May 08 babies,,,,,,,they're turning one!!!....pass the 'Toddler Taming' book!

[luckymummy74]

Hi girls, thought I would start a new thread as DD2 is one on Thursday .

Can you believe a whole year has passed already?

HM LOL at your little independent DS...I know what you mean. DD2 is v cute but also getting v independent. I do a mix of spoon feeding and finger feeding (I know not BLW as such). She is thankfully a very clean eater like her sister...it must be genetic!
I know people will slate me for this, but I really couldn't cope with all that mess. My days are demanding enough!

Joking aside, the latest version of Christopher Green's 'Toddler Taming' is brilliant.

Big news in the lucky household...DD2 took 3 steps on her own today!!! So she may well be proper walking before her birthday (you've got 2 days DD2....no pressure!)

Still no sign of chicken pox.....

Wow HM congrats on getting your place on teacher training!!! Well done you!

MM I would have been hurt and upset too, so YANBU. Why were you not invited to the baby shower? I personally wouldn't give her the stuff and just say casually "well I didn't think you would need it after getting all the stuff at your baby shower?".

Things are hotting up for my sister's hen weekend which is next weekend....it's all coming together!!

Off to a 1st birthday party today in a 2 bed flat....and it's gonna rain so that will be interesting!!

LM x

Hi, not been on here for ages, been busy getting DD1 ready for school, buying uniform, having settling in visits etc... cant believe she is almost 5 and going to school!!

DD2 is doing great, she is just so adorable, walking around very confidently now, still a real mummy's girl, she is very very clingy to me, but i must admit i -secretly- quite like that as DD1 was not like this at all, and after having PND after DD1 I found it very hard to bond with her and she did to me too...

Still no talking other than Hiya and the occassional Mummy (well, sounds like that!!)

Well done HM on getting on the course!!!

Good luck LM on getting into those trousers! I am being a bridesmaid this time next week and still have 7lbs to lose to meet my target in time, not sure its going to happen though!!

MM poor you that does sound so awful of your sister, I hope that she has a good explanation for you.

Mitchell - hope you had a great time away.

Hi everyone else, hope your all OK, and enjoying your LOs as much as I am!

Hey girls

Am chilling out listening to some music with dp while he irons his works shirts. My face is being over taken my coldsores and so I am feeling a bit uncomfortable. I get awful coldsores - a few hours after I gave birth to dd my entire mouth area errupted and I couldn't give my baby a kiss for the first 5 days!

No explanation from my sister. There seems to be this "MM will be busy with dd" assumption or something. I don't know. I was very upset but have done some relationship spring cleaning (with myself) and have decided to forget it. I wanted to give her the stuff for my newphew & so I will. I am not giving her the special chair we bought for dd though and a few other little special bits I'd put to one side for her. I'm keeping those now but she can have all the rest.

We've had a lovely weekend doing very little - well, we went to a princesses and pirates fancy dress birthday party yesterday (dd went as a pirate and looked SO cool) but we were home about 7 and I was in bed and asleep by 8:30.

Dd is on brilliant form at the moment. She seems to understand everything now - in both languages! Okay, so not everything but a lot. If I even say the words "tv" she goes mad doing little circles on her hands like the start of "In the Night Garden" and if I mention something about food to sp or on the phone she makes a hungry noise. She dances everytime she hears music - it is so unbelievably cute. She is big on kissing and cuddling and has spent most of today trying to kiss me & crying when I had to say no because of my cold sores .

HM - very well done on getting onto the course.

LM and FP good luck with the clothes! I am lighting a candle from the Easter candle (or something like that//) on Saturday at my friend's dd's baptism. I have a nice dress I want to wear but it is a bit strappy and uncovered on the shoulders - any one know if that'd be okay?

Right - be say ciao for now.

Have a good week everyone.

MM

MM dress should be fine. .

HM well done! what happened to you today? I didn't hear from you! is all ok?

MM am sure the dress will be fine and if you are at all self conscious a pashmina would be helpful?

not much else to say - ILs arrived yesterday and so far so good

Hi Flick - Yes, thanks, all OK, but everything went wrong today - consultant got stuck at an Em CS, so I had to see another consultant (who was lovely, but then I had to wait and then go through ALLLLLL my notes again), then Haribo woke up, I had to feed him etc etc., so just ran out of time... ADded to the fact I'm permanantly shattered!! Sorry! (Glad you like the buggy though!) Enjoy your in-laws!!

MM - I agree with FLick that a pasmina or a shrug might cast off any doubts and also be great in case the weather is a bit changeable - it's hot one minute and quite chilly and grey the next here!!!

Also agree with you about the little ones understanding soooo much now. Poor old haribo gets very frustrated at times, as he understands what's going on and he knows what he wants, but we can't understand him!!! Poor little mite!

Fuzzy - Lovely to hear you so happy with your children! Have you persuaded Dh to have a third??? I just adore Haribo with a passion... I'm struggling to even imagine what it will be like with two!!!

Anyway, I'm off to bed... I simply can't remember a time when I wasn't absolutely shattered!!

night all, HM x

Hey girls

HM hope you feel less tired. I'm not pregnant & it's taking every ounce of strength I have to get us washed, dressed & out ATM.

So I took the stuff to my sister today. She could only do am as she "had plans" even tho I said dd sleeps 9-11 so AM was hard. Anyway, got cab over (I can't drive) & dragged 6 bin bags & Moses basket from cab down road (cab couldn't stop outside) only to find her dh was not only in but has been off work for 10 days (& they have a car). Stayed for a quick coffee to show her everything during which time I was informed how mad I am to bf for so long, not to have bought a Bugaboo & how she's planning to do things differently to me (what she knows about my mothering style I have no idea). Her dhdidn't even say hi or thanks until I'd called a cab home & he said a vague thanks & that I should change dd because she smelt! No offer of cab fare or pressie for dd, or even how are you/she. Only talk about how a builder had charged them an extra hundred quid to build a cupboard so they were skint (they live In a 6 bedroom house in Dulwich & have had 4 foreign holidays this year already including Maldives & Mexico). I am ranting now but £75 quid in taxis and a tired dd later I am feeling really hurt again! I am a fool!

oh, MM... that's really horrid. I think it was really generous of you to bring all the stuff over to her. I'm really sorry they weren't more grateful.

Can I ask where you sister is going to have the baby? I only ask, because I know at the Portland, BF is really not seen as a 'great' thing, IYSWIM and there is emphasis on FF'ing babies from birth......

I wonder if your sister's DH didn't really want the stuff from you?? Do you / Did you usually get on with him? It does seem like he takes a lot for granted!!!!

ANyway, (and I know you didn't ask but still!) you are SOOOO not being unreasonable being upset. I think in future (if you do have anything you would like to give her) you should text or e-mail her and just tell her to come collect it if she wants it.

In the mean time, please remember that you have done a lovely thing and you have put your own feelings aside, and you should feel proud of yourself for being able to do that.

Well, I'd better go. treat yourself to a nice glass of wine tonight, MM!

Hope everyone else is well.

HM xx

MM sorry to hear about your sister being rubbish, some people are just like that unfortunately. You have to just rise above it, you are the kinder and better person. You know you've done the right thing by her.

And as for the way you look after you dd, that's entirely your own business. I hate it when people try to push their opinions onto you. Sharing ideas is one thing, but I firmly believe every child is different and as is every family. You do what is right for you and your family.

Rant over, must go to bed

Where are you all girls? Hope my ranting didn't kill the thread & you're all ok.
MM

Hi Ladies

MM sorry to hear about your troubles with your sister. She seems quite undeserving of your generousity. yanbu

HM how are you feeling these days? Is it this week that your booked in?

It has been hectic here recently. Iv been tryin to find a way to take my charges out on day trips everyday, which is proving difficult. And even harder tryin to avoid the expense of it all. Its been a real eye-opener for when dd is older!
Im really missing not having quality one-to-one time with dd this summer. During term time I only work outwith school time but at the holidays we'r at my work 9-6 mon-fri. Fortunatly next weekend we have 2 weeks off and we'r going to the in-laws caravan up north for a week.

Two members of my family are currently being treated with tami-flu. Fortunatly for us they live in Manchester so we havent seen them recently.

Hope everyone is well and enjoying their little ones

Sho x

Ps. We went to see Harry Potter at the Imax yesterday. Wasnt greatly impressed. The 3D scenes were the opening 20mins, not very impressive unlike the fight scene at the Ministry in Order of the Pheonix. HBP is the first of the films in my opinion that hasnt been a great match for the book.

Is everyone like me and has no energy to write?

Knackered from DH's cousin's 30th. He has such a big family and I always get stressed with the big gatherings, I like a handful of people. Went to bed at 11pm cos was so tired, cold and wanting to be like my boys, cosy in their beds.

Just got back and must go to shop for milk for bedtime. Oh, and DS2 is crying.....

Hope you've all had a good weekend

Hey, Just a quick one from me.

DH has gone back to work in GERMANY . I'm officially knackered constantly..

Ahh.. more later. Haribo has noticed I'm on the PC and wants to help!!!!!

Hello all!

Haribo is fast asleep now, so I can post with impunity!!!

How is everyone?

DH has gone back to work now so Haribo and I are back to our routine on our own. He is such a sweetheart. I have no clue how he's going to cope next week!!!!

I have, officially,9 days left before DD arrives. Am excited and scared in equal measure!!! STILL haven't agreed on a name, so it looks like we'll have another unnamed baby for a few hours / days!!!

There is so much other stuff happening here -We've seen a lovely house but it needs a boat load of work on it!!!! But it COULD be gorgeous. Just got to talk my mother round!!

Oh, and WHY did I forget that late pregnancy feels like someone has shuved a wriggly alien up your jumper???

HM Oh my god 9 days , How fast has your pregnancy gone. Well to me anyway

At least Germany is closer.

Yes, Germany is closer (though DH wasn't impressed as the flight is not long enough for him to catch up on sleep! )

And they use the same alphabet so I have SOME chance of understanding the language - DH speaks fluent German and (amazingly) got his head around Russian too!!

I never really got to grips with Russian - apart from yes and no!!

Is your DH home for a while now, Mitchell?

HM
the hormones make us forget it all so we do it again I think.

We're all still knackered here, and grumpy and being horrible to each other

I have a bruise under my eye where DS2 whacked me with a toy car, he was climbing on me and trying to stop DS1 from taking it off him. I really wanted to cry, but had a friend over with her 2 kids and didn't fancy a big blub infront of her and her 2 .

Had a good cry last night, one a week/every few days is enough I think.

We are having a very busy summer (as usual). It's looking like we won't have a free weekend til Sept 18th at this rate. I like to have at least one free weekend a month .

Have to look on the bright side though, one weekend is our 5th wedding anniversary, can't believe we've come so far in such a short amount of time.

2 kids, new house, with new business, time flies when you're having fun

Can't stop thinking about my friend who lives in Abu Dhabi. She's back in the uk for a few weeks, and tonight she's having an amnio cos her risk for downs was 1 in 28. At least she gets her results on Thursday. Please would all you catholics out there have a pray for her, and anyone else of any other faith!

I know I wouldn't want to make a decision if the amnio results came back with a problem, so I just hope it's all clear. Fingers crossed!!

Haha!! Niknak - 5 years!! I can top that! DH will have been married for 2 years in September 2009.

By then, we will have moved twice, have had 2 children and DH will have worked in 3 different countries

WIll say a little prayer for your friend. I seem to have refound my catholisism recently. Not sure where from!! but took Haribo to light a candle last week and lit one for his little sis too.

I do hope she gets the all clear, but I just want to say - even if she doesn't, it doesn't have to mean an abortion (though obviously, that is her choice, should she feel that is best). My Uncle is downs - he is 50odd now and has led a full and happy life. I just wanted to add that.

Hello all,

Haven't been on for a while, trying to find work now I'm freelance is taking up a lot of time and have some rather large family issues going on at the mo to do with relatives being ill and so on.

Wishing all the best for your friend NikNak. Perhaps those of you who are religious might also pray for my cousin who went into labour at 5 and a half months last week. Their baby was born alive but died after a few hours. So sad for them,such a terrible thing to happen. They live overseas so we've only been able to write, don't want to bother them with calls at the moment as i expect they're organising a funeral.

Anyway, DS is great and finally walking so we've got a lovely little pair of shoes from clarks which he LOVES!

M xx

Macaco that is awful for your cousin. Makes me want to cry for her.

HM I had a friend when I was young would had downs, she unfortunately died of pneumonia at 13, but I know it's no the worst condition in the world for your LO to have. One of my friends didn't have a neucal (sp?) fold test because she said she wouldn't do anything about it if it was high risk anyway. I met her through NCT and so only knew her for a year before she moved abroad, but I'm not sure a termination would be something she would do anyway. I just know I wouldn't want to make that choice.

Off to do a thousand more jobs now before nursery pick up. DS2 also getting good on his feet and with all this rain I can't hold off getting him proper shoes anymore. I love shoe shopping, but not sure he will.

Hola !

HM at the alien up the jumper image

Macaco soo sorry for your cousin and your family

Niknak fwiw when dd came back at a risk of 1in72 for Downs my boss told me about her colleage who came back at 1in5 for both pregnancies. Both babies are as healthy as a bean.
Also one of my charges has Downs. He was born with 2 holes in his heart which were dealt with by the time he was 9months. Now he's great. Dont get me wrong at times its tough, but then the same can be said for any child cant it? Without sounding too corny, my life is definatly richer for having him in it.

Just had to replace dd's first pair of shoes today. Her left foot is now apparently a whole half size bigger than the right. So much so that the shoe was leaving a mark on her toes resulting in dd taking off her shoes at every opportunity and tossing them.

Hope everyone is well and enjoying the rain

Sho x

HI all,

NIKNAK I will say a prayer for your friend.

Found out one of my friends from church (another mum, 2 young kids) has breast cancer .

Sister's hen weekend was just fab, I had a great weekend. Missed my girls though.

Must dash, I'm looking for a new job so I need to do my CV!!!

LM xx

Hi girls

I hope everyone's ok-sounds like lots of people have had sad news recently.

All ok in monkeyland. I had to do the candle thing at my mate's sons baptismon Sunday which I was nervous about but went ok though it was followed by a very boring party.

We're off to Italy for a week on the 1st & I can't wait! My best mate & her husband are coming to stay on our first night. They only speak Italian & I can't wait to see their faces when dd says her words to them. She loves it when we're with other Italian speakers so will be happy. We're going with our friends & their 2 LOs that we went with last year & had a rather odd time including their dd's hospital stay & being forced to move by mutant mosquitos!? We love them thoughv& know what to expect this year!!

I am still not an aunt. She's having her baby at home hm which is not what i'd have expected. She'll go to Kings if there are any problems & I suppose if she needs to be induced she'll have to go in?

Got dp's sister's kid's birthday party tmrw. Well, my newphew I suppose though I don't feel very close to him. Tbh I don't really care for his sister or her dh & they are both incredibly protective of their 2 sons which makes it hard to bond with them which is very unusual for me because I love kids. So the party is pirate themed. I said I'd take dd in her pirate costume from the party we went to a few weeks back. Then dp's mum calls to say his sister's very upset with me because they're skint & don't have the money for fancy costumes & "as always" I am upstaging her. What is it with me & sisters at the moment!?!? The women in his family are very gossipy. I don't like it at all. I would never try & upstage anyone-I am so worried about never upsetting people & hurting peoples' feelings. Anyway, no fancy dress! There is a 'family bbq' later which will be torture. A tiny house full of ignorant anti-gay, anti-Muslim, anti-immigrant, anti-monkeysmama people who want kids to be seen & not heard . I have been told to take my own food too because they won't be doing salads and things like we have. Should be fun!

hm when is your actual edd? Very exciting! I am not broody yet but remember the alien in jumper feeling & miss it. I loved having dd inside me moving. Sometimes I wish it was still just me & her shut away from the world (& swine flu and sisters!)

Best be off. Washing, ironing, sleeping to do.

Enjoy the weekend.

MM x

MM hope the party goes ok, sounds a bit like the way I am with my DH's older sister and husband. I always find it stressful when there are family get togethers with them. I am learning to find my coping strategies, mostly wandering off on my own for a little breathing space when possible.

Well the 3 of us were all down at the playground at 9am this morning, we were the only ones there! We have to take DS2 to the hospital for hopefully his last appt about his balls. It's at 1.40pm, so I'm trying to do everything early. They've both had their lunch and DS2 is in his bed, with DS1 having some chill out time.

Did meet up with a friend from NCT. Our group doesn't meet up now mostly because when we all went back to work it was different days etc. Anyway more sad news was one of the group has just lost her 2nd baby at 36 weeks pregnant. She only survived 36hrs after having a low placenta and oxygen starvation. It's so awful . It makes me realise how luck I am to have my 2 hooligans health. Still waiting to hear from my other friend re the amnio results, I'm hoping no news is good news.

Off to surrey for an Indian 1st birthday party this weekend, they have to invite everyone, so marque in the garden etc. It should be good though, they like to drink and there's a disco, and we're staying. So more an adults party, with the kids having a bit of a look in earlier on. Not good for my tiredness but hopefully some adult fun!

Hope everyone else has a good one x

Oh such sad posts on here...

Niknak, I hope that your friend's amnio results are ok, and im so sorry for your other friend's loss that is just awful

Macaco, sorry also for your poor cousin, what a terrible thing to happen, I hope that she is ok

MM - you realy are not having much luck with sisters are you...I cant belive how your sister and her dh treated you when you went all the way there with that stuff out of the kindness of your own heart, some people do not deserve lovely people like you in their lives....and at bringing your own food to their party!!!!!

LM - I hope that your friend from Church is doing ok, what an awful thing to happen to anyone, but with two young children that must be so terrifying.
What kind of job are you looking for? I keep looking for a new job, just something part time in a shop or something, but there is just nothing round here at the moment.

HM - OMG, its so not long til you have your little lady!!! im so excited for you and cant wait to see the piccys on fb!! which day is it you are going in? will dh be back from germany for the date i take it? are the girls excited?

All is ok here - DD2 is getting cuter by the day - her walking is really coming on now and she is practically running everywhere! Still not many words, but she can say mama/mummy when she really wants something!!! One problem we have with her is she keeps on eating the fluff off the carpet in the living room, constantly, and she just wont stop, im worried she is going to havea massive hair ball in her stomach before long!!

DH and I are off to the cinema tonight, we havent been out together alone for a very long time, so looking forward to spending some time with him!

x