Fab Feb 2009: baby coos, stinky poos - three months on...

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so here we go again

Calico on your behalf. My dp's a bit like that too. I don't think he'd drop them off to someone else though.
And at the holiday comment, bet your days are harder than his.
MS Goodluck with the walk then.

Dp's up now, hasn't said anything about the letter yet.
Luke's asleep, so I'm watching JK and will then have a bath.

Luke has a couple of swollen white patches on his upper gums, and a few dent-like marks on the bottom where the teeth will one day come through. He has had a bit of dribble on him, but I thought it was ds1's. Could Luke be teething? Time will tell I suppose.

Back in the bonking saddle for a while here too. We also don't function well without it.

Going up to the North Norfolk coast today to go for a long walk with my friend who is 38weeks pg with DC2 in the hope we can rupture some membranes or something.

MS,don't forget to take your rubber gloves, towels and a flask of hot water

Where is everyone?

I asked dp what his thoughts were on my leeter, and he said "I don't remember what it said, I'll have to read it again"
Don't know why I bothered.
I'm going to the docs in a bit for another PND test.

STW How did you get on? Have you decided what you're going to do?

Where's KT? And Beantin? Hope everything's ok with them.

Seriously girlies? Where is everyone

Don't leave me here all on my own

I got the results back from my liver function test. Still high, doc wants it repeated in 6-8 weeks. He is thinking possibly Gilberts syndrom. Sounded scary, and wasn't sure if I wanted to Google it, but I did, and not at all serious, not really a disease, and is mostly found by chance, does not need to be treated and can be ignored. It is genetic and is down to a mutant gene but affects males more often than females.
I am not aware of either of my parents having it, but doc said result was fine in october, so might be connected to something else, but we should keep a regular check on it.
I hate blood tests.

You didn't all start a secret thread without me did you?

LBB im back........

How are you feeling today, crap about your dp being so dismissive about your letter!!!! When is he back?

Hi lardy I wrote a reply out earlier but the laptop crashed. PITA!!
I'm ok today, tired, but am going to sleep in my own bed tonight, not on ds's floor. He has been back to his old self so am def going out tomorrow.
I did tell dp that him not even seeming to remember what my letter said, leaves me thinking he just doesn't care how I feel. He said that's my trouble, I over-anylise(sp?) everything.
Looks like we will continue in the extremely healthy manner of never mentioning when I fly off on one ever again.

How's dd's throat today?

Has everyone else but me and lardy been lost in the MN server reboot?

Or do you all just have a life?

No I couldnt' get on earlier either.

Went to a well known discount supermarket last week en route into town to pick up some fruit and veg (on my health kick; it's costing me a flippin fortune) - DS at nursery. DD in her buggy with blanket draped over fast asleep. She started yelling after we'd left (blanket did the trick then ) half way into town. I peered into her buggy to find a green object stuck under her armpit. It was a MANGO which had clearly rolled up the buggy away from the fruit and veg I was piling in the feet end of the buggy and which I'd not paid for with the rest of the stuff ...oh dear.

No sex here either since the BFP. I have no interest whatsoever at the moment and neither does DH.....I am determined though not to let this side of our relationship slide into non-existent - we were a bit rubbish before but always enjoy it when we actually make a bit of effort..

I left DH with DD yesterday as I went with DS on a trip with nursery to a local farm. Got back and he'd dressed her in one of DS's old manky (blue!) babygros and a very odd T-shirt (which goes with some very sweet bottoms) sort of squashed over the top as he thought she might get cold (Um how about one of the five cardi's in her drawer that usually does the trick). Do any of your OH's have NO CLUE whatoseover when it comes to dressing your lo's? And he took her down to our local coffee shop - I mean he doesn't have to dress her up but a white babygro or just something which matched would have been better....she looked ridiculous and really uncomfortable too - he does it with DS too. I give up - it's not like he lacks dress sense himself.

We had a 12/13 week growth spurt here.....was over in a few days.

DD is now blowing raspberries all the time. It's very very cute (and I'm completely in love with her at the moment - she's 17 weeks on Friday I can't believe it) but she gets soooo wet particularly as it's coupled with a lot of puke. Lovely.

Calico - GRRRRRRRRRR at your DH - I don't tend to give DH an option but maybe your DH is nervous about it. Shouldn't be though really should he as it's not as if he's a first time dad is it.

LBB let us know (sure you will !) when you get a reaction (if you do) from the letter.

Right - off to catch up on Ashes to Ashes.

Off on hols 2 weeks Sat and need to get holiday insurance and car park booked - also need to get car insurance sorted....boring boring boring.

Dp won't dress them anymore. I once got up and ds1 was wearing grey tracksuit bottoms and a grey jumper. He looked like WEntworth Miller (prison break), so I changed him straight away.
Then when I was in hospital having Luke, dp brought ds1 in to see us and he was wearing a dodgy pair of trousers and a top that just looked odd. I asked dp what possessed him to bring my son out the house looking like that and the reply I got was "your dad dressed him, and because I think of other people's feelings, I thought it was better to be grateful that he had got him ready and not insulted his choice of outfit, the important thing is that they are clean......blah, blah, blah, blah" [eye rolling]

I'm here LBB. For the first time in AGES. It just seems that when I get online I check hotmail, then FB, then check internet banking to see how little money I've got left and then something else has got to be done and Mumsnet falls by the wayside. Must try harder, must try harder.

Sorry to hear you've been having a crap time LBB, you're dealing with a lot. I haven't read through all the pages in this thread so ignore this if it's inappropriate or you're already doing it, but have you thought about asking your GP or HV to refer you for some counselling? Maybe having someone neutral to talk to would help you sort some things out? Even just having someone to talk to might help.

Things are busy for me, in a good way. I'm making the most of my mat leave and keeping myself occupied. Alex is still doing well and, fingers crossed, the ABs he takes every night are keeping wee infections at bay. He started sleeping on average from 7.30pm - 5 or 6am about a week ago and is sticking to that for now. I hope it carries on, it feels so much better not to be up feeding during the night.

Is everyone good at doing tummy time? I'm worried that Alex is really not very good at it i.e. he gets fed up very quickly and seems to just lie with his face in a pool of his own dribble and then starts whinging, meaning I pick him up because I feel sorry for him. I know it's a vicious circle because if I don't make him do it he won't get any better, but it seems so mean! Any tips from anyone to make it more successful? He's nowhere near being able to hold his head up when he's on his front and I think maybe he should be able to?

LBB have just skim read the last couple of days posts. think it's a good idea about you checking out your PND. i really think you should try and get some counselling too.

and for god's sake get back in your bed! sleeping on the floor definitely won't help when you're finding it hard to cope.

lardy unbelieveable about the neighbours and their amazing self-combusting carpets. stupid fuckers.

calico i find it stunning how men can make comments about how tired they are. ok, they might be tired but aren't they in the slightest bit embarrassed to say it out loud to a new mum who's been getting up to a baby for 3 months?! my dp said exactly the same yesterday morning.

we're going through the 12 week growth spurt here too. ivor normally sleeps from 7pm to 7am with one feed at some point around 3 or 4am but last night was up about 5 times. it's so knackering not just the getting up but with the body taking a battering too. i've not felt the need to top up with a bottle before now but if he does the same tonight i may try one tomorrow.

I'm crap I know but I do lurk sometimes.
LBB my brother was diagnosed with Gilbert syndrome when he was about 23 and under a lot of stress. Noone else in the family has it, it means he's a bit careful about his drinking but that's about it. He's 30 this year, I wouldn't say it's affected him too much at all other than take positive steps to lose the stress of his life.
Easier said than done though.

At last I am back our internet went down. Maybe MN sent the bug our way??? All ok now though so breath lardy......

Went to buy jeans today as I am sick of wearing maternity clothes. I put on 4 stone with ds and thought I was doing ok loosing it but I am still 2 dress sizes bigger than I was before I got pg... boo hoo

Also I went to get my eyes tested today and they did a presure test, my presure is very high and I have to go back tomorrow for another test and further investigation, it is a sign of glucoma (sp?) I am so worried about it now!!! Still if it is i just hope we have caught it early. it also turns out i have been driving illegally as my eyes have got worse now so also got new glasses to pick up tomorrow....

What with ds being so ill and dd yesterday I really hope that this is the third and final problem.....

QK Good to see you. How can you not check MN first?
I knew there was something I wanted to speak to the gp about. I said on here the other day that I was going to ask about counselling. I am such an idiot! haha
Luke doesn't get much tummy time at all. Ds1 didn't either. Ds1 hated being on his front, so I just didn't do it. Have you tried it on the bed, you know where it is softer? Are you laying infront of him so he can stare at your face? Sometimes, I just lay on the sofa with Luke on his front up my chest, he seems quite happy with that although ds1 is not!
They all develop at different rates I think, so I wouldn't be too concerned about it atm. Ds1 was very good at head control very quickly, Luke is ok with it, but not as good as I remember ds1 being. I'd maybe try it with him laying on you and talk to him. What does he do when you hold him upright? Can he hold his head up then? Luke can, but not for long.
katiebn I was sleeping on the floor, ok because dp annoyed me and I didn't want to be near him, but mostly because ds1 was so hot, I was quite worried and didn't want to be away from him. He was talking in his sleep too, and I felt like I needed to be as close to him as I could. He has been fine today, so I have put Luke's cot back in the main bedroom and I'm going in there tonight, but think I'll move the monitor into ds1's room so I can hear him properly.
sorky Long time no see. How's it going? Thanks for that about your brother. I don't drink much anymore, although some days I'd like to!! hahaha, we'll see what happens at the next blood tests.

lardy Good luck with the test tomorrow. I don't know anything about glucoma (can't spell it either), so cannot offer words of reasurrance(that's wrong too), but like you say, hopefully you have caught it early. Do you normally wear glasses? If so they have probably caught it at the earliest possible stage, but you still don't know that's what it is for sure, so please try not to worry until you have to.
How is dd's throat? Is she feeling ok today?

LBB she has been milking it today- where do they learn to do that??? She seems much brighter but still saying it hurts so I have been giving her calpol through out the day. She is caughing alot as well so i dont think that helps....

I am so so tired today so going to goto bed. I have my eye appointment at ten so wont be on until after that..

wish me luck..

Goodluck.
The doc said ds1's throat looked a bit red so I have been giving him ice-cream.

I may try ice cream tomorrow but mummy will have to test it for poison.... he he right I am off now so night night...

lbb... dp actually purposefully dresses ds1 in a grey top that he calls his prison break top poor dd has taken to running into me and begging me to pick her clothes

will read properly and post tomorrow, just marking my place for now

PT

lbb I am so sorry to hear about you and your dp, I haven´t been on here since Sunday cos was so knackered after weekend. It sounds like you are having a really tough time, and with 2 kids to look after on yoru own most of the time, that is horrid - any friends you coudl stay with while you think things through - bit of space and distance often helps to clear the mind etc

lardybump I haven´t had much bedroom action since BFP either, and none sinc,e mainly cos after dd1 arrived it hurt like hell, and this time will be even worse - haven´t got 100% control of bladder any more, so dreading it, but dh about to explode and pickign really nasty fights - always a sign of sexual frustration - so think time has come. wish me luck...

fifi Yeah, there are people I could stay with and talk to, but we've all got our own problems haven't we?
It's ok, I think anyway. We still haven't spoken about it, and doesn't look like we will.

Luke slept till 7 this morning (last fed at 11:30pm)!! Would have been a great lay in if it wasn't for ds1 getting up at 5am! Can't grumble too much, he slept through too, so all in all, not bad. I could still get into bed now and sleep for a week though!
My dad has offered to have both of them overnight which was nice, might speak to dp about it next week. He has the week off (atm).