Evening all,
Have been reading recently, but no inclination to write. And I always forget who's doing what with who etc!
So just thought I'd put in a few thoughts.
Congrats to Baiyu getting engaged is very exciting no matter how soon/late. Hope you get the day you want, I found the planning/dreaming more fun than the actual day!
HM I would definitely go with the daily housekeeper, especially if it would be more than cleaning. When I was struggling my HV suggested a mother's help, and was going to get me some advice for other mothers in the area, unfortunately I think she was too busy to follow it up . Anyway I think someone to come in and cook a meal/clean/go to the shops/what you can't get done that do would really have helped. I did look into a doula, more for the aftercare,but wasn't organised enough. And I love Martha. DS2 was probably going to be Elizabeth (Libby) and I liked Charlotte (Lottie) with DS1. I have a thing about girls having long names. I have a long 'proper' one which was always shortened and I only started to use it professionally when I started a job where they used 1st names. I once read an article on how if you have a short name you are seen as more approachable, but not so 'professional'. I always use my full name when dealing with estate agents/banks etc.
So the Niknak house has been trugging along.
Most recent events, job interview yesterday. I really want the job, but have a funny feeling I'm not charismatic enough for them, or 'high end'. Plan B is to turn our kitchen into a surgery. I would go for it, but we have no money to do it! And I'm not sure either of us have the drive/ambition. At the interview they did say they would've given my DH a job 3 years ago when he locumed for them, but he had other plans, we were in the process of buying our house/surgery at the time. But poor DH would love to turn back the clock, he now hates his job/business and I think could do with some professional help for his anxiety . I sometimes think I gave it to him, ie it's contagious .
Anyway, here's hoping I get the job, it would definitely be the boost I need and I think in turn would help him.
And my little boys! We had a birthday party for DS2 3 weeks ago at the in laws. But stressful since my sister in law has been there with her 2 LOs since the start of April, due to her house being extended. I was not impressed on the 1st morning we stayed (we were there 5 days in all) being woken at 5.30 but 3 little elephants stomping around. My darling nephew had new flashing trainers which he wore to bed and he was demonstrating them to his sister and his cousin. I nearly went home at 9am! We survived due to the fact that my poor MIL has got them into full time preschool so we had some time with just her and the SIL. My SIL is far too nice to her DS and her DH is even softer. It was really hard to rein in DS1 who has a wild side when his cousin was not being disciplined to the same degree.
Anyway the birthday party was on day 3 of our stay and seemed to be run by my SIL. I had forgotten to get a birthday card (bad Mummy , so had to go into town ( a very small somerset town!) and get some lat minute things. I was not impressed when she asked me to get party bags, which I wasn't going to get for 3 kids. I said it was a waste, but she had promised her DS so she 'had to follow it through'. I was wondering whose party it was . But the cheap shop in town came up trumps, £1 ready done party bags! I love crappy cheap shops! So the party went well, apart from MIL getting sick half way through and having to lie down for most of it (she's had 5 kids, the last when she was 44, it takes a lot to get her to even sit down). And then DH was sick in the night, he was pretty bad on the way back from our friends who live near the in laws. And then other SIL was sick. And SIL with the kids stayed in bed all day, because whenever she moved she felt sick. Only me and the FIL were left standing, and the kids! I was sooo ready to go home by day 5!
DS2 was a good boy and is very cute at the moment. Although a tad bitey, I can feel the naughty step coming into play far too early. He can stand alone, but still no walking. I think he'll save that for next week when we're on our hols at a lovely Italian villa with stone floors/lots of steps!! I thought he said gone the other day and he did do the sign, but as with all men, he's forgotten how to do it.
Mitchell hope you've enjoyed your weekend pursuits and your party remained fun .
Would love to go back through the thread and look for more people to say hello to, but I'm crap and need my bed .
Hope you all have a fun week x