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May 2005 babies

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fisil · 12/05/2005 18:16

thought I'd start this up - apologies if anyone already has - for everyone from the dyue May 05 thread to graduate to.

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me: 31, SW London
baby: Murray (ds2) born 8/5/5 7lb 11oz
family: dp & ds1 (2 1/4)

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myermay · 17/08/2005 21:57

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shhhh · 17/08/2005 22:57

Logic, the video monitor was a brilliant idea prior to dd birth but in reality once she was here we realised that although it's a good monitor it cost around £140 it didn't really serve the purpose we bought it for iykwim. We wanted to be reasurred and that meant being able to watch dd, hear dd and to know all is ok.

Well we can watch her no probs during the day while it's light but the night vision isn't 100%(all this is while using the moses basket so god knows what it would be like with the cot). We also couldn't hear her breath mega well and although you could see her I found it hard to actually watch her breath so at times I was going into the room to check she was breathing! Unless she moved her mouth etc it was hard to see any movement esp if she was still for a while.
Don't get me wrong, i'm not putting this monitor down but for us at the moment it's not ideal. However once she is in her own cot we will use both as back up as she will no longer be close to allow us to peep on her!
The video monitor we bought is this if you do decide to get one....(can't remember what site we actually bought it from)

Looking on the internet there is so many more video monitors around, we were looking about 9 months ago there were only about 3 to choose from.
Don't let me put you off.....We are just over cautious....

Myermay, yes I agree the angelcare monitor is brilliant. We found at first that it interferred with the fan when we had it over dd while it was hot, it seemed to monitor her breathing even though she wasn't in the cot, it was THAT sensitive but now we know that we are very cautious of where we put it.

logic · 18/08/2005 09:22

Shhhh, I've been thinking, if you feel bad about weaning, you can always leave it a while? Thanks for the info about the monitor!

I don't think you should feel guilty about wanting to go to work, myermay! There are days when I'd rather be anywhere but here.

uwila · 18/08/2005 12:36

Hi everyone. Work is going fine. I'm actually glad to be back. And I get all sorts of horrified looks from people whenI tell them that. But, that irritates me because if I was a man it would just be expected. What is wrong with a woman persuing career and family?!?!?

It's not that I wouldn't like to hang out with my wonderful kids more, but I'm not sure the extra time off is worth the corresponding pay cut.

DS has been banned from my room now. He sleeps in his moses basket oin the office. When he outgrows the moses basket, he will share his sister's room. But, I'm not comfortable putting him in with her now. She's pretty good with him, but there are definitely moments where she could hurt him not realising what she's doing. So he can't go in the cot until I'm confident he could scream/defend himself. She is a loving big sister, but when he cries she takes it upon herself to rectify the situation and she just doesn't realise things like babies don't eat carrots and babies do actually need to breathe ALL the time. So no room sharing just yet.

logic · 18/08/2005 12:44

hi Uwila, glad work is going well. I am thinking of putting dd in ds' room when she is older but it'll be up to him really.

ABow · 18/08/2005 22:43

Hi everyone. Obviously loads has been happening on here and I have completely lost track! DH and I have been renovating my old flat to put on the market. Its tedious and I am not enjoying it particularly but it will hopefully be worth it (fingers crossed, touch wood and all that). Also we've been busy booking and researching a trip to Australia. We go for most of October. REALLY looking forward to it. We're flying with Gulf Air who have Sky Nannies

Going to try and hold off weaning until we get back from Oz. I don't go back to work until early November and then dh is going to be a stay at home dad.

Still haven't heard from dm after our major falling out. And I feel almost ashamed to admit that I am really happy about that.

Tinker!! I thought we were doing well with 9 hours of sleep in one go (10pm to 7am). 12 hours is just awesome. THough dd sleeps quite a lot during the day especially in the morning, which is really really useful.

pinkmama · 18/08/2005 23:04

Sorry to crash this thread, but found your post logic when I was searching for birthmarks. I am anxious about my dd's birthmark, she is 3 weeks, and didnt get a good response from GP. Could do to talk to you if you have a free moment.

logic · 19/08/2005 09:03

Of course, pinkmama! Do you want me to start a new thread in health or do you have skype?

logic · 19/08/2005 20:50

Right, I'm off on holiday for a week. No internet access. I'll be having withdrawal symptoms by Tuesday. Hope everyone has a nice week.

myermay · 19/08/2005 20:53

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pinkmama · 20/08/2005 13:49

Thaks logic, have a good holiday, I will catch up with you when you are back.

northstar · 20/08/2005 22:24

Hi, is anyone around?

northstar · 20/08/2005 23:08

One bump.......

Tinker · 20/08/2005 23:16

I'm here for a bit northstar. You and baby ok? Can't type too much, pc in same room as baby!

northstar · 20/08/2005 23:22

Hi tinker, thanks for answering I don't feel up to opening this for general discussion but needed one of us iykwim?
Dd fell out of her buggy this afternoon and I have had a really crap day it scared the SHIT out of me tbh and I still want to cry. I didnt know she could possibly wriggle and squiggle so much I was only inside for a second but luckily she was on the grass. It shocked me alot when I walked back out and saw her on the grass instead of the buggy and I can't stop thinking about it. She is fine but that is just LUCK! I can't imagine how bad it would have been if she was on the concrete ( well I can... thats my problem)

Tinker · 20/08/2005 23:31

Oh, northstar, how horrible for you. It's so scary how soon they start to move and wriggle. But she's fine. I know it is so easy to beat yourself up though isn't it? If it's any consolation, I banged my baby's head on a part of th pushchair today causing screaming crying. Felt guilty so immediately blamed partner for notputting brakes on. Your little girl is ok though, just a horrid shock.

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northstar · 20/08/2005 23:39

Thanks tinker, I am sitting here exhausted but dont want to go to bed because I feel so bad. I just keep thinking over and over again about all the "could have happeneds".
I feel like the worst mother/parent/person in the world, and can just keep picturing her lying crumpled up on the grass. I grabbed her up really quick, and have hugged her more or less continually until she needed her cot. She laughed and smiled at me all evening and that made me feel worse, it was so hard to smile back at her because I was so upset at having caused her harm.

Tinker · 20/08/2005 23:47

But northstar, the worst didn't happen and you haven't caused her harm. . She's fine, she's loved and she's happy and smiling. I know how awful you feel when you feel you've might have hurt them but a) you haven't b) she won't rmemeber anyway andn c) it's your survival instinct causing the stress. You (I mean one here really) nearly harmed your child. But you didn't. . Be kind to yourself, you're obviously a lovely mum.

northstar · 20/08/2005 23:47

Ok am going to bed now, dd and ds are snoring and i am not going to beat myself up anymore because it HURTS! but be warned....... strap all those may babies in because they are on the move!!!!!!

northstar · 20/08/2005 23:50

(I'm crying again)

Tinker · 20/08/2005 23:53

Oh northstar. I'm so sorry. It's the shock though. Please, get some sleep and have lots of cuddles tomorrow. It reminds you how vulnerable they are though. But she's fine. Take care x

northstar · 20/08/2005 23:57

thanks. Can't see the keyboard, going to bed with dd

Tinker · 21/08/2005 00:01

Have a good sleep northstar.

uwila · 21/08/2005 14:30

Northstar,
Are you better today? These little ones find all kinds of ways to hurt thenselves and it's so easy to feel like it's your fault. But, really it's part of growing up. You can't prevent all pain from ever happening to your children. Why don't you take some credit for having been smart enough to park her on the grass?

Hope you are feeling better today.

shhhh · 21/08/2005 18:40

Northstar are you there..? Hope you are feeling better today. I understand how worried and stress you are over it but remember dd is fine and accidents do happen. Suppose they happen to make us all aware that our littleones are growing up and are being more inquisative (spelling). If it makes you feel any better I bumped dd head on the rear view mirror a few weeks back . Dh & I were on way back from my nan's funneral and dd needed her nappy changed (3 hr drive with screaming baby is not recommended). We pulled into services but dh suggested changing her in the car to save time. He was going to do it while the back door was open but I didn't feel secure and had visions of us being attacked etc LOL so I placed her on the passenger seat & changed her. Once done I lifted her up but didn't realise she was so close the the mirror . Like tinker I blamed dh, suppose we were both at fault.......
Chill, Chill, Chill I am sure that everyone will have an incident of some sort that will shock them. Dh's parents remind us on a daily basis of how he was dropped on his nose while a baby...
Don't be to hard on yourself.
BTW dh is fine following the bump 29 years ago .

Logic re weaning, I am giving dd baby rice with her mid morning feed, all seems to be going ok so far. My hv is due to talk to me tomorrow about it in more detail. I should be ok about total weaning as long as I can still bf as it makes me still feel close to her. Maybe it's this reassurance I need for a little while longer.
Hope you are having/had a lovely hol. xx