May 09 - weather and jabs = hot cross babies

[Momino]

hope i'm not duplicating

The good news is that my cleaner has returned from a 3 week holiday, so my house might actually look tidy by this afternoon (until the DC return from school / preschool !)

had a really good night

fed M on and off most of the evening finally got her in her moses basket at 11.30 (4th attempt) but she slept till 5.30, fed 5.30 till 6.20 put her back down and she is only just stirring for a feed now

DH is jealous of all the time I have to spend bf tho
keeps on about sex all the time - bit difficult when I have M attached to me feeding 2/3rds of the time!

Morning all.
good to see some of you back again!
tummum having had a snuffly and feverish baby over the weekend I am getting more anxious about the pig flu. Thing is if it happens it happens. I don't think there is anything that we can do to prevent it other than locking all of us in the house. I just panic over any raised temperature having had a friend whose little one had the bacterial menigitis ( thankfully he is fine now save a possible hearing problem but in the scheme of things that is not something his parents are moaning about.)
Hope you manage to sort out your 10th anniversary. Its def something to mark and celebrate. We had ours in January and had a little party and I had our video put on DVD. V funny to see what went on at our reception again!!!
I have both DCs today. We took DS1 out of nursery on Mondays as an economy drive before we found out about my work having to pay for his child care whilst I am on ML. Now they are full on Mondays so we can't put him back!!!! He still goes on Tues adn Weds and it feels like a holiday when he goes in. Not that he is hard work ( except when he poos his pants) but with just R to look after it is a breeze.
Right off to the park. Again.

Morning folks.

I have to admit to being a bit of you all who are having good nights. A is sleeping but only on one of us so neither of us are getting more than about 4 hours in 1.5-2 hour chunks. I have resorted to taking her into bed with us from 5-7am but I can't really do this as it hurts my pelvis to curve myself around her and I wake up in horrendous pain. However, she has now been in her pushchair for 15 mins... An absolute achievement on the last two weeks! I think she wants to sleep on her tummy so unlike others I think I am going to be willing her to learn to roll herself over so she can go in the cot and sleep however she likes!

Can't remember who said they were addicted to slings (belgian?) but I've got my third sling arriving today - can't get on with he moby wrap at all as it takes to long to put on and I get all hot and bothered in it, We bought a bjorn but she hates not being able to get her hands near her face. DH has managed a few mins with her in it so we're going to perservere as I think it will be good when we go on holiday. I've now ordered a ring sling that was in the mothercare sale am thinking that at least I can just slot her into it when asleep so that I can get on with things in the day.

Sorry bit of a me post but as she's still asleep going to quickly put washing on the line while I have a mo. hopefully be back later. xx

Morning everyone. It'll take me many days to catch up, so I'm just checking in at the moment.

I hope everyone had a good weekend and that everyone is OK.

I've been thinking about grumpy especially as there were DH issues that happening just before I left.

running It was me who's addicted to slings (and cute nappies )

I've got loads to do this week. I'm trying to catch up with a Mount Everest of laundry. DH had to vacate the room he has in Gravesend and has brought back 2 bin liners of laundry and also a little bit . Add to that the back log of last week as I only had 2 days where I could wash and a broken dryer and you can imagine how much there is. Today is perfect drying weather, so I'm trying to get as much washing in as I can today! The broken dryer has also made me a fan of pocket nappies. They're my quickest drying of them all. Only 1.5h out in the sun!

We're all fine. C is really coming on. She was fine after her jabs yesterday. Still sleeping well at night and still piling on the pounds. This morning she went to sleep on her own for her nap. She's smiling loads now too and loves sitting up.

This weekend I told ds about the fact that young babies love patterns, especially the smiley pattern. So straightaway he went of and drew a great big smiley on a piece of paper. As soon as we showed it to C she smiled!

We also viewed a few more schools in Kent and have made a decision as to which one we prefer. None of the schools have places for both, so we will have to go through appeals for at least one of them. The school we like has a space for DS and they were very optimistic about getting dd1 in too. So fingers crossed

Morning,

Hope everyone's well and had good weekends. flippin, a belated happy birthday - from your post you seem to have had a lovely day, hurrah!

Sounds like you had a busy weekend away, Belgian, hope you got some time to relax as well.

running, I really feel for you, you must be shattered. We had one bad night before the weekend and it really got me down so goodness knows how you and your DH are coping. Is A over her cold now or do you think that's still a factor?

looby, at your DH and his repeated demands! I would be asking mine to have a stern word with himself! I know what you mean about the feeding; you are tied to it but hey, you're doing it successfully - that's such a great achievement and that's what you have to keep thinking about.

We had a rubbish few days before the weekend - I mentioned that F wasn't happy, was screaming when put down and not really sleeping. Well, he seemed to improve but it only lasted a couple of hours and then he was awful again. Finally realised on Sat that he was full of cold (the exploding green nose gave me a clue!) and must have been feeling really poorly, but he was a lot better yesterday and today. Poor little man, I should have been quicker to realise.

We had a great night last night - only one wake up at 4.45am. I couldn't get him to wake up at 11pm for our bedtime feed but suspect that if I had he might even have gone later as his last feed was probably about 9.45pm. Will try again tonight. He does make up for it in the mornings and the evenings though when he's permanently attached!!

I have sympathy with everyone and their poo traumas - all I have done today is clear up dog and baby poo. One of the dogs had gone in the house (thank god for hard floors) so I cleared that up after feeding F at 5am. Then when DH got up for work at 7am there was another 2 lots of dog mess - why??? They never do that, grrr. DH was late so I copped for all that too.

And F is on his way to qualifying for the 2012 Olympics as a member of the British Olympic Pooing Team... Who was it who said babies stopped pooing so much after a few weeks? I really cannot wait for that to happen. I just have to keep telling myself that at least it's a sign he's feeding well.

Off for a duty visit to an elderly acquaintance now. I really cannot be bothered [miserly curmudgeonly emoticon]. Might go to the supermarket or to the tip to do recycling for some light relief after that. Sigh. At least the weather's gorgeous today.

(oh, epic post, sorry)

Hi Gals! I'm back at last! Just havent seemed to have the time over the past 10 weeks. Or when I have had the time, DH has been on the laptop, or I've been too tired...

I had a quick browse on the first few pages. I'm sorry to read that some of you are really struggling with PND. But the best thing is one thing you are doing already - to acknowledge it and to talk about it rather than try to keep it to yourself. So keep talking! See your GP and if necessary go on medication. It's an illness that is treatable. I had it very badly after ds was born and thankfully this time I havent had a whisper of it, which is amazing! But I am seeing a Mental Health Nurse regularly to keep a check on things!

After the birth of dd I am suprised that I didn't develop PND, but I'm not gonna dwell on that disaster - if you want to know about it I;ll tell you! Let's just say I didn't get the planned epidural which was meant to be placed in order to protect my neck (in case of needing an emergency cs) Communications were a total disaster! The MW I had in the delivery suite told me when I was sucking the G&A for all it was worth 'It can't be that painful dear because your contractions aren't showing on the monitor.' WTF!!! About 30 minutes later dd was born.... and I was told I was only 2cms dilated (did anyone take notice of my history of posterior cervix and difficulty accessing me...?? doens;t look like it to me...) OK rant over - maybe I still haven't got over it!!!!

OH Runningmonkey - I just love my moby sling! I think it's so quick and easy to put on and not that hot - just put on less clothes! I'll be taking mine on hols in Aug! I recommend it to everyone!

DH too has mentioned sex... but I have to wait until about 1 weeks post-natal to get the coil put back in again. WHen I told him what the GP said about having to wait that long he understood and has backed off. ANyway my period lasted about 2 weeks, so he didn't want to come near me anyway! But we're planning a night away early Aug on our own - probably go to bed at 6pm and.... sleep until noon the next day!!!! LOL!!

DD is awake most of the day now wanting to be involved with everything! Thankfully she now settles herself around 9pm and has started to sleep until arouond 6pm. It would benefit me I suppose if I got to bed the same time she fell asleep!! Shes holding her head up well now - she just want to sit up all the time. No rolling over yet!! But she can push herself backwards on her playmat along the floor. She all smiles, and my god when she cries she could be auditioning for an operatic part!! How can something so small make such a HUGE noise??

OK catch up over for now - Noisy Nelly awakens!!! or Missy-Mo!! or Wee-Lamb-a-kins! or Button, Peach,Precious!! Oh she;s away back to sleep!!!!

Sorry for long post - lots to say still, though I'll shut up for now!

OH I knew this would happen! I'm taking too much time reading all that's happened - I really want to know about poo incidents, bf concerns, buckets of wine, toddlers falling out of bed, cocktails, buisness start ups (go for it!!)... but I need to get my VAT return done while dd is sleeping....!!! and I'm on here!!

Afternoon all! Big hello to those that have returned to the warm, welcoming collective bosom of this thread.

Good day here. Baby G is sleeping tremendously well so I feel human. DS1 has perked up a bit after a sluggish few days and DH is working hard in the garage his new corporate HQ.

I really need to get G weighed as he hasn't been near scales since week 2 and presumably I ought to get him weighed. Must investigate clinic times...

It is hard to imagine what life was like before he was born now. Can you?

this morning I went to a Sling Meet was really interesting the woman that ran it had every sling under the sun to try, unfortunately M wanted feeding lots so only got to try a couple. Quite liked the ring sling, tried a wrap sling but it seems like alot of fabric - was a bit confusing tried a buckle sling but can't remember what it was called - damn my baby brain.

its been 6 days since M had a poo - think she's gearing up for it tho judging by the smelly farts

also for the last week she's been dribbling almost continually and chweing her hand - could she be teething? I thought it was way too early (she's 12wks on thur)

afternoon all.
divedaisy, so glad you're not plagued with PND. but at your birth story and the MW's attitude .

Reebee, love the word 'curmudgeonly' (sp?) will have to look that one up!

belgian, gotta do laundry as well since we now have no tumble dryer and are at the mercy of the British weather. it's quite sunny here right now.

tummum/ladyhelen, Harper is quite snuffy lately as well and seems a bit more unsettled. It seems to have slowed down her feeding but she's getting better.

when I went to the childrens centre for Sling Meet there was a notice up saying that one of the children from the nursery had confirmed swine flu

Hey Dive was thinking about you the other day and posted on your fb wall. Glad you are ok. Maybe I'll have another go with the moby as it is such nice material. Do you stick yours on and leave it on just taking DD in and out sa she needs it? I also am not sure about bf in it either, haven't managed it yet. Sorry you had a hideous birth experience. I didn't have the best time either but found it did help me to write it all down and post it on here. Also my hospital has a specially trained mw who wil go over your birth story with you, does your hospital do anything similar?

Aah Belgian, was right. I think I might be following you with the nappies too

reebee thanks for your sympathy, it is tough but at least we're getting some sleep which we weren't when we were trying to put her down at night. So far todaty she has had two stints in the pushchair tho so we might be able to crack it this week. I figured if I can crack the days when I have a bit more energy, the nights will follow.

Mind you i shouldn't moan about the sleep - our consolation is that we generally only have one poo a day to contend with atm

looby, i think some babies can get teeth early. also, teething can happen for awhile even before the teeth actually appear.

belgian/Pula/other ebayers, remember the person who wanted to return the linen maternity trousers? she still hasn't returned them and that was 3 weeks ago she told me she was unhappy with them because of the length (said they were 30" instead of 32L). I don't know what to do because I don't want to be rude back to her but that's just inconsiderate of her not to have returned them by now. i guess i'll send her a diplomatic email giving her a deadline. thank goodness i haven't refunded her yet.

Ooh lots of cross posts while I was typing. Hi All!

hi still here, H now feeding. running, i had a bad birth experience for dd2 in aug 07 so was terrified prior to H's birth. it helped a great deal to talk to the head MW about my birth story for dd2. gets a lot off the chest .

I've got a hungry baby today!

Hi everyone,

I've managed to make a dent in the huge mountain, but it's still huuuuuuggggeeeee. I'm currently doing the ironing with C in wrap as she didn't settle very well in the carry cot and I didn't want to spend too much time trying to get her off to sleep because I have lots to do. This way I can multi task

looby I have both a calin bleu and didymos wrap sling. They're both very different. I find the didymos most supportive and use it most, but the calin bleu is made of a gauzy material and is better for hot weather. I can't make up my mind whether to sell the calin bleu or not. I've also got a mei tai coming, which I want to try because I've heard they're good in hot weather too. They're so beautiful and there are loads of places on the web where you can have one custom made too.
Oh and it definitely sounds like the early signs of teething to me. Both of my others did the dribbling/chewing about 2 months before the tooth came through. C is starting this now too. The other 2 were early teethers though, so I wouldn't be surprised C will follow suit.

oh well, better go. Nearly school run time. I'll try to catch up properly tonight.

Oh and Tummum and llare. Are you all ready for tomorrow?
momino I would contact that buyer if I were you, especially if you've already refunded her the money. If she doesn't reply after you've done everything you can to solve the problem, you report her to eBay. I've never done that before though, so not sure how to go about that.

belgian, luckily I've not yet refunded her. I've sent a polite note to her saying i hope all is well but wondered if she'd changed her mind about keeping the trousers. I told her if I hadn't received the trousers by end of the week, I'd assume she wanted to keep them. I hope this was ok but am sure I'll hear from her soon.

I think she's taking advantage of me (not intentionally i'm sure) forgetting that i'm not TopShop with a 28 day return policy but a private seller who needs the £ . i've also not reminded her that the ad said 'seller doesn't accept returns'!

Hello all, and welcome to the returnees - lovely to see you again!

Back to earth with a bump after all the loveliness of yesterday. DD1 is at the childminder today, so it is a bit quieter, but A is having one of those unputdownable days...again. She's been sleeping pretty well at night, despite the snottiness, but she just will not settle during the day unless she's in the sling or moving at high speeds (well, very brisk walking or in the car!). We have had a few longer periods now where she's been awake and just watching things or in the gym, but she is just not a calm baby at all. Gets very very wearing with DD1 and her tantrums as well.

divedaisy - sorry to hear you had a rough time at the birth. Others have had good suggestions about a 'debrief' with the MWs/medical people involved.

looby (and other slingers/people interested in slings) - slingmeets are great, aren't they? I was just wondering what you'll be using your sling for? Ring slings are great, but some people find that having the weight all on one shoulder can be uncomfortable if you need to use is for longer periods of time. I have 3 wraps (and want more ), a pouch and a structured carrier. I love the wraps best, I have a kari-me (great for newborns), a calin bleu (for hot weather) and a Vatanai which is lovely colours but I don't use it as often as I should. The pouch is a hotsling and great for short carries - I used it a lot when DD1 wanted to go up and down a lot; it also folds up really small so ideal in the change bag or when I went out of the bike. The stuctured carrier is a Connecta, and it's great - pretty fabric, really easy to use for front and back carries, cooler than the wraps BUT I just don't like it as much for very new babies.

running - I know we shouldn't (and it does worry me a bit) but we've been putting A down to sleep on her front as it's the only way she'll sleep apart from in the sling. She startles herself awake all the time; we've tried swaddling but she startles awake and then fights the swaddle until she's almost hysterical.

Can't I have a rant now please? My mum is driving me mad! I love her to bits, and don't usually grumble but she's being a bit thoughtless at the moment. My cousin had her first baby a few weeks ago, c-section after being induced. Mum was talking to my uncle (her brother, cousin's dad) at the weekend and he said that cousin was having problems with breast feeding, mum apparently suggested that because I'm good at it (wtf?! I've had two children, that's all!) I'd be able to help my cousin. It's not just that though, it's like whenever cousin has a problem or question my mum makes out that I'm some kind of expert in all things child related and that I'd be able to help her (mum's done it wih nappies and slings already). I really hope my cousin doesn't feel bad (or hate me!) because of it, or that my mum is geting into some kind of competetive parenting thing by proxy, iyswim. I do feel a bit sorry for my cousin, her mum hasn't been around for about 25 years and her dad (my uncle) is a bit flaky tbh. I would of course try to help my cousin if I could and she asked, but I hardly know her (age difference, geography etc) so can hardly drop things into casual conversation, can I? Phew.

Right, I need to cook food for tea now,any ideas anyone? I've been sat messing around on here for ages and done bugger all. Apart from doze off a bit earlier when I was feeding A after lunch!

Sorry, that was long . And A has just woken up and is now screaming - do you know how I woke her up? I dared SNIFF because my nose was running. Bah!

flippin Your mum sounds like mine. She's always offering my services to other people + promissing them that I'll send over a variety of items that are not available in Belgium (most recently a folding travel potty). Mums, I do hope I wont turn into mine, but it's not looking good atm

I've just noticed that C has got a red weepy area in a fold by her neck. That's made me feel really bad. I must not have been drying her properly after washes. Poor thing.

Oh and just want to add re: slings I agree with you flippin, ring slings make my 1 shoulder hurt too + my back, which is why I sold mine and only use wraps atm. Looby I find that the wraps are not as difficult as they seem. I got the hang of mine pretty quickly, but my didymos does have a brilliant booklet. Otherwise YouTube has been very helpful. The wraps are actually much better than the BabyBjorn type that I had with ds and dd1. I had sort of stopped carrying them by the time they were 10lbs because my back hurt now C is 14.5lbs and I can still carry her for fairly long periods without any problem.