May 2009 - we're all here! btw, does anyone know what the Hungry Cry sounds like?

[Momino]

phew! how many threads have we done since last aug?

I will be going back to work at start of November when DS is 5 months old and working 4 days per week as before. As we only have SIL and BIL nearby but both work full time, both DS1 and DS2 will be in our local council nursery 4 days per week. So double nursery fees for us for a few months until DS1 starts school next summer! ouch!

I would have liked maybe a couple more months on ML but as my employer is being very generous ie basically i get my normal wage whilst on ML which is great - but I feel I can't really take longer than I did the last time on ML - therefore I suggested going back after 6 months so its my own fault really!

Oh, blotted You sound really down. I hope things get better soon. Is your pain from your pelvis? Have some ibuprofen if it is and try and take it easy. I know that is easier said than done, but try anyway. Don't worry about the name checking; there's an amnesty on that one, remember Glad Greer's ultrasound was OK.

blotted sorry to hear your having a pants time atm. fancy sharing my treat of a glass of pink fizzy? sounds like you need it more than me...

blotted- sorry to hear you sounding so low. I am sure by Jan things will be very different, so try not to worry about things now. Sometimes i wonder why I've thrown another DC into the mix, but i think it will be nice when S is older and he can play with the others. Sorry to hear your DS1 is causing you grief - you could consider judo or something as others have suggested?

fi dh and I have been talking about moving to oz. My job means I'm guaranteed to find work there. I'd love to move there for the life style, but from reading I've learnt that being a mw down there isn't as good as here. Far less normality. A lot of places have a 50% c/s rate, which goes to show. Don't think I could work in that sort of environment.

Blotted more good wishes coming your way.

Evening all. Am sat here tonight with just Rufus for company. DH has taked DS1 camping for the night! Have just had text from him to say that its pelting it down, he's been stung (DH not DS) by a wasp and puncture his brand new air bed on a hawthorn. Good job he's only away for one night!

jael I have much admiration for SAHMs so I certainly do not think you are lazy! I couldn't do it full time. Don;t get me wrong, am loving MT at the moment, but I could not entertain small children on a full time basis. I'm going back to work in Feb as DS1 starts school in Jan so I want to be around for him for his first half term.

Must pop in to the weight loss thread. Have also started running again now. Am doing the couch to 5k thing that is talked about on the running threads. Tis v good.

belgian it's a big decision to move to another country isn't it? I'd love to go but find it hard to deal with the guilt about leaving my mum and dad behind... esp as mum is late 60's and dad is late 70's. My mum would just about manage to fly but my dad is just not physically able to cope with such a long journey makes my choice sooo hard. But for us and esp ds & g i think they'd really benefit from the lifestyle etc. If dh got a job before going and if we did it now we'd get straight in.. plenty of points and dh would be below the max age. If we leave it a yr or too i'll have to be the primary points person and i'd really need my teaching qualification to guarantee our entry... my degree isn't enough i think

Have just managed to pop g into her crib without her grumbling about it! It's only taken 6 goes tonight over the last 3hrs of on and off bf/nappy changing/winding/leaving her to grizzle/fall asleep on me again etc phew. I can now type 2 handed and drink my now cup of cold tea (good job i like cold nettle tea).

I actually have the laptop for a change too as dh went off to the golf driving range earlier to hit some balls

fi although I've already left my own country, I feel that at the moment I can still pop down to Belgium if there's a family emergency. Moving to oz would take that away and I do worry what I'll do when my parents get old. (They're young 50 somethings at the moment) But the life style would be so much better than over here, more outdoors and healthier I think.

I did apply for a secondment to NZ about 10 years ago but didn't get it but I must admit I was nervous at the thought if i did as it does feel so far away (although in reality it is only a long haul flight). So i went to Luxembourg for a 5 month secondment instead- much more "local". I like to be close to family so don't think i'd emigrate.

blotted - hope things improve for you.

jael - definitely don't think SAHMs are lazy!

I'd planned to stay off longer after my mat leave last time, and actually took a career break after it (another of the govt perks!) but sadly after 6 months I had to go back to work 3 days a week - we just couldn;t quite cover our costs each month as we'd had to get a new car because DH hurt his back quite badly. So anyway, I found out I was pregnant the week I started back at work! We finish paying for the car next month so that will take quite a lot of pressure off our monthly budget. Really don't know if I'm going to go back to work next April or not, after paying for the childcare for the girls I'll have some money (but not loads) but then there's long term stuff too, pension, getting a bigger mortgage, the safety of me having a job just in case anything happens to DH's work etc. I think what I'll probably do is either take another career break and delay the decision, or just get pregnant again!

Well, sleepwise we had a slightly better day. A slept in the sling this morning, while we went out a did jobs in town (we both went to the chiropractor), but then this afternoon I tried to get her to settle in the basket on her own. No settling on her own,so tried swaddling and rocking her to sleep, she'd doze off for a few minutes then wake again, so then I just fed her and put her down (on her front, not ideal I know but it works) and then she slept for 2 hours! She seems a bit calmer this evening too, DH is currently playing waving games with her!

Poor G has terrible wind. He is really crying, 2nd evening in a row.

Have tried gripe water, back patting, tummy time, tummy rubbing, sitting up...is there anything else? Poor little man.

Hugs to blotted.

belgian [duh] i'd forgotten you've already changed countries!!

NZ is just a long haul flight away but as you say at least anywhere europe you have the option of nipping back... a different story from nz/oz. pretty much all my family is in the uk... apart from my great aunt and some 2nd cousins in melbourne & Dh has some family in canada which we've also talked about. I do have a v close friend that i grew up with here who moved back to nz with her nz dh and 3dc's just over a year ago. I miss her like crazy and we often talked about us moving to nz even when she was still living here... well me grilling her on the differences (good/bad) to uk etc

llaregub - have you tried a bath? We've got a tummy tub (or as DH said 'expensive f*cking bucket'!) and DD1 used to do massive burps and be sick almost every time we used it. But guess a warm bath might help if no tummy tub available, perhaps help him relax and release the wind.

Worth a try...he seems to be settling so I'll try that in a bit if I need to.

llareggub poor wee mite. it's heart breaking to see them go through it. You've done everything i'd do... the only thing i find can help is popping g over my shoulder with arms dangling over my back and pacing up and down the flat. sometimes the bouncing movement from my walking seems to spontaneously help g bring up the wind... ds was the same.

DH back... so off to use phone and i've got the munchies. Not a good start to my weight loss ;) depending on what i go for though... i'm trying to resist the crisps.

fi done that too...! Oh, and the crisps!

couldn't resist the crisps.. had a small amount.. now offsetting them with some plums (well they do help with the piles)

looby, happy birthday! hope you've had a great day.

blotted, very glad Greer's got the all clear for her hips. i really hope you're feeling better soon about everything else. it sounds like you're having such a hard time. please try to take it easy on yourself. wish there was something i could do...

i'd love to emigrate to NZ but it does sound so far away. we keep thinking we'll move to the usa to be closer to my fam but not really the time to be selling a house right now.

lastpost of the day, 1st poster of the day. i don't even have much to say. just feeling anxious lately about most things so when i wake up early, i tend to stay awake.

Jael, being a full time mum is the hardest job i've ever had. in fact, if the money did make sense, i would love to go back to my 2 day a week job just to get a break!

Morning!

Morning all. Monimo - are you OK? Is there anything in particular you are anxious about? Totally agree about going to work for a rest !

I have an admission to make. I started a thread on AIBU and am extremely regretting it as my post made me look a right idiot (it came across all wrong), and I should have expected to be shot down in flames, and indeed I was. So I am kicking myself but can't get some of the comments out of my head... I really need to get a grip!!

Eugh what a night, have had a grand total of less than 4 hours sleep, Corey decided he was going to have some kind of developmental growth spurt during the night and he just wanted to be awake and play! Think I might be a little worse for wear later on!

Monimo, you sound a bit down Are you ok?

Tummum What was your thread about? You were very brave to venture onto that topic, Id never have balls!!! Try not to worry about what was sai.

Hope everyone is ok today