Fab Feb 2009: baby coos, stinky poos - three months on...

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so here we go again

Start now on the anti-aging stuff or you will end up looking like me

lbb, i totally agree with thom on this i'm afraid... you seem to be doing your utmost to drive your dp away and make him be the one who's in the wrong.

if you don't want to be with him that really has to be your choice... you can't lay the blame on him.

he's right, he can't leave work everytime something happens... there are far more people looking for work atm than there jobs, it wouldn't take much for his company to decide they could find a more reliable employee elsewhere. of the 15/20 times i was in a&e during my childhood my dad was only there for the two occasions i was brought in by ambulance... the rest of the time he was working... no-one held that against him, why would we? we had health insurance because he worked. my mom was a sahm who could come with me because he worked. he would have lost his job if he ran home every time i was sick or injured!

and for what it's worrth i totally agree with your dp... it's not ok for either of ye to call each other names... you refer to him as twat and arsehole constantly yet you expect to be spoken to respectfully?

think of it this way.... how long before jacob starts to become aware of what's going on? how do you think it'll affect him to see his mother wage emotional warfare on his father 24/7. i'd imagine it's gotton to the point where even when you're in a good mood your dp is walking on eggshells with you.

decide what you want and act on it... don't stay with him for the security or the money... stay with him if you want to be with him.... otherwise leave.

PSL... i'm so sorry your cousin is going through such a horrible time atm. is there anyone at all that can take her twins for her? she must be so exhausted dealing with them alone while 8 months pregnant. good for you for taking her older lad... 9 year old boys are easy, just feed him a constant diet of tv and videogames

stw... go in and cry at the doctor... it has the effect of them desperately scrabbling for the referral forms in an effort to pass you on to somebody else asap seriously though, i'm so sorry things are so rough for you and sam atm, poor little guy and poor you dealing with it while so exhausted

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CALICO!!!!!!

LBB men just do not get depression. My mum has battled it for years and my dad doesn't talk to her about it because "he doesn't belive in it".. I believe that it is because he can not see it or fix it so he thinks that it can not be there iyswim.

When I talk to dp about it he says "what has your mum got to be depressed about?"... Men they just dont get it....

I have now got to go to A&E "see here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childrens_health/757645-2-year-old-exposed-to-chemical-fumes I have just spoken to NHS direct and they confirmend I need to get it checked out.

PSL... think i'm younger than you actually :P

was 25 in march

That's awful, lardy . Good luck at the doctor's.

lardy you poor thing, hope it goes ok at a&e

(gosh, we're keeping the hospital system in business on this thread aren't we )

PT - I didn't realise you were a teenager too.

i don't feel young if that cheers you up any.... feel like an arthritic od lady most days

Lardy, that's awful. Good luck at A & E.

LBB don't you think the fact that he puts up with you shows he does love you (or that he is seriously unhinged)?!

I think so much of this is about you rather than you & him and that's what you need to get sorted.

Now let me lighten the tone by telling you that DS1 bit his best friend's willy yesterday...

Bloody hell Lardy- what bastards! Hope your lo is ok, let us know how you get on.

I am no longer in my 20's, I miss my 20's but 30's isn't proving to be to bad and I'm only 6 months in.

DS is in his door bouncer and I've put a full length mirror next to him. He thinks it's hilarious.

oh stop showing off PSL, I'm old enough to be your mother!

LOL THOM!

omg thom

i almost choked on my tea reading that!

how?

why?

is there a lawsuit pending?

OMG THOM is that something you should be sharing in public?

MS, I can' even remember my 20's

PT (a) Don't know (b) Don't want to know (had previously found DS1 & friend naked in empty bath with doctor's kit...)(c) Thankfully not!

MS I can't wait for Mr T to be big enough for door bouncer (it's 4 months, isn't it?. DS1 used to pirouette like a mini ballet dancer. It was very entertaining for all of us.

dd loved her door bouncer but whenever we put ds1 in it she used to swing him in it and terrify the living daylights out of him... he still screams in terror on swings in the rark

not sure if i'll bother getting one for aaron, between the 2 older kids 'helping' him in it and the psycho cat that attacks everything that moves it might be best not to

thom.... good luck with that pair as they get older if they're already playing doctors at their age... you'll be kept busy

Holy Moly lardy - hope she's ok. Let me know if you need anything...

THOM - That's hilarious!

PT You're older than be by a whole 11 days !!

you stole my place as thread baby [sulks]

Stop arguing kids!

Ner Ner Ne Ner Ner!!!!!!

I have an appointment to see T's headmaster - I'm quite scared of him.

He seems to like it here as J has an xbox 360, and about 10 guitars, and we have virgin so he can watch Pimp My Ride and LA Ink! Also, his mum's ex-partner was a vegetarian, so he loves that he got a sausage sarnie for breakfast today!

Well, I've said I'll go with my cousin when she goes to see her consultant at the hospital, and I can look after the twins then. She's asked me to have them when she goes into labour, and I've said only if my husband is around. I've looked after them all before, but at there own house - which makes such a difference. I'm sure I could do it, but not sure I want to . Isn't that awful.

M has her second set of jabs today - are they any better/worse than the first lot? Or should she react in about the same way?

I hate jabs, they're all evil and make babies cry, and me cry. I don't think they get any better PSL. We've got the third lot on 1st June, 3 needles, gah.

i've always found as they get older the jabs get easier.

PSL, it's completely understandable... you've got a young baby and a very bad back to deal with and 3 kids in your own home is alot to cope with with presumably very little warning and 2 of them quite frightened and upset.

that said, if she has no-one else on the day that she can call what is she going to do? could you run over to her house and mind them there more easily? maybe if your mother took M and the older lad?

sorry, not trying to guilt you, i just feel so horrible for her

You are all right. As hard as that may be for me to admit outside of my own mind, it is me, not him. Not always, but most of the time.
He does walk on egg-shells around me 24/7.
I don't like myself much when I get like this. I feel very sorry for those around me. I don't call him names to his face all the time, but I clearly need to take more time to think about him instead of me me me
I am a horrible person.

Just taken ds1 back to doc, he said it looks like a throat infection, so ds1 is now on AB's, fingers crossed that does the trick. He must be feeling a bit better, he's actually putting food in his mouth.

I'm gonna catch up from yesterday while he's eating and Luke's asleep.

Happy birthday for yesterday Calico, glad to know there are several people older than me on this thread for once - I'm very conscious that I'm about to turn 40 next month.

Sorry to hear so many of you are having a rough time at the moment. LBB, I've no idea at all how, but it sounds like you and your dp need some chance both to talk, I think it's right that he should be able to get away to help get your ds2 to hospital, but it also sounds as if he's very worried about work/money himself. Texts aren't great for communicating, but it sounds like he's trying to tell you he still cares.

We're going through some bad nights here - ds1 doesn't want to sleep in his cot or on his own and Conor has needed long feeds usually around 4 am. Actually we probably had a patch of surprisingly good nights and got spoiled, as ds1 initially took a move into his own room very well indeed.