May 09 - weather and jabs = hot cross babies

[Momino]

hope i'm not duplicating

Fi, poor you!

Jenn, agree with the others - you look fab. No-one except DH (and my parents who got to them before they were censored) have seen the photos of me immediately post birth!

Jael, hope your recovery is super speedy.

Dandy, just to reassure you, DH only bites the legs of friends, family, and reasonably good acquaintances.... and not nearly as often as he used to (at least, not since I've started the raw steak feeding twice a day). He doesn't drink every night either and often drinks in moderation; it's the other nights I struggle with. It's like the nursery rhyme - when he's bad he's horrid!!

All others with DH and housework stories... Agree completely with Tummum and Spangle on the leaving things out in the kitchen and with the starting cooking round things anecdotes.

However, in his defence, DH has never left the loo seat up and what's more it drives him crazy that I always (absolutely always) leave the tops off my shampoo and conditioner bottles.

It's DH's birthday tomorrow but he's been in Solihull today and is in Welwyn Garden City tonight and tomorrow, poor love. Just as well, I haven't finished present shopping yet!

F's eye still no better after finishing hellish 5 day course of oral liquid antibiotics so called doctor who says continue with the antibiotics for another 3 days. Gutted, it makes him scream and me cry. I hate hate hate doing it to him.

Right, as DH isn't here am off to catch up on rubbish TV waiting for me on Sky+, woo hoo!

Fi, has it passed yet?

Jennster, great first pic, love the caption. Also love the pic of dd1/dd2 a few hours old. very cute.

Reebee, hope F's eye is better soon and happy bday to DH for tomorrow.

oh, my DH is finally home so have to run the dog out for his 2nd walk as DH pulled his shoulder (man flu thing perhaps?).

will be back on to see how everyone is.

Hello - Llare - yes I know where you are then - perhaps we could attempt a meet up at some point?

Fi - gosh - really empathise with your panic situation (DS1 once stuffed a smartie up his nose, then really panicked when he realsied he couldn't get it out again!) Hope it passes without too much mess!

Is there a FB group? I am on FB but wouldn't know wher to start finding you guys....if you'd let me in that is!

Momino - hope your day got better...the bubbly should def have helped!

I am annoyed that I am still unable to drink too much anyway, cos of being on warfarin - not that I drank loads anyway - but can only have a max of 2 units a day...after 9 months of 0 units - it was and still is a real bummer!

Anyway - off to watch CSI Miami now.....

x

Fi DH told me his brother swallowed several coins (at the same time ) when he was little. MIL had to root through the poo to find them too, and as she is incredibly frugal, put them back in her purse afterwards. What will you do with the penny?!

lol.. i've just been wondering what to do with it! also i wonder if it will be all shiny after a good wash?! just hope ds doesn't find it too uncomfortable to pass..

it's quite reassuring in a fascinated in horror/amusement way to know what other dc's have done too..
i'll let you all know when it turns up

dandy rofl surprisingly no!! i hadn't thought of it either

I feel like I haven't really had time to post much over the last few days. Potty training is going well at times and terribly badly at others. DS1 is amazingly dry at night, having refused to wear his nappy after a few days of daytime training. Unfortunately the same success cannot be said of number twos, which he keeps doing in his pants. Ugh. So fikelly you most definitely are not alone in the stinky jobs! Has it passed yet?

jennster I love the photos!

browniebells I'm always up for a meet-up. I do like the cafe in the Cox's Yard on the canal in Stratford. Do you know it? It has a lovely little family room with toys and great cakes.

momino I hope you are feeling better.

Housework we're not terribly tidy here. I have a mountain of ironing gathering dust under the stairs and the playroom never gets tidy. I figure it can't get much messier than messy!

sophietom what a handsome boy!

Those of you with pre-schoolers, I can highly recommend the project we did today. I'm always looking for things to keep DS1 entertained, and someone on another thread suggested using food colouring to colour rice. You just add food colouring to rice in ziplock bags, then pour the rice onto a baking tray to dry off in the oven. It kept DS amused for hours! He liked the colours, the shaking, and then playing with the rice afterwards. I find life a lot easier when I can think of things like this to do. We now have bags of coloured rice and I'm wondering what we can do with it!

DS2 is having his 2nd lot of jabs tomorrow, then we're off to south Wales for the weekend.

llareggub, good luck to DS2 on his jabs. am intrigued about the coloured rice - am defn going to try with my 2 toddlers.

spangle, your MIL's frugleness.

lol at the coin conversation above .

i feel better, thank you everyone. I've just been impatient with my LOs and feel like an inferior mum because of the yelling i've been doing. dd1&2 were extra clingy at the party today and hung onto my leg so icould barely walk into the party. Very annoying. I did get a glass of champagne which settled me nicely.

i'm off to see GP tomorrow and, with the way i've been feeling, am seriously thinking of asking her for AD's. but i'm worried about side effects and not treating the underlying problems. sigh.

anyway. glad all you are ok and hope everyone gets some sleep tonight. xx

momino glad you got your glass of champagne. dc leg warmers do make doing anything difficult esp walking and sitting.. did they relax after a while and give you a break? hope you get on ok at the doc's.

day 2 of marigolds today [boak] we're off to a playgroup this am/lunchtime so any nappies he fills while there we'll be bringing home..

fi, lol at 'dc legwarmers' .

am just feeding H, one handed typing so you'll get occasional punctuation. since she slept so much yesterday i'm not surprised she woke up a couple of times in the night, luckily fell back asleep quickly.

be back on later. hope everyone had a good night.

Hi jael - I hope you are recovering ok and things are going well. It sounds like you've really been through it, I hope you can get some rest and really enjoy your babies now.

Re fights, Dandy and others we also have the tone of voice thing - it's so frustating to be arguing about "you said this but I know you meant that" etc etc when or "what you said was fine but...". I have found myself thinking that dh is just too much of a woman since this began, which also coincided with having children. I really wonder why. We're both equally tidy though, or at least in more or less complementary ways - and Febes (think it was you [losing track of things again]) I'm another one who tidies things while using them. At the moment I am a bit fed up that dh is leaving ALL the housework to me, including never loading/emptying the dishwasher and stuff like that - I think he thinks that as I'm on maternity leave, it's my job to do everything domestic. I have decided it's not worth a fuss and am trying not to mind for the sake ofpeace and harmony, but it would be nice if he expressed appreciation every now and again. Still, in general he's very good at that stuff. And finally, I'm glad to see we're not the only ones who argue about sex either!

browniebelles wow re your long ds! T was measured yesterday at 8 (9? or maybe even 10?) weeks and he was 57.5cm. I cna't imagine him being almost 10cm longer in a couple of weeks! By the way I share your frustration about drinking too, after 9 months I was looking forward to a few glasses of wine but T feed so regularly that I can't really get away with it. I did have about 3/4 of a pint of lager the other day - and was very depressed to discover that it made me drunk [pathetic lightweight emoticon] .

And Fi at your ds too. My deepest sympathy for the poo-searching.

Momino glad you got your champagne despite the legwarmers. T does that too (cry for no apparent reason) and I have been wracking my brains but it seems he just does need cuddles. Endearing but annoying when you want to be doing things, especially as thebdd wants a cuddle too - normally because he's having one, so either way, one of them isn't happy . I think you did pretty well yesterday to get out to a shop and handle all that like you did! I would have just hid at home . Anyway I hope you get on ok at the doctor today and get a sympathetic discussion about whether ADs could help or not (if you think it's a discussion you want to have, of course). I remember my mum was on them for a whlie when I was a kid and she's since told me that she resisted the idea for ages because she wanted to just sort out the actual issues, but once she had them she felt so much better, it was at that point that she got the energy and strength to deal with things 'properly', if you see what I mean.

Well we all had a pretty stressful night at T had his first jabs yesterday afternoon and developed an incredibly high temp over the evening (40 degrees at midnight). Fortunately it's gone right back down now but I was pretty stressed and up a lot in the night with him. Hear dd yelling though (after her tremendous lie-in ) so had better go...

Sorry for probable typos etc, bit short on time again!

momino sorry to hear you are feeling down. Hope trip to the dr's is productive.

Jael glad you've had the op, hope all goes well for you now.

Fi good luck with the great poo hunt! I might be up for a trip down to the seaside if the weather gets any better

Dandy I have a 2 1/2yr old and ds2 is 12 weeks. I've been back here properly for a year this weekend. I go to mother and toddler groups and chat with the other mothers, but am just crap at making new friends!

Euromum wow that's a high fever, glad its gone down now. Must be very worrying.

Is anyone unable to access other people's profiles on fb? I tried to leave a msg for fraz on her bday and now there's another one I can't nose look at!

Am hoping that our new bed gets delivered today, as I've taken our old one apart!! Got to go, my 'legwarmer' has turned into a scarf as I've been typing!

Oh god, can someone help me make a decision?

As you know DH lost his job last month and is going it alone. Things are going well and he is getting work in. He has been asked to meet with some prospective clients on Friday morning at 7.45am, and the meeting will end at 8.45am. He really needs to go.

However, we are due at a wedding at 1.30pm 3 hours away without stopping. We need to take the children so will need to stop for feeds, nappies, loos etc so it will take a lot longer than that. It is therefore unlikely that we will get there on time.

DH has suggested that I drive down alone and he will follow. This is OK in principle but last time I drove there on my own it was a nightmare and I only had the baby. I can imagine that with a toddler as well it will be horrendous. I really don't relish the thought of doing it alone.

Gah. Wedding is a friend from school who I rarely if ever see, if that matters. DH was never particularly fussed about going anyway. I feel we ought to go but we really can't afford for DH to miss out on this opportunity.

What to do, oh wise mumsnetters?

Can you not leave when your dh's meeting ends. It's still 4 1/2hrs & just be late if necessary?

We could, but we'd be very late.

DS1 hasn't been invited to the wedding so we need to take him to my mother's house. Because she lives so far away and because of our complicated relationship I can't just drop him off. He hardly knows her to be honest. So we'll need to hang around for a bit to make sure that he is OK. He is only 2.8 so will need reassuring.

Last time I did the trip it took 5 hours as DS2 needed a lot of feeding stops. It will take DH half an hour to get back from his meeting, then it is a 3 hour-5 hour trip, a little while at my mother's house and then late for the wedding.

We'd planned to leave tomorrow to give DS plenty of time to get used to being in a strange house, but obviously can't do that now.

I see your dilemma. I've been pondering it whilst trying to help the delivery man get my new mattress up the stairs . Thats for the company we bought the bed from not you llare!! Could your ds stay with your dh and someone babysit him for the duration of his meeting? A difficult one...

Ds2 had his jabs yesterday and is grumpy and clingy today, poor thing. Unfortunately ds1 is also clingy. At least the bed has been delivered so we can find somewhere to go in the rain

Llare Mmm very difficult one. I like Daizy's suggestion that someone babysits DS1 for the meeting, then travels down with DH. But that might mean you can't be there for the transfer to your Mum. An alternative might be to just accept you won't make the ceremony (unless it's a very small audience, the bride probably won't notice you aren't there!) and turn up (discretely) after the service for the mingling and photos etc. No-one will ever know you weren't there !

Monimo thinking of you. Hope the Drs appt goes as you want it.

Hi all,

a having a v clingy day today so not been able to do much. Think the poor mite has been building up to the giant poo she just did for the last 24 hrs.

Llare, I think the idea of dh bringing ds1 if poss is a good one or just resign yourself to being late as tum says, bride might not notice if a big wedding.

Thanks both. I think I'll sleep on it. I'm just back from G's 2nd jabs so we're now feeling sorry for ourselves. DS1's little friend has swine flu, bless him. How are you now Tummum?

Ooh just noticed we're on p39 are we going to need a new thread soon?