F(l)ab Feb 2009: Primark pants and teething rants

[dinkystinky]

A brand new sparkling thread to mark the four month mark for our bubs

Oh dear LBB PT and MOS - doesn't sound like a happy Friday in your houses!

Bit better here as DD is at least only pooing 10 times a day instead of 20....I am in quarantine though as virus is v contagious and all my local friends are either pregnant or have small babies so I ought to keep way from them all for a while.

LBB your DS1 sounds like my DS. Tantrum city here - he threw his breakfast at me and then demanded an ice-cream . He has recently started biting me too (really hurts!), though hasn't done it to anyone else (yet).

MOS my DH has been sleeping in the spare room too - as he 'can't think when he has had a broken night' - poor lamb

calico, glad DD is on the mend.
I've not been capable of being able to 'think' for a good few years no. In fact, yesterday I was so tired when I drove to LGW to pick DH up early in the morning (he'd got the bus from LHR to save me driving all the way round the M25) I missed the turning for Gatwick and ended up halfway round the sodding M25!

DH is grumpy today, must be too much sleep

Evening all.
Ds1 was a little shit at play group. We were making musical intruments (pasta shapes in empty bottles) and then playing along to some music and stuff but he wouldn't join in, he laid on the floor screaming. One of the workers also tried to get him involved, I did say it was pointless to do anything to/with him when he is in this mood and he is far better to be left alone until he thinks he's missing out on something, but did they listen, I mean I'm only his bloody mother!
However, he was very good this afternoon. We went to pizza hut and he sat on a big chair and ate his lunch nice, he was very good in the toy shop with my friends ds who is 3, and was very good all afternoon really.

Luke sat up again for while on his own playing with one of ds1's toy cars.
Solids still going well so moving on to carrot tomorrow which is pureed and frozen. Is most strange seeing my freezer full of bags of carrot cubes

Evening all. Now back from my week in Suffolk - where DS1 was mostly a delight and loved the holiday and Danny was mostly lovely during the days (but does NOT like beaches - every time we went to one he yelled his little lungs out) but a bugger at nights (he's still doing the amazing rotating baby at nights - for HOURS!) - and have had a quick scan to see how you're all doing. WOW at all the weaning talk - am with Coco and totally in denial about it - will do BLW with Danny when he's ready (as I hated the pureeing and cooking faff with DS1 only for him to reject my lovingly prepared stuff in favour of jar food).

Spotty - sending you huge hugs. Sounds like you're having a shocker.

Bumps - sounds like O is having a nursing strike. Of course am more than happy for STW to give you the Dr Brown bottles if you want to use them. Please dont feel guilty about trying O on formula - you do what is right for you and your family - and your sanity! And your bond and loving connection with O will be there, whether or not your bfing or ffing - babies love being held, snuggled and cuddled regardless of how you are feeding them. Danny is going through a bit of a nursing strike too during the day -I think its a mixture of teething and also development as if there is too much interesting stuff going on around him (which basically there is any time we're anywhere other than in a darkb bedroom)and he'll have a suck and then bite me with his gums and refuse or just outright refuse - so he too has been feeding lots at night and his sleeping has been shite. I feel your pain. Its a good sign that he's feeding lots at nights as he is still getting food from you but it doesnt help with the exhaustion. Do you have family or friends who can come look after DD for a day so you can basically just spend the day in bed with O? May not solve the nursing strike but may help you feel a bit more positive and bonded with O despite the sleep deprivation. I hope this phase passes soon for you. If it is teeth, try some teething gel on his gums about 5 minutes before feeding - sometimes it helps with Danny and he does actually feed.

STW - great that the paed has confirmed what you thought re Sam. Hope the new formula helps. And am delighted you and Sam got to have your bonding time in hospital.

MoS - what a bugger about your car Hope DH has got himself sorted now and will be ready to help with the kids tonight.

Oooggs - and Pink and others - sending you hugs. You're all doing a great job juggling kids and everything but my god its hard work isnt it!

Nkweto - hope work is going ok. Good to see things got better for you as the week went on. Hope next week is even easier for you guys.

KBN - hurray for the nanny and the new school for DD. Fantastic news all round. Have a great time on holiday.

Herb - happy belated birthday to your DS and have a great time at your sister's wedding. Hope your car gets sorted soon.

LBB - yuck at your poo story! Hope DS1 is behaving better now for you - its hard dealing with tantrums on virtually no sleep.

QK - the possible new place sounds lovely. Hope the viewing goes well. I think moving - just round the corner - with a 5 month old is much easier than moving with an older child as they will settle into the new place with less hassle.

Sorry if I missed anyone out.

Arse - meant to say Pink I feel your pain with the summer colds. I've had a cough for ooh about 4 weeks now and am still coughing up gunk!

Hey dinky, how funny that Danny doesn't like beaches. We're off to Suffolk next week. Going to Lowestoft for the air show and my nephews birthday.

I'm joining dinky and PT in the summer cold club. My nose is completely blocked and can't breathe for it, but has stuff pouring out of it, attractive. Also have a horrible couh, been sneezing, eyes hurt, head hurts and I am sooooo tired, had very little sleep last night so might try to go back if dp gets up. On the few occasions I did manage to fall asleep, he woke me because Luke was whinging for his dummy.

Luke has just had breakfast, fruity porridge. No milk yet though, going to give that at about 8:30/9 just before his nap.
Tonight for dinner, he is having his first taste of pureed carrot. I also have some carrot sticks in the freezer for if his gums hurt today.

Ds1 is now saying "mamma" so all I need to do now is get him to understand that is my name. My name is not dadda, it is mamma, mum, mummy or any variation of mother although he has been saying noodle a lot lately which is my childhood nickname that my nearest and dearest still call me.

Yes LBB - Danny really hates beaches. Lowestoft - he really hated Lowestoft and howled from getting out of the car until we put him back in the car. Southwold he basically tolerated - walking on the Denes was the way to keep him placated there. Kessingland was a no go zone. He is a very strange baby I've decided.

DS1 has just had his first shaving injury - was downstairs with him and Danny and he went upstairs - to his room I thought. Nope - he went into the bathroom and somehow climbed up and got my razor and cut his face (thank god just a couple of tiny nicks by his lip) with it. DH went to investigate what he was up to and found him before he did any more damage to himself. Am now going to have to find a way to keep all shaving stuff under lock and key - or give up shaving my legs....

Nkweto - are you in the bit of Shepherds Bush near Westfield? We went there today for the first time this morning and its really great - especially the free Kids Club for the kids (and the ride on cars you can get from the Middle Level car park concierge). DS1 was very excited to find out Peppa Pig is going to be there on 27 July so suspect we'll be heading back along there on 27th so he can meet his piggy pal.

welcome home dinky

LLB - did your parents agree to have your ratbags delightful children?

bumps - how are you feeling?

MOS - how is dd now?

calico - time to yourself with 4 dcs!!!!!!

PT - I have a summer cold, but dh has full blown man flu

children get colds
men get flu
women get on with it

dinky Glad ds1 is ok and only gave himdelf a few little cuts. Buggers aren't they? I vote for giving up shaving Right now I'm hairier than dp and couldn't care less!

I went back to bed at 11:30 and dp woke me at 4pm! I then decided to pack some stuff and drop my delightful ratbag () children with my parents. Ds1 with dad and Luke with mum.
Mum said Luke didn't like the carrot I'd done for his dinner, but today was the first taste for it and think I may have a bit more luck iyswim, we just ran in put the dc's down and left. No hanging around . Took ages to get home because of the traffic for Hamptons Flower Show, so had take away fish and chips and think I'd better head to bed in a mo. Still feeling a bit rough, but hopefully will be better in the morning after a good nights sleep.

LLB - I can think of any sane soul who would take my 4 - even dh has bugger off to work

oooggs It would be a different story if I had 4! WE'll see how parents are in the morning. Dad said last time that he didn't think he'd cope having Luke overnight until he stops crying but I don't think he is fully ready for the tantruming 2 year old........

Oooggs - DH and I always talked about having 3 kids - and I still think I want 3 kids despite Danny the amazing non-sleeping baby occasionally making me say "I cant possibly do this ever again" - but I have to admit, I really take my hat off to you and Laidback (where is she by the way?) for having 4!

LBB - hurray for offloading the kids. Hope you both get a good night's sleep tonight. Carrot is a bit bleeurgh - DS1 hated it but love, love, loved butternut squash (we used to call him butternut josh ). Maybe try him on that next - full of lovely nutrients etc...

dinky Thanks for tip there, I don't much like cooked carrot, I can eat raw, but not cooked. Yuck.
I used to do butternut squash for ds1, but remember it being a PITA what with the hard skin and the pips, but will be cooking some up anyway, might do it earlier than planned then.
I was thinking about mixing some sweetcorn into carrot to sweeten it up a bit.
Today for Luke was a bit out of habit though, e didn't get to mum's till half 5, so was late and rushed anyway, so think he was prob distracted by the fact he had just been 'dumped', he prbably wondered who the strange lady is and why she was ramming a spoon in his face and where his mummy had gone I'll see how he gets on tomorrow.

I always wanted 3 children too. So did dp when we first met. He is now dead against having any more ever. I'm not really thinking about it, but when I do, I kind of feel a bit disappointed that I won't ever have another one.

evening all hope you are all well...

Been out all day. Went on river boat then to a farm then back on boat and got bus home.. DD loved it but only wanted to be with her daddy so me and owen chilled by ourselves. He has had a good day as well. Fed a lot more (although not as much as he should ) and slept for about 2 hours while we were out so all good... Except for dd being very hostile to me at the moment. It is very upsetting but I am trying to act as if it is ok because she doesn't see dp very much... Please tell me this will not last!!! She even asked if I could stay at home today (little monkey)

DP's dads bday tomorrow so out all day and then it is our hospital appointment monday so fingers crossed he will sign us off......

bumps it is just a phase she is probably punishing you for having a baby!!! Actually I no idea and am just guessing

Afet ds1 (who was a nightmare) I was not having anymore - end of. Dh finally persuaded me and 3.3 years later came ds2 & dd.

This time I started to sell evrything and I had a suprise pregnancy, I was horified as there would only be a 16 mth age gap just as I had come round to the idea (dh was over the moon) I miscarried on New Years Eve 2008.

I was then torn so gave time limit to be pregnant by December 2008 and low and behold ds3 born Jan 2009.

I have since either borrow or bought back the stuff I had sold (pram, bouncy chair, newborn clothes and maternity clothes).

Heres hoping with 4 that I will get a decent nursing home

sorry, not that you wanted to know all that and I haven't even been drinking

There will be no more in this household I know that much... Hat off to you oooggs and anyone else with more than two... Dont know how you do it...

bumps I'm sure it is very normal that your dd wants her dad at the moment. Ds1 has always 'preffered' his dad to me , but that's ok, I tell myself it's just because ds1 is secure enough that he knows I'm not going anywhere so feels he can take me for granted iyswim. I also wonder if it's a form of survival for the older ones? Once the new baby arrives, something kicks into them that they know mum needs to see to the baby lots so they need to get their attention else where? That's probably worded completely wrong, but that's sometimes what I think happened here during late pregnancy. Your dd won't be like that forever. I'd say enjoy it for the time being. Let her have the time with her dad but let her know your still there. When ds1 is attached to dp on the weekends, I just every now and then call out "Jacob, I love you" and he laughs.
oooggs I'm pretty sure we all know everything about each other now anyway. remember in pregnancy all the talk of discharge? Piles? and so on........there's nothing we can't talk about now

Look at me, up at 3:30 and I don't even have any children here. Have just eaten a whole pack of maryland cookies though.

LLB - I was thinking of you last night ds1, who also prefers daddy (& ds2 is heading that way) was up being sick - that is when I was thankful he wanted daddy , anyway I thought of you, child free and asleep, and you weren't mad woman

bumps, from about 6 months onwards my kids are daddy's babies (aaron has started early actually) but at around 3 they return to the darkside and everything has to be done by me again. enjoy the break while it lasts, when they scream your name for every trip or fall and get hysterical when you leave the house it can be quite wearing.

ooogs [la la la la la la] i'm not listening, surprise pregs don't happen, we're having no more ever, clearly any mad women with 4 or more decided on that many

still hacking and coughing her and feel like i've been hit by a succession of buses... yet dp is having a lie in facinating how that works i kind of hope he does catch it now so i can return the fucking favour

My DS1 is a real daddy's boy, especially since I got pregnant again within a few months of going back to work. It makes me quite sad sometimes.

I'd love a third baby, but time and money are probably against me.

ds1 DEFINITELY prefers daddy, esp as daddy is a pushover and I am a hag.
At least I have Stan, my no 1 fan, who at the moment is going through a rather scary nipple biting phase.

Anyone have any good tips on how to stop this - it is bloody painful.

DS1 is definitely a daddy's boy too - but I think its probably because daddy is infinitely the more fun parent. I'm the boring one who reminds him to share, go to the loo, eat his dinner, put his clothes on, its bedtime etc. He's recently started asking what daddy thinks when I tell him to do something or rather not to do something. Danny is a mummy's boy at present - I love the little looks of total adoration he gives me - though I give it another couple of months until he becomes a daddy's boy too...

MsLucy - wish I knew a trick to stop the biting. Sometimes rubbing teething gel around Danny's gums stops it. The other thing I was told is to unlatch them if they do it and stop the feed - they'll soon get the idea not to do it. Though doesnt Stan have teeth? Its just Danny's rock hard gums bringing tears to my eyes - biting with teeth must be so painful!

Hello everyone...

I'm a bit weary tonight. It's been a looooong few days - all enjoyable but quite knackering. Wedding went well, rain stayed away, my sister looked gorgeous and had a fab day (despite her worries about the "in-law" family) and DS looked absolutly gorgeous in his page boy suit. Very grown up. DD got to wear a very cute dress for a photo and then was whisked away to be looked after by my lovely friend and her doting mum for the night.

DH decided it was ok to spend from 8 - 6pm (36 holes) on the golf course and apparently won a prize so has buggered off there again .

Anyway, no Daddy's boy here....he even got up the aisle with me on Friday and as it all went quiet and he was guided into the pew whilst I did my bridesmaidy duties he screamed "I want my MUUUUMMMMY" and was whisked out by DH !!...(still screaming). It can be very trying !

Catching up on the telly tonight and uploading lots of photos. I'm hoping I hear about work next week. They've now told me that they don't know what's happending so it's all up in the air as to whether they are cutting hours or doing something more drastic and making one of us redundant. I have nursery fees to pay in a week or so so they really need to tell me soon and I then need to do some major financial planning.

Hope the rest of you have had a good weekend. Dinky welcome back after your hols and sorry DS2 doesn't like the beach. My Ds wasn't keen to start with but seems to have got over it now.

Oh, I meant DH was on the golf course today not on my sis's wedding day !!!