Fab Feb 2009: baby coos, stinky poos - three months on...

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so here we go again

PSL dont tell anyone but I havent had sex since i got my BFP.... Dp wouldn't while I was pg, he cant get over the thought that his child is in there. And since the birth we both seem to be to tired... He did ask if I got contraception at my 6 week check though so I know he is thinking about it, I amnot ready yet though!!!

Well, we had sex really quickly (way-hay) both times. Tbh, I sometimes think I'd be happy to never have sex ever again
I'm alright once we actually get started, but it's getting the energy to actually start that gets me. Dp isn't even put off when I say "only if you're quick because I have to get up in a minute" lol

FAR TMI WARNING.
Lately, I've been thinking that I may be lossing some pee-pee during sex........
Dp thinks he's the man, and I haven't got the heart to tell him, I think it's pee due to weak pelvic floor and UTI

I shouldn't share that, should I?

I would say it is more likely to be due to the UTI.. Have you still got the UTI?

Yes. Will finish AB's (2nd course) tomorrow. The doc aid that when results come back, if there is a problem and there is a more effective AB, they will call me. They did not. I am seeing doc tomorrow for another PND test and a chat about the AD's, so I might bring it up then.

Maybe keep that one to yourself LBB !

No bedroom antics here either - but then we are really, really old. Can't really be bothered any more. The first time we did it after DS was born I conceived DD.......there is a two year age gap between them so work out how long it took us to get around to it.....

nope, back in the saddle a while already here, we don't function well without sex the lack of it was a huge part of that fight we had a couple of months back.

honestly, the first couple of times feel odd but after that it's fine... go for it

STW: Ask Dr. Sears: Treating Newborn Eczema.

Sex?

OMG please don't talk about sex! We've managed it once since Sam was born, but I'm just too tired (and a bit hairy since I never think to shave my legs etc). Am supposed to be getting the coil fitted in the next week or so, but can't see the point at the moment!

LBB thanks so much for your facebook message - I will reply properly tomorrow when I've got the sprogs down at lunchtime!

Swampster thanks for that link! Looks like I'm doing most of the recommendations, but now that Sam's on formula I will check the contents a bit closer.

I went to the GP - she still thinks it's a cold but could see how rough Sam looks - his nose was pouring with white foam, which she thinks indicates an infection, possibly his sinuses. so, we're on his 4th lots of antibiotics now. If it's no better by the end of the week I'll ask to see a different doctor, because she said she doesn't "believe" in allergies

Got my first session of Buggy Fit tomorrow which I'm looking forward to but am doubtful that DD will like being strapped into the puchchair for an hour. LBB how did you do with your DS at Pushy Mums? We're right by our local park so I can always abandon the class and go to the swings if need be...

Late night for me tonight - going to try a dream feed on Sam now hoping that it might add precious hours of sleep....

DS has terribly scaly skin, but I don't WANT to mainline salmon in order to cure it.

I've been rubbing olive oil all over his head but it doesn't make any difference. He quite likes it though.

Mainline salmon???? am i missing something?

calico I'm old too, but it hasn't held me back.

I found it a bit weird at first but both DH and I need it to feel human.

There was some mention of ingesting vast quantities of Alaskan salmon.

Re Sex - I am not very up for it when bfing. I'm sure its the hormones that mean I'm more or less not interested. It seems a bit selfish to stop bfing DS just so I can get my end away, as it were, though.

I'm also petrified of getting pregnant again. It would so awful. I love having three, but we've always conceived really quickly, so I know that one missed pill and WHAM I'll be a mother of FOUR.

STW At pushy mums ds1 was fine in pushchair for quite a while, he seemed to find it very amusing watching mummy trying to get into yoga poses! Plus a packet of rusks and in the end, I let him run around the field. You may not be the only one with a toddler there, so hopefully a few of them can run around together.
I've had to cancel my 2nd class tomorrow due o ds1 being poorly. Gutted, as was very enjoyable. The instructor said she's bumping up the intensity a bit every week so may be in for a shock next week. Although, dp is off work tomorrow so he can have ds1 at home and I could go with Luke in single.

Ds1 hasn't woken up yet, and doesn't feel too hot. He is just in a nappy. I'm not having a very good night, still on the floor in his room on the sofa cushions and it is not comfy.
Dp goes on nights tomorrow so I think I'll move us all into the main bedroom.

We've concieved twice in 3 months and once in a few days. I'd hate to get pg again!

It looks like he's read the letter. It is on the sofa. I'll find out what he thinks tomorrow

morning all,
LBB well done for writing the letter, I know it can't have been easy but hopefully it will help you both sort out your problems. Good news he has read it, we will all be waiting to hear how you've got on. Good luck x

On the sex front, we've only managed it once since DS whilst on holiday and I have to say it was awful (for me, not DH, they'd think anything was great) I think most of my problem is like coco and LBB I'm terrified of getting pregnant again. I conceived really quickly the first time, a honeymoon baby which sadly we lost at 9 weeks and then we were too scared to try again for a while but when we did, we conceived the second month with our gorgeous DD. With DS, we had not planned anymore really. We'd ummed and aahhed for months, should we, shouldn't we and I came off the pill for literally a few days then thought better of it and started taking it again but it was too late. I hate to admit it, but when I found out I was pregnant I was devestated and almost suicidal. Now, I can't imagine life without my gorgeous little boy
I'm not sure what to do about contraception and would welcome any advice. Due to my dvt history I can't take the more reliable pill and am terrified of getting caught again. Every so often DH mutters about the snip but I think hell will freeze over first. A few times he has said 'it might be a little uncomfortable!' How fucking comfortable does he think a CS is?
He has also said it is expensive. How expensive would a 5th bloody child be?
Men! A few of us girls here want to get our DH's done and we keep joking about organising a 'snip trip' for them. We say when they are in the UK in the summer, they say to Bahrain where they can recover for a few days in the Ritz Carlton (the poshest hotel there)

On potty training, DD doing really well on wees put not number 2's. Two poos in pants yeserday
However, she has done well at nap time too. Refuses to wear a nappy for her pm nap (1 to 2 hours) and has never yet had an accident. Last night, she woke up twice in the night, came in and asked to do a wee and did and this morning her nappy was totally dry

anyway, enough of me, hope everyone has a good day x

Morning MOS I'm taking the pill now, but don't want to do that for the rest of my life. I did tell dp that I'd have my stuff taken out, but they wouldn't do it, I'm too young and my family's too young. I hae spoken to him about getting the snip, but he won't hear of it. But if we wre both sure we don't want anymore dc's, it would be far less invasive for him to get 'done' than me.
The fear of getting pregnant again, isn't stopping me having sex, but it's not happening as much as he'd like (does it ever?)

Ds1 seems much better. He only woke once last night and his temp is down to 36.5, he is now smiling and laughing again and seems closer back to himself. I haven't been able to get him to take the AB's, maybe I should mix it with a bit of milk or something?

Dp is still in bed.

Hi LBB, you SHOULDN'T get done, its too big an op for you and like you say, you are still young, unlike some of us

Glad DS1 is better, might be worth mixing ABs with milk if its the only way to get him to take them.

What time does DP normally get up? Is he working lates/nights? Maybe take him a cup of tea/coffee in bed and show him you can be nice. I hope you manage to resolve all your differences

Me be nice???????? Don't be silly
He'd normally get up about midday. He is starting nights tonight.

I am so tired I think we are getting the 12 week growth spurt here. DS woke up 5 times last night for a feed and fed for ages each time... It is such a shock considering he has been going through for a week.

I am also head of the house of snot again.... Sorry if you are eating . Both dd and ds are full of really nasty colds..

Sorry you had another rough night lardy. Me too, was on ds's floor again and couldn't get comfy.

Meant to say, if I give Luke a bottle with 6oz in, he drinks 6oz, if I put 7oz in, he will drink 3oz, maybe 4. that's odd isn't it? Every time. Wat's that about?

*LBB, Luke is male, you are not supposed to understand him or his eating habits!

Lardy, sorry you've had a bad night. I think you are b/f? If so, have you tried topping him up with a large bottle (either EBM or formula) just before you go to bed? Works for us

LBB I relly hope you get some feedback on your letter today, it must have been hard pouring your heart out like that!!

MOS he has been going through the night up until now so havent needed to but might try something if it doesn't settle down soon.

Did anyone else have trouble with a 12 week growth spurt?

Morning all

If my DH tells another person that I am 'on holiday' I am going to smack him.....grrrrrr, and this is from a man that has not yet spent any time looking after both DCs at once for more than the 10 mins I am in the bathroom in the morning (and I can hear the shouting and screaming then). He has not got up once in the night with the baby in three months and yet he says he's tired . He is supposed to be looking after DS on his own this weekend whilst I take DD to London - I thought it would be good for the two of them to have some time together on their own - but last night I heard him on the phone to his mother to say that he would be dropping of DS with her on Sat morning. Is it too much to ask him to spend more than 5 mins with his children on his own???

OK rant over.....

Lardy - going through a similar 12 week thing here....not fun.

calico, what an arse your DH is. Is he scared he will drop him or something?????? You are entitled to rant at that one

I think we need to start having a 'twunt of the week award' for the laziest/stupidest DH/DP. Any nominations?