway she was a bit of upset for about oh a minute or two and then she was fine. But I worry about it more! Will she make friends (none of her nursery friends go the same school and there are only 6 girls in her class, I know boys and girls can be friends but they tend to separate even more at school I find)? I hope they don't fall out and abandon her, etc etc. The joys of parenthood! Of course after this another wee girl asked her granny if Molly could play at her house so clearly her bossiness doesn't bother everyone! (And she is bossy, like her mamma!)

I just phoned up about Molly's ballet, it starts earlier than mine. She is always dancing I feel guilty I haven't sorted it sooner.

Also just book a restaurant for me and dh's anniversary! (The book will hopefully get her next week, anniversary Sat 5th).

June - I have always wanted to be my own boss, and I think I can do a good job, I might have to pick your brains though!

hiya everyone!

littlesarah good to hear from you again! I would love to be able to start up own business but as FIL is a caterer I will be taking that business over soon in a few years. Glad to hear Molly is enjoying school and Alex is doing well

tee that was a good sleep you got from Adam fingers crossed it continues for you and your DH!

bigcar naat glad to hear that Mila and Edward were OK after getting their jags (oh sorry mean jabs lol me and my scottish sayings lol)

mrsmcjnr I hope that things between you and DH are better and hope DS's sleeping pattern settles!

june meant to say Calypso looked great in her Bumbo chair

HI to all the rest of the lovely juners

Well Sarah got weighed today. She is 9 weeks old and weighs in at an impressive 12lbs 4oz. The HV was asking how I was keeping and said I have off days (like before) but she was trying to get me to start taking anti-depressants but I dont think I am at that stage yet. Me and DH had a major fight last night (i'm suffering major mood swings since implant was put into my arm last week) and i suppose the fighting isn't helping my border-linePND any. We sorted that fight out and we are happy again

I went and bought Sarah a Bumbo aswell and she loves it and looks so comfy sitting in it when supported. I have also put Sarah onto hungry baby aptimel for the last 2 feeds at night time to see if this settles her better for sleeping. It has had no effect yet but suppose it is early days. Is any of your babies on hungry baby formula?? Also arranging her first holdiay, a trip to relatives house in Liverpool in 2 weeks time and cannot wait!

Quick question: is anyone on the implant (implanon) I had it put in last week and since then I have had very bad mood swings and now my arm where implant is is very itchy and red. I am worried that body is rejecting the implant, is this possible???

Sorry for long post and I hope to catch up with everyone soon - and thank you for the lovely comments left about Sarah's christening photos

june - we are about to get our Bumbo out this weekend. DD loved being upright at about this age and I think DS will too. I used to put her in the kitchen while I was cooking and chat away, and I would put foods and herbs and bottles of things under her nose so she could smell them. It was amusing to see her reaction to some of them!!!

littles - exciting days for you. My brother started up his own business 5 years ago and he would never change anything. Tough at first but paying off now. What line of business are you thinking of?

My daughter is going every morning to nursery from next Wednesday up from 3 half days last year. I know what you mean about girls. They are all into this 'you are my best friend' then 'you are not my best friend any more'. I am trying to tell her to forget about having best friends and just enjoy having lots of friends (which she does) but they all seem to be saying this (even some of the boys!!). And they are all only 3.

mrsmcjnr - dd is being quite destructive in other ways at the moment and I am sure it is linked to new brother and wanting attention and not knowing how to express her confusion about certain things. She bit Daddy on the cheek and didn't know why. Maybe in a month or two he will calm down!

ermintrude - the caravan site sounded a bit challenging with a small baby. I hope some of the theatre and comedy acts made up for it.

laura - lovely pictures of christening. Hope you enjoyed it - sometimes it is so busy they are over in a flash! I am no expert in PND but I am a big fan of natural ways to overcome depression - nothing I ever read about anti-depressants seems to make good reading. If I'm low, I start running. Cardio exercise just clears my head so well. Also photography always helps as it makes me feel so good about myself. I don't much like the sound of your implant but some of these methods do have side effects don't they?

I am having to decide between the two types of coil. One gives you heavy periods and the other almost no periods. Does anyone know much about them? or experience of them?

Better go - dh home from walk.

I had Mirena in for 2 years. I always suffered from heavy periods but they became lighter and lighter with this until eventually they stopped altogether.
Is it the copper coil that makes bleeding heavier?

Hello all.

I'm having a nightmare with sleep at the moment. Emily is 12 weeks and had been doing 6-8 hour block of unbroken sleep at night after cluster feeding in the evening from 7-9pm. She'd then wake every 1-2 hours after this, but I could cope with that.

She went through a growth spurt at 10 weeks and was back to feeding every 2 hrs day and night. I know 12 weeks is a classic growth spurt, but this one will have gone on for two weeks and counting.....

She now does a four hour block, wakes at 1am and then is awake every 1-2 hours after that. I just seem to get to sleep and then she's awake again. She latches on for about 5 mins for a comfort suck, and then goes back to sleep.

In the day she'd scream for an hour before a nap, (not that I let her) until I latch her on so she can go to sleep. She's basically using me for a dummy as she isn't hungry. Unfortunately, she HATES the dummy.

I can't co-sleep as I tried for 6 weeks and I basically got no sleep as I'm such a light sleeper. Even though this current situation is torture, it isn't as torturous as that....

PLEASE could someone give me some advice as I'm so exhausted having to run around after a toddler all day and DH starts term again next week so I can't even go back to bed in the morning.....

Yesterday I walked around Wisley for an hour with her screaming (much to the Surrey crowd's disgust - much tutting and eye rolling going on). I latched her on, 5 mins and she was sound asleep.

Anyway, sorry for the me post. I'm just at the end of my tether. DS was/is a sleep-pro (sounds like your Alex LittelSarah)...

Hi Ineed. So sorry to hear about your sleeping trouble. I sadly don't know what to advise you but hope that someone else comes along that can help.

It must be so hard as sounds like you say; she is using you as a soother. Just a thought but have you tried the different shaped soothers (cherry and orthodontic)? Elina would not take the cherry but is sometimes taking the orthodontic.

I hope its just a short phase and that you get some sleep soon.

Hi all!

Ineed, oh I'm on the same boat!! Mila yesterday woke up 4 times! Of course I'm not as tired because I don't have a toddler as well I've tried feeding her A LOT during her last feed, but it didn't work. And she wakes up, feeds for 5-15min and falls asleep after that She does take a dummy but somehow I'm more of a soother for her during the night I join you and welcome any advice (or maybe we'll hear it's just a phase and there's nothing we can do ) Hope you manage to get a nap today (((hug)))

LittleS, awww so exciting and sweet that you've got everything ready for your anniversary! I loved the idea of a photo book and I'm also preparing a bob book for DH for our anniversary in October. Hope you had another good sleep last night

Laura, hi! Yes, fortunately no fever or anything after the jab (only waking up 4 times during the night ) It sounds like Sarah is thriving! Daisy's advice sounds good... hope you can find a natural way to deal with it first, before trying medication. ((hug))

Daisy, hi! Oh yes, children can be tough at nursery/school wrt "friendships". I like what you told your DD about having lots of friends and not esp. a best friend Hope Fraser is doing well and you're managing some good sleep

Choccie, hi!

Bigcar, hi! Glad to hear E is chatting away I seem to have missed something you said about DD3 but glad to hear she's better. Oh the hair-pulling!! How I remember engaging in such stress-releasing activity with my sister We grew out of it quite late in life as well we were teens I think

Hi to all Juners!!!

As I said, not a good night here. But well, now she's about to take a nap (on her swing looking at her fish) so I'll be able to do things around the house. Awful weather over here, hope you're having better one So happy it's a BH wkend!

This wkend I'll make a trial run of Mila's baptism cake I can't risk it making it one day before and making a mess out of it

Back to dissertation now.

(((waves)))

Lauraloo that looks like a very happy occasion. Love the pic of her sleeping with a smile on her face .

June Calypso looks v grown-up sitting up! I will try Arthur on the Bumbo but his siblings never took to it - 3rd time lucky maybe.

Daisy I'm so with you on the best friend nonsense. DD is 11 now and even having a close friendship group can be a flippin' nightmare. There's always a maniupulator playing power games - aaargh! Hope this will be diluted when she goes to comp and isn't in the same class as her so-called 'friends'.

Ineed oh dear, it's blomin' exhausting when that happens. I do think it's largely down to baby - my DD was exactly like that so we co-slept until she was 8 months, which did my back in and made me feel like the living dead, but was better than me getting up every hour to feed her. She HAD to suck to fall asleep. DS1 just fed differently and didn't like co-sleeping - he got all hot and wriggly so was in his cot much earlier and fed more enthusiastically. Arthur is more like DS although sometimes in the day he gets v angry about not getting to sleep and I do give him a little suck just for some peace, but his daytime sleeps aren't huge - I think that helps his night time. Last night he did from 8.30 to 4, fed for 20 mins and then slept again til 7! Apart from refusing the breast in the night or trying to give baby to DH before bedtime so you can build up a big supply for that last feed, I don't know what to suggest. Will ask my sis, who had this problem too.

A has woken up after a power nap, must go, bye all. x

Ineed - with dd, to break frequent night feeding, at the first middle of the night feed, I would feed her, and when she dozed off, undress her and turn on a light and feed her a bit more, then when she dozed off a second time I would change her nappy and chat to her until she was wide awake, and then feed her some more - by then she was knackered and would happily go soundly to sleep. I felt bad but it worked, as she would sleep on. Will she not suck on your finger and go to sleep that way??

hi naat- the weather is hideous isn't it. The sky just went jet black as I was writing this. Good luck with getting some sleep today.

Don't laugh at me, but we are off on holiday next Friday for two weeks and I have ordered a check baby swing seat from Amazon to be delivered to the place we are staying in. The same price as carting ours out there as have to pay for extra luggage on 4 flights! When he can't relax any other way, the seat always sends him to sleep, so I decided we just had to have it there!!!

ineed have you tried a swing?
A friend of mine has a son who stays awake for 12 hours at a time, crying, latching on for a few minutes to soothe etc and she tried a swing at another friend place and he fell asleep in it so she got one.
Calypso takes the tommee tippee dummy, they have a different shape.

Could someone look after your toddler for a few hours so you can get some sleep? Sleep deprivation is the worst and won't get better until you catch up at some point.

daisy That sounds pretty clever actually...I could order some stuff to be delivered to my dads place in time for next week!

Thanks all for your advice. I've tried two different dummies. She doesn't suck them at all. At best, she chews on them. Even when I put my finger in her mouth, she bites down on it and doesn't try to suck it at all.

Is there a swing anyone would recommend?

Felt awful earlier, but now feel a bit more normal. DH is trying to give me as much sleep as he can....

x

ineed I've got this
my friend bought one from fisher price also that a toddler can also use after, not sure which one.

You can usually try them on in the shops like babiesrus and then get it for cheaper from kiddicare.com

Just got my samsonite travel cot today, it folds up tiny and the baby is trying it out, she seems to like it!

I really wish we would start packing for France, dh seems to have million other things to do instead.

right, time to feed...

ineed forgot to mention, if you do get a swing make sure you get one that can rock the way your baby likes.
Calypso prefers side to side so a regular front to back sing wouldn't have helped. the one we got does both.
i think mrsmc you mentionned you have a rainforest one, how are you getting on with it?

I've got this one

Bought it three years ago in Toys R Us. We went in and tried several until one seemed to fit - also she fell asleep within two minutes of being in it, so we knew we had to get it. It was a godsend. I wish we had bought it from the start.

This one isn't made any more but Fisher Price has other similar ones.

It just swings forwards and backwards.

You could try ebay.

We have the same Daisy has. She LOVES it and sleeps there during the day, as well as in her moses and her cot It's the waking up several times at night that she likes

ineed I have the rainforest swing and although sarah doesn't really sleep in it, it does make her do the toilet when i need her to When she does doze over in the swing she can sleep for hours in it. Godd luck getting one that suits your/baby's needs
I have a really old swing bought for my nephew 8 years ago, must have been one of the first ones made by graco. I do not use iit and it is cluttering up sarah's room i'll try and find photo and post it for you tto see, looking to get rid of it for nothing x

It's so quiet today Hope everyone's having a lovely day, with sunshine as well

Horrible night for us last night, Mila was up 5 times!!! Let's see what awaits for us tonight

(((Waves)))

(((((waves))))

Haven't been on properly for ages as dh has had 2 weeks off and we've been trendily stay-cationing . Been out quite a bit locally (using tesco clubcard deals!!) and done some work aropund the house (hired a rug doctor to do the carpets, cleaned the car etc...)

Went out today to Paignton and cockington which was lovely, had fish and chips by the harbour for tea A has been more unsettled for 48 hours she seems to have a lot of traped wind atm so think I need to spend more time winding her. have posted a Fb photo of her (thanks for the lovely coments Naat) and I'll try and get it on her when I have a minute.

Half looking forward to next week dh is back to work and i have to start managing dd2's nebulisers on my own again however DD1 is back to preschool on Friday so I get a day of "just" 2 children (I know it's nothing on those who have 5 (you know who you are)) but for me one less is a third of the fight!!

Right off to look at ebay again as I'm trying to get so clothes to maintain my modesty. I've ordered a "rooti tooti" vest top which alleged can be worn under all sorts of other "normal clothes" so I will wait and give you the verdict (I've managed without one for this long but I'm getting fed up at what I can and can't wear I'm hoping this might help a little.

After our day out I'm now well and truely knackered so am going to have an early (!) night

x

hey naat we've been shopping for bits and bobs for a travelling baby. Mylene klass' mothercare range is on sale also, couldn't resist a couple of dresses for Calypso

Told my dad we were bringing some vegetables from our garden, they'll only go rotten if we leave them, and he took offence somehow ?! ("I'm not a pauper" he says.) I can't beleive how difficult he is to live with. I'm starting to dread spending a whole week there! There's going to be a lot of tongue biting, he better not catch me when I'm too tired to care about keeping the peace. I'm sure we'll work it out somehow.

ineed swaddling worked for us as well when C was tiny. I remember when she was little enough to be swaddled in a muslin :D
Hope youre getting more sleep this weekend.

erm people do get confused and think she is older than she is, she was almost 2 weeks late. and she only likes the bumbo for a little while, we're hoping she will like it enough to last a whole mea; on it by october (next hols).

mrsmc hope you're ok.

littleS you can message me on FB ig you gave specific questions. I can send you a message if you dint jnow which one i am, (it takes me ages to work it out.)

right, better go now...last feedof the day now.

june - many children I knew happily sat in the bumbo for quite some time between 3 months - 6 months. As soon as they learn to sit well and move around they start to loose interest. It's strange because it starts as something special that opens a whole new world to them (seeing things from sitting upright position) but in the end becomes something they feel trapped by (as they start to want to crawl).

Parents forgive you a lot when you turn up with a baby grandchild. They will probably pay more attention to the baby than what you are saying!!

naat - 5 times - that's rough. Poor you.

doris - our babies seem to have some similarities. I am on dairy reduction (chocolate, cheese & creamy sauces are the worst), and now ds has been terribly unsettled, with trapped wind and he is being increasingly sick at most mealtimes. I can't figure it out.

I'm having big problems with trapped wind that he will not realease in the evening/night, which means he cannot sleep flat, which means he ends up with me, or at least in the swing seat to go to sleep. This is naturally producing the problem that he hates the cot. But so long as we have this trapped wind problem, there isn't much point seriously addressing it. But it really restricts me and is completely unideal - him not being in his cot at night.

Hopefully in a couple of weeks it starts to pass.

naat - lovely lovely pictures

evening all how are you all doing? Sorry not replying to everyone, again, just a quick post.

Sarah is staying at my mum's tonight as I have a job interview tomorrow morning, I am still not going back to work until beginning of next uear but best to start applying now...so hope I get it, it is in my old office so fingers crossed they want me back (only reason i left was if i didn't move i would have been unemplyed).
I have a prob tho, every night without fail sarah will cry for about 2 hours anytime between 5pm and 9pm, she is teething quite bad now but not sure if it is teething or colic that is causing this. I am taking her to docs tomorrow to see if he recommends anything.

Best be off to sleep as need it for interview but will be back on tomorrow to catch up with everyone xx

evening all - have been reading but too difficult to catch up properly sorry.

DSS has been here since yesterday lunchtime. DH drove to Devon in the bank holiday weekend traffic to get him. He hasn't visited us here since Christmas due to problems with his mum. He's not even 15 yet but looks and seems like he's 17/18 - I can't believe it. Megan is completely besotted with him. He's been fantastic playing with her, she's been like his mini shadow. It's been so funny watching this strapping young lad with a 1 and 3/4 yr old following him everywhere Dh must be so happy.

He goes tomorrow and then my parents arrive tomorrow evening for 3 days.

Countdown to work starts tomorrow - 3 weeks left [eek]. I must get some good quality time in with my little girl. Also have to lose some weight or i won't fit into any of my work clothes!

Hope you are all well and that these little monkeys sleep well

x posts Laura - good luck for tomorrow