May 09 - weather and jabs = hot cross babies

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hope i'm not duplicating

jael i saw your fb update. so glad for you that the op is done and you're back home. take it easy

Jael great to hear from you. Glad the op is over and done with. How are the migraines now?

G has just rolled from his back onto his tum... and was very unimpressed . Trouble is, I can't leave him on his tod now !

Hello - all.

Well - M (DS2) rolled from back to front about a week ago, so can no longer be left on own - and last night - he went right through the night - and I mean right through - he fed at 7pm, went down by 7.30, then woke up this morning around 7.30 and had a feed just gone 8am!!!!! Not sure if this is a one off, or whether this is the start of a regular thing?

Re routines, ours is fairly relaxed - morning feed around 8.30 - 9am, lunchtime feed around 1 or 2 then evening feed around 6 or 7 - he used to then have a feed in the night - but as he did last night - not always!
He hardly naps at all during the day - so may be why he is a sound night sleeper? We are now in the routine of putting him up to bed in his cot around 7pm, when DS1 goes - and he has settled into this quite well. We tend to bath him in the daytime too.

Hope all of you are having a good evening.....whereabouts does everyone live? I noticed that a couple of you have obviously met up.....I am in Warwickshire - 35, on second marriage and have 2 DSs (both from this DH).
I work as a Training Consultant, in IT and Business Skills, and am going back to work at the beginning of October - 4 days a week.

Right, off to watch last nights Top Gear!

x

Browniebells, we are in the same county. Whereabouts are you?

dandy I'm with you on the sensitivity to tone of voice.. when dh gets nippy it really gets me down.

Daisydoo Yes he is Afrikaans but not had a maid all his life so its not that he just doesn't see if anything needs to be done he will do anything I ask and looked after DD when I first went back to work including cleaning and cooking (although he prefered braai everynight ) but he's not that bothered by mess and I am house proud so we clash on this point.

Dandy we sound similar on our things we like around the house. I also like things to be in there place. DH will come home dropping bits and pieces along the way as he walks in .

Sometimes I return things to the rightful place while its still being used . I wish I could chill out about it but I really feel better when everything is away and then I can happily relax.

Jael it's fantastic you've had your op and can now look forward to getting back to normal. Hope you recover quickly x

Dandy we never used to have arguments about tone of voice but have had a few about Harvey-care. Poor DH is likely to get his head bitten off if he asks about eg what to dress H in in the wrong (ie a 'you're in charge, tell me what to do') tone of voice. Equally I have to make sure I don't sound like I'm criticising him. The other mums in my NCT group have the same thing, so you're not alone.

We don't argue about money. I'm more of a spender than DH but I'm also more careful about keeping track of money, paying bills on time etc, so it balances out, and we have the same overall priorities so we don't argue.

DH is a bit of a messy bugger but he does have to have coathangers pointing the same way, and all the items in the fridge stacked neatly with labels facing outwards. He claims it's the effect of years of shelf stacking as a teenager.

Febes and Dandy- I sound like your DHs and my DH sounds like you- picking up my bits and pieces and putting them away for me . However, my DH is the reverse with dirty laundry (he leaves it on the bedroom/bathroom floor) which makes me .

Dandy- I also like my coathangers all facing the same way, and spend a lot of time going round shutting wardrobe and kitchen cupboard doors.

Oh yes another thing that infuriates me about DH (sorry I don't mean to be horrible, I love him dearly, but I'm on a roll now ): if he makes any food etc, eg toast and honey, he will leave everything out on the side in disarray - bread, knife, butter open, lid off honey etc. He claims he plans to come back and clear it up, but he will leave it there for hours, usually until I want to prepare a meal. I keep telling him how it's easier to put stuff away as he goes rather than come back and clear it up later but he doesn't listen.

Spangle my DH does that too and it drives me insane. He will also start cooking without tidying up beforehand, working around the stuff littered around the work surfaces. Mind you, we aren't the tidiest family around. I blame it on having 3DCs but we were messy before they were born

jael - good to hear from you. I'mso glad you've had you op, fingers crossed for a speedy and thorough recovery.

I've missed loads, sorry, so can't catch uo with you all.

The arguments conversation is interesting - DH and I don't really argue much (neither of us can be bothered, mostly!) but sex is one of the problem areas. Otherwise it's me getting annoyed with the amount of time he spends managing to not do anything much at all, and he gets annoyed with me for not tidying up after myself.

We've had a good few days really, fruit picking on Saturday, watching lots of TdF of the telly, DD1 and I have been cooking together. She was at the childminders today so I had a bit of a domestic goddess kind of afternoon - I managed to make bread, do the ironing and deal with the tax credits people all at the same time!

Really not looking forward to next week though - DH has got to go away for work for a week which is bad enough (bed time tips anyone?!) but the childmonder is also on holiday next week so I won't even get my one quiet day of the week!

Re our bedtime routine problem - we've given it up in favour of bathing him in the day (although we haven't actually done that yet ) and going with the flow in the evenings, following llareggub and others' advice. It hasn't completely solved the problem as he had crying sessions both last night and this evening, but we feel more relaxed as we're not trying to rush to get everything done. I'm hoping it's just a phase

Jael, welcome back. glad your op is finished and hope you get better quickly. HOpe you're not feeling as down as well. you know where to vent anyway .

Daizy, sorry you're feeling a bit lonely. wish we lived closer, it would be great to meet you.

can't name checkanyone else. i'm falling asleep as i type this.
time for bed.

morning all...

well we had a good day yesterday - M slept for almost 2hrs (she never sleeps during the day) so managed to wash, dry and put away 2 loads of washing, clean one of the bathrooms, tidy and hoover lounge and dining room, so DH came home to a clean tidy house for a change .
Trouble was he started to leave stuff everywhere so I had to keep moving/tidying stuff away cos it was annoying me .

DH hasn't apologised and he did have a drink last night but only 2 glasses of wine so nowhere near as much as normal . Think we need another chat tho.

Good news tho - M slept 9.30 till 6am! Fed till 7 then went back down and is still asleep so have managed to hang out washing, have breakfast and about to get in the shower.

Off to a mum & baby group later - got to park in asda as its nearest car park. Has anyone ever heard of anyone getting fined/clamped for being in an asda car park for more than 2hrs?

Ooops! just caught up on reading...

Welcome back Jael and get well soon x

brownieb i'm in weston-super-mare N Somerset. not v close to most of us.. chocolatebunnies is a bit further south from me in devon

looby glad you had a better night and day yesterday and only 2glasses of wine is a start isn't it. i'm not sure about how picky asda's will be about parking.. that might vary according to each stores location and how busy they are?

Hi All,
Just about caught up I think.

Jael so glad you have had your op, I am in awe of your bravery and hope you start feeling well again soon x x

re arguments - I think DH an I are a bit like you dandy we don't really argue as such except re tone of voice, which has been parti bad with the lack of sleep. Both of us do like a drink but it has got much less since our friends have started having kids and then we did too. Luckily we are both as messy as each other

Loobs check the signs re asda, our morrisons has a big one on the way in saying no stays over 3hours. Mind you people park there and go to the pub across the road so no idea if anyone gets in trouble.

Right am off to the dr in a bit, A's granuloma has gone a funny colour and looks like its about to fall off

I'm another with having oldest best friends in distant parts.. the closest ones are in n ireland and scotland.. then belgium and unfortunately the one i miss the most is now in nz thank goodness for skype.. my friends here in w-s-m are all post natal group ones from having ds 3yrs ago..