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May 09 - weather and jabs = hot cross babies

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Momino · 02/07/2009 22:19

hope i'm not duplicating

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LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 20:11

hope its not swine flu ses

just had a text from my friend to see if I want to go the local pub quiz
she's got the night off her DH is looking after her 2 children

don't know what to do. my DH has never looked after M in the evening altho she does have a bottle of formula about now which he is giving her she usually looks for breast after for comfort..

trouble is I'm supposed to be going out on sat night so I guess he's going to have to get used to looking after her on his own?

LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 20:13

bum- she's just texted again

LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 20:21

what to do?

(pub is only 15min walk away so I could be home quickly)

Tummum · 26/07/2009 20:26

Go on Looby ! Is it far away? If not, you can always rush back if you need to.

Sorry Ses DH was demanding I helped tidy up . The advice I got when we were ill was that a high temp that comes on very quickly, plus normal flu symptoms = swine flu. Classic symptom is hacking cough / shortness of breath too. Be reassured that G didn't come down with anything despite the rest of the family being (supposedly) ill with sf. Hope he gets better soon.

LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 20:38

decided to stay in..having a glass of wine and watching top gear instead.

Ironically M has just fallen asleep on DH halfway thro her bottle so he's put her in her cot and so far she's still asleep

essenceofSES · 26/07/2009 20:47

Thanks all and Tummum for voice of experience. Fever did come on v suddenly but seems controlled by paracetamol and he does have those other symptoms I mentioned but no sign of (much of) a cough though so maybe it's not SF.
I think we'll stay calm, keep him dosed with paracetamol and see how he is in the morning.

Good to know that G didn't get it Tummum.

Looby - sounds like sod's law to me. If you'd have gone, she probably wouldn't have settled. Enjoy your wine.

LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 20:56

M has just woken up and as my DH is in charge he has decided to go up and play supertramp to her to get her to sleep

why does he not realise that it is not going to work

oh - that would be BECAUSE HE HAS BEEN DRINKING - AGAIN!!

my stepdaughter is here and I have managed to say the f word in front of her (bad stepmum )

llareggub · 26/07/2009 20:59
LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 21:01

thanks llare

one step forward and two back - I want to scream at him but can't

So M will have an unsettled night and he will piss off to work tomorrow leaving me with M and his daughter all day.

LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 21:02

with no chance of rest and a bored 11yr old to entertain as well as M

LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 21:03

sorry me, me, me...

llareggub · 26/07/2009 21:05

11 year olds should entertain themselves, IMO.

LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 21:11

sorry for moaning

I feel sorry for his other daughter, she's sat downstairs watching tv with me. He only sees her every other weekend so you'd think he'd be down here with us instead of listening to loud music upstairs with a bottle of red wine .

LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 21:13

wish I was at the pub now...

at least then he'd be forced to look after both his daughters

llareggub · 26/07/2009 21:14

Alcoholics (if that is what he is, I can only go by my own experience) are notoriously selfish. They don't see the world like non-alcoholics. In fact, he has probably justified it in his head by convincing himself that you'd appreciate time with his daughter to bond.

LoobyLou36 · 26/07/2009 21:16

M is crying her eyes out upstairs - he obviously can't cope

better go and rescue her...

llareggub · 26/07/2009 21:17

I don't mean to be overly alarmist, but if he drinks a lot I wouldn't leave M alone with him. I didn't leave DS1 alone with DH until he'd been sober for a year, after I watched him fall slowly to the side while kneeling on the floor, holding DS1 after a nappy change.

DH never really admitted to me how much he actually drank, but it was far more than he ever drank in front of me.

But again, I'm bringing my own experience to this. He may not be an alcoholic, but if it is causing you relationship problems then it is a fairly big clue.

FiKelly · 26/07/2009 21:30

looby I've no experience of living with a heavy drinker but it sounds really hard sending you big hugs or a manly pat on the back and hope m settles for you.

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Momino · 27/07/2009 07:08

looby, hw did your night go? i'm sorry your DH had a drink again. sounds really tough and sending virtual support your way.

llare, i've been paying attention to your advice. my DH isn't super heavy drnker but i do think we both have tendencies and alcohol does create probs/arguments. DH started to open a beer last night, this after a huge night out drinkng as well as been drinkin every night last week. he should have been hungover and avoiding. he says it's his 'only pleasure' . anyway, gave him a [anger] look, i told him i wanted an alcohol free day and he left it .

frazzled. was it your bday? tried to send you FB message but kept telling me 'profile unavailable' . hope you had a great day, xx.

hope everyone had at least a good chunk of sleep. one-handed typing again. will be back on later.

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Momino · 27/07/2009 07:10

oh, and ses, how's your family today? do you think dh has sf? hope you're taking care of yourselves and resting, vitamins, liquids, etc.

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Momino · 27/07/2009 07:11

should have been look 2 posts above. would have been more effective.

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essenceofSES · 27/07/2009 08:06

Morning!

Still not totally sure if DH has swine flu. He's still controlling his temperature with paracetamol and is still a bit achey but says he feels a bit better than yesterday. I guess if it is SF, then he's only got it mildly.

Looby - hope M settled well for you last night. Sounds like another conversation is needed with your DH which won't be easy.

Momino - bloomin' cheek "only pleasure!!"

Frazzled - sorry, I missed it was your birthday. Hope you had a good one.

FiKelly · 27/07/2009 09:35

alcohol i find it becomes a habit.. like my current naughty non weight loss foods. i miss stopping eating them or drinking at first then i get to the stage i'm not that bothered.. since having g i'm still not bothered about alcohol and the couple of times i've had my favourite tipple i've not enjoyed it

Febes · 27/07/2009 09:37

Looby Has he been like this for a long time??

I had a bad night with DS he woke 11, 2,4,5,6 at least DD slept until 8. I tried to put the dummy in but he wanted feeding each time growth spurt again??? My boobs are huge this morning so he's stimulated the supply again for sure.

DH and I had a huge row yesterday because he didn't get up and come car booting with me, and slept in until noon. This meant he only saw DCs for les than an hour becasue we went out yesterday afternoon. I gave him a right grilling cause he could have made the effort. He can take them out for me today so I can get some cleaning done. Oh joy .

FiKelly · 27/07/2009 09:38

can't say the same about current desire for snacking on naughty foods though