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Momino · 02/07/2009 22:19

hope i'm not duplicating

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llareggub · 29/07/2009 14:04

Its just the drive, I hate it!

Momino · 29/07/2009 14:36

llare, another option is to be upfront with your friend to explain why you're going to be late. would you consider cancelling altogether? your friend should understand and it would take a lot of pressure off you.

Hope G's ok after jabs.

tummum, hope you're feeling better and family ok.

Daizy, I tried to leave frazz a message as well but couldn't get on her profile so left a comment when she posted her status yesterday. hope ds2 is ok after his jabs as well.
Euro, scary about the high fever. glad it came down and you can relax a bit more. thanks for telling your mum's experience with AD's. I wish i'd have read before I went to doc's this morning as i would have had more guts to go with it.

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Momino · 29/07/2009 14:41

all, thanks for your support. i 'chickened' out at the gp and told her my anxiety was much better so we didn't talk about it at all. just had a chat about piles which haven't gone down at all since right before H's birth. she's given me cream and fibogel so hoping it works.

my anxiety still wakes me but not as badly as last year. however, i just feel a failure in everything and wondering how we're going to cope financially when mat pay ends and my lesser salary(or no salary if i don't go back) starts in jan. and what a bad mum i am. and how i hate my job. and i'm so lazy and useless. and dog didn't get his walk this morning... see? ridiculous things. but i get a pit in my stomach that i can't explain and i can't make it go away. maybe if I were on AD's, this feeling would go away and i'd get the energy to do something like go to a career counsellor or clean the house or walk the dog. or stop screaming at the children. but then, i also think i'll be a failure if i 'give in' to ADs. seems I can't win!

please don't worry about responding to my silly statements about myself. i'm not fishing, just venting i guess. I also know some of you may feel similar (?). in any case, i'm seeing my counsellor hopefully next week who will give me more advice/direction.

again a mostly 'me' post which i'll stop soon. (should prob be posting this on the mental health threads ).

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llareggub · 29/07/2009 14:48

I think we're here to support each other, so let it all out!

DH is on ADs and he tells me that the things he worried about sound very similar to you. He has been on ADs for a few years now and it has helped him enormously. He used to get anxious and would take on too much as he was afraid of letting people down. He is a lot better on medication.

Momino · 29/07/2009 14:55

thanks llare, that helps to know.

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pulapula · 29/07/2009 15:07

Momino- I can't remember whether you were on ADs when you had PND before, but I am certainly feeling the benefits of the ADs now and glad i am on them. Glad you are seeing your counsellor next week as they can help you decide what is best for you.

llareggub · 29/07/2009 15:14

I'm going to ask this now because we are nearing the end of the thread so it will disappear quickly. It is far, far too much information but I need to ask.

I have a problem down there. I am having a discharge which I guess could be normal but there is a lot of it. White, no smell. There is a bit of irritation too. Following childbirth I felt a bit bruised (to be expected) but it still feels that way 12 weeks on. What do you think it is? Is it normal? No sex here yet btw, still too scared!

Momino · 29/07/2009 15:14

no pula. I had just started a course of beta blockers but went off them when I found out I was pregnant. not sure they were doing anything anyway.

I'm so glad they're helping you and also helps to know your opinion. maybe I shouldn't be so scared of them .

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Momino · 29/07/2009 15:22

llare, could it be thrush? sorry for this tmi questions but, ahem, what consistency?

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llareggub · 29/07/2009 15:43

White and jelly like. A bit mucousy to be frank...

runningmonkey · 29/07/2009 15:56

Momi - you dont sound silly at all. Good you are talkingto a counsellor and it's not 'giving in' using ad's if you need them. someone said to me that the fact you worry about being a good mum just shows that you are one which I think is a great mantra. It doesn't mean you don't need a hand every now and then tho.

Llare - sounds like thrush to me. The bruising feeling is prob worth getting checked tho. Don't want to nag but have you been doing your pelvic floor exercises? I have to admit to being a but slack with mine

llareggub · 29/07/2009 16:00

Grrr. Don't want thrush. Will now worry myself silly that I've got proper diabetes instead of gest. diabetes. Have made an appointment to see the dr next Wednesday.

No. I haven't been doing my exercises and after a little accident on the trampoline yesterday I really should.

Momino · 29/07/2009 16:23

thanks Runningmonkey .

pelvics, must admit that I'm not doing mine either. felt some leaks lately . (we're using the emoticon a lot lately aren't we?)

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FiKelly · 29/07/2009 16:51

llareggub been thinking of your dilemma on and off all day have a few ideas but not sure if any work. it's a hard one!

  1. wait till dh gets home from his meeting and you head off to the wedding with ds2 on your own leaving ds1 at home with his dad.
  1. if you have 2 cars.. again wait till dh gets back.. he then drops ds1 at your Mums and spends as long as ds1 needs to get settled.. while you head straight to wedding with ds2 and dh joins you as soon as he can.
sophietom · 29/07/2009 16:59

llare if I was you I'd give the wedding a miss but promise you friend you'll meet up soon, you'd be able to catch up properly then anyway which you prob wouldn't be able to do at her wedding as she'll be going round talking to all the guests. You could plan to go out for a meal to celebrate the new addition to your family and her marriage.

momino it sounds like you are not taking the decision to take ADs lightly which is good but it really may be worth a try. It's not 'giving in' it could be an opportunity to take control, of course if you feel you can start to make positive changes without ADs give it a go but please don't see taking medication as a failure on your part- I'm sure you wouldn't hesitate to take medication for a phys health prob and this is just the same. Hope this doesn't sound preachy.

FiKelly · 29/07/2009 17:02

momino never mind about not fessing up to the gp.. but do speak to the counsellor next week.. getting ad's is not a failure it's a positive step to start working on the changes you want to make to your life.. they can only help imo as they should help clear your mind of the little stuff so you can concentrate on the big stuff.

llareggub re other prob down there.. if it's been like that for a long time then could be thrush but if just for a week could be your ovulation time.. i've found this was more err copious since having g and as it disappeared well lessened after a few days i figured it must have been that.

FiKelly · 29/07/2009 17:07

on phone at mo thinking of new thread titles.. how about

May 09 - This too shall pass.. from leg warmers to pennies!

runningmonkey · 29/07/2009 17:10

Like it Fi

Momino · 29/07/2009 17:13

Thanks Fi!
Have created new thread here.

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