May 09 - weather and jabs = hot cross babies

[Momino]

hope i'm not duplicating

Flippin I am also in the tummy sleeping club

Belgian and Llare looking fwd to meeting up tomorrow.

All DC are in front of the Telly before bathtime and hair wash. Really looking fwd to that, NOT !

Yes! Tomorrow....looking forward to it too.

afternoon all. one question: any of you have absolutely no energy? am getting about 6/7 hours of sleep a night which isn't too bad. just don't feel like doing anything but sitting, feedin H and watching older DDs play.

am about to watch cbeebies with them but can't be bothered to bathe them tonight. we had a friend round this morning but am to say we didn't make it out of the house. i think i'll need to force myself tomorrow to do something constructive.

anyone have days like this?

hiya everyone i need a name check amnesty as although i've been keeping up reading i've not had a chance to post and i'm still on my phone so remembering who's done what is beyond my brain atm

momino the times i've felt as you describe have been when my iron levels have been quite low.. if you've not been eating plenty of iron rich foods it could be a possibility?

Fi, thanks. you may be right. i've been eating mostly rubbish lately . i'll try to concentrate on iron rich foods (meat? green leafy stuff? pulses? can't remember and will google).

going to sleep early tonight as well.

Hi everyone haven't had time to post but have been lurking. I had ds weighed today 12lbs 11oz- the same weight DD was at 5 months and 59cm so 75th percentile for length and weight.
I talked to HV about how I am feeling a bit and said some days I feel like I'm not coping she has put me down for a visit in a few weeks so I'm glad that someone will be looking out for me. I came home and had a big talk to DH and said that apart from him (who is fabulous) I don't have anyone who I feel I can ask for help or that will see that I need support. I have lots of fab friends but they are either busy with their own lives or not parents themselves.
I am loving being a mum to A and R and get out most days and feel like I'm doing a good job but I don't feel like I have enough emotion support. That's why I love MN so much. I basically want to be back in NZ near my mum and sister I think.
DH was a honey and got us an icecream and we went for a big walk around the park. I feel like I lean on him so much and expect so much from him sometimes its not fair on him.

Sorry to go on.

Evening all, back again - and typing one handed again as A is feeding/dozing.

dandy - thank you, and yes maybe I should stop worrying/being annoyed as my mum probably is paying me a backhanded compliment. Just not used to it, all the women in my family are very much of the 'getting on with things' school and don't do compliments on behaviour/coping etc. They will compliment your cakes though!

tummum glad it's not just us with tummy sleeping, thank you!

febes - that's a good weight! A is a lot heavier than DD1 at the same age too.

Actually, talking of weighing - how often are you all getting LOs weighed? A was weighed when the HV came here 2 weeks ago, but I can't be bothered to drag them both tp the clinic, wait for ages in the baking hot waiting room etc.

And another question fr those with older children: how do you toilet/potty train?!

febes, it's not easy living far away from family, friends, etc. I'm glad you can come on here to talk to us, i think it's the reason I come on here so often.

It's great you have your DH and HV to lean on as well. Hope you feel better and do give yourself a break. xx

flippin, last time I got H weighed was a few weeks ago. I'm curious tosee how she's gaining so will try to take her this week.

potty training - dd1 didn't start till she was 3. i was a bit impatient and wanted her to do it earlier but she wasn't ready and everyone told me to follow her signs. so do be sure your dc is ready. my dd2 is nearly 2 and I'm trying to encourage her to sit on the potty. However, she's very blase' about it so I'm not pushing her.

i also got GF potty training book which so many people recommended. Even if you don't follow religiously, the book has many good tips and advice.

febes - glad you've spoken to your HV and DH. I know what you mean about missing your family, despite my rant I do wish we lived nearer my parents and siblings.

momino - I think she's getting there, tells us when she's done a wee, and when she wants to poo. She keeps asking to sit on the toilet but then does nothing when she's there though. Will look fo the GF book, thanks for the suggestion.

hi all,

havent really got time to post as usual but just wanted to pop on to say im still here, but life is just too hectic with two to have any time to anything apart from feeding, changing, cuddling to sleep, bathing and housework!!! but just wanted to say hope everyones doing well.

had the saddest day of my life today attending a baby's funeral, never want to do that again seeing his mummy in so much pain was devestating, you could hear her heart breaking with every sob. i cant even begin to imagine the pain she is feeling, i just hope i can be there for her and help her through this terrible tragedy.

and hugs to you M&B mummy.

M&B am almost crying just reading your post . So, so awful .

so awful

So sorry m&b

M&Bmummy, that is so sad. Thinking of you and your friend.

M&B mummy, what sad news

Hi all. hope everyone is ok today. we're at home this morning again since i missed the window of Harper's feeding. got up 'late' again at 7 instead of 6. DH had dropped a coffee by my bedside before he left which was cold by the time i got up to drink it. If i want to get out of the house in the morning, I generally need to be dressed by the time the girls get up 7ish.

we're going to try to get out of the house this afternoon after naptime. i think my lack of energy isn't helped by staying in the house .

Hi!

M&B - how heartbreaking
Thinking if you and your friend.

Momino - I find that if O and I are up and out of bed by 7am, it sets us up for a better day. He normally settles well in his bouncy chair after his first feed downstairs and I can get a few bits done. Always good to start the day off in a productive manner!

O had his jabs yesterday but all fairly uneventful. We were back at GP today for his granuloma. This was the 4th treatment of silver nitrate and she said it had been one of the largest she had seen. It has now shrunk right back so today's was the last treatment

M&B - I am so, so sorry - how awful - lots of hugs and thoughts with you and your friend

We've got our jabs this afternoon - not looking forward to it. Have got the calpol out at the ready! EssenceofSes - we had the silver nitrate for M's granuloma too, stuff went everywhere. Her poor little tummy had all these superficial burns everywhere. Poor your O x

I'm just catching up reading this thread - got to about page 7ish last night and my eyes were full of tears - I can SO empathise with the 'this will pass' stuff - I've been having a terrible time - have just moved to dp's house (renting my flat out) and I know no-one up here - its also his and his ex wife's house, so some of it just doesn't feel 'right' if that makes sense - I don't know if the decor is their choice, or his for example... we've had some terrible rows, I've nearly walked out a few times.. I'm a bit closer to my parents now (still an hour and a half drive) and he gets narked if I go and stay there for a couple of days. I feel I have to ask permission if I want one of my pictures up somewhere... and I now have to book in advance if I want to go out without M... I've been out once without her since she was born, and that was only for a few hours in the afternoon. Tried to arrange to go to the cinema yesterday, and it was a nightmare... wanted to go and see Harry Potter on the 30th with a friend, but dp casually informs me that he's at the cricket in Birmingham all day that day, and I can't. WHAT?! Anyway, we've sorted it all out, and we've got a calendar with 'his and hers' sides to write down bits, and I've said that if nothing is on his side, then I am perfectly entitled to organise something for myself on that date, and if he has forgotten to write on his side, then tough, he has to cancel. I think the message has got through! Also, I think he's scared I've got PND - my GP thinks I may have, and I did that Edinburgh scale thingy and it says 'likely'. Hm. Will chat to HV this afternoon pre jabs. Just this whole transition from going out whenever I want, full time job and being well respected there and friends on tap to being a mummy and knowing no-one around (all my NCT chums are back in south London) is very, very hard. Ho hum. Anyone out there live near Watford??!!

Still. I can now eat any of the cheese we now have in the fridge, and we always have some pate in, so it can't be all that bad. Now if I could have a daily mojito... (funny thing about being where we are now, is that the boarding school that I went to is 10 minutes walk away...passed a bar yesterday where I had my first strawberry daiquiri, aged 15 - God knows how they served me, I still look young for my age - anyway, the daiquiri made me smile and think of MN!!) On that note, I think I will go and have some brie. M is asleep, yay! I'll carry on the mega catch up and see what else comes out. Hope everyone is feeling better..

(gawd, sorry, talk about taking up tons of space!)

Right, back again - had some friends round for coffee earlier so was very busy frantically (franticly?!) cleaning before they arrived. DH grumbles that the only time the house is clean is when we're expecting visitors. He's right of course, but I find it hard to care mostly.

Very odd night last night. A slept from 10:15 until 7am , then had a huge feed, was awake for about an hour, went back to sleep and slept until - 12 double . DD1 slept until 7 as well, very strange.

momino - I'm finding that on a normal morning (unlike today!) I have to get up and make sure that DD1 and I are washed and dressed before 8 if we're to have any hope of leaving the house before 9:30. It usually works as A wakes for a feed about 5ish then goes back to sleep for 3 or 4 hours, giving us a good window to get everything else organised.

ses, so glad to hear jabs went smoothly and the granuloma shrunk back.

flippin, sounds like a good night of sleep to me .

sausagen, what you said about the transition from being well respected hits home. At the moment, I'm still planning on returning to my PT work from home job as a Parent Services administrator for NCT. however, the pay barely covers our monthly food bill, if even. so it may not be worth it. I'm a bit worried about being a FT mum and how I will feel being 'just' a mum.

In reality, I find parenting on a daily basis much harder than when i was a FT project manager on a good salary. i did gain respect but it was not nearly as difficult. so now, why would I be embarrassed to admit I'm a SATM? sadly, i do feel a bit 'lesser' than my friends who have so-called respectable jobs. this is something i definitely want to overcome as it doesn't help on the side of me that is prone to depression.

ok, now i'm MNetting rather than clearing up lunch dishes andmaking the house look respectable . i'd really like to get out of the house today after H's 2pm feed so off I go.

Hello sausage. Sounds like you could do with a sneaky hug too...
I really can't be easy moving into the place DP lived in with his ex. IKWYM about "asking" permission for time to do things. I don't think DH quite understands that I've hardly had a minute to myself since O was born 9 weeks ago. He seems to think that because I sit on the sofa feeding so much, that I get plenty of time for myself.
Do talk to your HV this afternoon. I hope she's helpful and supportive.
O keeps getting loads of brown marks around his tummy from the silver nitrate too. I feel so mean but it doesn't seem to bother him.

flippin - I'm hardly doing any housework. I look around me whilst feeding, thinking of all that needs doing... I try and do one thing each day and the maintain it going forwards but it doesn't often work!

sausagen, just feeding H now and re-reading things. sounds like a tough time living in a new place, under those circumstances. could your parents come see you more often? would this help? as ses said, do talk to your HV who should be able to give you some support.

and, you do need to get out on your own. I like the idea of his/hers calendar sides, great idea. sounds like your DH did get the picture. I hope so and hope you're feeling better.