June 07 - From babies to toddlers to Little People; my how the last two years have flown by!

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A big Happy Birthday for the weeks ahead.

And to remind everyone......the birthday honours list:

Natty's DD - 24/05/07
Lilkel's DD - 25/05/07
Norty's DD - 02/06/07
Izzybel's DD - 02/06/07
Daisy's DD - 05/06/07
Derlor's DD - 08/06/07
FairyFay's DS - 10/06/07
Trace's DD - 11/06/07
BadZelda's DD - 12/06/07
Jammy's DD - 13/06/07
SeansGirl's DS - 14/06/07
Motherhurdicure's DS - 14/06/07
Sputnik's DS - 15/06/07
Tallulabelle's DD - 16/06/07
Ria's DS - 19/06/07
Bumper's DD - 20/06/07
Fury's DS - 21/06/07
Andiem's DS - 21/06/06
Holly's DS - 23/06/07
DKMA's DS - 01/07/07
Justbeme's DD 10/07/07
Annobal's DS - 10/07/07
Foxy's DD - 12/07/07

Lots of missing posters from even a year ago....if anyone is lurking come and say Hi and let us know how your LO is doing

and I can't remember what name motherhurdicure is using at the minute, but where are you?

sounds horrible jammy. I drove up to the shop tonight - haven't driven all the time we were away, but Dad's car is automatic, so I don't think Mum would let me!

evening all. Been out enjoying the sunshine in the garden today and have only just managed to get switched on.

welcome back Ria, I hope you had a good time.

Journey sounds horrible Jammy. Roadworks on motorways and children is a testy combination. Sounds like jamlet was OK with it though.

Love love loving this sunshine . bumble is great; he is the first child I have had who wasn't mobile in the summer so has been happy to sit in the beach shelter playing with his toys whilst DH, DD and I pottered in the garden.

DD has a streaming cold though and is very miserable. I think she might have a hayfever thing going on as well though as her eyes stopped streaming after she had some benadryl, but she was still full of goober.

DS1 has been out with our neighbour's DS today who is obsessed with guns and wrestling and knives (he is 10 so a bit older). Anyhoo, DS1 came back at teatijme and was a fucking nightmare. We were having a BBQ and were all having a lovely time outside and he kicked off soooo much after me admonishing him for picking his nose and licking his finger immediately after crushing some horrible crysalis thing that he found in the garden . He went ape after that, but I calmly marched him into the house as he wasn't going to wash his hands. When he came down he was still ragin at me, so I got him a plate of food and sat him at the kitchen table and shut the door leaving him to it. We all had a lovely tea without his shitty stroppiness, he ate everything and was pretty humble afterwards. I haven't shouted at him at all today and I feel soooo much calmer this evening. He is a bit wrong footed about it all and wondering wtf is going on, but hopefully it's working.

sorry, that was a bit of a ramble!

Hi All!

Well I am having some mental contractions here. BH's I presume. I was worried for a bit though! Eating helped. I was just in sooooo much pain.

Looks like people had a good weekend! Aside from the drive Jammy, ugh.
I had friends over then went to my parents. DS was a little star but I knew it wouldn't last, he is back to being gobshite supreme this morning.

I got a bit tipsy on some wine and got a snidey comment on my FB status!! Jeez... I know some people choose to abstain 100% from all things toxic when they are pregnant but I am not one of them.

Morning

Fury, BH can be very painful at the best of times, but if you're hungry or dehydrated, can make it worse.

Jammy, sounds like you had the journey from hell - hope you've got AC in your car.

We also had a day of chilling out in the garden....lovely weather!

Did spend a constructive couple of hours while DD was asleep doing ISAs and tax credits & other exciting things!

My Dyson is off to be serviced today - how am I going to manage without a hoover for 2 days?

We also have hayfever / snotty nose / cold thing going on here with DD...revolting!

Ria - glad you had a nice time. I've been driving 22 years (fuck I'm old!) and I've never driven an automatic yet! My feet wouldn't know what to do....it's bad enough driving a car without a handbrake....my left hand flaps about wondering what to do!

have added a comment to your facebook Fury don't worry about it. Your body is processing the alcohol quicker than normal so you feel pissed sooner. You probably sobered up quicker.

Its not the same pissed as falling out of a nightclub at 2am pissed.

I saw that foxy, thank you!
Judgey cow!

I got really tipsy then 30 mins later I was as sober as a judge! I never planned to have more than a glass...but it was sooo yummyyyyy

I just saw on my PN group that a girl due the day before me gave birth on May 1st. Baby not doing too well.
Poor souls, I feel for them.

pah, the whole time I was away I wasn't anxious at all, now I'm home it's awful again

just found out DH should have been in Leeds for an MRSA swab today, we have to go tomorrow. Then on Saturday he's having 4 biopsies.

I feel sick

for your AN friend Fury. And hope your BHs are just BHs and that they're calming down for you.

Thanks for all the sympathy re the driving. jamlet was pretty good - maoaned a bit but was fairly happy as long as I kept passing her bits of food. She got through 2 bananas and a handfull of mini-shredded wheat. She also had all the water (most of which she poured over herself) as I was worried about her overheating. But yes we have AC. Having the lullaby CD on helped keep her calm too (though wound me up with its saccharine syrupiness!)

I've once driven an automatic, when I drove as my Dad's support team (his car) when he did a 150 mile cycle ride a few years back. Felt very odd. Dad says he'd never go back to a manual though.

Jamlet was wheezy and coughing in the night and this morning had a riased temperature. But we dosed her with Calpol and took her to nursery . She seemed fine there though, ran into the garden very happily.

x posts Ria. Sorry you're anxious again. Deep breaths and think positively. (Well apart from wanting MRSA swabs to be negative ) Hope your DH is OK.

x posts Ria. Sorry you're anxious again. Deep breaths and think positively. (Well apart from wanting MRSA swabs to be negative ) Hope your DH is OK.

Oh and for those with LOs with hayfever, we're finding Hay Max is helping (but no use for eye related syptoms)

Ria....are you taking anything atm for it?

I'm still on the stuff I was (eventually) put on when pg and haven't got the courage to come off....I think DH is a bit disappointed in me

Your journey Jammy sounds like my worst nightmare...stuck in a traffic jam with children....thank god you had food.

I have sertraline but didn't take it away with me as I have trouble swallowing tablets and don't want DM to know about them. Will be back on them tonight.

So who has had a lovely day in the sunshine?

Did anyone do anything interesting?

I keep getting urges to go to the Zoo or chessington or kew gardens or something

I sat in my office all day, unable to even see my normal view of the car park because of all the scaffolding over the building.

Did get a good report in my annual review though

Jamlet's poorly Had a bit of a temperature this morning, but had a good day at nursery. High temperature and seemed unhappy tonight though so more calpol before bed, but has woken once so far crying

I hope jamelt is OK jammy. poor wee scone

fury, what's been going on with BH? Maybe your wee tipple at the weekend caused a bit of dehydration? remeber "a thirsty uterus is a painful uterus" I hope things have settled down and that you are taking things easy. Sorry to hear about your Aug PN buddy, and sending positive vibes for her little one.

I walked 4.5 miles today ....all because the car is fooked. Wasted the entire morning just getting from place to place, but it was at least a nice day for it and it kept the littlies out of trouble!!

Been in the garden all afternoon and evening though, second planting done but had to come in as we were being eaten alive.

DD is driving us nuts at the minute; she didn't settle until after 9.30 tonight and it's been two hours from putting her to bed until she goes to sleep for over a week now. Never had this with DS1 and don't know what to do....any ideas? We've tried just popping her back in bed, not speaking, no eye contact etc, but nothing works. she is then a stroppy grump monster in the day and wants to sleep for hours, and so it all goes round again

Baggins is still awake. (and watching Ghost - I hate that film - with DH)

We had DS2s friend this morning as his mum had to work at DS1s school, and the primary had a training day. Been in the garden most of the day, planted out my flower seedlings. Had the girl from down the street this afternoon as I was talking to her mum this morning who was nearly in tears as her mum has been poorly after complications in hospital. I wish she'd said, we're not that friendly, but I could have done more to help (and had more patience with her very annoying child). I plan to take them to the beach on Wednesday evening if it's still nice and I can have the car.

for your PN friend fury, hope all is well. Both my sister and my niece were seriously prem and are both fine and healthy, and 11 and 41 respectively, so prayers and positive vibes from me too.

The best bews is - DH has a new job and starts Monday. Fingers crossed for this one.

DS1 has been playing with the boy down the road is nearly eleven. They were playing at shooting zombies the other day......turns out they have been watching Resident Evil at said boy's house . Am I being unreasonable at being a bit pissed off that his parents think it's suitable viewing for a ten year old? They've also been watching stuff on You Tube and I'm not sure what sort of filters his parents have on it.

Should I approach the parents about it? and if so, how do I do it without coming over all antsy. I'm sure they already think we are nutters after DH's reaction to them trashing our greenhouse.

And i know that DS1 is no angel, but this boy seems to bring out the worst in him

no idea daisy, sorry what are the parents like? can you get your DS to take responsibility and say he's not allowed to watch stuff like that and come home? (My DS1 was hated by the class last year at school because he wasn't allowed to watch a particular film at school, he knows what he is and isn't supposed to do - although he still plays that 18cert car/shooting game at his friends house. he just confesses when he gets in TBH he wouldn't have wanted to watch anything "nasty" when he was younger, or even now - I want him to see Memphis Belle and he can't watch it cos someone throws up, so gruesome killing should be well beyond him. I worry about you tube though, and about the influence of his best friend, who looks like butter wouldn't melt, but is over-indulged because his dad works away and he also has issues)

his parents are lovely, but he is an only child who has a lifelong condition so I guess may be a bit over-indulged? I've told DS I'm not happy, and he just retorts that we let him watch this or that film that has the same certificate. I thought Resident Evil was an 18? He said it's a 15.

Not sure what to do other than stop him from playing with this boy; his games always involve violence and guns, and he wanders round with a metal bar whacking things; so of course DS wants to do the same. He has a BB gun and has already been in trouble for hitting DS1 with one of the bullets and their conversation this evening was a bit much for me, being nasty and cruel about the little boy who lives opposite who is only four. I ticked DS1 off about it and rather than saying sorry, I just got a mouthful of "well he did this or said that and is nasty"

I have my judgey pants on, but is his condition enough to protect him from the law when he beats someone to a pulp/gets done for vadalism? ('scuse the melodrama - have taken to watching The Guardian and that other thing with that rather attractive man in it) Also am prone to threatening DS1 "if you were an adult that would be a crime" type conversations, (his friend wrote on DS1s bedframe with permanent marker, prompting a rant about vandalism, I also go a bit over-the-top with GBH etc)

If they are nice and approachable parents, then it's probably OK to remind them DS1 is a fair bit younger than their DS, if it makes it easier make up a lame tale about nightmares or something. can you suggest other games?

I totally agree how much easier it would be if we could keep them wrapped up in cotton wool and away from outside influences.

is DS protective of DD/DS2? if you said "how would you feel if said x about DD/DS2, how would you feel?" do you know how he would respond? my DS1 is a spiteful little shit TBH, but I think he would protect baggins to the ends of the earth. DS2 is definitely baggins protector, and tells DH off for being mean.

Good point well made about the nightmares....but worry that this might lead to teasing from the other boy; he is that mean. It's not a physical disability....and I'm sure he would be able to get the meds he needs in prison.

Good point about the if you were an adult speech. Might give that a try and see how it goes.

Why is this parenting lark so very hard.....did my parents stress as much about us and what we were watching etc? I wish they were around so I could ask them

teasing is a tough one, I wouldn't want to cause that for my DS1, but it would maybe make him see what kind of "friend" he had, and also the other boy would then lose a friend so it would affect him too?

I do like to think that appealing to DS1s grown-up side has a positive effect, but I do have a PO box in Cloud Cuckoo Land

are girls this difficult? I wish it got easier! I love babies...

must go to bed ready for trip to BUPA tomorrow (i bet we're there 5 minutes). baggins finally asleep on the sofa, but DS2 is up now

night all!

good luck daisy!