JUNE 2008- tantrums, shrieking and lashings of Gin (and that's just the mums!)

[pureeandpearls]

Thread number 123 or something like that

thanks ah and that is great news re fraser. and good to hear that second one easier emotionally (although that may be some way off). but what is the age difference on your two - when you say two in two years does sound hot.

amber glad doc was helpful and good luck tomorrow with the sleep guru.

am now being wound up by my dh who has reminded me that sammy lee (of liverpool fame) is looking hot .. he was one of my first crushes (god knows why )

Josey - I'm thinking of you all, and sending virtual hugs and positive vibes to Oli.

Abdn - thanks for going to see Josey today, I felt so much better knowing that one of us was able to be there for her.

poppy - good luck tomorrow

Amber - keeping everything crossed that the sleep guru works some magic for you. Having 2 children is easy, 3 isn't so bad either.

Paro - thanks for remembering - the viewing went ok, only here about 30 minutes, no feedback from agent, asked them about it a couple of days later and then they bothered to ask the Dutch agent and the viewer has come back with an offer (too low) but an offer nonetheless! Still in negotiating but not getting my hopes up, 1st viewing would be a miracle!

Puree - how are you? Had the op yet?

Hi to everyone else

Boys back at school tomorrow, , that means homework starts again ! Beautiful weather here still, 22 degrees today.

Neenz - hope E is feeling better soon, I can't believe that the dt's are going to be one so soon - how exciting. Anything planned? Family party?

AH, thank you for that - I have spoken to dh about the visiting thing already so MIL doesn't keep going on about it and assuming this is going to happen. He has said he will speak to her. He never really has proper conversations with her about all this which is part of the problem - she has just got away with it for far too long .

I'm honestly thinking about having counselling about it - does that sound ridiculous? I have low self-esteem anyway and her constantly digging away at me really gets me down. Now we have her grandchild we have to see so much of them and I just hate it . AIBU?

Neenz, ohmigod - I can't believe the twins are one in three weeks!

Amber, thank god you have a sympathetic doctor - great news. Hope your sleep guru works her magic tomorrow.

And AH, thanks for keeping us posted on Oli. Keeping her in my thoughts.

Hello to everyone else .

three weeks - my god this year has gone quickly (wtih obvious caveat for fact it never goes quckly if you're up with any of the offspring of this thread between teh hours of 11 and 6 -then something dr who happens to time/space).

sponge it doesn't sound stupid as your mil clearly hits a nerve - if your dh won't say anything, then you should as it will eat away at you adn you need to redress the balance. that said alex will make his own relationship with the ILs

Poppy - this year has gone way too quickly, I was just looking at some newborn photos of Ethan and getting all gooey - it was time to stop looking then!

What's anyone buying their lo's for their 1st birthday?

sponge - you're not being unreasonable, and you shouldn't be getting stresses atm .

Sponge, definitely get counselling, don't let it eat away at you. My mum let MIL bother her for nearly 40 years until gran died a couple of months ago. She thought gran thought she wasn't good enough for my dad and I think deep down she was scared that was true (dad well-educated middle class, mum working class, had to leave school at 15). But really it was gran who was scared she'd lost her son. Pathetic! You have no reason to have low self-esteem, I think you are an amazing person.

Deb, good news about the offer (kind of!). Hope you get something out of negotiation.

Poppy, Sammy Lee really? lol

Amber, I am so pleased you have been signed off. Do not feel guilty, take as much time as the doc will give you, then you can make a proper decision about whether you want to give up work for good.

Oh yeah, 1st birthday... three weeks tomorrow, can you believe it!!! We are not doing anything really. The baptism party was hard enough, I don't think I could cope with doing another! My mum is doing a party at her house for my side of the family and we have told DH's parents that we are not having a party but if they want to put a family party on at their house (and have DH's brother come up for the weekend) then that would be great, but they didn't seem too keen . ILs! Who'd have em!!

neenz - a year already . I am in denial about A ever reaching this milestone! btw I have A booked in for a couple of weeks time to that place you recommended, so fingers crossed

sponge I totally understand where you're coming from re. the MIL. Comments really get to me as well - yanbu

amber glad you're taking some time off work

poppy A has gone through faddy phases from time to time but has always started eating again, so hopefully edie will also start eating soon

sorry anyone else, just had a quick scan

Good morning everyone

Our sleep patterns (hah!) have been all over the place as poor DD1 isn't very well, and is waking up a lot in the night. Thea is actually sleeping a lot better - mainly because with a very feverish DD1 getting into our bed, I've been better about putting Thea back in her own bed rather than falling asleep with her in my arms.

Reading all the posts about in-laws makes me glad mine are so far away! Sponge I bet counselling would help, you know, and help you with some strategies for tackling the upsetting comments and pushiness.

I piled up some old baby stuff to throw away (then stopped as it made me broody) but later found a breast pump had been removed and used by DS2 as part of a dalek exhibit in his bedroom . He's put it over a mini dalek as a sort of outer pod. This is a magic moment for me as one of DD1's first words was "exterminate""

DH is home this week which is lovely but he's full of vim and vinegar wanting us to do spring cleaning instead of mooch around digesting Easter eggs (my preferred option). We've sorted out lots of his work papers (he's a horizontal filer), cleaned out the shed, scrubbed all the kitchen cupboards, and apparently we're doing the front rooms tomorrow. The poor children are fending for themselves.

Josey hope Oli is home soon. That poor little boy on her ward

Amber v glad you've been signed off work for a while, and I hope the sleep guru can help.

Bother, have now forgotten what I was going to say to everyone else. Sorry...

poppy my age difference is 23 1/2 months - so basically two years. I was so pleased when I figured out that they couldn't share a birthday, that just didn't seem fair to either of them.

deb was wondering where you are! An offer, even a low one, is fantastic! Even if these people don't buy, it's a huge positive sign.

sponge yes! my DH was the same, there was no real communication. It's amazing how much easier things can be if they actually talk. Counselling sounds like a good idea, it'll help you get your own thoughts in order and then you can "manage" the relationship with them better.

Fraser was going to get shoes for his first birthday but I think he might need them before hand. As for toys - I've no idea. He loves drumming but I'm not sure my ears can handle another drum!

I went to bed in tears last night after seeing the poor boys in the ward with Oli that live in the hospital. It's so heartbreaking to think of these wee kids not at home with families. I'm not normally the praying sort of Christian (actions speak louder than words, God is omnipotent anyways) but was praying last night for Oli to get better and get home soon and back to her normal life surrounded by her family.

p.s. Rolf broody? You are very brave. I'm not broody yet and hoping it either doesn't happen or takes a while. Financially we need at least three years between kids IF we have another (which we probably shouldn't since I'm struggling enough with two as it is).

AH no, not really broody, just a rather unexpected little thought. It would be madness to have another one.

lol Rolf at "a rather unexpected little thought" Good luck with the spring cleaning!!

Abdn - I'm hoping that Ethan will be ready for his 1st shoes to coincide with my trip to the UK - then I can visit Clarks

The spring cleaning sounds hard work Rolf! Love the 'horizontal filing' - my DH does that too, there are piles of stuff everywhere. He has a draw where I just put everything so it is out of the way.

I don't think we'll get the twins anything for their birthday - they don't need anything and they don't understand. Is that bad? We didn't get them anything for Christmas either. I suppose we could think of something we were going to buy them anyway, like shoes. What's the deal with shoes, anyway? Do we really need to buy Clarks at £30 a pop or is it just a marketing scam? As long as the feet are measured and the shoes fit is that OK?

Esther was awake last night a lot - 12, 2, 3.30, 4.30 and 5.30. I got the Medised out at 3.30 - that obviously didn't work! But she did sleep till 7.30 so that is better than the previous two days (6.30pm).

My friend is having a baby by C-section today (her second) so I am waiting for a text, it is so exciting! I am feeling a little broody I have to admit .

We should spring clean too as the house is a tip but I just can't find any energy...

Jamie is having a ballpit for his birthday. DS1 had one for his first brithday and he loved it so we have decided to replicate his present. Actually it is an exact replica as we have bought the same paddling pool from ELC (£16, and gets plenty of use in the garden during the summer months too!) ELC are also selling 100 balls, 3 for 2 so he will have plenty. I used that hotdeals website to get 20% off so I feel quite thrifty about the whole thing!

Right Rolf has inspired me, I'm off the dust the piano.

Good idea Sybil - a paddling pool would be good

Neenz - I used to go to the outlet places in the UK get their feet measured and buy their shoes there at half the price. I did go to a proper shoe shop with Stefan(pfb), even got a photo!

Hi all- literally popping my heasd in....after the croup came the 6am trip to A & E when babypearls' wheezing got bad enough to turn her lips blue. Its been a mlong few days though not as bad as Josey (((hugs))) MIL arrive this afternoon. Off to hospital tomorrow for my op.

Poppy- hope today goes well.

Essie- hope today also goes well- we tooth-achers should stick together in the poorly corner.

Speaking of which Amber- hope sleep guru is ringing the changes at AmberHouse.

(((hugs))) to you all- I'll be back

Good luck for tomorrow Puree, 6am trip to A+E sounds scary, Hope babypearls is all better now.

I have no idea what croup is but it sounds awful - I hope Cecily is OK. Must be awful having to go to A&E.

Just looked up croup - sounds dreadful - poor child!

How awful P&P, hope baby pearls is better and that you are getting over the whole experience too.

So, now I am interested. What are others buying as birthday presents?

sybil - For his birthday I need something that will be interesting enough to entice Ethan to stay in his play pen for a while without crawling to the gate to be let out!!Either that or we all climb in the playpen and leave Ethan to roam around!

Deb, if you find something please let me know. Jamie clings on to the bars shrieking as soon as I close the playpen!

Yes, here I am making a quick appearance from tooth corner!
But good news - no root canal, just a replaced filling! Still hurts though but I was told that it might for a few days. It's all very bizarre - I only have three fillings (well, four, two in one tooth) and one has been more problematic than not going to the dentist, I swear. Tim sauntered in after me, first visit in 5 years, and left...with nothing. A clean, but they kind of had to justify the extra long appointment they'd alloted when they saw when he last turned up.
Also annoyed because I was given the option of trad or white filling. I said trad, it's more robust. But she went ahead and put in a white one which is not free and cost £70! I suppose she had spent half an hour or more with me moaning throughout though!

Lots of thinking and worrying about Josey and Oli. She's a fighter, though. Thinking about you both.

Presents - well, I was thinking of getting Iestyn a swing for the garden. Although now the ballpool sounds great too. But he got nothing from us at Christmas, and I did just buy him a cheapo drum from Tesco last week.

Kitchen is finally finished! Yay! It's great. (Although we're having a takeaway tonight because I can't be arsed ). Now it's phase 3, the living room. Looking for a cheap painter and decorator. Anybody got one? Scrub the deletions, actually, I do want a cheap one! Puree has a tendency to volunteer for most things (e.g. I need a babysitter, a hat...she offers!) so maybe she does painting and wallpapering too... Hope the op is ok, and the recovery is swift, Puree. Will be thinking of you - I hate anything tooth related and so you have full sympathy and more.