The all new and exciting May TODDLERS thread...

[GeorginaA]

... it's May 1st folks...

Spots - will tell you next week! Mind you, I expect it to go downhill rapidly after our presence has been inflicted upon it

bonjour madame, avez-vous des petit-pois?

hello all, havent posted for ages as our pc has died again and its taken me a while to catch up on your posts.

hot here too, isnt it everywhere? dd not too good and i'm having a grudge on dh week too. its the golf thing. again. every bloody weekend, to which he says 'but i work all week, arent i allowed ONE day to enjoy myself'. that's fine, but what about ME?!! looking after dd 5 days a week without him, then ANOTHER at the w.e whilst being entertained by his mother as well. its enough to want to commit murder. aaaaaanyway....

dd missed her mmr as she had/has a cold and cough and i didnt want to pile anything else onto her immune system so will book when she's better.

tonight she got a temperature and an hour after being in bed she was sick. everywhere. so just changed sheets, washed and dried snuggly bear - who cant be slept without - and located an old sleeping bag. all whilst dh is..... ON THE GOLF COURSE.

yep, you get my meaning?

kbaby, am v impressed with the amount of words your dd says. dd says. dad, mum, dog, baby, toast, rabbit,

thats it i think.

she has also begun a hilarious new game that dh taught her, which involves chucking all bath toys out of the bath with gallons of water with them. all over the floor, walls, mummy, etc. laughs her head of menacingly. but cute. and annoying.

oh, and tonight was the last formula milk. i think i may try and make it the last bottle too, but that's perhaps a bit upsetting to do just yet!

susi, you must be so worn out in this heat.

WHEN'S THE MEETUP?!

Salut mes amis.

I feel like it's been ages since I popped in to see how everyone was. Lots of lazy DHs/DPs at the moment then and quite a few poorly babies . Hope all the los get better soon.

Helsy, I would be nervous about leaving DS in a creche but I would do it. I think you should. I only hope that if you do, you actually enjoy yourself rather than sitting there worrying.

Lol spots with your pants.

We're pretty busy at the moment and it's all good news. We've been on holiday to a cottage in the lake district in the middle of nowhere, with only sheep as neighbours. We picked a great week for it with the weather.

DS has finally found his feet and all he wants to do is walk. It was very strange. One day he was just taking wobbley steps along the sofa. The next he just launched off no problem. I really expected it to be a lot more gradual than that

I don't think I told you that it was touch and go with DS when he was born. We recently had an appointment with the hospital paediatrician and we've pretty much been given the all clear. We don't have to go back for a year. We are so relieved.

I wrote off to a parenting magazine when Jake was about 2 months old with our birth story. Last week, I had a call to say they are going to publish it. It'll be in September/ October! Yipee. They wanted a picture of the first hug (which was day 3 for me) so I've sent a picture of me looking knackered and scraggy in my dressing gown. Yikes.

Still no MMR letter. I wonder why. I'm not going to chase it yet though.

MEET UP
Either 13th or 20th August. 20th would be better as we have one more maybe for that date, but my dh might be going to Chelsea then, and I want him to be there. (So he can look after kids so I can talk to you all). So I'm waiting until Sky announce whether they are moving the Chelsea/Arsenal game to the Sunday - which should be in the next couple of days.

Egypt - as you can see from the above I am used to a DH who has a non negotiable leisure pursuit. From August to May I lose him for a day every other weekend. And it's not fair. We have come to the agreement that he can have his Chelsea days ifI get days off as well - so I now feel no guilt about taking time off for me at the weekend and leaving him alone with the kids. And on days whe h is leaving at 10am to go to the football I don't have to get up until then, and he brings me breakfast and papers in bed. Somehow you have to get through to your dh that you work full time as well - and if anybody needs a break from the kids at the weekend it's you. Shouting it very loudly whilst throwing things worked for me

Nice to hear from you Ponka; how shocking about DS's early days. What was wrong? Can you tell us which mag you'll be in? And weren't you up late on Friday...

I'm feeling v. glum today. Don't know why, it's lovely weather and I've nothing to moan about. But it's damn hard work with DD at the moment; does anyone else find this? She wants to be doing stuff ALL THE TIME and I mean ALL THE TIME but hasn't the physical ability to go off and do it herself. And perhaps it's partly my own fault for not just 'letting her be' - but she is unable to play with things alone. DH has (with 'permission' ) been doing hobby type stuff in the shed and I just feel a bit like a limp rag. To be honest, I am missing having my own projects on the go. I have no energy come this time of night to do anything but go on MN and watch Big Brother.

OK that's enough, but tell me, DOES anyone else think it's really hard work at the moment?

Also we have no money, which makes me want to be earning some. bound to be annoying, being skint.

spots: to be honest, no, not with ds2. But ds1 is a different story - I'm finding him quite hard work at the moment (for similar reasons as you - only fast forward until a 4 year old, but also because I think he's going through that mini-teenage transition between a pre-schooler & child). Whereas ds2 is a delight in comparison, easy to make smile and most of his "care" is physical needs rather than having to intellectually work out what the problem is, discussing it, finding solutions etc that you do with a 4 year old! Also, ds1 tends to amuse ds2 most of the time... ds2 is far happier entertaining himself than ds1 was at the same age... etc.

Hmm... that's not really a very helpful post, is it?!

Oh Spots, do you think you could with a break? just a day or so? I have been keeping to myself because I know when my moods tell me to keep it all trivial - if you see what I mean.

I now have 75 points with the Council and they have recommended some scheme for me to phone on Monday - getting better in that sense.

Ex is away at Glastonbury and I have formed a brand new love for flash floods in Somerset - although I must admit to phoning him to check all was well - has visions of telling Reuben that his daddy was last seen heading towards Southampton in a tide . . . besides, he has my tent and airbed/sleeping bag to look after

Spots, dont mean to sound flippant by the way. (my fellow Nig Brother lovely - Vanessa gets on my puppies to be honest!)

Spots, I don't know if it's any help but I know where you are coming from. I feel like that sometimes and also wondering if it's because I should just leave him to it more.

If you need a project, how about looking into an evening class at a college or somewhere from September. There are all sorts of weird and wonderful things out there. Creative stuff, too. I'm doing cake decorating, a friend is doing black and white photography, another, a writing course. It is knackering sometimes because, like you say, you often feel you're not good for anything more than watching BB but it's worth it. It's one evening a week just for me and DH likes the quality daddy time. I hope you are feeling better soon.

I'm not really sure what happened to DS and neither are the doctors. Their best diagnosis was that DS didn't take kindly to the C Section and came out "as if he'd been dragged through a hedge backwards". They wondered if the cord got round his neck but there was no sign. He had an apgar score of 1 when he came out (just a feint heartbeat). He appeared dead. The whole story should be in Practical Parenting's October issue (out in September, they say) with a really flattering picture of me in my dressing gown

Today we are going to a service and Teddy bears picnic at the neo - natal unit where Jake was. Really looking forward to it.

Spots, how are you feeling today? I hope you are feeling a bit perkier. It is hard work at times isn't it? Ex has been away for the last few days and it has given me a feel for what it will be like once I finally move out. I quite like it, although DS has switched over to cling mode today and he currently glued against my leg and sulking. Men!

Right, I must get into gear - thinking about you Spots xxx

Sorry Ponka, didn't mean to ignore you!

Lots of love to everyone here xxx

Thanks lovelygirls. and LOL Georgina! Libb, how daft am I wallowing in mine when your situation is so much more difficult. It is always lovely to hear from you and I hope the scheme turns out to be helpful... get out that mudhole spots.

Ponka you are dead right - something like an evening class would be great. I live a bit far from any colleges though, and don't drive... However I think I'm going to try and do a bit of drawing that I can sell on, make a bit of money and maybe a few greetings cards... keep busy and get a bit of cash on the go.

How I would love a couple of days' break - but that's part of the problem in a way. DD is very, very dependant on me atm and I'd feel hellish guilty. I went running on Fri eve and she cried all the time I was gone.

Mudhole - OUT!

(NB> Vanessa actually reminds me of a friend of mine! though I wouldn't tell my friend that. It's just because of the way she talks. I am destined to loathe Kinga, tho I can't imagine she'll stay in for long...)

Hi everyone, god i've been slack again but i missed everyone!!

Dp was off work all last week with an ear infection poor thing.

Spots- How are you feeling? I still get trarfull "wow this is hard work atm" times. Normals when Kiera is tantruming over food and kicking bowls of food over me. Hope you feel better soon, lots of love xxxx

Libb- Good news about you points. Do let me know if you need a chat about anything. Speak soon (and hopefully see you soon as well)

Prufrock- Don't you move in just 2 days!! How exciting! I can do all dates in August.

My exciting news is......I'M ENGAGED!!!! Dp here on known as DF (dear fiance ) proposed on Saturday and i couldn't be happier.

Love to all
xxxxx

woo hoo! congrats cat!

omg cats!!! did it work again for you
did my dp talk to yours in the end???

congrats girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations Cat. I am so very happy for you and DF.

Wow, Brilliant Cat! When's the big day?

Congratulations Cat! How did he propose? Where were you?

Don't worry, Libb. It's so hard to keep up with everyone, I know.

Cat, wonderful news! We had dd1 as a bridesmaid when she was 2 and a half, and when DH saw her walking down the aisle, all solemn and carrying her little flower basket he blubbed like a baby.

Libb, how many points do you need?

Agree on finding something to do for yourself, Spots. Once you get into a routine of going say once a week to something, they get used to it. Dh has raised his head above the parapet and has started playing footy once a week and is trying to encourage me to find something I'd like to do too. Quite fancy football, actually - I'd just watch, naturally. All those fit legs...

Dd2 is enjoying the sun. Haven't tried her in the paddling pool yet. She ate fresh spinach from a friend's garden last night, didn't even mix it with anything sweet and she loved it.

Oh Cat, I am so chuffed for you - I can provide a beautiful pageboy if you want one! can you imagine your DD and my DS together? eeh, I am getting all gushy at the thought. (just kidding! no pressure at all)

Once you have introduced me to one of your lovely singletons then your DD can be my bridesmaid - how is that for a deal? You know always live in hope of getting it right one day . . .

Love to all of you xxxx

Hi everyone, still grinning from ear to ear (see?)

Libb- Yes of course i want your gorgeous son as our pageboy!!! (I'd actualy dearly love you to be bridesmaid also if you'd do it?)

Spots- I agree with Helsy, do something just for you once a week, i'm sure it'll make a world of differance. How are you today?

Ponka- Details are all on my "wahoo i'm engaged" thread in "chat" topic!

Thanks all for congrats

It's all quiet here atm. Kiera's eating quite well but still only weighs 18.5lbs! HV seems to think she's okay though.

Still no walking here or even cruising!! standing alot clinging on to things but not on her own. HV again seems to think she's okay- i'm still nervous tho...

Lots of love to all
xxx

Don't worry cat - no walking or talking here yet (well ... he says mamama and dadada in context, any other words are hotly contested - he's keeping us guessing!)

Cat, big congrats!! whens the big day?

Im suffering from sinus pain at the moment. Im living on painkillers and decongestents. Also noticed that people seem to be keeling over at my desk from the smell of olbas oil.

dh's nan died on Sunday so weve had a pretty miserable week so far. On the plus DD is walking much better now but wants to take you everywhere. It does mean that like Spots she wont entertain herself for long and wants to be dragging me out the garden just so that we can walk around in circles(boring after 10 circles)shes also having tantrums if I darent go in the same direction she wants me to. We had a proper toddler tantrum on sunday in the park because I refused to walk back and play with a drain, she let go of my hand and stood there screaming and stamping her feet while I walked off saying 'You can stay her on your own if your going to be silly'
She did do something really sweet after though. She put her hands on my face and turned it to look at her and then kissed me
Ive always fancied 3 children and was envious of anyone in school who had lots of siblings. We started for baby 2 about 2 months ago but nothing so far.
Is everyone else taking their DH for the meet up?

Cat, Dd2 is not walking just cruising and attempting to stand but doesn't have the balance yet - I've said before that dd1 didn't walk until she was nearly 18 months old and she is fine. I think dd2 weighs about 19/20lbs. If HV thinks she's fine she more than likely is.

Dd2 didn't sleep much last night as she has a bad cough, so here's hoping - when I picked up from nursery they said "she's had a lovely long sleep mum" - I nearly cried.