May 2009 - we're all here! btw, does anyone know what the Hungry Cry sounds like?

[Momino]

phew! how many threads have we done since last aug?

Oh Tummum I did read it and I was about to post something reassuring and supportive but DS1 had a complete tantrum. Just hang out here with the lovely May cocktail girls until you feel better!

Morning!

Tummum - I agree you were brave to start an AIBU thread but really don't worry. Although you can get a bit of a flaming, they usually blow over quickly.

Momino - I hate not being able to get back to sleep after DS 3am feed. It hasn't happened v often but is usually because I have too much going on in my head. I find writing a few things down often helps.

chocbunnies - sorry for lack of sleep. Do you think you might get chance for a nap at all today?

Momi and Blotted Are you ok? You both sound down

Tummum I think you have to expect a flaming in AIBU, I once posted a half-jokey one about feeding the kids chicken dippers and chips, as I was heavily pregnant, etc etc and did receive a few 'yes you are being unreasonable, feeding your children that crap, why not make an omelette FFS?'. Bearing in mind they used to get stuff like chicken dippers less than once a fortnight. You were very brave . And I'm at the Nanny, but not at having to pay someone!!!!

God Tummum I meant to sound more supportive than that - I come across as a bit of a sanctimonious old mare. Just ignore me

morning feeling almost human today. although g has picked up dh's cold and is snuffly she's just woken at 4ish and 8ish for last 2nights. mind you it's preceded by an eve of feeding / napping on me until she conks out at 10ish. not holding my breath it will last but it's lovely for a while ..

for those who need cheering up big hugs and sending you all calorie free breakfast treats.. pain au chocolat, yummy muffins etc.. don't want to spoil our weight loss starts

Thanks girls... it serves me right for starting a thread really, and I need to stop worrying about what a bunch of internet strangers think (not you guys but the AIBU guys) and trust my own judgement. The point was (that I didn't make) was that I thought I was doing her a favour by helping out with some extra cash for doing something she was already doing rather than forcing her hand to do some more work, which is what it sounded like. Right. I'm forgetting about this and moving on now !!

Grumpy mine get chicken dippers at least once a week... because they love them, and I don;t think they're crap . My DC would turn their noses up at omlette.

tummum, don't worry. like the others said, it blows over quickly and the people who reply on those don't know the tummum we know and love .

all, thanks for asking. i didn't realise being down can show through posting (though i did say i was anxious). i've gone through dd3s birth and early weeks feeling confident and happy but am now afraid happy hormones are fading and i'm starting to feel anxiety like i felt last year when i broke down and was diagnosed with pnd. i worry about health niggles, money, visiting my family, job, ie everything. but it doesn't seem to go away during the day and i don't want it yo show through to DDs. i try to rationalise in my head and use the 'tools' the counsellor has given me but now am worried i'm going backwards and that it's actually more than pnd.

i'm seeing counsellor in aug (she's on hol in jul) so will follow up then. will see my gp before then to reassure niggling health things - she knows what i'm like!

i'm going to get dds out now to get my mind on positive things. hope you have good days and will post less mememe later, thanks ladiesxx

Monimo - sounds like you have a good support network set up for yourself with your GP & Counsellor. Take care of yourself and have a nice day. x

Choco - what a terrible night. Hope tonight is better and the little monkey is good for you today.

I'm off for a haircut. Should I go radical do you think?!

morning all..

i had a great birthday. dh got me a nice necklace from our local antique centre and matilda bought me a top (bit big but I have the receipt). we had a lovely meal in town and managed to go for a drink in a pub afterwards. my niece looked after M and she behaved like an angel apparently so she said she would love to have her again .
We brought M home at 10 and she went straight into her moses and went to sleep, woke at 12.30 for bf went straight back to sleep then woke at 4.55 for a bf till 5.30 then went back down and slept till 8 so i managed a lie-in!
Think we'll have to go out more often

am typing one handed now M has nodded off on me. do I try to get her into her into her carrycot or will that wake her

yay she's asleep in the carrycot - now to parcel up some things I've sold on ebay.

Thanks everyone for your support yesterday xx

Belgian Yeah from my pelvis mainly but my back & neck are really bad just now, I feel like I'm crunching constantly.

Fi I worry that if I start drinking I won't stop until I'm barely conscious.

Pula Thanks lovey, I'm definitely going to get him into something. His athletics class starts up soon and that should tire him out.

Momino Thanks petal, I honestly think I'd be fine if I didn't have the constant pain to cope with. It puts such a downer on things. Are you okay wrt the anxiety? Keep a wee eye on that, it's the first warning flag for me that I'm a bit depressed - get anxious over everything. Hope you're okay x

Grumpy I'm better today than I have been for a few days, thanks love x

Looby Yay for happy birthdays

I feel so lucky again today. J went from 9pm till 6:15, then I put him back down again, and just kinda lied in bed and cuddled DD till 10:15!!lol god knows I need the rest. I'm going for my 6 week check on friday, bit late I know, but seeing as I'm having a little trouble getting about I thought I'd make it easier on myself and postpone my check and have it done the same day as his first injections. The consultant put me on Topamax at the hospital the other day, for those migraine attacks, I don't know if anyone has any knowledge of it at all, I've been on it just under a week, and at first you start taking one tablet at night, and eventually end up taking the full dose, well I'm having terrible trouble sleeping because of it, it does say it can be a side effect the second night I took it I lied awake until 5am so I'm going to see if the doctor can give me something to help me sleep, he probably won't with the concoction i'm on at the mo.

Looby Glad you had a good birthday

IM SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO TIERD

Choc - poor you. That was me yesterday. Hopefully you'll have a better night tonight - I managed 2 two hour chunks last night and feel so much better today despite not managing a shower yer

momi - hope you are ok. I was going to suggest a pen and paper next to the bed too. Helps me enormously when I get anxious about things.

Blotted - glad youqre feeling abitbetter today. Have you asked gp if there is anything else you can take to help manage it? I know how draining constant pain can be so you have my total sympathy x x

happy birthday for yesterday looby

the milk monster stirs again so better go. hi to everyone else!

choc sorry you're so tired hope you have a better time tonight

blotted sorry you're feeling down

glad you had a better night running

have managed to peg washing out, package up ebay stuff and wash up while M has been asleep - yay!

such a lovely day here - I think once M has had next feed we'll go for a walk to the post office/supermarket

Hi This will have to be quick as R is starting to stir.

Talking about going back to work for a break- DH said today he can't wait to be at work tomorrow so he doen't have to deal with DD . She was a bit of a monkey this morning but he so doesn't help matter and just sinks to her level the whole time. I'm always like- she's only 19 months she can't help herself, you can..

Now feeding so one handed typing. I want to go for a curry with some girlfriends tonight so do i express and leave ds with sil as he has gone down easily the last 2 nights so i coulg get him down then make a run for it and leave the ebm as back up or sling him up and take him with me?

momino i felt like that last week, hugs.

blotted belgianhen update-love them. making bacon and egg pie later.

looby happy belated birthday

choc hope you can nap today

febes we've got hens too. can I have your recipe for bacon and egg pie?

I left M with niece and ebm last night just after 6.30 feed - so glad I did, I worried she wouldn't settle but she was fine.

Choc, can you get a nap at all today? even 10-20 min would refresh.

tummum, what haircut did you go for? short? choppy? 80s? were you brave?

blotted, am glad you're better today. wish there was some solution for your pain.

ses and runningmonkey, i'm going to try to write down a list like you suggest. i've not done that before, maybe it will help.

i feel in a better mood now after going out and seeing friends. dd1&2 with babysitter (ie cbeebies) while i multitask BF, MN, making mac & Cheese, put out laundry, empty dishwasher ...

hope everyone's ok, babies too!

febes, xposted.
did you feel anxious last week? what did you do to feel better or did it just go?

also, bacon/egg pie sounds lovely! recipe please?

Momino I hope your anxiety isn't the start of PND. But you don't need to be told to keep an eye on it. You know what to look for, don't you.

Blotted It took about 4 weeks for my SPD pain to completely go, how old is Greer now? (I've lost track ) I can still feel my pelvis click and the odd twinge when I carry C in the sling for too long, but nothing like before. I hope it gets better for you soon too. In the mean time take some regular painrelief. You can have anti-inflammatories when you BF, they work the best for SPD.

looby Sounds like you had a great night. I also need to wrap stuff I've sold on eBay last night, but I don't think I'll get a chance, because I've got finish of some laundry, have a shower and then do the school run + after school activities.

febes I'd go with the leave EBM and run option I find that people don't tend to phone for help unless it gets really bad. They like to help out and let you have a relaxing evening.

jael I hope there's something you can have to help you sleep. As a new mum you must be sleep deprived enough as it.

Hens I made a lovely quiche last night with king prawns. Now both hens are flat out on the grass in the sun. They look really hot. Cant understand why on earth they dont find themselves some shade. There's plenty of it for them . Hens really are the most stupid animals on earth.

I went to this buggy walk today and it was great. It's the first mum and baby thing I've done so far and I'll definitely do it again.

I've been pooed on for the 2nd time in 2 days just now. That's after 6 weeks of avoiding the stuff. This time it was a leaky nappy that caused it. I'm actually mn-ing in my underwear now. I took my top of due to sweating from the walk and C vomitting on me. Logged on and then she pooed on me so had to take my bottoms of too. Think I better go for a shower and get dressed now!

dd2 in cot, dd3 in basket, dd1 back in front of the telly (again)... sigh. just having a cuppa and cake before tidying up the kitchen and finishing aforementioned tasks. funny how things can be so hectic one moment and - like now - sudden quiet. it doesn't last long though .

jael, hope you can make up for lost sleep and hope sleeplessness doesn't continue. like Belgian said, new mums need sleep .

belgian, glad you made it to the buggy walk, would love to do something like that here.
looby, lol. must have crossed posts with you earlier - we were both looking for bacon and egg pie recipe! mmm.

must go now and be productive.

Momino When I am stressed and/or hormonal I always get really anxious about money, DH having an accident , coping with dcs, anything really. It usually lasts a few days and then eases off and I wonder what I was so worried about but at the time it feels horrendous and unending. Perhaps its a bit of depression but it normally doesn't last too long with me thank goodness. In my first year of teaching (12 years ago) I had it bad so went to an homeopathy which really help she was a miracle woman.

Bacon and Egg Pie

1 sheet of flaky pastry to line a dish then sprinkle chopped onion, bacon and veg (I use frozen peas) then dot spicy chutney around (2 tablespoons) Then break 6 eggs evenly over and prick the yolks so they run slighty. Pepper and salt and second sheet of pastry on top. bake for 40mins at 200degrees.

Curry Thanks for the advice. I had better express some milk then.

Phew- finally got chance to get on MN!

Had my 6 week check this morning- it was OK - got some minipills with the 12 hour window as i have been rubbish at taking my old ones which only have 4 hour window, although so far, if i forget, i forget completely not just a few hours later (might need to set myself a mobile phone alarm as a reminder). DH and I would have resumed bedroom shenanagans on Sat night except i hadn't been taking my minipill long enough and we didn't have anything else to hand.

I was due my cervical smear in Feb 09 but the doctor advised waiting til Sept/Oct rather than have it now- something to look forward to .

Well after the dream baby day yesterday, S has been reasonable but not quite up to the same standard today - a sleep in the sling as usual at 9am, nicely behaved when at the GPs and whilst i had a healthy smoothie in the local cafe (although i was feeding him), but he got tired in a shop so i had to leave sharpish. Only a 40 min sleep on return home, then i think he may have got overtired just now as he struggled to go to sleep so I gave him an extra feed to calm him.

But its amazing how he's changing. He's cooing ("ah-goo" etc) and often he'll make the face as if he's going to cry, then thinks the better of it, so he is obviously calming a bit. He is a lot more chilled and stretched out when feeding, not scrunched up like a newborn anymore. Still has his moments, but is generally easier to calm. He's 6 weeks today, and I really hope this is a turning point and that we've left the bad times of these first few weeks behind.

pula I was just telling my mum about C not being as curled up as well. I now have to leave her legs out when wrapping her in my sling or she gets angry

C was well behaved during the buggy walk too. I think it's because we were walking at quite a good pace and that kept her asleep. She ended up going 4h between!

FIL phoned thinking DH was still at home. He told me he'd have a word with dh about not buying another house that needs doing up again as we all need some rest and quality time together when we're all off work/school together. How nice of him My perfect house fell through, btw. Dh didn't want to go up in his offer and they didn't want to lower what they accepted. Such a shame, it was all finished to my taste and ready to just move in.