F(l)ab Feb 2009: Primark pants and teething rants

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A brand new sparkling thread to mark the four month mark for our bubs

Oh! hahahahaha. Whoops, obviously meant stalls , although I did have a cake that didn't taste too great, so maybe not!

PMSL at LBB'S dubious cakes. Lets not have a meet up at hers just in case
Just back from a busy day. Went to chessington first thing then left at around 3.30pm to get to my brothers in Epsom as a lot of our family were meeting up there as we always say we must get together not just for weddings and funerals. Was a nice few hours and I took a lot of old black and white photos I'd picked up at mums' on Friday and it was nice to look through them and also go through things for the mass and burial tomorrow. It will be a very long day
DH in a foul mood. Has just gone out in a huff saying that he will have a serious talk with me when 'all this is over' It seems my mum dying has been a little inconvenient for him and he is getting annoyed with me being sad/tearful/snappy. Wanker

Hope you are all having a good weekend and hope to hear more about the meet up soon?

mos I didn't make them!
I'm sorry but your dh is being a complete arse isn't he? I take it he has never lost a clolse family member?
Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Hope it goes smoothly. x

LBB I know, I was joking

DH lost his f*ing dog a few years ago (he hadn't had it living with him for years and it lived with his parents) and he sobbed for weeks. TWAT!
I feel bad but it actually crossed my mind today that with my inheritance that I will get in due course I can afford to leave him, well buy him out of the house, I'm not leaving that. What an awful thought
I can't believe what an arse he is being. He will be a real arse then be nice for a day and then be an arse again. This has really inconvenienced him and if he rolls his eyes again I will gouge them out
Thanks for your kind words. Will be a really long day. Leaving here around 7am to drive down to Hayling Island and don't expect to be home before around 7pm

Evening all. LBB - glad you had a good day and DS1 had so much fun but sorry to hear you had a fag - purely because it makes giving up all over again so much harder! Hope you keep up the sterling work with giving up the fags though. Most amused at the cake stools...

MoS - sorry your DH is being particularly unsupportive again. I hope he realises what a hard time you're going through at the moment and apologises for not being there for you when you need him.

Have had a quiet one today but the news from the Dinky household is that Danny rolled over today for the first time from back to front - he looked most bemused!

oh no! LBB, missed the bit about your fag. Go and put yourself in the naughty corner immediately

dinky yay for danny.

I'm going to bugger off to bed now with a large glass of baileys, purely because I can.

dinky Go Danny! Great news.
mos Your emotions must be all over the place.

No fags today. Not wanted/needed one either so all's ok.

Luke went onto hungry baby formula today. First fed from it at 9:30am and not again until 3pm!!!!! That's a bit longer than I wanted him to go really. See what happens after a few days.

Enjoy the baileys MoS - and I hope that tomorrow goes as smoothly as it possibly can for you. Am sending you lots of hugs and internal strength wishes to help you get through the day - and hope H doesnt continue with his comedy fart/barf routine at the funeral.

MOS had momentarily felt sorry for your dh when i read about him being up to his elbow in shit but then got to his behaviour today...feels more like poetic justice now.
good luck tomorrow, we'll all be thinking of you.

ivor is trying to roll but hasn't managed it yet. he does suddenly seem to have mastered more movements though. suddenly he doesn't seem so happy to be put to bed without needing a LOT of cuddling, lots of leg kicking and whinging when i try to put him down.

still no nanny, saw a great girl on friday night but she wants to see out her remaining interviews before committing any further. good nannies really do seem to be snapped up so quickly. it's making me feel quite sick, it's taking up so much time and is a constant reminder of me having to return to work in sept.

KBN - you're looking at the right time for a nanny though as more nannies will be coming onto the market now (as their old charges will be getting too old for nannies come the new school year and parents let the nannies go over the summer to keep costs down) so you will find a great nanny. Great nannies do get snapped up but they also know its a chemistry thing - they want to find the family that they fit in best with so they're happy. I know its a total faff and a horrible reminder of the end of maternity leave coming (had to do it all when DS1 was 4 months for me going back to work just before he turned 7 months) but once you've found your nanny and sorted out terms with her you'll be able to relax - and maybe even get her over to babysit the kids a few times before she starts in earnest so they can get used to each other and you and your DP can get a few fun evenings out.

thanks dinky...you're so right about the chemistry and it will be a huge relief when we find the right person.

MOS....your post about seeing your mum made me cry....I really hope tomorrow goes smoothly and as well as it can.

I lost my dad nearly 4 years ago and it was the most traumatic thing....and something I think you never get over.

Will be thinking of you.

evening all. crap weekend here but wont bore you all with the detials.

MOS sorry your dh is being a prick at a time when you most need him....

Owen is rolling over now he did it for the first time yesterday and doesn't stop now!!

MOS, I found it very moving reading your account of going to your mum's house, and to the funeral director. I'm glad to hear she was able to get to buy presents for Harrison. Sorry that your (D?)H is being so crap.

Dinky, C's been rolling over for a few days - so he and your Danny must be at a very similar development stage for their age (a week's difference). C is holding his head up quite well and really looks as if he's about to start crawling any minute! Comparing him to my Danny I'm thinking, but shouldn't I have a couple of months yet? How can he be getting so mobile already? I dug out a couple of rattles from D's toybox this morning, though I fear D may suddenly develop a new interest in any toy offered to C.

{{{hugs MOS}}}

mos... at your dh.. what a complete wanker. hope everything goes ok today {{{{{hugs}}}}

aaron has hit the cranky little bollocks stage, he wants to be moving but can't, rolling just seems to make him crosser and he wants to be standing all the time, my arms are aching from holding him up all day every day!

crappy weekend here too.

Just read the last page as havent posted for a few days. MOS sorry to hear your DH is being crap again and i hope today goes ok for you. Will read back a bit further when i get time and see how you have been getting on since back in the UK.

Had the big family bbq this weekend but it was so much work and im so tired now i dont think that ill be doing that again for a while - expensive and tiring arent really high on my list of to do's at the moment!

Milo's trying to roll over as well, it scary how quickly he is growing, he is also up for most of the day now and doesnt seem to sleep for more than around 20 mins here or there.

Is anyone considering weaning? I dont want to at all yet but Milo is taking 8 ounce feeds and sometimes drinks another half a bottle on top of that - just not sure if i should stick with the milk for another month or so or introduce some sort of food on a daily basis?

rosie I've slipped Stan the odd bit of baby cereal. He's not that impressed, but at least he didn't vom it up, like he did with the banana.

He's on my breast nearly every waking moment - he's teething and finding it very comforting. I feel he's sucking the life out me and am seriously considering topping him up with a bottle or two.

He's been exclusively breastfed for 19 weeks so he'll have got a lot of the immunities - my main worry is that I'm not sure he'll take a bottle.

(((( MOS)))) I can't add anymore to what everyone else has said, beyond I am thinking of you and I am sorry that your whole family is being crap.....

Dinky.. well done Danny.. we have some half rolls here and a lot of attempts to sit up from lying position !! very funny inspections of feet and knees at the moment..

Rosie.. we just had a large family bbq this weekend.. AND I travelled from London to Birmingham (both ways on the fast train) BY MYSELF with buggy, rucksack changing bag and snack bag.. I feel very proud of myself ! DS did do a poo on the way back which meant a slight traumatic trip to the toilets..but they were both very well behaved..

..not so my family, as I found my 4 month baby girl chewing on both french bread and a chicken wing ... I became crazy PFB mum (I know she is my second!) going.. "she is not meant to eat for SIX weeks" yet.. !! somehow I think I think she will start on a bit of fruit/veg puree and sticks in the next 3 weeks or so though.. she does appear hungry and is grabbing at food.. so we will see..

... hope everything goes ok today MOS...x.x

oh lbb ... step away from the sneaky fags !! naughty ....

Bumps and Pink - sorry you had rubbish weekends. Hope you've had much better days today.

Elkie - congrats to Conor on the rolling. The rolling has coincided with Danny realising he can also grab his feet - he is now rolling holding on to his feet and getting stuck and most put out by it. He has also taken to trying to sneak in his thumb into his mouth while breastfeeding so he can try to combine his two favourite flavours in the whole world. Clearly takes after DH's side of the family I dusted off DS1's old bumbo this morning (which as a baby DS1 HATED with a passion and used to try to arch out of) - Danny enjoyed the upright position until DS1 turfed him out of it to sit in it

MsLucy - am sure Stan will take the bottle as you've had friends give a bottle to him before havent you? Glad to hear the baby rice was more of a success than the banana.

Rosie - must be a relief the big BBQ is all over. Not thinking of weaning here for a while - though if it were guaranteed to stop Danny waking every hour and a half from 11.30 (as he's done the past 2 nights again - think is another bloody growth spurt) might be tempted

Nkweto - at the bread and the chicken! Though must say, your DD has great taste in first weaning foods Sounds like she's going to be a natural when you do start weaning. Also a question for you - where would you prefer the meet up to be (as you missed the last one you get to chose where we do this one) - Corams Fields, Serpentine Lido or somewhere else?

hi all, thanks so much for all your kind messages and support over the past few weeks.
Had what seemed like the longest day ever today and so glad it is over. Left home at around 7.30am to drive down to Hayling for the funeral mass at 10.30. Was very early but better to be early than late for mum's funeral. I was ok at the church except when mum was carried in and out. I was so proud as the coffin was carried by my two brothers, my mum's brother from Ireland who I don't really know (only see each other at funerals) and my DS who is nearly 16. I was so proud and know nanny would have been proud to have him carry her as he was the oldest grandchild and I'm sure he was always the favourite as he spent so much time with her when he was younger.
I managed to hold it together long enough to read 2 of the 4 verses of one of the poems mum had written when her first son died and DD aged 13 read the second half as I knew I'd struggle with some of the words as it said 'my darling son' and think that really got to me because of H. DS also read the psalm which was nice. Am so proud of him. My brothers and their family wouldn't do any readings so it was down to me and mine.

We had a little reception at the church hall for all those that weren't coming to the burial then at 3pm we laid mum to rest with my dad and brother at the family grave at Guildford. It was a lovely service and my aunt who is a nun did the service rather than get a priest so it was very personal. I then read the second poem mum had written for my brother, 'The Gate' which ended with saying how she would meet him at the gates of heaven. I didn't think I'd be strong enough to do it so DS was standing next to me ready to take over but I managed it as I had to for mum, it was the last thing I could do for her although I know my voice was very shaky the last few lines.

Harrison wore the clothes that my mum had bought him and DD2 wore a dress that mum had bought for her that was in the bag with H's clothes that I found last week.
I wore a smart black suit with a white blouse untucked which disguised the fact that there was a 3 inch gap at the back where my skirt wouldn't do up

All in all, a good day. Ignored twunt brother who had the cheek to try to talk to DH who ignored him. DS and DD behaved (ish) in the church and DD thankfully slept through the burial. It was a lovely sunny day and in between tears I felt calm when mum joined my dad and brother. She is at peace now (I have to keep reminding myself of that).
Anyway, thats enough of my doom and gloom, I must try to be positive now and be happy that mum and dad are togther with their first born.

Am very proud that DS has signed up for a charity parachute jump 3 weeks after his 16th birthday to raise money for GOSH, my mum and dad's charity (it was where my DB was treated before he died)
Ironically, the date he was given is the anniversary of DB's death.

Good to see some of us are weaning although a bit unsure about the chicken

MS I equalled your unusual b/f location, b/f H yesterday on the carousel at Chessington and also on the skyrail/safari ride and today in church!

So what is the news on the meet up? Coram fields looks good, had a look at their website and it is right near GOSH so might pop in there to drop off some donations with a bit of luck

If you get a chance and are feeling generous, please take a minute to look at this thread and sponsor DS1 x

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/charities_noticeboard/773846-skydiving-to-fundraise-for-Great-Ormond-Street-Chi ldren-39-s?rnd=1245092845139

Mos - what a long and emotional day! I'm sending you lots of hugs - sounds like all of your children were absolute stars today just when you needed them to be. And what a lovely thing for your DS1 to do - will get on that page to sponsor him. Hope you have a peaceful night tonight. Re meet up - am easy as to where we meet, have asked Nkweto to let us know where she'd like (as is probably going to be the only summer meet up she can make as she's back to work at the end of the month and had to miss the last one due to the dreaded pox) bu I agree Corams fields is lovely.

Sounds like you can be very proud of your children MOS - and your mum can be very proud of you. Glad it was ok. The poems sound like they were lovely. Hugs to you x