May 08 babies,,,,,,,they're turning one!!!....pass the 'Toddler Taming' book!

[luckymummy74]

Hi girls, thought I would start a new thread as DD2 is one on Thursday .

Can you believe a whole year has passed already?

HM LOL at your little independent DS...I know what you mean. DD2 is v cute but also getting v independent. I do a mix of spoon feeding and finger feeding (I know not BLW as such). She is thankfully a very clean eater like her sister...it must be genetic!
I know people will slate me for this, but I really couldn't cope with all that mess. My days are demanding enough!

Joking aside, the latest version of Christopher Green's 'Toddler Taming' is brilliant.

Big news in the lucky household...DD2 took 3 steps on her own today!!! So she may well be proper walking before her birthday (you've got 2 days DD2....no pressure!)

Still no sign of chicken pox.....

Fuzzypeach Hope that it works. We put the boys together about 2 months ago and it has worked really well. I was in two minds about doing it incase they woke each up, but they seem to sleep through each other making a noise.

Hello all, back from Cornwall, had a lovely 2 weeks. The weather wasn't great, we managed 2 days on the beach out of 14 but we had fun doing other things, wildlife parks etc. Journey home was fun . Poor DD1 was sick but HURRAH! she managed to get it in a bowl (as you all know, cleaning sick from car seat my biggest pet hate!)

DD2 is walking more and more now, still crawls more than walks (it's quicker!) but she's practicing lots!

She still has only 4 teeth, 2 top and 2 bottom.

We have had both our DDs in the same room since DD2 was 4 months old. It works well for us. They sometimes giggle a bit when they first go to bed and DD1 sings to DD2 sometimes, but other than that they still sleep well.

Whilst on holiday we decided to do night-time toliet training with DD1. She potty trained really quickly last July but was still wearing nappies at night. She did OK. Some nights she stayed dry and other nights she wet the bed. Probably half and half. Going to persevere as I don't want to confuse her by putting her back in nappies.
I get her up when I go to bed to take her for a wee. Can I ask those with toddler/older children at what age did they start going dry thru the night?

Chicken Pox is apparently very common in Spring....? We've had lots around here but DDs haven't had it yet. I want them to get it!

Hope you've all had good birthdays for the little ones. They are adorable but hard work aren't they?! I just can't stop watching DD2, she is so cute. She copies us all, pretending to sneeze, laughing, coughing! She even was trying to put a sock on today (i.e. holding a sock to her foot!)

Anyway, must get on.....

Missed you all while I was away!!!

LM xx

p.s. Luckydaddy got 4 month wait for snip now at specialist clinic in London.

Hi All!

LM - Great to hear you had a lovely holiday! Pity about LD's wait though! DH is off for a referal sometime in June - I'm guessing he will just go to the GP and then he'll go private... I don't think I could cope with 3 kids

Mitchell - Happy Birthday - Hope you are having a lovely day!

FP - Glad to hear the sleeping went well - hope it continues! I have bought the new baby the same cot as DS so have the option of putting them in the same room if we feel it works.

DH and I went to look at a GORGEOUS house today. It's totally perfect!!! I'm going to phone the agent first thing tomorrow (So PLEASE keep your fingers crossed for me!!). We are only renting the box house we currently are in and, while the space is lovely, it's not the prettiest house ever, plus it's up a ginormous hill which I could really do without when pushing a double buggy and trying to control DDog!!

HM x

HM Thanks for the bday message. Yes having a nice day, quiet as the weekend was very busy. I have been very spoilt as I got a replacement wedding/engagement ring as birthday and anniversary present so I can't help but keep looking at my new ring. It is beautiful and just what I wanted.

Welcome back LM

minor moan alert

Cor blimey, does anyone else find life in general just extremely f**king exhausting?? (excuse my language!). Jesus wept, I've just had a 2 week holiday (holiday...) and I feel shattered!

I just find life with 2 small children so tiring. I love them to bits and they are good girls but they zapp me of all my energy. I keep hoping it will get easier as DD2 gets older, which it has compared to this time last year, but cos she's on the move and eating everything she sees and picks up (a dead moth earlier) I am constantly running around after her. DD1 is obviously a lot more physically indep but soooo wearing on the questions and discipline front.

I've just spent 1.5 hrs sorting through my work email from my laptop as I know I won't have time to do it when I get back to work Weds, I have a pile of post to sort through, a pile of ironing, and I am tired!!!!

Sorry....moan over, just needed to off-load and hopefully get some replies from you all to let me know I am not alone.....

LM x

Evening ladies

I'll try and post again tomorrow evening but just a quick one for now....

Have any of you been on a really nice holiday abroad, no more than 5 or 6 hrs flight, in a lovely hotel? We can't find anywhere to go! Want to go for a week in June, a place with a terrace so we can sit in the sun while dd sleeps.... Too much to ask?

Take care girls

MM

Happy Birthday Mitchell

Last night went really well with them sharing a room - but they did both have medicine before bed and DD2 went staight to sleep for the first time in 3 weeks (been taking til 10pm to drop off) so I think the medicine had something to do with it... complete disaster tonight, DD2 did her usual screaming, DD1 started crying as she isnt feeling well and was swinging between being upset that DD2 was keeping her awake and saying she wasnt tired and singing to herself etc... DH came home from work at 930pm to find me asleep on the floor between the cot and bed, with my hand poking thru the cot bars holding onto DD2, and DD1 (who must have fallen asleep after me) had put her dressing gown on me as a blanket, and tucked a teddy under my arm bless her! She was asleep hanging out the bed, DH said he wished he had taken a photo as it was hilarious!!

LM I can completely understand how your feeling, you pretty much described how I feel very often!!
In answer to your question about being dry at night - im almost embarrassed to say that DD1 (5 in sept) is STILL not dry at night - she always has a full nappy, and on the 2 seperate occassions when I have tried to get her our of them she has wet the bed for a whole week each time, so I have just put off doing it again and I suppose I was waiting til she had dry nappies - it's odd as she was in knickers during the day from her second birthday... I just dont know if I should just bite the bullet and try again. Although right now would not be the best time, could do with waiting til the girls have settled into sharing a room and a better bedtime routine sorted!

HM good luck with the house, is it near where you are now?

LM - I know how you feel too. DS was up basically from 10:30 until 4am - I mean, he slept on and off, but just kept waking up crying. I think it was just too hot for him. I feel absolutely exhausted this morning, but DH has gone to work, so anything that needs doing, needs to be done by me!

FP - Sorry the sleeping didn't go well... As I said, we had a really bad night here too, so you have my sympathy!!!

MM - Try thte Forte village in Sardinia. It's gorgeous there and DH and I would be taking DS this year if I wasn't bloody PG

I'm currently on hold to the car insurance people as my car has to go into the body shop this morning and I need a courtesy car in it's place - have been on hold for ages...

The house - yes, same town, about a mile away... Am hoping to go and see it this morning (am going to phone the agent at 9am aassuming I'm not still on hold to the insurance guys!!!)

Hope you all have good days - Personally, I could happily crawl back into bed.

HM x

HM good luck with the house, hope it goes OK.

Fuzzy I nearly cried when I read your post, you poor thing! I really feel for you. My days are hard work but at least my girls are in bed and settled by 7pm.
Re the dry nights and your DD1, I agree, now is not a good time for you, but you could try in a few weeks, at least it's summer so washing dries quickly!! DD1 has been dry the last 3 nights so seems to be getting the hang of it again (touch wood).

Feel bit better today. It does reassure me to know that we mostly feel the same. Just simple things like DD2 wriggling so much at nappy change time....grrrrr!

Must get on!

Hey girls

Another quick post from me.

I am totally with you all on the tiredness front. There just never seems to be any time when I don't have to do something. I currently have 4 coldsores on my top lip, 3 ulcers in my mouth and am covered in bruises including a lovely big one of my arm all from carrying our bloody pram and car seat and Stella's bag and all the other crap we lug about on public transport. I love being dd's mummy but it would be nice sometimes to have the opportunity to do nothing or something or whatever I wanted without having to express like a prize cow first and factor in a week of planning.

Rant over.

Off to look at holidays - thanks HM.

MM

LOL! Has anyone seen the Michael Mcintyre live and laughing DVD? There is a really funnny bit where he talks about takinghis son to a toddler group and how none of the mums spoke to him cos they were all too busy competing with each other as to who was the most tired.......
"well we've sold our bed, there's just no point"
"well I've got one eye shut all the time..."

It really tickled me!!

LM xx

Haven't seen that DVD, LM - but it sounds like a hoot! Might try and find it on Amazon! I have RL 'friend' like that. If anyone else has moan, she's in like flint giving it what for about how her life is more difficult... I bumped the X5 last week and was feeling really down about it (got to go to the body shop for a couple of days, so no way to get around telling DH about it!) and all I got from her was how lucky I was to have a nice car and not to have to work... Yes, I bloody well KNOW I'm luckier than loads of people, but it doesn't stop me having a bad day now and again

MM - it's the planning that really gets me down too... I get really fed up on weekends when we are going out - DH is always ready first (dressed in gorgeous clothes) but by the time I've walked Ddog, given DS his breakfast, changed him again, got his bag ready, changed him again , got him into the buggy, stopped Ddog charging around the house, you can guarantee that I've forgotten to put make up on / have shower / get dressed myself DH said to me over the weekend: You aren't going out like that are you? (and this was one instance I'd actually got dressed and thought I looked OK!!!

Ds just going for a nap... I have loads to do, but I'm going to have a cuppa first!

HM x

Morning Ladies
Oh how its great to see the sun shine, although not at 3am! We had a spell there where dd was sleeping through the night again but this last 2weeks she has been gettin worse every night. I blame the teeth!

DP was kind enough yday to take dd out for a few hours. But instead of resting and having some well deserved ME time I decided to move the furniture around in our bedroom - why oh why

You might remember a while back I told you about the mother at our playgroup that was expecting her 4th under 4. She had a big 10lb 2oz boy. I got a wee cuddle of him last week, he really made me think about this time last year I was the size of a house and walking round the asda fridge aisles everyday just for a cool walk

fuzzy I cant really help with night nappies but my boss uses these mats on the bed of her ds. He has been out of day nappies for about 2months now and is usually dry at night now but still has the odd leak.

Sho x

Monkeysmama RE: Holidays what about a villa with a pool, you can get some good deals at the moment. And whilst DD is sleeping you could be outside. We have done this the last few years so we have the benefit of the kids having there own bedrooms and a private pool. Don't do hotels anymore as the thought of everyone in one room seems like a holiday from hell for us. But then again maybe having 3 children is the problem.

LM and Fuzzy RE: Toilet training at night, what would your recommendations be. DS1 will be 3 next month and he only started toilet training afew weeks ago and successfully cracked it. Most nights he is dry but I still have him in pull ups as he hasn't asked to go in the middle of night. So in two weeks his nappy has only been wet twice during the night. Should I try without or is it too soon as he has only just cracked day time?

Haribo How did the house viewing go? Just me being nosy but would love to see the house, can you send a link on FB? How long will DH have off when baby is born? Are you having CS again?

Fuzzy That is so cute what DD1 did last night.

Shonnomanom Sympathy re the sleepless nights.

I have just heard that friends of mine have separated, only went to there wedding 7 years ago. And I feel so sad, I thought they were a perfect couple. It just goes to show that you don't know what is happening behind closed doors.

I haven't looked at the computer since Friday and there's loads to comment on, but no time...Will try again in a few days!

mitchell Interesting about potty training, I saw a friend today her trained her daughter just after sge turned 2, and 2-3 weeks after she cracked it did the night time thing and she did it almost straight away, so I reckon you should give it a go. If he's dry most nights anyway that's even better!!! In retrospect I think with DD2 I would try the night time thing sooner after being dry in the day. I think DD1 got used to the security of a nappy.

Must go...dinner ready!

Mitchell - House was a huge disappointment .

Mitchell - I agree with LM - I would try now, esp if he is dry most nights.

LM - I think you have hit the nail on the head actually - I think DD1 has got used to the comfort of night nappies and next time round I am going to try doing it at the same time.

Bed times are not getting any better at all and really not helping that DH has been doing nights all week. He is off sat night, and has told me he is going out with his mates as some of them are coming down this way for the weekend. I feel mean being annoyed about this, but we are going away on monday to france for 2 weeks, and are skint, he is going to one of their stag dos the weekend we get back, so they will all be there then (says he hasnt seen them for a while all together) plus i have had the week from hell at bedtimes and would really appreciate his one night off him actually helping me out!! am i being unreasonable?!!

Can anyone explain to me the concept of controlled crying ?

sho - im the same when mine nap, I start re-arranging the entire house!!

Speaking of "me time" my mum offered to have the girls for the whole day on tuesday as I asked her to babysit during an appointment I had, she said she would take them out for the day, so i was quite pleased and looking forward to having some time for me, so when i dropped them off i was a bit shocked when she said she would bring them back at 2pm as she liked to have some time to herself at the end of each day (she lives alone and works from home, basically works when she pleases and does what she wants, when she wants)

fuzzy No, YANBU (DH).

We've had another terrible night here too... DS goes for his nap fine (1-2 hours), goes to bed fine (7:30pm) and then wakes up around 12... until 4AM... then he sleeps peacefully until around 7am.

He's full of beans again this morning (but, obviously, more grouchy than normal!) but I'm bloody shattered... Plus (and this is a bit selfish, I know) I'm really beginning to resent having to go to bed with DS (I'm usually in bed by 8:30... asleep by 9:30) because it's the only way I can ensure I get SOME sleep... I've lost track of pretty much all TV, never go out in the evening and I'm still knackered because I've been up half the night...

I'm really wondering how on earth I'm going to cope with two... I have suggested the idea of a nanny to DH, but he's not keen... He's especially not keen on anyone 'live in' IYSWIM... We do have the space, but this house is very open plan, so privacy would be difficult.

Oh well... At least it's not raining for Ddog's walk!

Rant over... Hope everyone has a nice THursday.

Fuzzy YANBU, I understand how you don't want to say don't go out. You want them to see that they shouldn't go out IYKWIM
Hope your few days before your holiday improve. Are you going away with your friends?

Will try the no nappies at night tomorrow as he is still dry every night.

Haribo, what about getting a live out nanny for afew months when your new DD is a tiny baby. Or a live in only during the week?
Can you do that or not?

Thanks, nice to know I'm not being completely unreasonable, although not sure Dh would see it that way! I "suggested" it to him last night over the phone and it didnt go down too well!

Sorry you have been having bad nights HM that must be really hard coping on your own throughout the week as well, not to mention being pregnant, you need sleep!!!!! Sorry can't come up with any solutions, but hopefully it's just something he will grow out of soon, I think that this age now it's very common for them to start messing around with their routine, but it will settle.

Mitchell good luck with the no nappies!! Yes we are going away with our friend's and their DS who is same age as DD2, friend's parents have a house there so they are very kindly letting us stay with them for the first week, then we are going to a camp site and staying in a mobile home for the second week, really looking forward to it!

HM With respect to your DH, maybe if it was him coping with 2 under 18 months old all on his own five days a week, he might have a different view on a live in nanny.....IYSWIM. It's YOU that has to cope with everything.
I think what he needs is a whole day ON HIS OWN with your DS, to see how tough it is with one let alone two....he may then change his mind? Remember, they are his kids too....

Sorry...just makes me a bit cross and I feel for you cos I know I would really struggle without DH's help. Hope I'm not speaking out of line. I just feel quite strongly that a lot of men just do not have a clue how hard it is being at home with kids.

Rant over!