Aug 08 - odds on this one won't last as long

[dizzydixies]

new thread ladies

wonder why this one won't last as long

miamla to add to my waffle my sister said today that my dh is great at providing for his family and creating/saving for future, but lately he is crap at the little things.like affection.
She says his little comments to me are hurtful and is and for me.
cyteen where did you get them new shoes you got today???? if you dont mind me asking

sazz you CAN get a flight from Bristol to Edinburgh you know

pertelote am thrilled to hear M is doing so well, same goes for you too No1, clever DS getting the all clear

No1 let him live in the chaos a bit, might help him relenquish some of the need to clean and get down and mucky with the kids. It was worked out that to pay someone to do the job of a full time SAHM would cost £32k so don't sell yourself short

sibh am not sure what to say as I don't understand the system down your way either. Am glad your mum is managing to come over and help though even if you have to bite your tongue

cyteen curses to you and your pirate shoes, reminded my how much I love irregular choice and have been drooling over ebay

pf am sure you had something I wanted to reply to but I forget

waves to Eggspectant/LWFH and TS incase they're all on during the night - we don't forget about you all you know

VG I'd personally love it if you wrote an article about it you never told us how you got on with your facebook one

right, bed for me once I've unloaded the washing machine and put on the dishwasher - someone frightened me today by saying we were getting water meters up here, I'm in a lot of trouble if we do, due of course to my filthy children

sleep well ladies

sibh dont feel silly if thats what it turns out be {hopeful emoticon here too}
Always safer to check things over.

sazzles I think when they are away, they may bethinking ah peace at last (as dh does) but then in reality sat in a hotel room on their own with noone to chat to,or even just sat with someone not talking is not that much fun.
Makes them think of ehats at home and then ongoing thoughts to you not getting a break.
If that made sense or could be utter bollox.
Drink maybe.....

I would enjoy the hotel room on my own with no chat, no tv, no noise just me and a good book ah bliss

oh I remember

DD1 had an egg allergy very early on, about 10months old I think so not far off what Dylan is now - I fed her some scrambled egg and it all went horribly wrong about 10minutes later - que horrific vomit and hives/blotches etc

now she is absolutely fine with cakes/pasta and even quiche now but at the ripe old age of 5 she's decided she doesn't like eggs so I can't get one into her to try it again (not devestated about that to be honest!)

DD2 seems fine and I gave Dylan a taste of mine today so it was either that or the ASDA sleepy bath lotion that brought her out this evening, will monitor and see

not something I'm terribly worried about tbh but worth keeping in mind

ds off crying again. Wonder if I have another night ahead like last night. I finally got to sleep at 2.30am
He is so snuffly.aarrgghh
night ladies

Hello, yes, (waves back to dizzydixies) 4 hours different here now the clocks have changed, so DS just gone to sleep.

I do mostly keep up with what you all say, but am not very good at knowing what to say/others give advice much better than I do - so just sending lots of thoughts where needed -

Not much news here. Work going OK. DS has better and worse days with my ILs, but today was a good day, so I am fairly up to date with work.

I teach online, and one thing that I find quite interesting is that when my students hand their homework in late (and they almost all do - do you know how annoying this is!!!) I am very understanding if anyone says that they were delayed because of their kids. Interesting how my perspective has changed.

We still go to baby group in the park, which is nice, mostly just sitting in the park, and we still go swimming and to church - DS rolled all the way from the back to the front of the church a couple of weeks ago, which I thought was very clever.

Weaning going well (mostly just purees, but crackers were a success today). My MIL is very good at feeding DS lunch. He is now down to 4 breast feeds during the day and 1-2 at night, and I have to say that this is quite a relief but makes me a bit sad too.

longway hi. Glad the work is oging ok. Baby groupin the park sounds lovely

Yeah for sleeping through for both dcs.
ok well dd was in with me
but ds wasn't
pf was it you that said you count to 100 and then go in if they are still crying.
If so I did this probably on 2/3 occassions. 1st time I think I got near 70 and he stopped, was only moaning too, not even crying.
2nd/3rd time I only got to about 30 and he stopped. Yeah
Now this was strange as he wasn't crying just moaning.
Could this be because I gave him some supper????
I have only just gone in to feed him and I had to wake him to do it and he has gone back to sleep.
DD still asleep.
Off shoe shopping today. I hope you had good nights too.
back later.

morning, thanks for that swiss tony link - for years I thought it was a nickname for a colleague of my ex's but did not realise it was from a show - doh!

miamla and no1 how wonderful to stay at home with your LOs ..sometimes I think I'd like to (although we could not afford it) but sometimes, like yesterday, I find myself looking forward to being somewhere where my train of thought is not interrupted every 5 mins and I can get a bit of me time and peace (ie on the commute). I am finding the being on call 24/7 a bit wearing now that ds will not nap in the day

no1 I am most of a tidy dh who actually does diy rather than just talking about it but the other issues probably mean there has been a bit of communication breakdown between you?? Could be wrong but it sounds like you need a proper chat ...I will of course defer to pf's opinion cos I'm not really in a position to give relationship advice!

dizzy I hope you get to the bottom of Dylan's reaction...I read that egg whites are very allergenic AFTER giving ds some of an egg sandwich...luckily no reaction but that could be because he didn't swallow any of it

lwfh I too have been feeling a bit as ds is definitely reducing his milk feeds... Well done Tom on his rolling...ds can roll but chooses to remain in one place atm...I dont think he realises yet he can go places

was up 4 times last night with ds...bit tired now

Flipping heck what a lot of chat I can barely remember what I've read but,

VG did you finally choose a colour? Your kitchen is lovely. But who said green is not a good colour for a kitchen?

No1 that's brilliant news about DS so hopefully he'll finally get rid of his cold and you can enjoy the christening.

Sibh you must be worried . I really hope they sort you out soon.

Hi LWFH glad to hear things going OK with MIL childminding

Funny day here yesterday, got my 2nd draft of my application back, my bigger boss had got his hands on it. Sheesh I think the man was born with a red pen in his hand . I really couldn't face all the new work he wanted me to do, ended up crying my eyes out but then he kindly phoned and talked me through it so it's not too bad. Managed to change most of it last night, just got one more example to beef up today. God if I don't get the job now I'm gonna be soooo pissed off!

Hairdresser was lovely although I didn't get a head massage. I do have hair six inches shorter though, that actually moves rather than looking ratty . DD not too sure but she'll get over it . Will try and put pic up later but put off by non-photogenic face

No1 . We are still nowhere near sleeping through

Simnel there is definitely something to be said for working away from your DC, although I only do 3 days, it is nice to be me for a while, not just their mummy. Would still chuck it all in for a big fat lottery jackpot though

Out of interest, how many DC are still not in their own room? Any of them actually sleeping well? Is DS still waking because he's in my room, or is he still in my room because he's still waking? Oooh I don't know!

sibh Has anyone considered whether you might possibly have menieres disease (can't remember your symptoms exactly but I know you have dizziness, motion sickness etc) - a friend's wife has it which made me think of it. It probably isn't helpful to give you other possibilities to think about but it has been bugging me. here

Sorry to post and run but got to go back later

Morning girls

hotter DS is still in our room due to logistical issues re. cot, but he will be going in his own room at the weekend. DP and I both feel it's the right time and I am certain that DS is waking more because we're all in together - he's conscious enough now for that to happen, iyswim, and I think he really wants not to be disturbed.

I'll let you know how we get on

Back shortly, the cute singing from upstairs has turned to squawking...

Morning

Hotter - DD is still in with us only because I am too lazy to get up and feed her in the night . Although I am sure it's Dh's snoring that wakes her. Need to find a chair for her room and we will move her. Me thinks possibly Easter weekend.

Better night here wake at 11 with roaring fever and croaky crying so dosed with calpol and she slept until 2 then 5 then 7. Off to take her for a walk as I need to get out or I will go nuts. Dh came home last night an apologise saying he needs to give me some slack as DD is not well and I need to make sure she comes first rather than doing housework. I think he has been reading this thread -.

DD awake and croaking so we are off out.

No need to Oops, that's the main reason DS is still in with us Glad to see I'm not the only one...

Will await your feedback with anticipation Cyteen, there's no way I'm trying it this weekend. Am hoping to be fulltothebrim a bit tipy on champagne on Friday so will be just groaning and letting DS help himself

Gorgeous day here, I'm going to take my swishy hair for a walk into town in a bit, need a new hairbrush and some mousse

no1 the shoes were from good old John Lewis, reduced in the sale.

Tis gorgeous here too hotter, DS and I are off into town shortly and thence to a friend's for NCT group tea/cake/gossip. And DS will sleep on the way

Who ever thought that giving solid food to a baby was a good idea? Am still reeling from dealing with the stinkiest, stickiest poo ever to come from a human being

hotpot ds was moved to his own room about 3 weeks ago. He ended up in our bed the first week (although had all his naps in his cot) then we all seemed to get the hang of it and so far there has only been one regression when he had a horrible cold last week and wanted to feed all night. I'm not sure what's made the difference to wake ups but they are down to 2 on average (although last night was an exception at 4) at midnight and 3 or 4am. I have had success with not feeding at 3/4am and that's the next thing I am working on . I'm going to try the count to 100 next to give ds a chance to self settle

oops hope you manage to blow the cobwebs away, did your dh really say he'd cut you some slack on the housework? Mine would of got clobbered for that as I maintain I am fully employed with ds and housework is 50/50

Being a crap mum today as up 6 times between 3.30am and 5.45am with Toby and dd - hence why I am on here AGAIN

vg I agree with sazzles' comment about constantly feeling the need to achieve all the time and not being able to just 'be'. However, this is not a female trait I would argue, it is a certain personality trait. My dh has it - in spades and I do too but to a lesser extent. This is why dh is currently doing an MBA, two leadership courses, an exam and his normal job. It is also why I feel like I haven't done anything unless I have done some cleaning or tidying or sorting every day. Children are a long term project with no end point as such as sometimes I think we all miss the sense of achievement from actually finishing something and seeing a quick result!

no1 Sounds to me like your dh is doing dc avoidance to me. Maybe you both need to adjust - you to doing a bit more round the house and him to spending a bit more time with the dcs. He should give you some time to do this though. And of course it isn't quite as simple as it sounds. and sambo lol at deferring to my opinion as I would have to get my own house in order first! (it is atm I have to say but that is rare and only happened after a huge meltdown about two weeks ago!)

and yes it was me who said the count to 100 thing (but not first to have thought of it!)

Must pay tiny and very funny son some attention

and apologies for all the '!'s in my post wtf is that all about

and apologies for all the '!'s in my post wtf is that all about

Goodness me, where do I start!

VG and all of you who achieve so much, hats off. I'm very much with sazzles on the enjoying just being. Having said that, I think that's just at the moment and I know I will need something more later on. Like pertelote, I'm enjoying not constantly looking to the next thing, which I was exceptionally guilty of before. However, I did realise with horror that my colleague whose baby was born 6 weeks before mine returned to work today. That means I can count on fingers how many weeks left for me .

I'm not dreading going back actually as I too am looking forward to being able to finish a conversation/chain of thought. I'm not keen on my job, but it could be worse. More than anything else I'll just be really sad that this phase of my life is over and it has been amazing (minus the odd few moments ).

You sound so happy miamla. It's great to hear that your set-up is working so well. Sorry yours is less so No1. A weekend away sounds great though and, if possible, swapping roles sometimes would help. We had a weekend of DIY and gardening stuff (clearly a DH job ), so I ended up with the children all weekend but we both agreed it was all a bit tiresome and vowed spend more time together this weekend and he's going to take the girls more (while I have my hair cut ).

Had a lovely morning with a really good friend and her DD. DD1 and her DD took themselves off into the garden and friend and I spend the morning internet shopping for my replacement christening outfit. I may have to call on your FISG skills Dizzy ... Even more perfect is that DD1 is now into her second hour of sleeping . I honestly don't think this has happened since last summer.

On separate rooms for the babies, DD2 has been in her own room since the beginning. DD1 was from v. small too. Lots of reasons... Anyway, I do think that it helps everyone to sleep better. You're not disturbed by every sniffle and lying there wondering whether they're going to wake up properly and they learn to go back to sleep more easily because you're not tempted to jump to them so your partner's not disturbed. Controversial I know, but it's worked for us.

Hello everyone
hope everyoneis ok - I haven't been able to catch up.
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